Are you married?! I need to know.

If you think two couples can have the same libido always, think again please.

I know sexual compatibility is a thing. Also saying it is not a destination, but a journey. Do you think every successful couple today started with the same libido

If one cant satisfy another after marrying. It can easily be worked on. Some couples go about it well, some don't.

Don't tell people to have sex many times before settling down, all in the name of compatibility. Be realistic please

MrTAnonymous:


I beg to differ, even a young kid who is able to talk, walk and eat all by himself knows that STDs is real and reason why you should always protect yourself every time you have sexx. Only gullible fellows will keep on having sexx unprotected.

And sexual compability is real bro. Two couples can have the same libido.

If only you know the number of infidelity cases in our magistrate courts simply because one person couldn't satisfy his/her partner on bed.
Like wtf, were both partners sleeping when they were committing to each other?

The fact remains the fact, I would always advice dating partners to always check their sexual compatibility. It is very vital in a relationship.


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ReluctantAdult:
Totally right. I don't understand why people starve themselves of sex when their body is exploding with urge and longings. It is hypocritical.

Seriously, I don't know oo. It baffles me alot


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Harddiskng:


Number 2 cannot be louded enough. Some people don’t even know sexual compatibility is a thing.

Marry someone with the same sexual energy as you. She/He always making excuses when it comes to sexual leave him/her find your type.

These are early warning signs, if you like ignore and take it up a notch to marriage; it would surely end in tears... Devil would punish you when you start beating her because she no give you chop, like you were blind before abi.

@Op one cold bottle of stout for you jare. Just ignore the ones that would come and rant nonsense, like they no dey see the way divorce-rate dey sky rocket.

GBAM!!! You nailed it.



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nwaezeemmanuel:
Are you married?!

No, why?



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I want to know where you are coming from.

MrTAnonymous:


No, why?



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MrTAnonymous:


Seriously, I don't know oo. It baffles me alot


Incase you don't know na me talk

People think sex is the greatest sin and abstaining from it makes you an angel. But their hearts are dirty as fvck and they can never love and help others. I cringe at them

nwaezeemmanuel:
I want to know where you are coming from.

How does that relate to the topic?


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Do you think everybody is starved of it or battling celibacy like it's a war.

Many like me, don't think about having sex for months very easily - it's about having control.

If your body is exploding with urges and longings from time to time. The urges are controlling you, not the other way round.

ReluctantAdult:
Totally right. I don't understand why people starve themselves of sex when their body is exploding with urge and longings. It is hypocritical.

It matters to me, at least i know now that i will be wasting my time dragging this with you.

MrTAnonymous:


How does that relate to the topic?


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:Yes every choices have consequences.Even waiting after marriage before having sexx has its own consequences. Incase you don't know na me talk

Hey bro! Pre-marital sex is a choice. I cant take part in it because of my beliefs but will not condemn people who do it.

Many of my posts here on Nairaland, i try to teach safe sex practices and trust me, most are for those engaging in pre-marital sex.

My point is it does not aid the sex life of to-be couples and many marriages with a good sex life can happen with no need for it. Simple!

ReluctantAdult:

People think sex is the greatest sin and abstaining from it makes you an angel. But their hearts are dirty as fvck and they can never love and help others. I cringe at them

MrTAnonymous:


Okay.


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Which one be this apari,,

Anyway God nogo shame us my brother,,, ✊❤️

nwaezeemmanuel:
Do you think everybody is starved of it or battling celibacy like it's a war.

Many like me, don't think about having sex for months very easily - it's about having control.

If your body is exploding with urges and longings from time to time. The urges are controlling you, not the other way round.

Let's face it, your last paragraph is totally wrong. You have sexual urges because that's the way your body was programmed. You religious people always think feeling sexual urge is a sin. Lol. What a joke!

Sexual urge is the same as hunger and thirst, it is physiological. It's completely normal. A woman feels Hot around her ovulation and during her period because sex hormones are high.

Whether you act on it or not doesn't take away the fact that the urge is there. Trying to suppress the urge is therefore a battle, whether you see it as one or not, because you're fighting your normal physiological stimuli.

Yes, people have successfully controlled their urges but that doesn't mean it is dead and certainly doesn't mean it doesn't occur from time to time. And if that's actually the case, then they need an endocrinologist. I rest.

nwaezeemmanuel:
Exactly! Go into pre-marital sex if you want to. But never for once think it will produce a better marriage.

It goes beyond that abeg.

True talk,,

Dem go dey give unverified principle,,,

,,,,

I don't know how my comment says you can't have sexual urge or that it is a sin.

