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BlackSheep10:
The moment she asked who I loved .most between her and my junior sister. She is emotionally blackmailing. me. Someone cannot try to be manipulating me at this age.

Lucyspa:
Toor. I say no to stingy and 5s men. #mychoice

Tobiloba2407:
You that can't take care if yourself, won't you say no to you.....bloodsucker, without man, you can't survive in this life?

gideonite98:
She cheated with different niggers including my best friend and a dude living close to my house then with other folks and she kind of tell lies also,aborted a baby for another dude when she couldn't get me to claim it so with all that I knew the relationship will definitely not last but still I continued because I hate starting stuff all over again so the last fight we had I decided not to to make things work again since I already know sooner or later the relationship will surely end and I don't want to keep her around for sex purpose also because that's not me so that's it ....

ume1000:
your comment promote pussy worshiping

Women should count themselves lucky of a man's attention not the other way round

Other than procreation they add no value to a man

freesoul12:
Man, u just explained d exact thing that happened to me years back. Infact na like say someone just copied my story here. See im going to advise u and i use God beg u take this advise ..im hundred percent sure it will work for u. The bitter truth is ure too much in love with dis girl and that's a turn off. The bitter truth is d girl is not peaceful she may not be a type that shout but we have some gentle unpeaceful girls. She is scanning for alternatives, im damn sure she is just from an average background (not rich background) .This is what i did that solved my problem d grl then.. I told her myself with d way things is going i see no future in d relationship cos it seems d feelings is not mutual and i couldn't get any peace from d relationship. I told her she need her peace and i need mine.that we should just give each other a break. She agreed. Note not dat it was easy for me but i realized there is no point in loving someone when u don't get it back. I knew i deserve peace more than love. So i moved on.. She called like 12times after 6 days.. I didn't pick..i was so gentle and cool like u then so she thought i wd come back. Not until she started trolling me on watsap nd facebook.After 3 months cos i was busy with learning new things that eventually changed my life. I could see peace is more valuable than love. She texted and chat to check on me. But guy don move patapata.. she went ahead to download my pic and upload.. still money and peace keeps me going.. until i later realized she is not as beautiful as i thought.. love dey blind person eye ND i later realized i was too weak for her shortcomings. Plz just zero ur mind about her no matter how painful it is..I swear u wont regret it.. forget about she doesn't cheat, forget about she is a good girl. The only thing u should ask yourself, do u get peace being in a relationship with her,do u feel loved? Move on and see how nature handles d rest.She will value u when u leave than stay . Cheers

tammie24:
very funny dude

A girl has cheated with many guys including your best friend... And you continued cos you hate to start things over

Even aborted another man's pregnancy that she tried to pass as yours

I have nothing else to say!

Sixfeetbelle:
I know you won't hear what I have to tell you but I'll say it anyway. I hope it helps you somewhat.

When you mention "you tell her about her behaviour", I get the feeling that your "telling" is becoming a "nagging" and people don't like to be nagged. I do nag when things don't go my way but I hate being nagged at. Ironic, I know, but I'll use myself to explain to you why your method of trying to "correct" her won't ever work. I'm very stubborn. No long talk about that. Which means I do stuff when I want to do them, not when you want me to do them. Nagging me to do them brings up in me this angry, defensive spirit that just wishes I could block the person from ever talking to me again, parents and teachers included.

I'm more of a person who will only change stuff about me when someone makes a comment in passing about it but from a deep place rather than their constant talk about it. So if you're always talking about how I'm rude or arrogant, I won't ever listen to you unless you say it from a non-judgmental place.

I sense your girlfriend is similar too. So stop trying to tell her her behaviour is this or that in that "scolding" tone. To her, it would seem as if she's being scolded again as a child, this time not by her parents, but by someone who's just a few years older. No one wants that. However, you can get your points across to her by randomly throwing it out there when you guys are discussing other unrelated matters.

For example, if a friend of hers did something that annoyed her and she told you about it. While advising her on how to handle the matter, you can chip in innocently that her behaviour could have been responsible for the matter that annoyed her. That way, she doesn't see it as a scolding and thus picks up on it.

