Sisijetue:
*Deficient emotional vacuum* no dey feed mouth

Chino4NAUTH:
I have been hearing about women who married their husbands and the man happens to be staying in overseas or moves to overseas thereafter for economic reasons to Carter for the welfare of his family.. Why it is good and fine economically it has left a deficient emotional vacuum for the wife and children esp if it's a young family.

I have a woman in our building whose husband stays abroad but she's always looking forward to talking with me and even trying to make me her confidant but I know the risk associated and had to find my away not to get more closer to her.she has only 2 kids fresh and cute.. Mind you she's still very much pretty and young.. I never knew she was married till I saw her fine kids

Share your experience with us

lefulefu:
most times if u having ambition to migrate its better not to get married when u want to married.Marriage can be like a burden when u travelling out.No peace of mind and u will be worrying weda ur wife is cheating on u.If the main reason for travelling is to study u wont be able to concentrate when in class

Samakus:
I have one that is my neighbour currently. Moved into my apartment in January this year and my next flat neighbour is a pretty young woman with very young female twins. They were about 9 months old when I moved in. God knows I love pretty children. These kids have not seen their father before.

There's no amount of temptation I have not faced from this woman. But i have always had a principle of not touching another man's wife. Her twin kids thinks I'm their father cos I buy them things almost on a daily basis while returning from work. Sometimes I pity the young pretty woman. It's not easy for her but I can't help.

Anytime she sees a lady visit me, if you see her face eh lolz. But, it is what it is

jookunlaja:
Im also guilty of this 'sin' . Abandoning your family to travel out to eke out a living. I must confess to you, its not the best living your family behind and traveling out. In my opinion, traveling is best for unmarried people because the temptation outside Nigeria is too much. Fornication and adultery are not viewed as serious sins outside. They perceive them as normal as far as its consentual. However, an unmarried person will just use the opportunity to meet a life partner.

MiddleDimension:


But Oyakhilome did it. He told his wife that one country is too small to for the both of them!

Samakus:


You know, things like the one you bolded sound like rocket science to those who can't control their urges. Believe whatever you want to.

lefulefu:
most times if u having ambition to migrate its better not to get married when u want to married.Marriage can be like a burden when u travelling out.No peace of mind and u will be worrying weda ur wife is cheating on u.If the main reason for travelling is to study u wont be able to concentrate when in class

MrBrownJay1:


Lol, if I meet the babe for road and she invites me for some "fun time", would it be written on her forehead that she is married? Or better yet, as the dude is about to mount her, do you think he will ask:" are you married, because if you are I no wan do again?!"



That's the African men misplaced ego's double standard hypocrisy... A man can fukc around all he wants (even while living with wifey) but if wifey dares to look at another man (let alone fukc him), that's an abomination. Lol!

socialmediaman:


Bros i no talk anything o, na you and her and God know wetin dey

MiddleDimension:


But Oyakhilome did it. He told his wife that one country is too small to for the both of them!

Chino4NAUTH:

I won't mount her bro.. Let another man do... Seriously I wonder as well why men do such, living this fine young woman without any touch of a man for years.

lefulefu:
and how did oyakilome and his end up?
long distance marriage does no one any good
even if the man fit bear am the woman at a certain point in life will give up and be fed up

virginprincess:
Well i have nothing to say to you, because the op has giving you the best reply himself, nigeria men & their stupid mentality.

Mrscarter:


Ikr. U can control any desire weather it be sex or any other thing.
It takes willpower and really I dnt even need that. It's been easy for me.
I started off because I was tired of unmeaningful sex/relationships n wanted to wait until I found the right person n not just any person who I thought was right.
Eventually I met someone far away n feel he's worth waiting for.
Besides no one else has interested me in a long time.
I get lonely sure n I get urges sometimes but isn't like I must run out n just screw somebody. I wanted to be a better person than before n make my body worth more than just sex if U know wat I mean.
N it will be all the more sweeter for myself and the guy when the time finally comes for us to have sex.
Yeah as much as I like sex it's not something I can't do without for as long as it takes.
More women and men should respect their bodies more n not just share it with anyone or with all different ppl all the time.
Some ppl dnt care bout their reputation or sexual health. Ten/thirty mins of pleasure just to go bk home or whatever n know you've just cheated on the one U love or that you've just screwed Ur boss/neighbour or a random person n like someone who's cheap n easy. Isn't worth it.
I've had one night stands years ago just to screw n I'm not proud of it. Wat did achieve me? But being proud of Ur body not being used by ppl who only wanna screw U n use U or knowing U have the strongest loyalty to Ur absent partner and knowing Ur not easy. Or that Ur sexual health is perfect or that U have no reputation as easy or high body count that's all worth much more than a random screw just cos U had urges

MrBrownJay1:


That's because you failed to understand what I wrote... If wifey is already h0rny and willing to offer the toto, then we have to be honest about the situation, instead of pretending that she won't give up the toto to the 1st available Mandingo warrior.

If you believe that this is a bad advice, then so be it.



How can a man start a family then abandon the poor wife back home? I understand why many are losing their minds.

Chino4NAUTH:
I have been hearing about women who married their husbands and the man happens to be staying in overseas or moves to overseas thereafter for economic reasons to Carter for the welfare of his family.. Why it is good and fine economically it has left a deficient emotional vacuum for the wife and children esp if it's a young family.

I have a woman in our building whose husband stays abroad but she's always looking forward to talking with me and even trying to make me her confidant but I know the risk associated and had to find my away not to get more closer to her.she has only 2 kids fresh and cute.. Mind you she's still very much pretty and young.. I never knew she was married till I saw her fine kids

Share your experience with us

MrBrownJay1:

Exactly...many are in such situation because they CANT bring wifey over til they have they permanent residency and divorce their oyingbo. Wifey.

liljboy:
It’s okay to marry a woman old enough to be your mother, you can still explain that as love, but someone old enough to be your grandmother?



www.nairaland.com/attachments/4914275_df_jpeg373e55dea7e43f08e80004f94f67a4a7

todaynewsreview:
The bodies of at least 74 migrants have been washed ashore in western Libya, in the latest tragedy along the dangerous trafficking route to Europe. The Libyan Red Crescent posted photos of dozens of bodies in black and white bags lined up along the shore near the western city of Zawiya.
A spokesman for the aid organisation said there were still bodies floating out at sea as the agency had no way of retrieving them. He said the migrants were all adults, mostly from sub-Saharan African countries, and all but three were men.
The UN migration agency, the International Organisation of Migration (IOM), said the dinghy had set off on Saturday with 110 people on board. The agency said traffickers deliberately took the engines from the boat and then abandoned it to drift.

http://www.todaynewsreview.com/p/3051/tragedy-bodies-of-migrants-wash-ashore-en-route-europe-photo

MrBrownJay1:


That's because you failed to understand what I wrote... If wifey is already h0rny and willing to offer the toto, then we have to be honest about the situation, instead of pretending that she won't give up the toto to the 1st available Mandingo warrior.

If you believe that this is a bad advice, then so be it.



How can a man start a family then abandon the poor wife back home? I understand why many are losing their minds.

Champneys:
Cater not carter, you fu....cking dunderhead.

virginprincess:
We are saying the samething, men like you are always avaliabe to do it.

erico2k2:

Then u are not a MAN yet cos even if ur wife wants to cheat right under ur nose she will, worrying bout stuff like that means you are heading 4 early grave!

virginprincess:
I have been noticing how you give bad advice on this forum,why you advice him to sleep with someone else wife, very bad.

Jeromejnr:


Lol..I love this chick.

Jeromejnr:


Lol..I love this chick.