I know a man that has left the shores of this country for 7 years, leaving the wife and daughter behind, seven years!
I see her and shed tears, the man has not stabilized abroad yet. I see her and shed tears everyday, she cant cheat because it's a taboo in edo state.

Mrscarter:


Lol sex is natural but so is having control of yourself.

See madam, Apostle Paul said that it's best to stay chastised but if you can't then get married so as not to fall the into sin of fornication, @oyatz has said all the truth, if you choose not to believe it then it's your business

BKsoul:
i rather stay single than living a lie... me way love love and care like there's no tommorow... how will i cope

Better get ready for real adult life and if you want the above permanently........start planning how to impact your partner’s life in a big way and you can’t just be there as a financial burden on him.

MJluv:
You are one of the e-rats I was referring to. But like I said earlier, I won't debase the entire male folk just because of e-urchins like you. Just piss off, will ya!

You're showing your ignorance.

Chino4NAUTH:

I won't mount her bro.. Let another man do... Seriously I wonder as well why men do such, living this fine young woman without any touch of a man for years.

This is quite commendable....

You're one of a kind... Wish more men were like you.

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erico2k2:

he probably do not have papers

Yes.
The authorities are with his papers because he was at the wrong place and the wrong time.

Life is all about sacrifice, a good and wise woman should understand that. If a man can sacrifice the pleasure of being with his wife just to make sure that he provides for them then the wife should also sacrifice same thing and wait for him. Life is not balanced and u cant have it all.

Jonathan39:
Only a poor man worries over a woman's pussy.

Thank you so much!!!!!

MrBrownJay1 (OP) here is your answer!

MrBrownJay1:


Some people can go without sex and others CANT. that's the hard reality of life...just like some can go without money while others CANT. The minute anyone believes that EVERYONE can/should go without sex, that's when you have lost the plot on this issue.
The woman in this issue CANNOT go years without sex, and that's the reality, don't blame men for fukcing that sexually miserable woman, blame the foolish husband who abandoned her.

MrBrownJay1, you have sometimes commented on some of my submissions here, and you don't look like a small fry in these matters. So I'd ask you to be as objective as possible: there are instances where the women are actually the ones who don't want to relocate with their husbands. They prefer the man works abroad for years and send them money home for them to build or run a business. By build or run a business, I mean using the man's sweat to take care of the man servicing them. They don't mind seeing their mugu husbands once in two years. Would you still call the husband a fool in that instance? Be objective, please.

Someone raised a question in one of the earlier comments as to why people get married in the first place. I expected people to take it up because that is something many people don't understand but believe they do. Were it possible, I'd like to take that up by creating a thread and ask people why they married their spouses, how they knew the spouses were right from them, when they realized their lives got better because of the marriage, when they realized the marriage was a mistake and how they coped on the realization that their partner married them for the wrong reasons.

I can tell you that if we sample 100 random persons, we'd get 500 random reasons why they get married or seek relationships. Underlying the reasons is societal expectation. Look at the minister of humanitarian affairs that only just got married at 46. I'd like to know her reasons for staying so long. I know women who are 50 and unmarried.

Why do you people get married? Many fly into marriage without a clue as to what to do there. Many think they can carry their childish behaviour into marriage. Many think cheating in marriage is acceptable because their parents do it. Marriage is a BIG deal. Having attended many weddings ushering in a marriage, I get scared when I hear the words spoken at those events. Except I am 100% convinced, I won't speak those words to a partner. It is a big deal. Marriage is spiritual. It is the first gift God gave man. But many of us treat it with levity. I hear people saying women are cheating craftily in marriages than men. For those who sleep with other people's husbands and those who sleep with other people's wives, it may take 2, 7 or even 25 years or even at the time you are mounting, you shall face the consequences but not in the way you expect.

Married women who have cheated, share your stories. Married men who have cheated, share your stories.

Chino4NAUTH:

I won't mount her bro.. Let another man do... Seriously I wonder as well why men do such, living this fine young woman without any touch of a man for years.

Nice one bro, what is wrong is wrong, no matter how prevalent or the justification given....Kudos to you for standing for what you believe in. Cheers.

Peacefullove:


uncle, If it was your wife that relocated abroad for years, Would you find it easy? Try to put yourself in this womens shoes.

I certainly won't find it easy. Yet, I won't disrespect myself and her by cheating. Ask people who are in such shoes, you'd be shocked that some men and women have stayed for years without sex (but are too ashamed to admit it).

I've been in this kinda situation b4, the woman had 4 cute kids and was still looking fresh like an agege bread, we became so close that her children called me uncle and she confided in me for everything and trusted me too. One day she opened up and confessed how she loves me to the moon & back and that she'll do anything for me, but for the fear of thunder, i used wisdom to turn her down even on the craziest day that she naked herself before me. I learnt a lot from the story of Joseph n Potipher's wife.