So I implore you, if you guys ever get back together, desist from always talking about her behaviour like you're her parent. Even teachers who had stubborn children as students will tell you flogging them into behaving appropriately almost never works. However when you put special attention on them and encourage them, they learn to behave better.

Be kinder. Be less about her behaviour and more about her qualities.

Lucyspa:
Odiegwu. I say no to a stingy man #mychoice.

FashionCookie:
Some Niraland men sha...after una go dey form alpha male. See tears...shior. By the way women, una no dey break up?

gideonite98:
Lol I'm complicated you won't get it.
Although i got to know about the stuffs after sometime not immediately except my best friend saga but i cant fight my guy coz she caused it so i just over looked everything and since I'm always quick to over look things and get over stuffs back then so just decided to let it go but I already knew the relationship will soon end.
So when stuff got messed up again I decided not to make up anymore
Simple as that.

But that was back then
half of it can't even happen to me right now.

Rockyfancino:
This girl is like a NEPA switch. She's selfish and doesn't reason with ration. Can you imagine, you will be talking to someone and she will be happy, the next minute you call her, she's her mood has become low and it now looks as if you're forcing her.

I would call her for at least 30 mins trying to cheer her up and I will be met with disdain. If small thing should happen, her mood will just change, no joke can take it out.... The next day, she's still like that.

Sometimes, she'll reply me like I'm her worst enemy. To make it worse, she'll say she has nothing to say after I might have talked and talked.

It sounds like nothing, but this has been going on for a very long time, as if someone is forcing her in the relationship. To make it worse, she'll sometimes act like she's madly in love.

I keep telling her mood is like weather and she should please try and just reduce it. I later stopped calling her like before because, I don't know they what mood I'll meet if I called.

So many times, I'll talk to her for like one hour about the things she's doing that's bad. I keep telling her the same thing for a very long time now, thinking communication is key.

Something happened yesternight, she ended the call. I called her back trying to tease her back into the mood. For like 30 seconds, I was doing hello, hello, I almost thought it was the network when I was about hanging up she said she can hear me.... Okay, fine. She later then told me there's nothing to say again... Damn, she keeps saying this many times and it has started to make my head spark.

I was angry all through yesterday for personal reasons, but people can never know because I don't show it and I talk normally. Despite my state yesterday, I kept my cool after she said there's nothing to say and just told her good night but I was angry deep down.

I called her this morning (yesterday morning, it's 1:16AM currently), she didn't pick. But I didn't call a second time, because my head was just ringing 'I have nothing to say.' I don't want to be a fool again to call her and I'll be taking to empty space. So I lefty phone in my room and stayed in the sitting room all day and she already left 2 missed later.

I came back this night, called her severally and it was just doing busy. I messaged her online (luckily she was online) about the matter and immediately I tried again and it went through. Thinking now, it may be that she blocked me.

Anyways in short, she was mute at first again when she picked. Later the matter escalated and she was saying that I didn't call back. I was trying to explain why I didn't call but she was not listening... I later waited till she calmed down.

I was telling her I didn't call because I didn't want embarrassment whereby I'll be talking to her and she'll just be mute as if I'm talking to the wind. I told her I knew not calling her was wrong but she didn't listen, I told her this about 4 times.

As she was later calm, I saw it as an opportunity to explain to her that what is good for the goose is good for the gander. I was telling her that I don't do 1/3 of what she does and I don't often turn things against her. In the beginning of the relationship, she used to be unhappy and complain a lot when the chance comes of how I don't listen or pay attention to her I'm summary.

Now, she's got attention and she acts so bad sometimes that I wonder if any man will actually stand that. She's done so many terrible things that I cannot even mention it here but I am a forgiving type.

So, this night will I was later telling her everything about herself again that is not good for us, I talked for over 1 hour and I actually thought maybe for the first time I was really getting to her. I was even happy that maybe she'll realize that she herself cannot stand what she does to me if it's done back to her in return. I also told her that I should have called her earlier in the day.