You are coming from a place where you will not see reason to what i am saying, no matter how i put it.

I get sex urges, yes! But it's not explosive or out of my control. That isn't abnormal. I have controlled it so much that it doesn't seem like I'm suppressing anything.

It's a state of control not many have. I'm not condemning people who react differently or saying i am better.

ReluctantAdult:
Let's face it, your last paragraph is totally wrong. You have sexual urges because that's the way your body was programmed. You religious people always think feeling sexual urge is a sin. Lol. What a joke!

Sexual urge is the same as hunger and thirst, it is physiological. It's completely normal. A woman feels Hot around her ovulation and during her period because sex hormones are high.

Whether you act on it or not doesn't take away the fact that the urge is there. Trying to suppress the urge is therefore a battle, whether you see it as one or not, because you're fighting your normal physiological stimuli.

Yes, people have successfully controlled their urges but that doesn't mean it is dead and certainly doesn't mean it doesn't occur from time to time. And if that's actually the case, then they need an endocrinologist. I rest.

nwaezeemmanuel:
Hey bro! Pre-marital sex is a choice. I cant take part in it because of my beliefs but will not condemn people who do it.

Many of my posts here on Nairaland, i try to teach safe sex practices and trust me, most are for those engaging in pre-marital sex.

My point is it does not aid the sex life of to-be couples and many marriages with a good sex life can happen with no need for it. Simple!

Props to you for not condemning people who have sex.
I always tell people of I were God, I'd value a pr0stitute who is kindhearted, generous and empathetic to the people around her over a self-righteous, self-centred, religious bigot who feels their deeds and ways are holy. Just like the Pharisees.

That's how I see people, myself. A generous, compassionate pr0stitute is a friend to me, anytime, anyday. I detest people who don't obey the greatest commandment of love your neighbor as yourself, but think they are holy because they don't have sex. What a joke!

And again, sexual urge is not exactly the same as thirst at least. I know urges are powerful though.

Stay in a deserted island for months with no water and wait for dehydration to kick in.

Thirst will take over you so hard that even thoughts of sex will become non-existent. A man can do better for months under urges that come from time to time.

Either way, these are different things. I get your point though but they shouldn't be compared.

nwaezeemmanuel:
I don't know how my comment says you can't have sexual urge or that it is a sin.

You are coming from a place where you will not see reason to what i am saying, no matter how i put it.

I get sex urges, yes! But it's not explosive or out of my control. That isn't abnormal. I have controlled it so much that it doesn't seem like I'm suppressing anything.

It's a state of control not many have. I'm not condemning people who react differently or saying i am better.

nwaezeemmanuel:
I don't know how my comment says you can't have sexual urge or that it is a sin.

You are coming from a place where you will not see reason to what i am saying, no matter how i put it.

I get sex urges, yes! But it's not explosive or out of my control. That isn't abnormal. I have controlled it so much that it doesn't seem like I'm suppressing anything.

It's a state of control not many have. I'm not condemning people who react differently or saying i am better.

Props to you on your stance bro. Neither am I castigating your submission. I totally understand your second paragraph.

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quote author=MrTAnonymous post=95646738]Why s*x before marriage is good?


S*x releases stress, boosts immunities, helps you sleep and is heart-healthy. Sex is good whether you're married or not but a lot of people have pushed the narrative that sexx before marriage is bad which I simply disagree.

Here are the reason why I disagree.

1. Sex before marriage is OK because people supposedly can’t control themselves.

Not everyone has the ability to control their sexual urges


We can't really compare those days to what is happening nowadays.

Those day men usually gets married at a younger age compared to now, probably the reason why the narrative of premarital sex worked then. Those days men usually married at the age of 18 while women gets married at the age of 16. At that age, they are still boys and girls  and they barely knows what sex is about and are just developing their sexual adventures.

This days men and women gets married at a latter age, some  even stay unmarried till the age of 40 because of the economy and other social factors.

How will such a person control his/her sexual urges?


2. S*x can help determine Compatibility.

A lot of marriages this days are hitting the rock because the couple never had the time to check on their sexual compability.
Imagine a man that has a high libido and a woman with low libido getting married without having sex prior to their marriage, won't they have issues?

Or a man who has erection dysfunction only for the wife to discover on the wedding night that her husband can't "do the do".
What will the woman do?


3. Sex improves intimacy.

I don't know about you but sex definitely improves intimacy in my relationship.
Sexx with a dating partner brings you closer to each other.

It gives you the chemical, emotional and psychological bonding you both desire.

So guys, if you can't control your sexual urges before marriage pls have enough sexx.

What do you think guys?


