TerryMcGinis:
Most Nigerian girls are plain stupid. Op is a glorious fool. I can't help it..I fit chop another round of ban. The stupidity of nairaland girls is like morning dew, new every morning.

proclinician:


It's simple. Before you come out to run your filthy mouth, tell your brothers to practice what you've preached and see how far it gets them. For Nigerian ladies, a date is an opportunity to eat those things she ordinarily can't afford because a guy is taking the whole bill. Use your brothers to run a simple social experiment then you can share your results on nairaland. Telling any of these gluttons that the bill will be split is interpreted as red flag. "He is poor or stingy and can't run a home".

Sixfeetbelle:


In all your attempts to debate her post, you failed to notice a crucial information. It's not by force to go on a date to an eatery. No go dey do pass yourself

baralatie:

it is a security measure

lograr:

Haha so her fellow hungry friends is the best substitute for a security officer abi? What protection will they offer her? If she feel insecure she shouldn't go. Its as simple as that

Sixfeetbelle:


And if your date don't like/can't afford wine?,

TransAtlanticEx:
There are wines for all classes of people,so that excuse of not being able to afford wine can't fly.
It will be bad only if one party doesn't like wine/alcohol.
I find eating on dates very obnoxious and irresponsible.
Nigerians are still very poor people tbh...Food for God's sake,na wa!
Wine,a bottle of water,soda,juice,snack should suffice.
Which one be semo,cowleg and ogbono for date na tori olorun?

baralatie:

and if she refuse to show up on her date because she is insecure about the other person.the guy will come to nairaland and open another topic about Nigerian girls.
you can see the wahala!

BigSarah:


Eating alone doesn't mean at home, ladies can have their meals alone in public food spots... Going on a date in my experience involves preparing to dress up, logistics, and the worst part conversation (some people are blokes) ...Him paying would probably seem like the bright side of the whole ordeal if there's no connection... I know misogyny is here to stay and I definitely can't end it.

TransAtlanticEx:
There are wines for all classes of people,so that excuse of not being able to afford wine can't fly.
It will be bad only if one party doesn't like wine/alcohol.
I find eating on dates very obnoxious and irresponsible.
Nigerians are still very poor people tbh...Food for God's sake,na wa!
Wine,a bottle of water,soda,juice,snack should suffice.
Which one be semo,cowleg and ogbono for date na tori olorun?

TransAtlanticEx:
There are wines for all classes of people,so that excuse of not being able to afford wine can't fly.
It will be bad only if one party doesn't like wine/alcohol.
I find eating on dates very obnoxious and irresponsible.
Nigerians are still very poor people tbh...Food for God's sake,na wa!
Wine,a bottle of water,soda,juice,snack should suffice.
Which one be semo,cowleg and ogbono for date na tori olorun?

lograr:

Now answer this : If your daughter/sister feel insecure about a date, should she go with her friends because the guy will create a thread about it or she should stay at home?

baralatie:

that is why it is called a date.you don't judge another person's definition about what a date should entail.
some guy fancies his house!
another fancies chicken republic!
some fancy Sheraton !
some fancy quilox!

and at the venue your date might hate the thought of ordering drinks and she loves food!

the summary is money will be spent and someone must foot the bill.in essence if a guy goes out of his pocket size.he will go home crying

baralatie:

that is why it is called a date.you don't judge another person's definition about what a date should entail.
some guy fancies his house!
another fancies chicken republic!
some fancy Sheraton !
some fancy quilox!

and at the venue your date might hate the thought of ordering drinks and she loves food!

the summary is money will be spent and someone must foot the bill.in essence if a guy goes out of his pocket size.he will go home crying

Sixfeetbelle:


People that can afford wine wouldn't be complaining about semo and cowleg. (At least according to my understanding of how expensive items can be)

I don't mind people eating on a date if the paying party can afford it and when the other party will eat sensibly. Even without that, I'm for at least having snacks on a date. A soda and a burger is nice if you're not too buoyant. I don't know how I feel about just wine on a first date sha. Maybe on subsequent dates.

IamLEGEND1:
you, you and you!
you prepared, you dressed up, you had a boring conversation.
what about him?