You won't believe this girl made me realize I was wasting my saliva and she just kept quiet on purpose, and that the only thing I was doing was turning the matter on her head, and that she was going to sleep. I couldn't believe my life at first, it really pained me deeply. She was even even telling me how I can keep on blabbing if I want. I told her to get out of my phone and I hung up. I didn't even know I could become so angry and hang up a phone on someone, it just happened spontaneously. Immediately, she blocked me on WhatsApp... She had even been saying it during the course of her ranting that she'll block me.

She used to say, she's stubborn and stuff. The funny thing is she'd say that's the way she is and I should accept her that way.

Like, she can't take what she's doing to me if it's served back to her. And how she doesn't even feel guilty of what she does is what baffles me.

Very selfish human being. Another annoying thing is her Motigbo and Ok when she's chatting. This girl will say anything she likes (not that she uses insultive words tho) and I'll just keep my cool and let it slide, I will even call her the next day.

Damn... I didn't know I can be this patient in my life. Although, I guess the reason I stayed this long in it is because she's a really good person who I believe if she can just eliminate that aspect of her, she'd be very okay.

tammie24:
not even one should happen in any true relationship

You deserve happiness
and just the way you give love you should receive love

I would be careful with that 'best friend' if I were you

tayewomi:
bro i really salute you gan ooo am asl going through the same in my relationship but i just think my peace of mind matters a lot like many times av attempted to beat hell out of her due to her attitude she's a good girl but she has f9 in attitude,am done with relationship for now am only looking for friends with benefits..

tammie24:
not even one should happen in any true relationship

You deserve happiness
and just the way you give love you should receive love

I would be careful with that 'best friend' if I were you

omooba969:
You need to change your views about stuff. It is their nature to crave attention and so must be given. You also need to realise that everyone is equal male&female, understanding that we complement each other.

If I may ask, what's there not to worship in pvssy unless you wanna be hypocritical - we love pvssy & they love dick.

Lastly, the amazing creature called woman adds a whole lot of value to everything you can think of and you will defo realise the moment you start being rational about man&woman relationship.

I'm out..

tammie24:
not even one should happen in any true relationship

You deserve happiness
and just the way you give love you should receive love

I would be careful with that 'best friend' if I were you

Rockyfancino:
Yeah I know and it has been done. Tell me more about the biggest mistake part tho, really interested in that.

Momoreoluwa90:
1. The day I found out he had multiple social media accounts, email addresses and names.
2. The day I found out he was dating his so-called school daughter but lied to me the whole time.
3. The day I heard him deny me on the phone to his family members.
4. The day I realized I could not cope with the fact that he would squander his money without any savings and wants to spend mine with me even when he earned much higher.
5. The day I realized I could not cope with cleaning after a grown ass man as a neat freak.
6. The day I realized I valued him more than he did me. Spoke his love languages but he never spoke mine.
7. The day I realized I was only his ticket out of Nigeria and as soon as he arrived abroad, he started to manifest his true colors.
8. The day he became 'sneaky' and started acting suspicious.

Wonder why it took me so long to end things but I finally gained the courage to. And I've been at peace ever since and waiting on God's best

omooba969:
Why didn't you check on her at home?

ume1000:
what value does a woman add to a man's life

Rockyfancino:
This girl is like a NEPA switch. She's selfish and doesn't reason with ration. Can you imagine, you will be talking to someone and she will be happy, the next minute you call her, she's her mood has become low and it now looks as if you're forcing her.

I would call her for at least 30 mins trying to cheer her up and I will be met with disdain. If small thing should happen, her mood will just change, no joke can take it out.... The next day, she's still like that.

Sometimes, she'll reply me like I'm her worst enemy. To make it worse, she'll say she has nothing to say after I might have talked and talked.

It sounds like nothing, but this has been going on for a very long time, as if someone is forcing her in the relationship. To make it worse, she'll sometimes act like she's madly in love.

I keep telling her mood is like weather and she should please try and just reduce it. I later stopped calling her like before because, I don't know they what mood I'll meet if I called.

So many times, I'll talk to her for like one hour about the things she's doing that's bad. I keep telling her the same thing for a very long time now, thinking communication is key.

