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Re: When Did You Decide That The Relationship Was Over? by Goalnaldo(m): 1:34am On Nov 11, 2020
Maryjane001:

Wahala be like tricycle for people like me. grin
Make I just dey read comments jare grin
Next pls..... cool
Omo you resemble Diane of Big brother naija shocked
Re: When Did You Decide That The Relationship Was Over? by Goalnaldo(m): 1:41am On Nov 11, 2020
Momoreoluwa90 you didn't say anything concerning what I said. I won't cheat on you. If I ever do, may things not work well for me.

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Re: When Did You Decide That The Relationship Was Over? by Nobody: 1:51am On Nov 11, 2020
Goalnaldo:
Momoreoluwa90 you didn't say anything concerning what I said. I won't cheat on you. If I ever do, may things not work well for me.

I'm not searching but thanks for asking/trying!

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Re: When Did You Decide That The Relationship Was Over? by Rockyfancino(m): 1:54am On Nov 11, 2020
Bluezy13:


How did it just happen ??
This girl is like a NEPA switch. She's selfish and doesn't reason with ration. Can you imagine, you will be talking to someone and she will be happy, the next minute you call her, she's her mood has become low and it now looks as if you're forcing her.

I would call her for at least 30 mins trying to cheer her up and I will be met with disdain. If small thing should happen, her mood will just change, no joke can take it out.... The next day, she's still like that.

Sometimes, she'll reply me like I'm her worst enemy. To make it worse, she'll say she has nothing to say after I might have talked and talked.

It sounds like nothing, but this has been going on for a very long time, as if someone is forcing her in the relationship. To make it worse, she'll sometimes act like she's madly in love.

I keep telling her mood is like weather and she should please try and just reduce it. I later stopped calling her like before because, I don't know they what mood I'll meet if I called.

So many times, I'll talk to her for like one hour about the things she's doing that's bad. I keep telling her the same thing for a very long time now, thinking communication is key.

Something happened yesternight, she ended the call. I called her back trying to tease her back into the mood. For like 30 seconds, I was doing hello, hello, I almost thought it was the network when I was about hanging up she said she can hear me.... Okay, fine. She later then told me there's nothing to say again... Damn, she keeps saying this many times and it has started to make my head spark.

I was angry all through yesterday for personal reasons, but people can never know because I don't show it and I talk normally. Despite my state yesterday, I kept my cool after she said there's nothing to say and just told her good night but I was angry deep down.

I called her this morning (yesterday morning, it's 1:16AM currently), she didn't pick. But I didn't call a second time, because my head was just ringing 'I have nothing to say.' I don't want to be a fool again to call her and I'll be taking to empty space. So I lefty phone in my room and stayed in the sitting room all day and she already left 2 missed later.

I came back this night, called her severally and it was just doing busy. I messaged her online (luckily she was online) about the matter and immediately I tried again and it went through. Thinking now, it may be that she blocked me.

Anyways in short, she was mute at first again when she picked. Later the matter escalated and she was saying that I didn't call back. I was trying to explain why I didn't call but she was not listening... I later waited till she calmed down.

I was telling her I didn't call because I didn't want embarrassment whereby I'll be talking to her and she'll just be mute as if I'm talking to the wind. I told her I knew not calling her was wrong but she didn't listen, I told her this about 4 times.

As she was later calm, I saw it as an opportunity to explain to her that what is good for the goose is good for the gander. I was telling her that I don't do 1/3 of what she does and I don't often turn things against her. In the beginning of the relationship, she used to be unhappy and complain a lot when the chance comes of how I don't listen or pay attention to her I'm summary.

Now, she's got attention and she acts so bad sometimes that I wonder if any man will actually stand that. She's done so many terrible things that I cannot even mention it here but I am a forgiving type.

So, this night will I was later telling her everything about herself again that is not good for us, I talked for over 1 hour and I actually thought maybe for the first time I was really getting to her. I was even happy that maybe she'll realize that she herself cannot stand what she does to me if it's done back to her in return. I also told her that I should have called her earlier in the day.

You won't believe this girl made me realize I was wasting my saliva and she just kept quiet on purpose, and that the only thing I was doing was turning the matter on her head, and that she was going to sleep. I couldn't believe my life at first, it really pained me deeply. She was even even telling me how I can keep on blabbing if I want. I told her to get out of my phone and I hung up. I didn't even know I could become so angry and hang up a phone on someone, it just happened spontaneously. Immediately, she blocked me on WhatsApp... She had even been saying it during the course of her ranting that she'll block me.

She used to say, she's stubborn and stuff. The funny thing is she'd say that's the way she is and I should accept her that way.

