Exactly. My wife and i got married in 2015, and i had to leave her home in 2016 and travel to Canada for greener pastures. But we both endured it and in 2018, i brought her over to Canada as a permanent resident. Now things are going very well for us. Most men dont leave because the want to but because they have to. That is what makes a man.

Samakus:


Nice to see a lady with this mindset. A lot of people, gender notwithstanding, believe that one can't do without sex. That's a notion I find very untrue, maybe because I fit hold body small.

Truth is, if people learn to control their sexual urges, we have successfully solved 80% of world's problems. Sadly, quite a very high percentage of human population just can't

If I can afford any kind of pussy I want, then why should u cry over one? That illicic of a guy is a weakling

lefulefu:
did u not read about a slovenian footballer who was crying and was contemplating about leaving his profession cos another man shagged his wife are footballers broke?..every man cries weda rich or poor .Its only when u get ur heart hardened dat u do not cry

virginprincess:
I have been noticing how you give bad advice on this forum,why you advice him to sleep with someone else wife, very bad. For those of you quoting me that i misunderstood what mrbrownjay1 said, i don't blame you guys, you all are birds of the same feathers, my point is that he shouldn't have giving the op such delivish advice in the first place.

Little miss, per your signature, it is "Make hay while the sun shines"

dataclime:

Trouble version 2.0 loading bro! Be careful with your attention on her and the children. Èṣù ò nílé (Devil no get house). Na anywhere wey them allow am e dey stay. I rise!

Thanks for your advice. I has have made her know that it can't happen. Baba, she's tried everything she can, to no avail. I just bonded with the little kids and will play with them when necessary. Can't deprive little kids love because thier mum is feeling Hot

Ginomel:


If the world is about sex, it could have been a better place than having violence. (Berlin and Amsterdam come to mind)

The only discouragement is the increased immorality and the low spirituality that will prevail due to sex abuse.

Imagine if married couples of the world will always indulge in mutual sex (not rape)
don't you think the world will be better off without violence.

Unfortunately, all things can never be equal.
Because once there is a sexual abuse, miscreants will be born and they will turn to terrorists/violence.

But imagine a world of clean romance, there would be more peace in the world.

The question is, can we ever have a clean and approved romance??

No we can't. That's why increased awareness on self control should be given greater importance

IamPlato:
try contactin the man and tell him his wife needs attention. if he doesnt respond then bang the woman so you can show the man that he is stupid and save her the trouble of sexual torment

You cannot possibly be serious.

Let another man do it. I'm not doing it. Period. Not now, not ever

Efewestern:


Chief, your logic is flawed, trying to get money by ANY means makes one a criminal, when there is urge for money, you work or lend from a close friend, family or business associates, most of wish you don't get immediately, but adapt with the little you have.

Same applies to sex. Trying to get sex by any means makes one a sex worker. Control is key. Self control.

Mrscarter:


Being tempted n acting on temptation are two different things. Not everyone gives into temptation.

Sure. i know
Just that u women love attention, which can be a weakness, one Guy shower u with attention during those periods.... and anything can happen.

Mrscarter:


I didn't mention marriage.
I'm not a virgin but I can still control myself. But after I marry I won't have reasons to abstain from sex n yes I will want it all the time cos he's my husband n I will enjoy being with him. Controlling yourself from having sex(unmarried) isn't hard if U want to do so n have reasons.
Marriage is different no doubt

the op is speaking from a married woman point of view. Can you now get the womans dillema?

Firstcitizen:


You buy her kids stuff daily. Kwantinu. For Warri we talk say na from clap dem dey enter dance

Emphasis on 'almost'. And,,, nothing is happening anytime soon. Take it from a man that knows how to control his urges or in some cases, run away if need be

Edusouls:
That’s why you’re a human being, discipline, self control, and sense is the way to live This very complicated life, there are countless pretty young women everywhere, sleeping with a mans wife attracts omen to someone which would always catch up one day, keep up your ways it would surely attract you rewards in this life and next

Amen. Thanks. I wonder what will make a young man like me (who can, in most cases, can get single ladies easily) to start considering having a thing with someone else's wife? Chukwu nara ekwensu ike biko!!

Yoighaman:


You earn my respect...I doff my hat for you.

Please keep up the good morals.

Thanks man.

christopher123:


are you an igbo or Urhobo man

Does tribe influence personal resolves? Definitely not!

I'm Igbo by the way. Nwafor Anambra for that matter. It doesn't change anything

toprealman:

Her face is normal. Your mind is playing games with you.

Well, quite possibly so. Still, I no send her face

virginprincess:
Well i have nothing to say to you, because the op has giving you the best reply himself, nigeria men & their stupid mentality.

@virginprincess I was enjoying your response until you used the phrase "Nigeria men & their stupid mentality". I believe we can make our submissions without making unwholesome reference to gender communities. Have a great day.

adg98:


You are so on point

I wonder why a man will live is wife home while working abroad. Long distance marriage is a NO for me

Men in long distance marriage can cheat just for sex but for women it goes beyond that. Women loves affections and once they start getting emotionally attach to a man, they won't only give the kpekus they are likely to give their heart too

You must belong to the old times. With the current sexual exposure most ladies of our times receive from a young age, they've learnt to manage and create a balance between love, lust and sexual pleasure. Some ladies just cant have one dick in 3 or 2 months, if you're a young guy and they like you but see no future with you, they would let out these things. Many women in big organizations are destroying young guyz dick codedly. Think about it, women they were having group sex, getting high to get nasty and so much sexual escapedes while in uni or at young age, would get married and leave past behind?

steeltrust:
u re corect bro

any were I go my family follow me
I no de for story DAT touch d kidney

Hmmm hope you can deal with the disappointment when your kids grow up and don’t have your time, and madam ports over to stay with them.....

