CalliDora1:



The funny thing is I never asked him for anything all through the period we were "together" because he already made me understand he was a civil servant. So, it doesn't cross my mind to ask cos I do feel for him. evethough their salary was constant that period and mine was halted cos it's a private sector, It never crossed my mind to ask. Even when he promised to send me airtime, I didn't remind him and quickly subscribed just to keep up with our chats. So... I don't get it. Some men though.

don't play along pls, let him know on time that you are not interested in him at all.

pocohantas:
You are overthinking things.

How can you keep saying you haven’t eaten for 3days without any explanation? Haba! Don’t you know that is Naija babes intro to ask for urgent 2k?

The guy is not psychic to know you were fasting. Whenever I tell a man I haven’t eaten, I always make sure I add the reason (e.g) Busy day, I am trying to watch my intake/weight...etc.

While it wasn’t so nice of him to disappear, we should remember that building relationships is hard in Nigeria because we suspect ourselves too much. Imagine if he kept telling you he is lonely.

It is okay if you want to block him, I just want you to know you are not entirely blameless. It takes time and trust to unlock certain aspects of a friendship...

U are a very smart lady I must confess, in my own opinion I think the guy was genuine and wasn't after if she had cash or not, I think what he was looking out for was an independent woman lady that understands the situation of things in Nigeria.
The poster just kept sending wrong signals.

slimman007:


Please endeavour to pick his call and you guys should sort what ever differences that you both have...in relationship issues like these tends to happen but it takes two mature adult to understand..with the look of things you both LOVE each other ...Happy married life in advance come 2021 in Jesus name

Hahahaha

NOwazobia:
Presumption is quite bad.
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The guy may be wanting to help but helpless himself, so he may have decided to take a break due to the burden of shame that weighed on him that instance (it is very common among introverted people).
you never inquire from him but went ahead to conclude (and even posted it on the public space) from your own rather narrow presumption, therefore, maybe judging him falsely.
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he made a mistake by even initiating such friendship initially.

Someone else speaking my mind

omooba969:


Looks like the chap is SLOW.

Maybe na Knight for Simps City.
I got irritated after seeing several pick my calls-reply my message plea here to the girl.
This is someone who claimed to have just got off a court case with her ex.
Well, some people are just born like that.

Ekemeze:

Why the dafuq are explaining things to idiots here. ?

BTW, is your destiny tied to her? if she ghost u. why not move on huh? damn! is she the only woman on earth? does all these make any sense to u?

I'm starting to think the person behind that username is NOT the man the OP talked about.

They want to act film for people here...

omooba969:


There's no question of urgent 2k, it's just mere assumption. Well niqqur is back and he already explained why he blanked out without notice.

To her or to nairaland? Before now or after she had already posted her insecurities online?

Rooneyboy:

U are a very smart lady I must confess, in my own opinion I think the guy was genuine and wasn't after if she had cash or not, I think what he was looking out for was an independent woman lady that understands the situation of things in Nigeria.
The poster just kept sending wrong signals.

Most of them are not skilful in the art of relationship - that's not to excuse the men.

Sixfeetbelle:


Poco does not stand for many girls though

You. Just like the op, callidora1
You're a very foolish girl. Povertystricken fowls. Ebina.

CalliDora1:



The funny thing is I never asked him for anything all through the period we were "together" because he already made me understand he was a civil servant. So, it doesn't cross my mind to ask cos I do feel for him. evethough their salary was constant that period and mine was halted cos it's a private sector, It never crossed my mind to ask. Even when he promised to send me airtime, I didn't remind him and quickly subscribed just to keep up with our chats. So... I don't get it. Some men though.

We've heard you bruh! No need to put this on replay.
You are the VICTIM here, we got it the first time.

ohhh boy!!! i almost miss drama ohh!!!!! Dora Dora weytun i talk? ishilove, i hope you are watching as your client dey fall your hand? she came here and gave us only half cake to chop...
i feel good. parara ra rara ra!!so good!! pa pa SO GOOD!!!

Idaytesj29:


I like your rounded comment, what I want to add is that, ....WHY DIDNT HE ASK YOU WHY YOU HAVE NOT EATEN FOR TWO DAYS IN A ROW? He simply wasn't a good man. A good man will ask to know why, even if he doesn't have means to help. In such case, he may offer emotional support. But nawa for the guy.

Maybe he was too shy to ask and assumed that it was because she was lacking due to the pandemic. Hence, his apologies due to the fact that he couldn't proffer a solution

Decimus:

We've heard you bruh! No need to put this on replay.
You are the VICTIM here, we got it the first time.

nice one bro!!!

Decimus:

Maybe na Knight for Simps City.
I got irritated after seeing several pick my calls-reply my message plea here to the girl.
This is someone who claimed to have just got off a court case with her ex.
Well, some people are just born like that.

Hahahaha

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CalliDora1:


My grievance is, why did he ghost me when I didn't pressure him to do anything for me against his wish. It made feel like he didn't want to associate with a "failure" and God knows I'm not and will never be a failure.

After his empathy and constant apology, you conclude he assumed you're a "failure". Like how? Seriously how? Why didn't you try to call him afterwards to see if he would still pull away? Abi did both of you make a pact that he should be the one doing the calling?

Sixfeetbelle:


To her or to nairaland? Before now or after she had already posted her insecurities online?

On this thread, niqqur explained why he legged it without notice - can't remember the page.

Michdaf:
Please pick my calls.

Respect yourself man!

Raalsalghul:


Respect yourself man!

Lol

omooba969:


Do you think CalliDora1 will be able to block the guy - I doubt it.