Like, she can't take what she's doing to me if it's served back to her. And how she doesn't even feel guilty of what she does is what baffles me.

Very selfish human being. Another annoying thing is her Motigbo and Ok when she's chatting. This girl will say anything she likes (not that she uses insultive words tho) and I'll just keep my cool and let it slide, I will even call her the next day.

Damn... I didn't know I can be this patient in my life. Although, I guess the reason I stayed this long in it is because she's a really good person who I believe if she can just eliminate that aspect of her, she'd be very okay.

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Re: When Did You Decide That The Relationship Was Over? by BlackRexDeus: 1:59am On Nov 11, 2020
Olarewaju89:
The day I received my spiritual calling grin

I have to end everything immediately because she's not spiritual grin


Best quote.

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Re: When Did You Decide That The Relationship Was Over? by Goalnaldo(m): 2:02am On Nov 11, 2020
Momoreoluwa90:


I'm not searching but thanks for asking/trying!
Okay dear. Goodnight from here in Nigeria. smiley
Re: When Did You Decide That The Relationship Was Over? by Queenserah26(f): 2:08am On Nov 11, 2020
Na man you be, well said!

omooba969:


Making money is good but don't you ever think your money will guarantee a woman's loyalty.

If she loves you, count yourself lucky.

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Re: When Did You Decide That The Relationship Was Over? by Queenserah26(f): 2:37am On Nov 11, 2020
Woooow, so sorry you had to go through this!

Rockyfancino:

This girl is like a NEPA switch. She's selfish and doesn't reason with ration. Can you imagine, you will be talking to someone and she will be happy, the next minute you call her, she's her mood has become low and it now looks as if you're forcing her.

I would call her for at least 30 mins trying to cheer her up and I will be met with disdain. If small thing should happen, her mood will just change, no joke can take it out.... The next day, she's still like that.

Sometimes, she'll reply me like I'm her worst enemy. To make it worse, she'll say she has nothing to say after I might have talked and talked.

It sounds like nothing, but this has been going on for a very long time, as if someone is forcing her in the relationship. To make it worse, she'll sometimes act like she's madly in love.

I keep telling her mood is like weather and she should please try and just reduce it. I later stopped calling her like before because, I don't know they what mood I'll meet if I called.

So many times, I'll talk to her for like one hour about the things she's doing that's bad. I keep telling her the same thing for a very long time now, thinking communication is key.

Something happened yesternight, she ended the call. I called her back trying to tease her back into the mood. For like 30 seconds, I was doing hello, hello, I almost thought it was the network when I was about hanging up she said she can hear me.... Okay, fine. She later then told me there's nothing to say again... Damn, she keeps saying this many times and it has started to make my head spark.

I was angry all through yesterday for personal reasons, but people can never know because I don't show it and I talk normally. Despite my state yesterday, I kept my cool after she said there's nothing to say and just told her good night but I was angry deep down.

I called her this morning (yesterday morning, it's 1:16AM currently), she didn't pick. But I didn't call a second time, because my head was just ringing 'I have nothing to say.' I don't want to be a fool again to call her and I'll be taking to empty space. So I lefty phone in my room and stayed in the sitting room all day and she already left 2 missed later.

I came back this night, called her severally and it was just doing busy. I messaged her online (luckily she was online) about the matter and immediately I tried again and it went through. Thinking now, it may be that she blocked me.

Anyways in short, she was mute at first again when she picked. Later the matter escalated and she was saying that I didn't call back. I was trying to explain why I didn't call but she was not listening... I later waited till she calmed down.

I was telling her I didn't call because I didn't want embarrassment whereby I'll be talking to her and she'll just be mute as if I'm talking to the wind. I told her I knew not calling her was wrong but she didn't listen, I told her this about 4 times.

As she was later calm, I saw it as an opportunity to explain to her that what is good for the goose is good for the gander. I was telling her that I don't do 1/3 of what she does and I don't often turn things against her. In the beginning of the relationship, she used to be unhappy and complain a lot when the chance comes of how I don't listen or pay attention to her I'm summary.

Now, she's got attention and she acts so bad sometimes that I wonder if any man will actually stand that. She's done so many terrible things that I cannot even mention it here but I am a forgiving type.

So, this night will I was later telling her everything about herself again that is not good for us, I talked for over 1 hour and I actually thought maybe for the first time I was really getting to her. I was even happy that maybe she'll realize that she herself cannot stand what she does to me if it's done back to her in return. I also told her that I should have called her earlier in the day.

