You left a woman in Nigeria while philandering about abroad, you keep sending her money to tie her down like everything is all about money.

You call her fat and all sorts of names and even threaten to leave her thereby battering her self-esteem.

You see yourself as her Lord and Savior simply because you settle her financially

She realized her worth and has chosen to leave you, the news hit you hard and unexpected, now you want to cry foul.

Pandemic is now over and people are moving in and out of Nigeria, come down and do the needful, all families don't usually agree but you go with the peaceful party and perform your rite over her, you can't deny you don't know why she is acting up. If there's no evidence of marriage, I wonder how easy it will be for her and your son to join you.

Shortyy:


That's what they say.

Hmm I don’t know

Vyolet:
You left a woman in Nigeria while philandering about abroad, you keep sending her money to tie her down like everything is all about money.

You call her fat and all sorts of names and even threaten to leave her thereby battering her self-esteem.

You see yourself as her Lord and Savior simply because you settle her financially

She realized her worth and has chosen to leave you, the news hit you hard and unexpected, now you want to cry foul.

Pandemic is now over and people are moving in and out of Nigeria, come down and do the needful, all families don't usually agree but you go with the peaceful party and perform your rite over her, you can't deny you don't know why she is acting up. If there's no evidence of marriage, I wonder how easy it will be for her and your son to join you.

What advice have you given me now? I wish her well if not for anything but for my son

mariahAngel:



That means your words and actions contradict themselves. That is confusing.
If I may ask; are those (the properties) in her name or at least, your son's name?

I was on call so i couldn’t respond well. Before we came back in 2017, I had built 2 houses both were in my name cos my dad and sister built them, when I got back I bought another and started building and that is in my son’s name. I gave her the documents to assure her am with her since her family didn’t agree on who will take the bride prize. I would have done a court marriage but my dad insisted I wait till her family settle their issues.

thorpido:
I thought you said she has a dad.You should have done a 'small' something at least to show commitment.
I feel she's acting this way because she is literally 'hanging'.

She was raised by her mom, her dad was not part of her growing up, her maternal uncles said they won’t allow her father to give her out for marriage.

Broken2020:


She was raised by her mom, her dad was not part of her growing up, her maternal uncles said they won’t allow her father to give her out for marriage.

so have they settled who will collect bride price?

Can you come to naija and settle this matter once and for all?

Broken2020:


What advice have you given me now? I wish her well if not for anything but for my son

So you didn't see the advice I gave, what do you now want to see?

Vyolet:

So you didn't see the advise I gave, what do you now want to see?

You didn’t see that I had applied for visa twice their applications were denied

NoToPile:


so have they settled who will collect bride price?

Can you come to naija and settle this matter once and for all?

I’ll do my best bro, thanks for the advice

:So you didn't see the advise I gave, what do you now want to see? You didn’t see that I had applied for visa twice their applications were denied

southniyikaye:
my brother, channel your energy to something more productive.. If I share my experience with you, you will understand your case is not even something to worry about.. She practically left me when I was down.. It is said that you don't beat a dead horse, na that time this one carry 2by2 plank wey get nail dey flog me..
I am only concerned about your kid and they are going to exploit that, just wait for it.. Do you think if not for the fact that you had a kid she will threaten you with breakup?
Just hold on, don't cry yet as they have not made their real intentions known yet

My son is my concern bro, she said she won’t allow me have my son, she is moving out of the house I rented for them, she asked if I want the car I bought for her I said she can keep it, she said what about the documents I said send them to my sister she has refused. If she agrees to give me my son and keep the documents I’ll gladly oblige.

Broken2020:


The same girl advising her now was emotionally down when I was in Nigeria she was loving her co worker who had girlfriend the guy was friend zoning her I told her to move on if the boy is not ready for her she refused and kept pestering the guy, the guy was living with her in her apartment, she was paying the guys bills but they were just friends.