PoliteActivist:


Little miss, per your signature, it is "Make hay while the sun shines"

Thanks, corrected

Mrscarter:


Lol quite the opposite. Why everyone gotta be so miserable just cos I know how to control myself n behave.

Asaro..

Michelle55:
If she can't wait, let her buy vibrator na. But it ain't an easy feat being without your spouse.

Then again, being faithful isn't something we do for our spouse like most people think, it's an individual decision to stay sane and worthy and not to turn to a public rest room where anyone can come in and deposit their spunks.

no matter how u masturbate or use sex machines, a human's feeling is surreal and crowns the act of love making. The innovativeness, touches and communication can't be equalled by artificial acts.

ugofulfilled:


@virginprincess I was enjoying your response until you used the phrase "Nigeria men & their stupid mentality". I believe we can make our submissions without making unwholesome reference to gender communities. Have a great day.

Thanks, correction taken. Have a great day also.

lefulefu:
do sailors stay in the sea for ever? ..and talking of many of these guys who work in oil rigs for months hope u know the ones who are married their wives sleep around with reckless abandon .some of these men even know their wives sleep around but they have resigned themselves to fate.Most times if u have a profession that requires u travelling all the time its wise just getting a baby mama.Footballers who travel all the time to meet their games engagements if its a long trip some of them bring their wives with them.There are some medical doctors who do their jobs travelling to different regions..u have heard of doctors without border abi? some prefer marrying each other in the same profession and if the man has a passion for travelling so also will the woman.they will travel together and do their profession together.It sucks when u as a man travel for so long a time and u just live ur wife and kids for months.Sooner or later her will power will crack and men who specialise in sleeping with married women will swarm over ur wife like ants around sugar

.. Good one lefu

Not something I would advise anyone to do, not necessarily because of sex, living very far apart especially in a young marriage is not good and has its own consequences.

For a Christian marriage its not good.




There's also the double standards, after my former neighbor has been in Lagos for more than 10years alone with their daughter, husband man came back from abroad and the year family told the wife to swear that she has not been touched by another man, she did swear and I know she didn't sleep around but why didn't they tell their son to swear too abi for 10years abroad he was celibate? I was just laughing as the story was narrated.

Roseey0:
As I dey hug my pillow for 8months now shey I don die ni

There is always a plan to join him or her But they always dont materialize so fast.

Notwithstanding, there are people tgat abandon their sponse for money and it shouldnt be encouraged. Both does that practice Bigamy should be castrated. Some ladies even know and still put head. They just want the money .

But you're helping yourself dig it with a cucumber

Parisian:
You're also a wayward person who wasn't raised right if you think it's okay for men to stick their penis into anything that crawls providing the "thing" isn't married.

Your perverse thinking is no fault of mine. I made a point but your perverse mind interpreted an entirely different meaning to it. Continue lusting after peoples wives, the ones that have had kids. I hope you get well soon.

virginprincess:
Well i have nothing to say to you, because the op has giving you the best reply himself, nigeria men & their stupid mentality.

i hope ur father is from kenya

Samakus:
I have one that is my neighbour currently. Moved into my apartment in January this year and my next flat neighbour is a pretty young woman with very young female twins. They were about 9 months old when I moved in. God knows I love pretty children. These kids have not seen their father before.

There's no amount of temptation I have not faced from this woman. But i have always had a principle of not touching another man's wife. Her twin kids thinks I'm their father cos I buy them things almost on a daily basis while returning from work. Sometimes I pity the young pretty woman. It's not easy for her but I can't help.

Anytime she sees a lady visit me, if you see her face eh lolz. But, it is what it is

This life no balance. How can you feed the mouth and leave the pucie hungry?? It's a crazy world I swear

ibedun:


Hmmm hope you can deal with the disappointment when your kids grow up and don’t have your time, and madam ports over to stay with them.....

so u mean I'll I show my kids love and at d end de won't Ve my time wen de grow up

bro is unfair na

ibedun:


He must be a very LUCKY man indeed. But I bet the man is not sharing his enormous PAINS with you! Nigerian wives are terror or slave masters in the UK.

person wey don retire. Only wife still works. Lived with them for a yearmna enjoy them dey enjoy biko

yaki84:
i hope ur father is from kenya

When you guys about nigeria women&fish brain, you guys forget you have mothers&sisters.

ACE1010:


This life no balance. How can you feed the mouth and leave the pucie hungry?? It's a crazy world I swear

If I can feed a mouth that is owned by another nman if I have, but I can't feed pucie that is owned by another man.

Have a good day

virginprincess:
When you guys about nigeria women&fish brain, you guys forget you have mothers&sisters.

ur statement generalise all naija men. U should have jvst knock d guy if his comment choke u