You won't believe this girl made me realize I was wasting my saliva and she just kept quiet on purpose, and that the only thing I was doing was turning the matter on her head, and that she was going to sleep. I couldn't believe my life at first, it really pained me deeply. She was even even telling me how I can keep on blabbing if I want. I told her to get out of my phone and I hung up. I didn't even know I could become so angry and hang up a phone on someone, it just happened spontaneously. Immediately, she blocked me on WhatsApp... She had even been saying it during the course of her ranting that she'll block me.

She used to say, she's stubborn and stuff. The funny thing is she'd say that's the way she is and I should accept her that way.

Like, she can't take what she's doing to me if it's served back to her. And how she doesn't even feel guilty of what she does is what baffles me.

Very selfish human being. Another annoying thing is her Motigbo and Ok when she's chatting. This girl will say anything she likes (not that she uses insultive words tho) and I'll just keep my cool and let it slide, I will even call her the next day.

Damn... I didn't know I can be this patient in my life. Although, I guess the reason I stayed this long in it is because she's a really good person who I believe if she can just eliminate that aspect of her, she'd be very okay.


Re: When Did You Decide That The Relationship Was Over? by Karac: 2:48am On Nov 11, 2020
Momoreoluwa90:
1. The day I found out he had multiple social media accounts, email addresses and names.
2. The day I found out he was dating his so-called school daughter but lied to me the whole time.
3. The day I heard him deny me on the phone to his family members.
4. The day I realized I could not cope with the fact that he would squander his money without any savings and wants to spend mine with me even when he earned much higher.
5. The day I realized I could not cope with cleaning after a grown ass man as a neat freak.
6. The day I realized I valued him more than he did me. Spoke his love languages but he never spoke mine.
7. The day I realized I was only his ticket out of Nigeria and as soon as he arrived abroad, he started to manifest his true colors.
8. The day he became 'sneaky' and started acting suspicious.

Wonder why it took me so long to end things but I finally gained the courage to. And I've been at peace ever since and waiting on God's best wink


Na God's best dey follow you talk so oo... lol
Re: When Did You Decide That The Relationship Was Over? by Equal2DeTask(m): 2:52am On Nov 11, 2020
chyzoo4u:


She actually called it off before you mahn grin grin

him no know grin
Re: When Did You Decide That The Relationship Was Over? by kalu61(m): 3:11am On Nov 11, 2020
omooba969:


Trust me bro, there are many lovely and decent ladies on NL. smiley

Just open your eyes!
how do men like you meet them. I de fear marriage wahala like hell
Re: When Did You Decide That The Relationship Was Over? by nomenclature(m): 3:29am On Nov 11, 2020
Dream chick
omooba969:


Gays usually spend their last penny on folks like you. grin

You're like a dream chick. wink

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Re: When Did You Decide That The Relationship Was Over? by kalu61(m): 3:32am On Nov 11, 2020
Rockyfancino:

This girl is like a NEPA switch. She's selfish and doesn't reason with ration. Can you imagine, you will be talking to someone and she will be happy, the next minute you call her, she's her mood has become low and it now looks as if you're forcing her.

I would call her for at least 30 mins trying to cheer her up and I will be met with disdain. If small thing should happen, her mood will just change, no joke can take it out.... The next day, she's still like that.

Sometimes, she'll reply me like I'm her worst enemy. To make it worse, she'll say she has nothing to say after I might have talked and talked.

It sounds like nothing, but this has been going on for a very long time, as if someone is forcing her in the relationship. To make it worse, she'll sometimes act like she's madly in love.

I keep telling her mood is like weather and she should please try and just reduce it. I later stopped calling her like before because, I don't know they what mood I'll meet if I called.

So many times, I'll talk to her for like one hour about the things she's doing that's bad. I keep telling her the same thing for a very long time now, thinking communication is key.

Something happened yesternight, she ended the call. I called her back trying to tease her back into the mood. For like 30 seconds, I was doing hello, hello, I almost thought it was the network when I was about hanging up she said she can hear me.... Okay, fine. She later then told me there's nothing to say again... Damn, she keeps saying this many times and it has started to make my head spark.

I was angry all through yesterday for personal reasons, but people can never know because I don't show it and I talk normally. Despite my state yesterday, I kept my cool after she said there's nothing to say and just told her good night but I was angry deep down.

I called her this morning (yesterday morning, it's 1:16AM currently), she didn't pick. But I didn't call a second time, because my head was just ringing 'I have nothing to say.' I don't want to be a fool again to call her and I'll be taking to empty space. So I lefty phone in my room and stayed in the sitting room all day and she already left 2 missed later.

I came back this night, called her severally and it was just doing busy. I messaged her online (luckily she was online) about the matter and immediately I tried again and it went through. Thinking now, it may be that she blocked me.

Anyways in short, she was mute at first again when she picked. Later the matter escalated and she was saying that I didn't call back. I was trying to explain why I didn't call but she was not listening... I later waited till she calmed down.