She said she took the guy’s name to a prophet so the guy came begging for marriage now they are married. The same person advised the woman I have lived my whole life for to quit me.

that girl is foolish she want her progress but she dont want others to progress

I pray she doesn’t regret this

Broken2020:


My son is my concern bro, she said she won’t allow me have my son, she is moving out of the house I rented for them, she asked if I want the car I bought for her I said she can keep it, she said what about the documents I said send them to my sister she has refused. If she agrees to give me my son and keep the documents I’ll gladly oblige.

still, her game plan is not revealed yet.. Bro see, if you mistakenly take such woman abroad, it is a regret you will live with the rest of your life..
Same thing happened to a friend in Canada.. He did everything possible to move his wife and 3kids to Canada.. Don't know if he didn't do paternity test, that part still confused me cos when she got to Canada, he realized only the second child was his and the wife tried everything possible to make sure he is deported back to Nigeria but it didn't work, my friend now has partial stroke infact, he is the shadow of himself..if only one friend is convincing her right now and she Herr, imagine when she gets over there and meet lots of women with broken homes and so on, she will almost kill you bro..

Broken2020:


My son is my concern bro, she said she won’t allow me have my son, she is moving out of the house I rented for them, she asked if I want the car I bought for her I said she can keep it, she said what about the documents I said send them to my sister she has refused. If she agrees to give me my son and keep the documents I’ll gladly oblige.

All you keep saying is your son son son.I assume she sees that as your weak point.

Also,you have shown you care more about your son than both of them.Imagine if your son was not in the picture,guess you wont give a damn about her.

You said she was with you abroad,why did she return back to Naija?

In conclusion,I think there is more to this story,but unfortunately,she is not here to tell her own part of the story.

You won’t take my advice

So let me shut up

Homeboiy:
You won’t take my advice

So let me shut up

Who knows? Pls pass it on

signature2012:


All you keep saying is your son son son.I assume she sees that as your weak point.

Also,you have shown you care more about your son than both of them.Imagine if your son was not in the picture,guess you wont give a damn about her.

You said she was with you abroad,why did she return back to Naija?

In conclusion,I think there is more to this story,but unfortunately,she is not here to tell her own part of the story.

My brother, if I reveal who I am (my real moniker) here you will be shocked to know who is doing this. Yes I say my son, my son, my son because he is the only one for me at this point, what do I have to say about someone who swore with her mother’s grave? Bro I have not been in Nigeria for 2 yrs what could I possibly have done to anyone in Nigeria from here.

We came to Nigeria in 2017 with the plan of relocating to another country after our marriage but since her family were having issues I left alone, I tried last year twice for them it didn’t work. Boss I have nothing to hide at all... I can’t really say this is one thing I did that prompted her decision.

southniyikaye:
still, her game plan is not revealed yet.. Bro see, if you mistakenly take such woman abroad, it is a regret you will live with the rest of your life..
Same thing happened to a friend in Canada.. He did everything possible to move his wife and 3kids to Canada.. Don't know if he didn't do paternity test, that part still confused me cos when she got to Canada, he realized only the second child was his and the wife tried everything possible to make sure he is deported back to Nigeria but it didn't work, my friend now has partial stroke infact, he is the shadow of himself..if only one friend is convincing her right now and she Herr, imagine when she gets over there and meet lots of women with broken homes and so on, she will almost kill you bro..

Broken2020 don't listen to these men haters here on nairaland. They always want to see a brother suffer and beg for what he ought not to! I have seen a handful of them here with there shallow thinking already.
You have done your best to show that woman that you wanna spend the rest of your life with her. Her friend is the culprit here. She will definitely regret this.
My advice: Man up and be prepared for the worst, she will be back when her eyes clears and I think you know better now

Broken2020:


My brother, if I reveal who I am (my real moniker) here you will be shocked to know who is doing this. Yes I say my son, my son, my son because he is the only one for me at this point, what do I have to say about someone who swore with her mother’s grave? Bro I have not been in Nigeria for 2 yrs what could I possibly have done to anyone in Nigeria from here.

