DimplesLikeWow:
Living together before marriage is unnecessary. You can easily know your potential spouse by taking the time to court, study (their personality, habits, beliefs), and ask them the right questions. In the words of Nietzsche, “When marrying, ask yourself this question: Do you believe that you will be able to converse well with this person into your old age? Everything else in marriage is transitory". If you answer in the affirmative, there's no need to cohabitate. If not, then you need to go back to the drawing board.

Fussion1000:
How will you feel, if the woman you married as wife, had stayed together with 5 different men before you eventually married her.

(If you married such a lady, you are her 6th husband)

Nobody can knw ALL characters his/her partner is portrayed and can display in future.


Boyfriend that don't use to drink may become drunkard after 10 yrs of marriage.

Ur girlfriend who wasn't a nagging girl, may become nagging after into marriage, perhaps because of lack of job or otherwise.


The only antidote for break up in marriage is that

*The two should continuing struggle to bring income to the family.

*They should learn how to quickly reach compromise on issues bothering their differences.

DimplesLikeWow:
Living together before marriage is unnecessary. You can easily know your potential spouse by taking the time to court, study (their personality, habits, beliefs), and ask them the right questions. In the words of Nietzsche, “When marrying, ask yourself this question: Do you believe that you will be able to converse well with this person into your old age? Everything else in marriage is transitory". If you answer in the affirmative, there's no need to cohabitate. If not, then you need to go back to the drawing board.

Godoverevery:
check the thread well....my point is intending couples not bf and gf.
once the marriage is set I feel is necessary you live together "6month or 1yr" before you marry each other....is like warm excecise before a football match despite all the training you must excecise few minutes before the main match...you just don't jump on the pitch

Fussion1000:



I knw what am saying, if you my own very well I said if you married such woman its ur 6th wife.


You are with a woman for a whole 1 yr (366 days) test run her, is she not ur wife already, oga you are a wicked, in fact spiritually u re husband n wife


Before you say some you considered it, if it were your daughters, sister ,ur own wife...
Don't be selfish because you are a man.

SILENTandSMART2:
To me staying together isn't necessary at all...

She should stay in her papa house more before landing to chop my money,.

Though she will be coming once in a while to wash my bosers and underwares,

That's normal for her because she's my wife,

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dorin27:
Congratulations in advance is all I'll say to you. As for other things you wrote, I'll pretend I did not see them.

Sixfeetbelle:


I think it's about time you removed "smart" from your moniker. It's highly misleading.

Godoverevery:
check the thread well....my point is intending couples not bf and gf.
once the marriage is set I feel is necessary you live together "6month or 1yr" before you marry each other....is like warm excecise before a football match despite all the training you must excecise few minutes before the main match...you just don't jump on the pitch

Sixfeetbelle:


As if engagements don't break up before the wedding date itself. He still has a point. Intending couples living together before marriage can suddenly discover they aren't compatible and call off the wedding a month to the D-day.

It's not advisable to cohabit with your intended. You may while dating but not after proposal cause by then, both of you should already be in sync.

Godoverevery:

so you prefer they cohabit during the bf and gf rather when things are serious....first all before you engage a lady you 80% sure u want to marry so breaking up an engagement must be for a tangible reasons.
Only a lady with bad characters/have secrets will be scared of this....the reason am supporting this is for a man to know what he is getting into.

dorin27:
All women/ ladies are not like your babe. You get?

Shortcut2life:

Na truth he talk nAh

Sixfeetbelle:


I don't know how you see engagements but for me, it's like a mini wedding. By this time, half of your relatives already know you're marrying this person and is already praying for the success of the marriage. If a guy engages me, my parents are meeting him straight away. At this point, he's already my husband and we're just waiting for the official ceremony. So it doesn't make sense for me to agree to marry a man I don't know that well. And for me to know him that well, I must have lived with him at least for a while to decide he's the one.

Asides, I believe that a man who has engaged a lady already chose her to be his wife after weighing his pros and cons. He's not "still looking" for a wife. He has already found her. So cohabiting with her to discover whatever else is just the actions of a selfish man in full display.

Dating/courtship is there for you to discover who you want to be with and then make a decision you'll stand by. Once you propose, you've stamped on it. Any other thing after that is unnecessary and will lead to more problems than solution for the couple.

Ezi1993:
It's not mandatory that intending couple should live together... because they aren't married yet..because if they do,, they'll be committing fornication.

danyero:
Since men are only valued for their ability to provide, I wonder what guys find so appealing about this whole marriage business.

thunderfirebubu:
Can you beat your chest and tell me you are different?

Gerrard59:


Thank you o! With what I read daily, I ask myself: is it worth getting married? The last thing I want is to intentionally stress myself.

dorin27:
beating my chest and telling you I am different is not necessary. You don't know me offline. So there's nothing I'll tell you that you'll believe.

Godoverevery:

Everybody is different....no one will come out to admit he/she a bad characters.
That word "am different" is a cliche...

dorin27:
True. But I don't remember telling you I don't have my own flaws too.

brain54:

lol..this girl. you always have the right answers...

dorin27:

dorin27:
True. But I don't remember telling you I don't have my own flaws too.

Godoverevery:
Well my point is directed towards intending couples.

Godoverevery:
I no what am saying.....all you wrote up there things don't work that way...even parent encourage cohabiting this days....I just feel it prepares you into knowing what marriage is about before the really thing.