I was telling her I didn't call because I didn't want embarrassment whereby I'll be talking to her and she'll just be mute as if I'm talking to the wind. I told her I knew not calling her was wrong but she didn't listen, I told her this about 4 times.

As she was later calm, I saw it as an opportunity to explain to her that what is good for the goose is good for the gander. I was telling her that I don't do 1/3 of what she does and I don't often turn things against her. In the beginning of the relationship, she used to be unhappy and complain a lot when the chance comes of how I don't listen or pay attention to her I'm summary.

Now, she's got attention and she acts so bad sometimes that I wonder if any man will actually stand that. She's done so many terrible things that I cannot even mention it here but I am a forgiving type.

So, this night will I was later telling her everything about herself again that is not good for us, I talked for over 1 hour and I actually thought maybe for the first time I was really getting to her. I was even happy that maybe she'll realize that she herself cannot stand what she does to me if it's done back to her in return. I also told her that I should have called her earlier in the day.

You won't believe this girl made me realize I was wasting my saliva and she just kept quiet on purpose, and that the only thing I was doing was turning the matter on her head, and that she was going to sleep. I couldn't believe my life at first, it really pained me deeply. She was even even telling me how I can keep on blabbing if I want. I told her to get out of my phone and I hung up. I didn't even know I could become so angry and hang up a phone on someone, it just happened spontaneously. Immediately, she blocked me on WhatsApp... She had even been saying it during the course of her ranting that she'll block me.

She used to say, she's stubborn and stuff. The funny thing is she'd say that's the way she is and I should accept her that way.

Like, she can't take what she's doing to me if it's served back to her. And how she doesn't even feel guilty of what she does is what baffles me.

Very selfish human being. Another annoying thing is her Motigbo and Ok when she's chatting. This girl will say anything she likes (not that she uses insultive words tho) and I'll just keep my cool and let it slide, I will even call her the next day.

Damn... I didn't know I can be this patient in my life. Although, I guess the reason I stayed this long in it is because she's a really good person who I believe if she can just eliminate that aspect of her, she'd be very okay.


l know you belong to our league. Mr gentleman and too nice guys. Leave that girl for good. It may be hard for you. Just like myself. I have been in only one relationship my entire life.

We separated because she was leaving for another city and don't fancy long distance relationship.


Same yourself insanity. Anybody who is not open to taking correction and improve herself is I worth investing in. When a woman loves you, her behaviour isn't quite toxic.


Leave her for a while at least

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Re: When Did You Decide That The Relationship Was Over? by gowonmaharajah(m): 3:36am On Nov 11, 2020
Goalnaldo:
Momoreoluwa90 you didn't say anything concerning what I said. I won't cheat on you. If I ever do, may things not work well for me.
Mr goalnaldo
why una dey curse yourself just bcz you wan woo a lady?not worth it
na human being she be na.no be mammy water

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Re: When Did You Decide That The Relationship Was Over? by PHOTSEE(m): 4:09am On Nov 11, 2020
purples25:
Wahala.....

Girls are looking for the guys that will button up their shirts and respect them.....Love and pamper them....

The guys they are looking for are also looking for girls to play female romeo and super porn star all in one for them....also want a girl that will be obsessed, love and pamper them. .

Both jam each other, none like the other. Everyone separates.
please i didn't understand what you meant by the bolded
Re: When Did You Decide That The Relationship Was Over? by fatymore(f): 4:23am On Nov 11, 2020
omooba969:


So you expect him to fight his family ehn...WOMEN!


You won't understand...so abeg...that was years ago now
Re: When Did You Decide That The Relationship Was Over? by Tobiloba2407: 4:37am On Nov 11, 2020
Rockyfancino:

This girl is like a NEPA switch. She's selfish and doesn't reason with ration. Can you imagine, you will be talking to someone and she will be happy, the next minute you call her, she's her mood has become low and it now looks as if you're forcing her.

I would call her for at least 30 mins trying to cheer her up and I will be met with disdain. If small thing should happen, her mood will just change, no joke can take it out.... The next day, she's still like that.

Sometimes, she'll reply me like I'm her worst enemy. To make it worse, she'll say she has nothing to say after I might have talked and talked.

It sounds like nothing, but this has been going on for a very long time, as if someone is forcing her in the relationship. To make it worse, she'll sometimes act like she's madly in love.

I keep telling her mood is like weather and she should please try and just reduce it. I later stopped calling her like before because, I don't know they what mood I'll meet if I called.

So many times, I'll talk to her for like one hour about the things she's doing that's bad. I keep telling her the same thing for a very long time now, thinking communication is key.