He went through the same level of stress as you did, cleaned up, and in the end got disappointed.
Unlike you, however, he had to spend a little money for his troubles in addition to everything else.
I don't agree with or even like the whining by guys after that happens. It's stupid.
However, a little empathy wouldn't kill anyone.

Obviously, when you ask a girl out and decide to pay the bill all by yourself, that doesn't guarantee nor entitle you to a good date. That is just dumb.

Girls, too, shouldn't use the expected dating etiquette as a safety net, where they're almost eager to end the date at the slightest inconvenience because she knows she wouldn't be left holding the bill at the end of the night.

TransAtlanticEx:
If you noticed,I never complained of money.
How much does food cost anyway?See why I say Nigerians are still very poor?
If your guest loves food,let her eat at home,that's if she can afford it anyway.
Food(heavy,carb laden food) on first dates is very clumsy and screams poverty and famine ravaged people.
No sane person goes on a first date at clubs,that's for misfits and riff raffs.
Sane people go to parks,beaches,winery,ice cream parlours and snack areas where they can talk without fufu or rice particles flying from their mouths across tables,landing on each others faces.
Just imagine being on a date and you're painting one interesting scenario and your date is figiting with a tooth pick trying to chook out kpomo from her gum
Do you see how off that looks?
Na wa!

TransAtlanticEx:
There are wines for all classes of people,so that excuse of not being able to afford wine can't fly.
It will be bad only if one party doesn't like wine/alcohol.
I find eating on dates very obnoxious and irresponsible.
Nigerians are still very poor people tbh...Food for God's sake,na wa!
Wine,a bottle of water,soda,juice,snack should suffice.
Which one be semo,cowleg and ogbono for date na tori olorun ?

BigSarah:


patriarchy ,that's your angle... I'm aware there's no fairness anywhere but still, dates should be what they are post to be getting to know and see someone the meal is simply entertainment.

TransAtlanticEx:
Do you want me to start mentioning names of wines that cost less than food for 2 people on dates?
You must not buy champagne,there are very nice cheap red and whites littered all over wineries across Nigeria.
Mouton Cadet,Robertson,etc...
I wasn't talking about money,food is too cheap for me to complain,I was looking at how inconvenient it will be to eat heavily on a first date and what it depicts.
Look,argue all you want,only starving girls subscribe for food on first dates 90% of the time.
They don't want wine because you can't take those on an empty stomach,lest you digest your stomach walls
If you doubt it,take your friends out,buy them food and buy wine afterwards and see if they deny the wine.
That will tell you they liked the wine but were too hungry to have it first or as an only refreshment.

TransAtlanticEx:
There are wines for all classes of people,so that excuse of not being able to afford wine can't fly.
It will be bad only if one party doesn't like wine/alcohol.
I find eating on dates very obnoxious and irresponsible.
Nigerians are still very poor people tbh...Food for God's sake,na wa!
Wine,a bottle of water,soda,juice,snack should suffice.
Which one be semo,cowleg and ogbono for date na tori olorun?

lograr:

Is it someone that you are going to pay her transport fare for coming that will pay her own bills? . I don't have any problem paying for a date but for their friends

BigSarah:


This is unfair statistics, mathematically unprovable

2dice01:
Sarah use Pythagoras or Almighty formula

You will get the same answer


How many times have you shared a date Bill with a Dude

BigSarah:


Real question should be how many times have I been on a date with a dude

BigSarah:

Talking about food in dates, who declared that dates must happen at fast-food or grillers? No one!, if as a man you're not spontaneous enough to pick a non-food related venue for the date that's on you!

If a girl wants to pay for her own meal guess what she'd be doing? EATING IT ALONE!... Not having some guy giving interviews over lunch.
Sure some girls might take a date as a possible meal ticket, but if you can't bring up sharing of the bills before the date then you shouldn't complain, if you did the asking out.. I never get critical or judgmental about dates etiquette but this section of nairaland never hides it's gross misogyny.

2dice01:
Ooh you do ladies ..
You should have told me that earlier

So do you ladies share the bill

BigSarah:


Yes ladies share

Amarabae:
I find it weird seeing people eating during a date , a glass of wine is OK to keep the conversation going.

2dice01:
>@ Bolded

Pick 15 girls and tell them you guys are sharing the Bill before the date

You will hardly see 1 girl agreeing to this