tensazangetsu20:
Nigeria is in a terrible state the worst state it has ever been. Youth unemployment of over 80 percent. Low wages. The world's poverty capital. Crippling hunger and insane food inflation. With all this problems here and there, a few of my friends have vowed never to have kids till they escape from the country but I still see young small children here and there who were born 1 to 3 years ago.

Nairalanders who recently had kids how do you feel about your kids? Do you worry about their future or are you optimistic that Nigeria might become a better place in the future for your children. How do you also take care of them with the rising cost of everything from transport to food, rent and all basic necessities?

tensazangetsu20:
Nigeria is in a terrible state the worst state it has ever been. Youth unemployment of over 80 percent. Low wages. The world's poverty capital. Crippling hunger and insane food inflation. With all this problems here and there, a few of my friends have vowed never to have kids till they escape from the country but I still see young small children here and there who were born 1 to 3 years ago.

Nairalanders who recently had kids how do you feel about your kids? Do you worry about their future or are you optimistic that Nigeria might become a better place in the future for your children. How do you also take care of them with the rising cost of everything from transport to food, rent and all basic necessities?

Smile4mee01:
Hmnnn.

This a deep conversation.

Regardless of where you have your kids. I believe alot of work needs to be put into ensuring the kids turn out well and dont stray in life.

I agree and admit that kid of Nigerian decent abroad generally turn out well just because the society rewards hard work. So if a child puts in his shirt, he almost certainly will be fine.

On the other hand, you and I know that not all nigerians youth who desire to travel end up travelling as travelling itself is expensive. Have a few kids, give them good education, ensourgae them in any sport or endeavor they love. Just do your best and leave the rest to God.

So dont feel

Raalsalghul:


The fact that I'm still single is of relief to me: at least when shit hits the fan, no partner or kids to worry about..

Smile4mee01:
Hmnnn.

This a deep conversation.

Regardless of where you have your kids. I believe alot of work needs to be put into ensuring the kids turn out well and dont stray in life.

I agree and admit that kid of Nigerian decent abroad generally turn out well just because the society rewards hard work. So if a child puts in his shirt, he almost certainly will be fine.

On the other hand, you and I know that not all nigerians youth who desire to travel end up travelling as travelling itself is expensive. Have a few kids, give them good education, ensourgae them in any sport or endeavor they love. Just do your best and leave the rest to God.

So dont feel

tensazangetsu20:

Men bros i don't know how married people are doing it o. If a single person is struggling how about people with kids and a wife.

Klass99:
Omo, I think we should all be worried/afraid for ourselves as individuals and not just for our kids (born or unborn ones)

I feared for myself in the light of brutal stories, which victims of SARS narrated. There was one story in particular that made me realize this shit can happen to anyone, none of us is really immune to it, hell I am not immune!

The story I talk about was shared on Twitter by Pastor Adegboye's wife (the twitter handle had her name on it, I can't say for sure if she was the one behind the account) A young lady went out around 7pm to get food items from her mum's shop, which wasn't far from their home. On getting to the shop area, SARS bundled her into their van where other people were being held captive. To cut a long story short, she ended up being tortured into a confession of a crime she knew nothing about and spent 3 years of her life in prison (I think @ Kirikiri) before the legal team @ Redeem Church were able to free her.

I am in the habit of strolling out of my estate around 7 or 8pm, to get groceries or toiletries at a nearby supermarket. There's a popular petrol station where the supermarket is as well, so there's often activity there. When I watched that lady's account of her ordeal, I couldn't help thinking to myself, what happened to her, could have easily happened to me too. Because, SARS may be parked at one corner of that petrol station bundling people away for no reason and I may end up a victim, because I went out to shop.

I have always wanted to live in Nigeria, while I continue to travel the world and visit other countries. But, lately I have been seriously contemplating relocating. I once saw a comment on NL where someone said relocate for the sake of your unborn children and I was like, why do we make everything about children. We should be thinking of relocating for ourselves first and foremost of all, before any unborn children. You are in the land of the living, unborn children have nothing to worry about or fear yet.

Klass99:


You see what I am talking about? And if you don't know people that have a bit of clout who can help you or you are not well connected, you are in serious trouble. My heart was broken by the brutality people shared regarding SARS and the stories keep getting worse, each time I hear a new one.

People who have been to Nigerian prison and out, are never the same again. The living conditions there are enough to drive you crazy as I have heard.

A neighbour once told me, to avoid having anything to do with the police like a plague. This was long before SARS even existed, I have never forgotten his words, so I try to live a quiet/peaceful life, avoiding conflict with people, the type that will cause them to call police for you.

But, in Nigeria it doesn't matter if you are a responsible citizen minding your own business, these SARS people and regular police will still look for your trouble, judging by all the victims we've seen.

Uyi168:
In my own little way, I've vowed, even using my papa's grave, not to birth my kide here..

I'll do anything humanly possible to get out of this place.
Naija is gone!

Freelane33:
Sensitive thread

Raalsalghul:


Bros, I'm even surprised you're still here with all the resources at your disposal.

Uyi168:
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I'm still schooling. I've put some much into school, I need to get that degree, e get y

Raalsalghul:


Alright bro, I understand you: it's all part of the process.

ecomalchemist:
Wahala for who no get money to relocate commot naija ooo..

Just get ready to pay school fees for your kids till they are in thier 20's..feeding, transportation, housing...make you come dey live for Lagos again..

Nothing seems to work in this country, wise up and use your head if you don't want to remain in perpetual poverty.

Raalsalghul:


Don't expect your post to gain traction, a lot of Nigerians are still in denial and will keep popping out kids in false hopes that the country will get better.

Fact check: it won't!

CanadianNaija:


Omo! You’re negative sha. I think Nigeria will definitely get better.

CanadianNaija:


Omo! You’re negative sha. I think Nigeria will definitely get better.

Raalsalghul:


Nigeria will get better?

You could have stayed back! Can't believe this is coming from someone that spent all that time in the Canadian Skilled Workers Thread?

Who knows, you might probably be out of the country while typing this.

Joker!

https://www.nairaland.com/canadiannaija/posts/11

tensazangetsu20:

Them and dasparrow. They are in the west enjoying everything the white man built and telling people to remain in the shithole of poverty and hopelessness.

Raalsalghul:


You can imagine!

See the moniker self: CanadianNaija.

CanadianNaija:


Omo! You’re negative sha. I think Nigeria will definitely get better.

Klass99:


The topic/thread reminds me of what my father said to me 2 or 3 years ago.

He asked me if I had a man or serious relationship in my life at the time. I said not really because the guy I was dating then was speaking what kind of spanish I didn't like or understand. Dude was talking about having 4 kids.

When my dad heard this he laughed and said two kids are more than enough in this age and time, things are not going to get better in our country or the world at large. Children are also going to be more stubborn and difficult to manage, than ever before. Coming from a man who had seven kids of his own, I didn't doubt him at all. Now look at what's happening in our country not just with SARS protests, but the economy and polity as a whole.

That same guy who was mouthing off about having four kids, kept going on and on, about the cost of baby food, diapers etc when I last saw him. He wouldn't shut up about how much he spends and the high cost of things. I just said this is your first child and you are complaining like this, what will you do when the other 3 come? Or have you forgotten you are on a mission to have 4 children?