Naijaaaaa:


Please which country?

Argentina..... Biko Stay where you are!!

MrBrownJay1:


That's because you failed to understand what I wrote... If wifey is already h0rny and willing to offer the toto, then we have to be honest about the situation, instead of pretending that she won't give up the toto to the 1st available Mandingo warrior.

If you believe that this is a bad advice, then so be it.



How can a man start a family then abandon the poor wife back home? I understand why many are losing their minds.

Oga... The way you dey talk rá rà rá person go know say you be small pikin. Make you write this down for book " f@ck no be by muscle." When you become a man you go understand!

eejo:
I left my Wife in Nigeria early this year for overseas after getting the job of my dream. My Organization is ready to move my family anytime am ready. People are leaving Nigeria because of the Economic situation and the way APC is managing the country. Don't blame the Men but the country.

me self want leave, connect me o!

MrBrownJay1:


Because they value MONEY above everything... So they have no problem abandoning their family to go chase some whatever, far away from their family. I fully understand why such desperate woman fall prey to men.

It's actually beyond that and A very big headache for most of them. They don't know if they should bring their wives over cos most of the men that did have no place to call home again abroad. Their wives sent them packing, some are living in their own house as slaves. It's complicated.

[quote author=lefulefu post=94239818]probably the man might have married over there as well.Wen u see a guy overseas who is married and he"s not concerned about bringing his wife over then know for sure he has a woman there .Its not that complex when u overseas and want to bring over ur spouse to join u..except if u there illegally[/quote
This is another angle.

Samakus:
I have one that is my neighbour currently. Moved into my apartment in January this year and my next flat neighbour is a pretty young woman with very young female twins. They were about 9 months old when I moved in. God knows I love pretty children. These kids have not seen their father before.

There's no amount of temptation I have not faced from this woman. But i have always had a principle of not touching another man's wife. Her twin kids thinks I'm their father cos I buy them things almost on a daily basis while returning from work. Sometimes I pity the young pretty woman. It's not easy for her but I can't help.

Anytime she sees a lady visit me, if you see her face eh lolz. But, it is what it is

You earn my respect...I doff my hat for you.

Please keep up the good morals.

may God guide and protect them... I can't imagine that, it really scary o

erico2k2:

U know pig pikin aske him mama why she put nose 4 potor potor nah pig mama tell am say wen E old E go know why.
Sailors nor get wives abi? or U too want thier wives to go sea with them too abi??

You dey mind that idi.....t?

That’s why you’re a human being, discipline, self control, and sense is the way to live This very complicated life, there are countless pretty young women everywhere, sleeping with a mans wife attracts omen to someone which would always catch up one day, keep up your ways it would surely attract you rewards in this life and next

Samakus:
I have one that is my neighbour currently. Moved into my apartment in January this year and my next flat neighbour is a pretty young woman with very young female twins. They were about 9 months old when I moved in. God knows I love pretty children. These kids have not seen their father before.

There's no amount of temptation I have not faced from this woman. But i have always had a principle of not touching another man's wife. Her twin kids thinks I'm their father cos I buy them things almost on a daily basis while returning from work. Sometimes I pity the young pretty woman. It's not easy for her but I can't help.

Anytime she sees a lady visit me, if you see her face eh lolz. But, it is what it is

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lefulefu:
do sailors stay in the sea for ever? ..and talking of many of these guys who work in oil rigs for months hope u know the ones who are married their wives sleep around with reckless abandon .some of these men even know their wives sleep around but they have resigned themselves to fate.Most times if u have a profession that requires u travelling all the time its wise just getting a baby mama.Footballers who travel all the time to meet their games engagements if its a long trip some of them bring their wives with them.There are some medical doctors who do their jobs travelling to different regions..u have heard of doctors without border abi? some prefer marrying each other in the same profession and if the man has a passion for travelling so also will the woman.they will travel together and do their profession together.It sucks when u as a man travel for so long a time and u just live ur wife and kids for months.Sooner or later her will power will crack and men who specialise in sleeping with married women will swarm over ur wife like ants around sugar

And so? This marriage sef? I think it’s for weaklings.......what do men need marriage or children for in this modern era?
What is the use of a man accepting poverty and wretchedness just to stay and be around his wife?

