Bestinstinct:

The OP probably don’t know how deep this simple advice is.

He doesn't. He still asked me "thanksgiving for what?"

Afikoo:
Good morning Nairalanders. I sure know you all fine.

I am writing this with heavy heart.
I know we have super rich people here who rose from poverty to riches.

This life isn't balance. Done with school. Been working as security administrator in my church and I earn 80k. I have been planning on getting married. Have met my fiance Parents, they were happy. I have engaged her she is happy. All of a sudden the elder brother who isn't around is angry that I haven't spoken to him about my intention. I have earlier tried his line severallly and it isn't going through. Had to chat him and he told me I am not serious that I should grow up. A bullet in my heart.

Her mum has suddenly changed and is accusing me for not calling her always.
This whole drama has gotten into my babe now she is talking about us suspending our marriage plan and try improving our income. (She is learning a skill)

I am fed up. Have suspended everything now. I have tried everything since I left school last year to improve my income. Apply for jobs here and there. Is just not cutting in.

Please, share your experience on how you were able to get out of this average life as a Nigerian.

Advise me and others still struggling to rise up.
You can recommend jobs for me.
I studied history and Diplomatic Studies.
Have some certification in Leadership and human resource. Trust me, I can deliver on anything legal. I have the capacity, but haven't gotten the opportunity.

Patiently reading.

God has just delivered you, yet,you to want to return to your Egypt......

Afikoo:


Of course I have suspended it.

I am working earning 80k. I need more. I have tried.
That's the last kart of my tweet comes in place.

How can one get out of this average life. I need a better job

This is where your problem comes from you don't need a job, you need a skill!

ibechris:



With my experience in banking together with my wife,we do micro and macro lending to sure businesses and contract.

Ok sir.

Is as much as you think you don't earn much, that doesn't mean what you are earning is terrible. Sometimes when people start saying things like "you should be financially stable" before going into marriage, I wonder what amount can be termed financially stable for a salary earner. In my own definition, a salary earner can not be termed financially stable especially for those working for private individuals/Company because you can be asked to leave at any time. My first advise is that you should forget about your certificate and look for something else to do. As a graduate, after I lost my work in the bank, I did some very odd jobs to support my family. I sold fufu, yams etc. The funny thing is, I learnt a lot in that process and by the grace of God, I am better now.
Do you know that about 70% of those that work in the bank today earn 80k and below? Many of them are married with kids. There are people who earn half of what you are earning now and are married, that doesn't mean they will remain the way the are.
The most important thing is to have alternative sources of income and also have a partner that can support your dreams. If you are not careful enough, you will keep hustling to get a financially stable status till you will be almost 50yrs. Having kids at later age is not too cool me sha. What's the average life expectancy for Nigerians? Buhari's economy has reduced it to 50. I don't subscribe to marrying late because I don't want to you my pension to pay children school fees and buying of pampers.

Harshreality:


The problem is there's no straight path.
You could try buying and selling of in demand goods. And like someone said you could also try getting a skill like copywriting, designing, programing, event management, electronic repairs, etc.

One problem is that things like this take time to learn and be good at.
You can't just take one 20hr course and become a professional.
You'd most likely invest a lot of time (which can run into years) and money before you can start making reasonable money.
If you choose to tow this path I'd recommend picking something you have interest in so you wouldn't loose interest even when the money isn't forthcoming.

On the bright side, you can learn this on the side while you continue your job. It will just take longer.

The first real money is never easy to make but subsequent are very easy

Great realistic contribution just like your moniker.

Bro why don't you invest hugely I'm yourself first. And have a steady and reasonable source of income. After investing on her and she decides not to go on with the marriage what will you do?

Heryormilekan:


Something like that, a targeted post to promote a product on your fb page. You can easily place a targeted campaign and it will give you a good return if done right.

I've done something like that, can you do it?

grossintel:
Do you mean mini importation? As in Aliexpress?

Yes I do, but a cheaper site.

Afikoo:
Good morning Nairalanders. I sure know you all fine.

I am writing this with heavy heart.
I know we have super rich people here who rose from poverty to riches.

