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2dice01:
What are your spec?

graduate, good looking, humorous, intelligent, Igbo or Yoruba, age 32-38, neat, fun to be with

Anyiiii:
graduate, good looking, humorous, intelligent, Igbo or Yoruba, age 32-38, neat, fun to be with

Lol, you never serious, by the time you back 40, you will accept even okada men.

No be only graduate and good looking

Wish you well in your search but that money part dont agree with you at all you dont have money dear if you get money you will not be looking for a partner Ivf dey sperm bank dey surrogacy dey adoption dey get a child(ren) and transfer that ur love to the child

You can reach me by contacting the number in my signature. Let's chat dear

Franktom247:
Wish you well in your search but that money part dont agree with you at all you dont have money dear if you get money you will not be looking for a partner Ivf dey sperm bank dey surrogacy dey adoption dey get a child(ren) and transfer that ur love to the child

Marriage ain't all about kids! Get this African shitty mentality off here!!!so she should be fornicating or masturbating abi!

physically I guess ure not a problem,the problem is the so called "spec"
ur expectations are crazy young lady, uve spent so much time expectatng guys to be dis and that, looking for a real man when u have no idea what it takes or feels like to be a man

I'm reasoning from experience, once dated a 34yr old and I'm 8yrs younger, she always wanted me to be perfect, be a man, do dis ,do it like dat and all that shit she just couldn't accept me the way I was, I know she loved me Nd all but sometimes we all gatta remember, we all are imperfect,we got our bad sides, we will have issues, now the big question is....who would u rather have issues with, who will u still love and care for even seeing their flaws and mistakes, whose issues can u soak up and move on.

really lady, I wish u well...like I always told my ex...just go with the flow, things can only get better with prayers and faith. much love from here!!

debbydams:
Hummm.. My sis take it easy on yourself nd pray good man nd your. Spec will come.

Lol, I hope I won't see your post like this one day

Finnese001:
I thought most ladies here use to say that marriage is more profitable to men than ladies, so why are you depressed


Zzor fati2001 virginprincess

You guys should come and explain to this sister that marriage is benefit men more

Yes na, it more benefitting to men, but God has already formed the union called marriage, so we ladies don't have a choice, we just have to manage it the way we see it.

Make sure you are patient either way.

Some men may not meet this criteria on the spot.

Anyiiii:
graduate, good looking, humorous, intelligent, Igbo or Yoruba, age 32-38, neat, fun to be with

lefulefu:
there are gyms in naija nau.its not that expensive to register and she can afford it if she can afford monthly subscription for dstv.Yea online is also another option though but she should be vigilant online cos of scammers.another best option is telling her pastor her issue and the pastor can matchmake a bachelor for her in the same church she attends

You're right sha.
Church is also a legit way. With a good personality and active membership, winners Church would be a sure bet.

Anyiiii:
graduate, good looking, humorous, intelligent, Igbo or Yoruba, age 32-38, neat, fun to be with

Alrighty. I’m neither of the bolded; as for the intrinsic qualities, they’re subjective so I can’t say. Omor feels like a job interview. Whew!

I know someone who’s been married for about 8 years and just got divorced, no kids. Don’t you think you’re better off than she is? Plus she’s almost 40. You gotta take it easy on yourself and savor the positive things in your life. Marriage isn’t the best a woman should aspire to. Learn to deal with the pressure from friends and family, your time will surely come.

The poster above me and the person he/she quoted made sense.

N/B: Me I no like church o

I myself looking for a wife.... maybe I'm the one you been waiting for.... I'm almost sure. Post your specs let me see if I qualify ..... my specs are pretty flexible.

Anyiiii:
graduate, good looking, humorous, intelligent, Igbo or Yoruba, age 32-38, neat, fun to be with

Nothing out of the box

If you are not staying in the village
Coming across such guys at work or church even in eatery is the easiest thing

which of the spec is it most guys you are meeting ain't ticking ?

virginprincess:
Yes na, it more benefitting to men, but God has already formed the union called marriage, so we ladies don't have a choice, we just have to manage it the way we see it.

Lol, is better you start being nice to us now or start preparing your own note 10 years to come

YoonSung54:
Where are all those guys you dated from childhood till now?

help me ask her, some guys are even coming her way and she is saying their are not her spec, #nonesense

2dice01:
Nothing out of the box

If you are not staying in the village
Coming across such guys at work or church even in eatery is the easiest thing

which of the spec is it most guys you are meeting ain't ticking ?