To be honest no man happily leaves their wives in Nigeria to go hustle abroad, that's a sacrifice he's making for the family to better their lives in the future to come
If the man remains in this shithole and nothing good is coming into the family, the wife will still abuse him one way or the other
If a man travels abroad for greener pastures, the least the woman can do is to be faithful and respect the ring on her finger, horniness only comes when you think about sex, the feeling don't just come ordinarily

I've seen a man bring overseas hustling while the wife here
I'm Nigeria gets herself busy by handling a business
She sometimes assists the husband especially when he travelled newly when his two feet weren't fully grounded

A woman that will cheat will still cheat no matter how close the man is to her
I have a neighbor (woman) she sleeps with any man who gives her a single smile
Her husband works around our area, he's always available yet almost all the men in our area has fvcked her
If she's doing all that under his nose then how's it gonna be if the man was abroad




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lefulefu:
pls didnt u read op"s story about his married neighbour with kids whose husband is overseas already disturbing him for sex? sadly thats how many marriages in naija with the husbands overseas tend to be.A number of their wives sleep around...except the very few who still try to keep the communication strong but then its not easy o.u are many kilometers away and ur wife is in nigeria all alone.the bedroom is cold and she is lonely.no man to hold and her friends laughing at her and urging her they have guys they can hook her up with..tell me why wont she fall.Except ur plan is to sujourn in ur adopted foreign country for a short time or u making plans to bring her over then she can still hold on..only then oo.But to be dere for donkey years with no sight in plan to bring her to join u she will become disillusioned and with what her friends are putting in her mind she will begin to doubt and suspect weda u have a new partner there with u then she will fall.Its not a new thing..it happens all the time.

And so? That’s the end of the world?

favor2016:
I know one wey the husband normally come once on a year for Salah celebration from Qater..All the wife Exes don dey refuck her again

Ok, so the man abandon Qatar because of his wife’s pussy? Abi?

Mrscarter:


Never once in my life have I used a vibrator. n I think I'm the best type to go into a relationship with atleast U know I'm faithful n loyal n that everyone ain't Ben up in me lol.
I'm no Saint at all. Am just loyal n dnt think it's good to just sleep around n treat Ur body like a camping ground where tons of ppl can pitch their tent n sleep on whener they like.
Besides I love with my mum n brothers n their families atm so where will I have privacy for using a vibrator or hiding one

Keep on acting like a saint and be decieving people. No wonder you register a new moniker in nairaland here to clean up your past life... I have met people like you before...!!! I bet you! what you are saying is fake and misleading.. just to lieu the innocent guys in... If you are genuine, reply me with your old account.. nairaland.

lefulefu:
did u not read about a slovenian footballer who was crying and was contemplating about leaving his profession cos another man shagged his wife are footballers broke?..every man cries weda rich or poor .Its only when u get ur heart hardened dat u do not cry

Foolish footballer guy! All men should get their heart hardened. A woman does not and will never be your property. In the western world you are nothing but partners!

larryking540:


if u occupy the lady with one or 2 tins back home sex will be the last tin she will think of all day , except she has some virus call a friend's

U mean like bad influences? Yeah sometimes ppl make choices the way their friends do.
I used to be easily influenced as a teen

SUXXI:
My family comes first then work.When I just got married I was offered a six digit job abroad.My wife was pregnant with our first baby.I told my wife about the job and my decision to be with her and my yet to be born kid.I will not leave them or get a job that separates me from my family.I am still in Nigeria and we are managing.I and my wife and kid do things together,play together.
If i am to leave this country to abroad,if I can't take my family along, then it is a big no.My family is my world and I will do my best to provide what I can and be with them.
Today when I lock back,I have no regrets as I am always there for my family,spiritually,physically,emotionally,financially.

Well done SIR!

However make some allowances for disappointment from the kids or your wife but good luck sha!

I did the opposite, poor me but I am prepared for the consequences.

Samakus:
I have one that is my neighbour currently. Moved into my apartment in January this year and my next flat neighbour is a pretty young woman with very young female twins. They were about 9 months old when I moved in. God knows I love pretty children. These kids have not seen their father before.

There's no amount of temptation I have not faced from this woman. But i have always had a principle of not touching another man's wife. Her twin kids thinks I'm their father cos I buy them things almost on a daily basis while returning from work. Sometimes I pity the young pretty woman. It's not easy for her but I can't help.

Anytime she sees a lady visit me, if you see her face eh lolz. But, it is what it is

You buy her kids stuff daily. Kwantinu. For Warri we talk say na from clap dem dey enter dance

MrBrownJay1:


If you don't mount her, someone in the area eventually will. Body no be firewood. Only a foolish man would go at the other side of the world for years and expect his wife to patiently wait. What kind of evil man would even expect that of a wife?

This is what you get when you ask children questions about adult stuff. How in your right mind did you contemplate the idea of even sleeping with somebody else’s wife because the husband is unavailable? Eventually, you will understand life better as you grow up!