Something happened yesternight, she ended the call. I called her back trying to tease her back into the mood. For like 30 seconds, I was doing hello, hello, I almost thought it was the network when I was about hanging up she said she can hear me.... Okay, fine. She later then told me there's nothing to say again... Damn, she keeps saying this many times and it has started to make my head spark.

I was angry all through yesterday for personal reasons, but people can never know because I don't show it and I talk normally. Despite my state yesterday, I kept my cool after she said there's nothing to say and just told her good night but I was angry deep down.

I called her this morning (yesterday morning, it's 1:16AM currently), she didn't pick. But I didn't call a second time, because my head was just ringing 'I have nothing to say.' I don't want to be a fool again to call her and I'll be taking to empty space. So I lefty phone in my room and stayed in the sitting room all day and she already left 2 missed later.

I came back this night, called her severally and it was just doing busy. I messaged her online (luckily she was online) about the matter and immediately I tried again and it went through. Thinking now, it may be that she blocked me.

Anyways in short, she was mute at first again when she picked. Later the matter escalated and she was saying that I didn't call back. I was trying to explain why I didn't call but she was not listening... I later waited till she calmed down.

I was telling her I didn't call because I didn't want embarrassment whereby I'll be talking to her and she'll just be mute as if I'm talking to the wind. I told her I knew not calling her was wrong but she didn't listen, I told her this about 4 times.

As she was later calm, I saw it as an opportunity to explain to her that what is good for the goose is good for the gander. I was telling her that I don't do 1/3 of what she does and I don't often turn things against her. In the beginning of the relationship, she used to be unhappy and complain a lot when the chance comes of how I don't listen or pay attention to her I'm summary.

Now, she's got attention and she acts so bad sometimes that I wonder if any man will actually stand that. She's done so many terrible things that I cannot even mention it here but I am a forgiving type.

So, this night will I was later telling her everything about herself again that is not good for us, I talked for over 1 hour and I actually thought maybe for the first time I was really getting to her. I was even happy that maybe she'll realize that she herself cannot stand what she does to me if it's done back to her in return. I also told her that I should have called her earlier in the day.

You won't believe this girl made me realize I was wasting my saliva and she just kept quiet on purpose, and that the only thing I was doing was turning the matter on her head, and that she was going to sleep. I couldn't believe my life at first, it really pained me deeply. She was even even telling me how I can keep on blabbing if I want. I told her to get out of my phone and I hung up. I didn't even know I could become so angry and hang up a phone on someone, it just happened spontaneously. Immediately, she blocked me on WhatsApp... She had even been saying it during the course of her ranting that she'll block me.

She used to say, she's stubborn and stuff. The funny thing is she'd say that's the way she is and I should accept her that way.

Like, she can't take what she's doing to me if it's served back to her. And how she doesn't even feel guilty of what she does is what baffles me.

Very selfish human being. Another annoying thing is her Motigbo and Ok when she's chatting. This girl will say anything she likes (not that she uses insultive words tho) and I'll just keep my cool and let it slide, I will even call her the next day.

Damn... I didn't know I can be this patient in my life. Although, I guess the reason I stayed this long in it is because she's a really good person who I believe if she can just eliminate that aspect of her, she'd be very okay.



Nah ibadan girl?
Re: When Did You Decide That The Relationship Was Over? by Nobody: 4:47am On Nov 11, 2020
slawormiir:
Damnnn niggarrrr
Isoright...we real niggarr ain't got no story concerning this topic because we real niggarrs don't do relationships.
We just see women as swimming pool..our own na to swim shaperly and move on

We don't give a fuckkkkk if the swimming pool have never been used
We don't give a fuckkk who have been swimming before we started swimming
We don't give a fuckkkkk who will swim after we are done swimming our own
And we don't give a fuckkkkk who is even swimming with us as we are swimming
We just swim our own sharpely and move on.
Real niggarrrz bang pussy and move on.

I sight you my N1gga, sharp guy and a guy man to the core, na small small BOYS dey keep girls like properties this days, real N1gga like us go just BANG sharperly and drop the babe and move on

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Re: When Did You Decide That The Relationship Was Over? by Awaoyelmoni(m): 4:48am On Nov 11, 2020
Rockyfancino:

This girl is like a NEPA switch. She's selfish and doesn't reason with ration. Can you imagine, you will be talking to someone and she will be happy, the next minute you call her, she's her mood has become low and it now looks as if you're forcing her.

I would call her for at least 30 mins trying to cheer her up and I will be met with disdain. If small thing should happen, her mood will just change, no joke can take it out.... The next day, she's still like that.

Sometimes, she'll reply me like I'm her worst enemy. To make it worse, she'll say she has nothing to say after I might have talked and talked.