This life isn't balance. Done with school. Been working as security administrator in my church and I earn 80k. I have been planning on getting married. Have met my fiance Parents, they were happy. I have engaged her she is happy. All of a sudden the elder brother who isn't around is angry that I haven't spoken to him about my intention. I have earlier tried his line severallly and it isn't going through. Had to chat him and he told me I am not serious that I should grow up. A bullet in my heart.

Her mum has suddenly changed and is accusing me for not calling her always.
This whole drama has gotten into my babe now she is talking about us suspending our marriage plan and try improving our income. (She is learning a skill)

I am fed up. Have suspended everything now. I have tried everything since I left school last year to improve my income. Apply for jobs here and there. Is just not cutting in.

Please, share your experience on how you were able to get out of this average life as a Nigerian.

Advise me and others still struggling to rise up.
You can recommend jobs for me.
I studied history and Diplomatic Studies.
Have some certification in Leadership and human resource. Trust me, I can deliver on anything legal. I have the capacity, but haven't gotten the opportunity.

Patiently reading.

You see bro, what I observe about many Nigerian youths is that , they say they want more money but how much exactly is enough for them?
Believe me there is money in Nigeria, only that the kind of money we want or need isn't immediately available, and that comes to growing your income.
Let me use myself as an example, I am a steel structural engineer but I don't get contracts all the time, though I drop quotes here and there and I hope for the best but you know , things still happen the way you didn't plan , so what I did was that I I started supplying pepper just around my area to the aboki guys between 3.30 am and 6.30 am , from the proceeds I make a savings of between 2500 and 4000 every day and the rest is used to run the house till the next day. Now calculate 2500 x365 days.
I am not yet where I want to be but best believe I am not where I use to be.
Bro Think outside the box

Her mum has suddenly changed and is accusing me for not calling her always.
This whole drama has gotten into my babe now she is talking about us suspending our marriage plan and try improving our income. (She is learning a skill)


Hmmm...

Ur babe accepted, her mum accepted but all suddenly changed, fowl play somewhere

A common niggarrs like us in Nigeria are in soup be that oo, hmmmm May God help us sha

FanOfMyself:

so petty bro! how can he get scammed by learning a skill? I see you are a private teacher but I know that teachers ain't close minded. Well, I'm also a teacher ( I teach people how to make websites) and I am also a mentor. feel free to check my personal website (link on my signature below) and see some of the stuffs that I have done. I can teach you too IF YOU ARE OPEN MINDED

so u want to tell me now that after teaching him how to build a website with WordPress and u collect ur money from him.so how ll he make money from that.oga talk about another thing cos YouTube is free and he or those your lazy students can still download tutotrals from YouTube.

FanOfMyself:
I can teach you web development

Bros am interested,Enugu is my base

xest:
can you teach me too? Please

go to YouTube search for WordPress website. development

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FanOfMyself:
I can teach you web development

Bro, I'm interested in this

vickydevoka:

Na u Sabi.

....

Na one of them be dis. Marriage Na for who ready for the task.

thesicilian:
With the marriage plans, it seems you were heading into the life of the average Nigerian family man living daily from hand to mouth and praying fervently for the next day's meal. Thank God for your girlfriend and in-laws who God has used to redeem you (whether their intentions are genuine or not).

My advice to you is that you should invest most of your salary into marketable skills, keep your certificates aside for now. Learn a skill that you know can set you up within 6months to 1yr and then start your own business based on that skill. It could be in IT, Real estate, engineering, construction, general grade, etc, just something with good potentials that God can bless for you.

can I have your number please

FanOfMyself:
I can teach you web development

i get interest to bruh

Afikoo:
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She is not going. She is advising me to suspend the marriage and let's work to improve our income. Both of us.
Now I am just confuse it I am to just ignore the relationship and focus on myself or get someone that'd is equally earning.

Man up pls that's a pregnant statement

80k in this economy and u want to start raising a family.
Poverty is a bastard

FanOfMyself:
I can teach you web development

Web Development is not for low self-esteemed fellows like the poster. Save your energy. A jobless girl who is just learning a trade and her wretched family are threatening this low self-esteemed fellow.