Finding a guy is one , the guy wanting you too is another thing. Life’s complicated

Marriage is a union of two imperfect people, so both of you were not perfect, and that's the reason you were brought together in the first place. Now what I would never advise you to do is marry addicted or chronic alcoholic, a smoker, womaniser, or an abuser
( emotional abuser can be managed, though)[b][/b]. Also don't marry a fetish man. Marry a man who revers and fears God, not necessary a church goer. The man's financial status is at your discretion. Also, run away from cele people!!!

just try and meet aboki guys they are always interested in marriage

Madam check ur character.

Spec? Hmmm... Its nice and pretty okay to have a spec... Everyone wants an happy ending...


If you not in rush to settle then I guess you can keep searching... Social media Facebook, Twitter and Instagram connect can help...

Go out on an international conference within your state... You will meet not people from nigeria but some expertise from around the world.. I'm sure one will definitely match up


If you in rush... Maybe you need to be public open... Not all men you met can be on the low side... You can definitely settle with someone around 70℅... You will do good

Goodluck

Ladies forget that, the ‘spec’ thing in marriage goes both ways.

No matter how good, beautiful and intelligent you might be, just like you have passed over many because they are not your ‘spec’; many who in your eyes are your ‘spec’ have looked and passed over you, because you are not their ‘spec’.

So, you either up your game and trade up to their level in other to meet their ‘spec’ and if you can’t maintain that uptrade throughout the marriage, it will come crashing down.....or trim some of your desires.

Anyiiii:
please can you suggest some good/decent online dating sites? Thanks

There's none that I know of really. I still rate nairaland above most dating sites. Forget the men women bashing that goes on here, people still fall in love here .

I'll suggest you start engaging people here too by commenting on topics and discussions, you'll be surprised that some guys here are actually interested in you but might be hesitant cause they've not "known" you yet.

Share your social media links in your profile so interested and reasonable guys can see more of who you are.

PAWG:
Finding a guy is one , the guy wanting you too is another thing. Life’s complicated

Life na turn by turn

Finnese001:
Lol, is better you start being nice to us now or start preparing your own note 10 years to come

I can never be nice to nairaland men, because you guys are not nice to women, and before that 10yrs time you are talking about, i am already a mother.

Anyiiii:
We are in the month of November. I'm still not married. A close female friend of mine will be getting married in December. Two of my close friends got married this year too. I'm feeling depressed right now. Nothing interests me. My decoder is subscribed and I can't watch TV. I have food but I'm not hungry. I have money but I'm not happy. Who says money is happiness? Some men are coming my way but they are not my spec. I'm very beautiful and look so younger than my age. So stop imagining the looks of an old Lady. Why can't I find the man of my dreams? Please you people should pray for me. Is there any good luck herb that you can recommend for me to get my husband? Thanks

at 35yrs u are still selecting? u never ready to marry be that na #nonesense



go to Google and type "Top 5 online dating site in Nigeria" then registered for like 3 different dating site maybe u might find your so called spec there

virginprincess:
I can never be nice to nairaland men, because you guys are not nice to women, and before that 10yrs time you are talking about, i am already a mother.

We are nice oo, but sometimes we refuse the urge to simp because that's what majority of our ladies sees as being romantic and caring.

And BTW, marriage is a union, it's involved two persons. So I don't see how it benefit men more than women. It should be 50/50 thing

Tony142:
at 35yrs u are still selecting? u never ready to marry be that na #nonesense



go to Google and type "Top 5 online dating site in Nigeria" then registered for like 3 different dating site maybe u might find your so called spec there

You dey mind am

I believe she is just a troll

These kind of ladies check their dms like 50 messages, like 30 of them they insulted the guys hitting them up. Know their type o, once no car or benz on your profile you won't like thier response oo

YoonSung54:
Where are all those guys you dated from childhood till now?

she dumped them of course ; she done use her husband as bf

You have to be happy before anybody can make you happy, stop comparing yourself with your married friends there are some of your friends that are no longer alive too. When there's life, there's hope.

Be happy, can we talk?

This OP is so funny,,,

The truth is you haven't being to a place where your partner is,,,,


No need for putting up a specific spec,,, nobody can meet your requirement ,,, they can't br 100% perfect,,,,,

Why not hausa,,, wetin hausa do you?

BTW OP will you marry me,,?

My terms and conditions,,,

I'm a broke ass nigga,,,,, i get no money,,,

I'm handsome,,,,,,

You will wash my clothes,,, i don't like washing machine,,,, i prefer you use hand,,,,,,,

You will be taking care of me like a baby,,,,

I will always be servicing you anything you want,,,,,,,,,

I'm kind and responsible,,,,,,