It sounds like nothing, but this has been going on for a very long time, as if someone is forcing her in the relationship. To make it worse, she'll sometimes act like she's madly in love.

I keep telling her mood is like weather and she should please try and just reduce it. I later stopped calling her like before because, I don't know they what mood I'll meet if I called.

So many times, I'll talk to her for like one hour about the things she's doing that's bad. I keep telling her the same thing for a very long time now, thinking communication is key.

Something happened yesternight, she ended the call. I called her back trying to tease her back into the mood. For like 30 seconds, I was doing hello, hello, I almost thought it was the network when I was about hanging up she said she can hear me.... Okay, fine. She later then told me there's nothing to say again... Damn, she keeps saying this many times and it has started to make my head spark.

I was angry all through yesterday for personal reasons, but people can never know because I don't show it and I talk normally. Despite my state yesterday, I kept my cool after she said there's nothing to say and just told her good night but I was angry deep down.

I called her this morning (yesterday morning, it's 1:16AM currently), she didn't pick. But I didn't call a second time, because my head was just ringing 'I have nothing to say.' I don't want to be a fool again to call her and I'll be taking to empty space. So I lefty phone in my room and stayed in the sitting room all day and she already left 2 missed later.

I came back this night, called her severally and it was just doing busy. I messaged her online (luckily she was online) about the matter and immediately I tried again and it went through. Thinking now, it may be that she blocked me.

Anyways in short, she was mute at first again when she picked. Later the matter escalated and she was saying that I didn't call back. I was trying to explain why I didn't call but she was not listening... I later waited till she calmed down.

I was telling her I didn't call because I didn't want embarrassment whereby I'll be talking to her and she'll just be mute as if I'm talking to the wind. I told her I knew not calling her was wrong but she didn't listen, I told her this about 4 times.

As she was later calm, I saw it as an opportunity to explain to her that what is good for the goose is good for the gander. I was telling her that I don't do 1/3 of what she does and I don't often turn things against her. In the beginning of the relationship, she used to be unhappy and complain a lot when the chance comes of how I don't listen or pay attention to her I'm summary.

Now, she's got attention and she acts so bad sometimes that I wonder if any man will actually stand that. She's done so many terrible things that I cannot even mention it here but I am a forgiving type.

So, this night will I was later telling her everything about herself again that is not good for us, I talked for over 1 hour and I actually thought maybe for the first time I was really getting to her. I was even happy that maybe she'll realize that she herself cannot stand what she does to me if it's done back to her in return. I also told her that I should have called her earlier in the day.

You won't believe this girl made me realize I was wasting my saliva and she just kept quiet on purpose, and that the only thing I was doing was turning the matter on her head, and that she was going to sleep. I couldn't believe my life at first, it really pained me deeply. She was even even telling me how I can keep on blabbing if I want. I told her to get out of my phone and I hung up. I didn't even know I could become so angry and hang up a phone on someone, it just happened spontaneously. Immediately, she blocked me on WhatsApp... She had even been saying it during the course of her ranting that she'll block me.

She used to say, she's stubborn and stuff. The funny thing is she'd say that's the way she is and I should accept her that way.

Like, she can't take what she's doing to me if it's served back to her. And how she doesn't even feel guilty of what she does is what baffles me.

Very selfish human being. Another annoying thing is her Motigbo and Ok when she's chatting. This girl will say anything she likes (not that she uses insultive words tho) and I'll just keep my cool and let it slide, I will even call her the next day.

Damn... I didn't know I can be this patient in my life. Although, I guess the reason I stayed this long in it is because she's a really good person who I believe if she can just eliminate that aspect of her, she'd be very okay.



I can picture you sitting at home all day and all you do is fill your mind with thoughts of how things are not working and why she did what she did the last time, next thing you try to call again still you hit a brick wall and the cycle continues the next day day and the day after. Dude go and get a job if it's not forthcoming and it might not, giving the society we are in, step out there and hustle, look for menial jobs and engage yourself in because staying at home all day long is why you have plenty of time thinking of nothing else save this girl.

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Re: When Did You Decide That The Relationship Was Over? by austino2018: 5:11am On Nov 11, 2020
My broda, my experience is very similar to yours. My girl was very lovely but can be toxic most often. Also she is very unstable. I just had to let her go for my own mental health.
Rockyfancino:

This girl is like a NEPA switch. She's selfish and doesn't reason with ration. Can you imagine, you will be talking to someone and she will be happy, the next minute you call her, she's her mood has become low and it now looks as if you're forcing her.

I would call her for at least 30 mins trying to cheer her up and I will be met with disdain. If small thing should happen, her mood will just change, no joke can take it out.... The next day, she's still like that.