Afikoo:


Of course I have suspended it.

I am working earning 80k. I need more. I have tried.
That's the last kart of my tweet comes in place.

How can one get out of this average life. I need a better job

Bro no allow anybody push you into depression.

From my perspective, two things are involved.

Either they've seen someone richer or she's not that old for marriage.

Come and see one Aunty for here na. Ready to wed the guy despite the guy been jobless at the moment.

My best advice, distance yourself from any lady who isn't working and earning at all. Those set of ladies who solemnly depends on their man's salary.

Fear them and runnnnnnnn

Afikoo:
Good morning Nairalanders. I sure know you all fine.

I am writing this with heavy heart.
I know we have super rich people here who rose from poverty to riches.

This life isn't balance. Done with school. Been working as security administrator in my church and I earn 80k. I have been planning on getting married. Have met my fiance Parents, they were happy. I have engaged her she is happy. All of a sudden the elder brother who isn't around is angry that I haven't spoken to him about my intention. I have earlier tried his line severallly and it isn't going through. Had to chat him and he told me I am not serious that I should grow up. A bullet in my heart.

Her mum has suddenly changed and is accusing me for not calling her always.
This whole drama has gotten into my babe now she is talking about us suspending our marriage plan and try improving our income. (She is learning a skill)

I am fed up. Have suspended everything now. I have tried everything since I left school last year to improve my income. Apply for jobs here and there. Is just not cutting in.

Please, share your experience on how you were able to get out of this average life as a Nigerian.

Advise me and others still struggling to rise up.
You can recommend jobs for me.
I studied history and Diplomatic Studies.
Have some certification in Leadership and human resource. Trust me, I can deliver on anything legal. I have the capacity, but haven't gotten the opportunity.

Patiently reading.

alaye, dump the girl and her family. They will never respect you. That family only respect money

dazzlingd:
80k in this economy and u want to start raising a family.
Poverty is a bastard

Teach him what to do to earn higher or better still link him to a better job.

One of the reasons I will never come on social media to seek advice is that most people dishing out advices are in worst situations than the person seeking advice but pretending to be acting best counsellor

Afikoo:
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Kindly drop your contact. Let's WhatsApp

Sorry but that family won't give you d respect u deserve and they'll easily manipulate ur so called fiancee.. So it's best you find a family where respect is served.

FanOfMyself:
I can teach you web development

I'm interested 08036949023

Afikoo:
.

Kindly drop your contact. Let's WhatsApp

me sef I'm interested also oo boss I'm chatting you also carry me along

Afikoo

Oga
You left school last year and you want to marry this year or the next?

O boy, take your time.

Wait 5 years after uni before you get married. That's the minimum norm

FanOfMyself:
I can teach you web development

Please I'm equally interested

durasome:
. Your own is better you have 80k to manage monthly what about those who are not seeing anything at all, as for the girl just think about how to make it oo what most families wants now is rich in-law if she wanna go please let her there is always another woman out there,sounds like you are still young to know that these thing call love don't work without money so get money first mehn.

True, but it's a crazy reality to see that our feelings as humans are so attached to material things.. Insatiable humans everywhere.

I see my Mama dey use just two Maggi cook pot of soup in the 90s.. Till this day, I still use two Maggi some times three based on quantity whenever I get time to cook (kitchen practical) .

Only for a dude and his chic to visit few days ago, and they used more than 4 Maggi to cook pasta.
Them laugh me when I asked say, shey the Maggi no plenty so..

Simple Advice:
Leave the girl, focus on yourself. Pray for a Lady that would be working, love you and be contented with what you have.
Your Salary is ok for a start, except if you are staying in Abuja or Lagos.
Any other state, 80k is enough for a start.. As you are focusing on your self. Save money to venture into farming. Half of your salary is 400k in 10 months. In 10months you can learn any type of farming you want to do. Process all these FG funds for Agro. Get a plot of land.. and you are good to go.
The girl and her family would regret.