Lalasticlala farano Rocktation

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I'm going to be doing a video on this topic on my YouTube channel, sex is not the gate way to a relationship and sex doesn't improve intimacy. There are lot of people out there who doesn't dandy sex.

MrTAnonymous:
Why s*x before marriage is good?


S*x releases stress, boosts immunities, helps you sleep and is heart-healthy. Sex is good whether you're married or not but a lot of people have pushed the narrative that sexx before marriage is bad which I simply disagree.

Here are the reason why I disagree.

1. Sex before marriage is OK because people supposedly can’t control themselves.

Not everyone has the ability to control their sexual urges


We can't really compare those days to what is happening nowadays.

Those day men usually gets married at a younger age compared to now, probably the reason why the narrative of premarital sex worked then. Those days men usually married at the age of 18 while women gets married at the age of 16. At that age, they are still boys and girls  and they barely knows what sex is about and are just developing their sexual adventures.

This days men and women gets married at a latter age, some  even stay unmarried till the age of 40 because of the economy and other social factors.

How will such a person control his/her sexual urges?


2. S*x can help determine Compatibility.

A lot of marriages this days are hitting the rock because the couple never had the time to check on their sexual compability.
Imagine a man that has a high libido and a woman with low libido getting married without having sex prior to their marriage, won't they have issues?

Or a man who has erection dysfunction only for the wife to discover on the wedding night that her husband can't "do the do".
What will the woman do?


3. Sex improves intimacy.

I don't know about you but sex definitely improves intimacy in my relationship.
Sexx with a dating partner brings you closer to each other.

It gives you the chemical, emotional and psychological bonding you both desire.

So guys, if you can't control your sexual urges before marriage pls have enough sexx.

What do you think guys?


Lalasticlala farano Rocktation

Incase you don't know na me talk

If you're a lady please don't just swallow it hook, line and sinker if a man agrees to no sex before marriage.

Some of those men either have micro joysticks, hormonal issues, quick ejaculation, impotence or azoospermia which can lead to permanent infertility.

I know because I have met some cases as a health professional

This is why health checks are advised before marriage.

leonard002:
If you're a lady please don't just swallow it hook, line and sinker if a man agrees to no sex before marriage.

Some of those men either have micro joysticks, hormonal issues, quick ejaculation, impotence or azoospermia which can lead to permanent infertility.

I know because I have met some cases as a health professional

The issue of Sex before marriage is a very controversial topic that's been on for ages. And besides we are humans not robots

It's controversial because people either feel too guilty or too innocent about it.

At the end it's a choice. I would love if everyone could have sex until they are married but I'm not everyone.

But people try so hard to impose things, the ones who haven't had pre-marital sex and those who have.

Liposure:
The issue of Sex before marriage is a controversial topic that never stops croping up. And beside we are humans

Most pre marriage checks are blood group, genotype, and STDs but not hormonal profile, ultrasonography or physical and genital examination.

nwaezeemmanuel:
This is why health checks are advised before marriage.

I'm sure it can still be advised and taken. Right?!

leonard002:
Most pre marriage checks are blood group, genotype, and STDs but not hormonal profile or physical and genital examination.

Of course. But then egotistical men will choose to decline if pushed

nwaezeemmanuel:
I'm sure it can still be advised and taken. Right?!

I get you. I think these things need more awareness.

A man before settling down should know his sperm counts and how fertile he is (if he wants to father children)

Same for women.

It's not nice to assume and end up complaining and passing unnecessary blames. If they choose to marry after knowing their child bearing chances are low. Well, at least there is mutual agreement.

leonard002:
Of course. But then egotistical men will choose to decline if pushed

Sex-Love-marriage/relationship....hypocrites-can-whine-till-eternity-am-outta-here.

A-shallow-way-of-using-the-moist-pomo-to-get-a-mans-commitment-while-masking-your-b!+chy-ass-as-morally-upright...Even-after-the-marriage-he-will-struggle-for-the-10Naira-hole-because-it-has-already-been-weaponized-from-the-word-go....I-only-pity-weak-men-wey-never-get-OT

Most people get into a relationship just because they are now of age and do not have a reason to be in love or fall out of love. Being responsible in a relationship/marriage as a man or being the icing of the relationship on a steady is what a lady should be on the lookout for. You cannot just be all about sex and styles and how lasting you can be on bed or what you can receive on bed alone. There are values that makes the world a better place for both families and friends. Start by asking the right questions and you will do your self a gigantic favor in your relationship. Lets kick it off with these simple questions, shall we.....comment below if you have a question you think should be added and hit me up if you need anything at all, monetry wise or relationship wise


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