We came to Nigeria in 2017 with the plan of relocating to another country after our marriage but since her family were having issues I left alone, I tried last year twice for them it didn’t work. Boss I have nothing to hide at all... I can’t really say this is one thing I did that prompted her decision.

For now,let her be.Ignore her,though it might be difficult because you would want to speak to your son everytime.
If you can be strong minded for a little time,just be by yourself.Get yourself busy with other things,but make sure you know where they are living.
Dont send them any money.They want suffer.
With time,she will come back to her senses and give you a call.

Broken2020:


Doesn’t that assures any woman ? My documents is with her, which has my name and my son’s name

You’re too focused on money and property. What you’ve done for her and her family. What you’ve given her. Etc. You’ve threatened her in the past with break ups even as she reassured you that she wanted to be with you. You love when she begs you to say with her huh. Now you’re crying when the shoe is on the other foot. Oga money is not everything. Calm down small.

Imagine if she finds someone who has that money and treats her awesomely on top of being generous to her. Na your loss be that.

signature2012:


For now,let her be.Ignore her,though it might be difficult because you would want to speak to your son everytime.
If you can be strong minded for a little time,just be by yourself.Get yourself busy with other things,but make sure you know where they are living.
Dont send them any money.They want suffer.
With time,she will come back to her senses and give you a call.

Thanks boss, I appreciate I love my son sooo much and he has been the reason I have been crying.

Your son is her child. Not a package or property to be dropped off with you.

Broken2020:


My son is my concern bro, she said she won’t allow me have my son, she is moving out of the house I rented for them, she asked if I want the car I bought for her I said she can keep it, she said what about the documents I said send them to my sister she has refused. If she agrees to give me my son and keep the documents I’ll gladly oblige.

cococandy:


You’re too focused on money and property. What you’ve done for her and her family. What you’ve given her. Etc. You’ve threatened her in the past with break ups even as she reassured you that she wanted to be with you. You love when she begs you to say with her huh. Now you’re crying when the shoes is on the other foot. Oga money is not everything. Calm down small.

Imagine if she finds someone who has that money and treats her awesomely on top of being generous to her. Na your loss be that.

I don’t know if she will find anyone that will treat her better and I pray she does and nothing should affect my son

Vyolet:
You left a woman in Nigeria while philandering about abroad, you keep sending her money to tie her down like everything is all about money.

You call her fat and all sorts of names and even threaten to leave her thereby battering her self-esteem.

You see yourself as her Lord and Savior simply because you settle her financially

She realized her worth and has chosen to leave you, the news hit you hard and unexpected, now you want to cry foul.

Pandemic is now over and people are moving in and out of Nigeria, come down and do the needful, all families don't usually agree but you go with the peaceful party and perform your rite over her, you can't deny you don't know why she is acting up. If there's no evidence of marriage, I wonder how easy it will be for her and your son to join you.

broken2020, this is what I was talking about

Broken2020:


I don’t know if she will find anyone that will treat her better and I pray she does and nothing should affect my son

You obviously believe that and I’m sure your attitude towards her reflected as much. Might be one of the reasons why she japa.

By sending money from abroad you think you’ve done more than any man can do for his woman. Don’t think she can find better? You could be in for a surprise

cococandy:
Your son is her child. Not a package or property to be dropped off with you.

Thanks anyways I asked for an advice and I got one from you.

Broken2020:


What advice have you given me now? I wish her well if not for anything but for my son

lol, go through what I told you again and you will begin to reason with me.. I told you, the diff btw your case and my case is, you are abroad, I dey naija
U have a kid, I have two

Broken2020:


Thanks anyways I asked for an advice and I got one from you.

hopefully you’re not an NL story teller.
Good luck

cococandy:


You obviously believe that and I’m sure your attitude towards reflected as much. Might be one of the reasons why she japa.

By sending money from abroad you think you’ve done more than any man can do for his woman. Don’t think she can find better? You could be in for a surprise

She is the mother of my son and I wish her the best, I wish I had the power to issue visa I would have since given them visa.