Something happened yesternight, she ended the call. I called her back trying to tease her back into the mood. For like 30 seconds, I was doing hello, hello, I almost thought it was the network when I was about hanging up she said she can hear me.... Okay, fine. She later then told me there's nothing to say again... Damn, she keeps saying this many times and it has started to make my head spark.

I was angry all through yesterday for personal reasons, but people can never know because I don't show it and I talk normally. Despite my state yesterday, I kept my cool after she said there's nothing to say and just told her good night but I was angry deep down.

I called her this morning (yesterday morning, it's 1:16AM currently), she didn't pick. But I didn't call a second time, because my head was just ringing 'I have nothing to say.' I don't want to be a fool again to call her and I'll be taking to empty space. So I lefty phone in my room and stayed in the sitting room all day and she already left 2 missed later.

I came back this night, called her severally and it was just doing busy. I messaged her online (luckily she was online) about the matter and immediately I tried again and it went through. Thinking now, it may be that she blocked me.

Anyways in short, she was mute at first again when she picked. Later the matter escalated and she was saying that I didn't call back. I was trying to explain why I didn't call but she was not listening... I later waited till she calmed down.

I was telling her I didn't call because I didn't want embarrassment whereby I'll be talking to her and she'll just be mute as if I'm talking to the wind. I told her I knew not calling her was wrong but she didn't listen, I told her this about 4 times.

As she was later calm, I saw it as an opportunity to explain to her that what is good for the goose is good for the gander. I was telling her that I don't do 1/3 of what she does and I don't often turn things against her. In the beginning of the relationship, she used to be unhappy and complain a lot when the chance comes of how I don't listen or pay attention to her I'm summary.

Now, she's got attention and she acts so bad sometimes that I wonder if any man will actually stand that. She's done so many terrible things that I cannot even mention it here but I am a forgiving type.

So, this night will I was later telling her everything about herself again that is not good for us, I talked for over 1 hour and I actually thought maybe for the first time I was really getting to her. I was even happy that maybe she'll realize that she herself cannot stand what she does to me if it's done back to her in return. I also told her that I should have called her earlier in the day.

You won't believe this girl made me realize I was wasting my saliva and she just kept quiet on purpose, and that the only thing I was doing was turning the matter on her head, and that she was going to sleep. I couldn't believe my life at first, it really pained me deeply. She was even even telling me how I can keep on blabbing if I want. I told her to get out of my phone and I hung up. I didn't even know I could become so angry and hang up a phone on someone, it just happened spontaneously. Immediately, she blocked me on WhatsApp... She had even been saying it during the course of her ranting that she'll block me.

She used to say, she's stubborn and stuff. The funny thing is she'd say that's the way she is and I should accept her that way.

Like, she can't take what she's doing to me if it's served back to her. And how she doesn't even feel guilty of what she does is what baffles me.

Very selfish human being. Another annoying thing is her Motigbo and Ok when she's chatting. This girl will say anything she likes (not that she uses insultive words tho) and I'll just keep my cool and let it slide, I will even call her the next day.

Damn... I didn't know I can be this patient in my life. Although, I guess the reason I stayed this long in it is because she's a really good person who I believe if she can just eliminate that aspect of her, she'd be very okay.

freesoul12:
Lol chief. Next time pls don't get so moved to beat a girl bcoz of her attitude.. Silence hit them more than anything. Learn to move on irregardless of the pain. Mistakes we men usually make is that.. most time we think happiness lays sorely on being in a relationship...while it starts from self love and peace. Roll with different grls and don't just catch feelings anyhow. You will definitely see dat ure d gold here. Girls wont see u as a gold if you are acting like a raw metal. Cheers

AlphaMajestic:
i have two questions for you..

1) have you fvcked her b4..even if its just once dnt lie

2) are you like retarded small...asin do you feel like you IQ is low atimes

Goalnaldo:
Momoreoluwa90 you didn't say anything concerning what I said. I won't cheat on you. If I ever do, may things not work well for me.

Rockyfancino:
Ahh... Bros, why now?

AlphaMajestic:
no tell me na..no offense

everybody no get high IQ...mine isnt even average

Lucyspa:
Am not joking ooo. Nonsense stingy guy