Sometimes, she'll reply me like I'm her worst enemy. To make it worse, she'll say she has nothing to say after I might have talked and talked.

It sounds like nothing, but this has been going on for a very long time, as if someone is forcing her in the relationship. To make it worse, she'll sometimes act like she's madly in love.

I keep telling her mood is like weather and she should please try and just reduce it. I later stopped calling her like before because, I don't know they what mood I'll meet if I called.

So many times, I'll talk to her for like one hour about the things she's doing that's bad. I keep telling her the same thing for a very long time now, thinking communication is key.

Something happened yesternight, she ended the call. I called her back trying to tease her back into the mood. For like 30 seconds, I was doing hello, hello, I almost thought it was the network when I was about hanging up she said she can hear me.... Okay, fine. She later then told me there's nothing to say again... Damn, she keeps saying this many times and it has started to make my head spark.

I was angry all through yesterday for personal reasons, but people can never know because I don't show it and I talk normally. Despite my state yesterday, I kept my cool after she said there's nothing to say and just told her good night but I was angry deep down.

I called her this morning (yesterday morning, it's 1:16AM currently), she didn't pick. But I didn't call a second time, because my head was just ringing 'I have nothing to say.' I don't want to be a fool again to call her and I'll be taking to empty space. So I lefty phone in my room and stayed in the sitting room all day and she already left 2 missed later.

I came back this night, called her severally and it was just doing busy. I messaged her online (luckily she was online) about the matter and immediately I tried again and it went through. Thinking now, it may be that she blocked me.

Anyways in short, she was mute at first again when she picked. Later the matter escalated and she was saying that I didn't call back. I was trying to explain why I didn't call but she was not listening... I later waited till she calmed down.

I was telling her I didn't call because I didn't want embarrassment whereby I'll be talking to her and she'll just be mute as if I'm talking to the wind. I told her I knew not calling her was wrong but she didn't listen, I told her this about 4 times.

As she was later calm, I saw it as an opportunity to explain to her that what is good for the goose is good for the gander. I was telling her that I don't do 1/3 of what she does and I don't often turn things against her. In the beginning of the relationship, she used to be unhappy and complain a lot when the chance comes of how I don't listen or pay attention to her I'm summary.

Now, she's got attention and she acts so bad sometimes that I wonder if any man will actually stand that. She's done so many terrible things that I cannot even mention it here but I am a forgiving type.

So, this night will I was later telling her everything about herself again that is not good for us, I talked for over 1 hour and I actually thought maybe for the first time I was really getting to her. I was even happy that maybe she'll realize that she herself cannot stand what she does to me if it's done back to her in return. I also told her that I should have called her earlier in the day.

You won't believe this girl made me realize I was wasting my saliva and she just kept quiet on purpose, and that the only thing I was doing was turning the matter on her head, and that she was going to sleep. I couldn't believe my life at first, it really pained me deeply. She was even even telling me how I can keep on blabbing if I want. I told her to get out of my phone and I hung up. I didn't even know I could become so angry and hang up a phone on someone, it just happened spontaneously. Immediately, she blocked me on WhatsApp... She had even been saying it during the course of her ranting that she'll block me.

She used to say, she's stubborn and stuff. The funny thing is she'd say that's the way she is and I should accept her that way.

Like, she can't take what she's doing to me if it's served back to her. And how she doesn't even feel guilty of what she does is what baffles me.

Very selfish human being. Another annoying thing is her Motigbo and Ok when she's chatting. This girl will say anything she likes (not that she uses insultive words tho) and I'll just keep my cool and let it slide, I will even call her the next day.

Damn... I didn't know I can be this patient in my life. Although, I guess the reason I stayed this long in it is because she's a really good person who I believe if she can just eliminate that aspect of her, she'd be very okay.


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Re: When Did You Decide That The Relationship Was Over? by masterP042(m): 5:14am On Nov 11, 2020
Goalnaldo:
When she refused to allow me loot her palliative but willingly gave it to hoodlums angry undecided

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Re: When Did You Decide That The Relationship Was Over? by purples25(f): 5:22am On Nov 11, 2020
PHOTSEE:

please i didn't understand what you meant by the bolded

'Button up their shirts', an indirect way of saying 'respect the women's bodies, abstain from sex.'
Re: When Did You Decide That The Relationship Was Over? by femi4: 5:24am On Nov 11, 2020
JohnspeakU:
Good day everyone!!

Most people in relationships believe that a relationship ends the day one party call it quit. But that’s far from the truth. An average relationship that ended didn’t end that day, it probably ended few days, months or years before �. So why didn’t the person just call it quit that same day?