Don't be surprised to see pre-wedding photos on FP...lol

Ishilove:
So if you were truly in need of help that is how he would have abandoned you. Please block him. We don't need useless people in our lives

So you are now male eeh? Why are you killing my fantasies?

Where is that foolish righteousness guy to give you some deliverance?

brain54:

lol...this thing done pain you....no go slap op through phone o!

no not to that extent. but she is saying really silly annoying things.

and I am not happy.

Ekemeze:


You are damn right! That was why I asked him if "all these makes any sense to him"

or could this be another clout chasing? huh

Let the movie continue I'm sure some people find their positions in the movie.

Michdaf:
Please pick my calls.

Guy, you're a bastard if you let this fowls manipulate you into eventually paying that urgent 2k.

Yes said it.
This had better all be a staged shit cos I go vex now.

NOwazobia:
Presumption is quite bad.
.
The guy may be wanting to help but helpless himself, so he may have decided to take a break due to the burden of shame that weighed on him that instance (it is very common among introverted people).
you never inquire from him but went ahead to conclude (and even posted it on the public space) from your own rather narrow presumption, therefore, maybe judging him falsely.
.
he made a mistake by even initiating such friendship initially.

You are the only person that understand what happened. I have even admit it. After that I couldn't get myself to talk to her. Though, it was only because I couldn't give her money then. what I was going through and her issue here on nl, made just give her a break.

Michdaf:
If you want to know why I stopped chatting and calling you, why didn't you tell me yesterday. why did you have to bring it here. I don't know what you wanted me to do then. I ask why haven't you eaten and you said you don't have much. And I was not that buoyant then. And I explained everything to you. Then you start giving me attitude. that period, I was invited to court and you know the reason. I was face with the court issue for six weeks. At first I was arrested and my phone was taken from me. All this period you didn't call. and the best thing you could do is to bring it up here. Am very disappointed

Guy don't bother explaining to her or anyone. People who have the problem of assuming and concluding on what goes on in other peoples lives without even bothering to find out don't deserve any form of closure.. After reading her post i saw her flaws n urs is that u care too much even when ur not buoyant financially.. No need feeling disappointed just don't expect too much from girls next time. It ain't worth it until u find one who proves u wrong

Michdaf, please listen well. Dont allow the "urgent 2k" geng emotionaly blackmail you with their self entitlement poison.
get this right, considering the foundation of the so called "freindship",
1. you are not under any obligation whatsoever to inform her of your whereabouts and life.
2. Her financial burdens is non of your business. according to feminists 'women are equal to men' so let her carry her own bloody cross.
3. Do not feel bad because you could not fill her rumbling belly. she is an adult and should be able to take responsibility
4. I repeat, Do not fall for the self entitlement bullllshiiiit she is trying to pull on you. Hold your ground.
5. callidora1 bulshyt tale of "testing" was just the cover up for failing to be a successful "leach"
6. Her story is one she has come with in order to compensate her sensation of failure i.e she failed at trapping you in the "urgent 2k" cage and this is her way of coping.
7. Finally, all the guys reading this, it is not a moral obligation for you to foot the bills of these "2k girls". The only reason you are quick to pay for their services is because you the man are gravely insecure and lack the technical know how of wooing a lady other than empting the contents of your pockets.

improve your life dear men before you go hunting for girlfriends which are mostly liabilities.

pocohantas:
You are overthinking things.

How can you keep saying you haven’t eaten for 3days without any explanation? Haba! Don’t you know that is Naija babes intro to ask for urgent 2k?

The guy is not psychic to know you were fasting. Whenever I tell a man I haven’t eaten, I always make sure I add the reason (e.g) Busy day, I am trying to watch my intake/weight...etc.

While it wasn’t so nice of him to disappear, we should remember that building relationships is hard in Nigeria because we suspect ourselves too much. Imagine if he kept telling you he is lonely.

It is okay if you want to block him, I just want you to know you are not entirely blameless. It takes time and trust to unlock certain aspects of a friendship...

My dear, I totally agree with you
It is not really easy with guys asking ladies out .Just imagine that you are chatting with four ladies and all of them are telling you continually that they have not eaten , how will you feel ? I have chatted with girls before and they were telling me they need 5k, 10k ,I have not eaten , etc, If you keep chatting and spending money like that you will become broke and none of those girls will buy even N80 indomie when you tell them you are hungry or even send you N1k when you are broke ..However, I am not justifying the fact that the guy couldn't buy you a plate of food when you told him you have not eaten

Decimus:

Maybe na Knight for Simps City.
I got irritated after seeing several pick my calls-reply my message plea here to the girl.
This is someone who claimed to have just got off a court case with her ex.
Well, some people are just born like that.

knight of simp kingdom rather....

Sixfeetbelle:


The guy bleeped up by making an assumption. Until the person bills you before you ghost them. That's how these things work.

Okay, if he knew the format, why did he come back? Is he now rich enough to handle her billing?

I see you're unfamiliar with the concept of covert contracts.

She wants him to do something for her but won't say it to maintain plausible deniability. Women do this all the time, urgent 2k, money for hair, do giveaway seen it all before. He'll come back when she's tired of messing around.

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pocohantas:


Telling someone you haven’t eaten for 3 good days without giving any reason is enough to put the person off. I am a lady and I tell you, I would be put off!

Guys pull these tests sometimes and it annoys me. Don’t test me, I will fail.

but why should anyone be asking if you have eaten in the first place?

If you don't want to be asked for help
Some questions don't need asking.. Like what's your business?
It's annoying joor!