It’s mainly because the party involved just wants time to enjoy the benefits they’ve been enjoying. It may be the gifts, money, sex, the trips etc.

So let me share mine. I was dating this girl sometime ago and it was going on very well. So I was in her house on this particular day and we were arguing about something that has to do with the male and female gender. I’m an unapologetic alpha male and I support my gender with all I have but this was a problem with her. She said something that annoyed me so I told her I was going home. The next thing madam said was “who the hell do you think you are? Every time you'd just be getting angry as if you’re God”�‍♀️ As if that wasn’t enough she pushed me out of her apartment and told me “get out of my house and go and die�‍♀️“.

As a gentleman I didn’t say anything but deep down I knew the relationship was over but I didn’t end it that day or week or month.

So when did you know that the relationship was over?
When she stopped talking for one week and I refused to call her for 3 months to prove to her that I m the king when it comes to keeping malice

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Re: When Did You Decide That The Relationship Was Over? by PHOTSEE(m): 5:33am On Nov 11, 2020
purples25:


'Button up their shirts', an indirect way of saying 'respect the women's bodies, abstain from sex.'
Oh my bad, i rather remove the button, it is meant to be adorned just like beauty
Re: When Did You Decide That The Relationship Was Over? by purples25(f): 5:35am On Nov 11, 2020
PHOTSEE:

Oh my bad, i rather remove the button, it is meant to be adorned just like beauty

Ok your preference.
Re: When Did You Decide That The Relationship Was Over? by 2cribz: 5:43am On Nov 11, 2020
When i started making money niggi

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Re: When Did You Decide That The Relationship Was Over? by ModestGal(f): 5:46am On Nov 11, 2020
Kiddogarcia:
Mine was the day she told me she give no hoot about the happenings in the society during the endsars protest,as long as she and her family was safe,others were not part of her business. I knew we had to end whatever we thought we had,how can someone I call my girl, could be that insensitive towards the cause of humanity
Let me be your girlfriend

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Re: When Did You Decide That The Relationship Was Over? by Chinedu1994(m): 5:50am On Nov 11, 2020
omooba969:


What are you still waiting for breh?

Just waiting for her to make another mistake so that I will use it against her.
If she doesn't make another mistake soon, I will invoke the first one and use it against her.

The geh mata don tire me.

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Re: When Did You Decide That The Relationship Was Over? by PHOTSEE(m): 5:51am On Nov 11, 2020
purples25:


Ok your preference.
With good intensions.
Re: When Did You Decide That The Relationship Was Over? by ashawopikin(m): 6:00am On Nov 11, 2020
SkyRicks:


Frankly speaking ladies are funny, you offer you sch boy sex but you man you want to keep till marriage.... And you think in your reasoning you can play a man.. unless his the anger type and a taker
they think they are wise
Re: When Did You Decide That The Relationship Was Over? by Cutehector(m): 6:01am On Nov 11, 2020
Kiddogarcia:
Mine was the day she told me she give no hoot about the happenings in the society during the endsars protest,as long as she and her family was safe,others were not part of her business. I knew we had to end whatever we thought we had,how can someone I call my girl, could be that insensitive towards the cause of humanity
very good. I just met a new girl recently and I happened to be in an incident where a tanker fell down and everyone started scamping for their lives. I posted about the incident on my whatsapp TL, she commented, why didnt you rush to pack fuel.

I was disgusted by her mentality and deleted her number immediately.

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Re: When Did You Decide That The Relationship Was Over? by Okuda(m): 6:03am On Nov 11, 2020
JohnspeakU:
Good day everyone!!

Most people in relationships believe that a relationship ends the day one party call it quit. But that’s far from the truth. An average relationship that ended didn’t end that day, it probably ended few days, months or years before �. So why didn’t the person just call it quit that same day?

It’s mainly because the party involved just wants time to enjoy the benefits they’ve been enjoying. It may be the gifts, money, sex, the trips etc.

So let me share mine. I was dating this girl sometime ago and it was going on very well. So I was in her house on this particular day and we were arguing about something that has to do with the male and female gender. I’m an unapologetic alpha male and I support my gender with all I have but this was a problem with her. She said something that annoyed me so I told her I was going home. The next thing madam said was “who the hell do you think you are? Every time you'd just be getting angry as if you’re God”�‍♀️ As if that wasn’t enough she pushed me out of her apartment and told me “get out of my house and go and die�‍♀️“.

As a gentleman I didn’t say anything but deep down I knew the relationship was over but I didn’t end it that day or week or month.

So when did you know that the relationship was over?

you are in self delusion. na alpha male characteristics be this? Dont get pride, toxic ego with alpha manhood twisted. lmao

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