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Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by 147abbey(m): 9:31pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
To the brothers in the house. If you want to choose a life partner, don't just go for any how girl but go for one woman that can assist your career, that can lift your hands up, that can speak to you that GUY you can do this and succeed. that can boost your moral. You need a skill or handi work woman that can assist you in all areas of live. when I got married, my salary was #60k and I was given 12 pages of Traditional marriage list and my house � rentage was #300k per annual but with the help of of my wife I survived all the obstacles, I paid all the Traditional marriage right, i did Court wedding and the church wedding too and from #60k God move me to the next level of life. still living well till date. Na God Understanding matters alot in marriage 5 Likes |
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by Hassanmaye(m): 9:33pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
Jamestown123: I swear my brother l know a lawyer that ears 40k per month |
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by Escabado: 9:35pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
mright05: You can imagine the nonsensee from the girl and her family. A man that earnes a steady 80k every month is good to start a family and raise the family very well. Even if his wife is earning 30k every month . The family will live very comfortable with may be two kids. But now this girls is jobless instead improving to get a job . She is more concerned about her husband Pocket. I don't know if Nigerian girls a curseed because this is getting out of hand 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by ubola: 9:36pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
80k is too bad for a start. I married in 2010 with an income of less than 30k though,hustled had and with God on my side, we can boast of properties today. Keep on hustling,suspend the marriage for now and upgrade first. 1 Like |
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by Dangrace01: 9:36pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
EM123: How do one get spiritual backup |
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by prophetfire: 9:37pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
Afikoo:. Go and thank God almighty that you dodged a lethal bullet. You stepped into a family of entitled mofos. Work to improve your income but not because of them. Her brother is forming for you, her mother is giving you hassles and the girl has joined the chorus. You want to marry from the family of people that will use nagging to send you to your early grave. Your girl isn't helping matters and she has no mind of her own. Go and improve your life and look for a girl from a family that will allow you to grow in peace. Don't go and marry heart-ache and head-ache. |
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by Simplythebest: 9:37pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
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Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by Ebenezer2021(m): 9:39pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
Sixfeetbelle:the world has changed and with this mentality of yours you'll have to stay long before you get a simp for marriage. The house chores you are good at could actually be done by the housemaid while you go out and also hustle and bring money home. Men don wise up and no man needs a liability anymore. 1 Like |
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by Altrarecords(m): 9:39pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
FanOfMyself: Please What's this job all about |
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by Elui2(m): 9:41pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
Afikoo:If you have a laptop to use and some cash to spare,you can hit me up on WhatsApp,i will teach you e-commerce (mini-importation and how to sell through facebook ads) |
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by SunTzu123(m): 9:43pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
Afikoo: Your fiancee is absolutely correct. Suspend marriage plans (not just wedding plans please). She's learning a trade and you're earning 80k? Please do not impregnate her now. Wait for her to finish learning the trade and start her craft. But sincerely, she needs to go to school; the prospects for the future is brighter that way. Even if you get a better job (I hope you're searching?) Save some money and start something on the side. When your side hustle starts to return income, then you can think of marriage. 1 Like |
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by Tatae900: 9:44pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
Chummynoni:pls share |
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by Grateful02(m): 9:48pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
Don't get mad on your wife to be talking about improving finance. Only a foolish mind does away with advice. On my part please try talking to her and at the same time work on getting multiple sources of income. All the best sir! |
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by humilitypays(m): 9:49pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
Afikoo:You have no reason to cry fowl....the girl's family did no wrong. Listen let me tell you, Nigeria has never been easy, but the truth is, Nigeria of today have become even more difficult for young people with no solid family background to give them a lift. Don't gamble with your destiny and future. Yes some say marriage brings good luck or fortune....but if that is true and happens to all, I am sure we won't have poor, wretched married people who gave birth to hungry children that continued the poverty cycle we have today. So in as much as your case might be different; as in, your own marriage might bring you luck....we can never tell if you are one of those destined for such.....so for now work on what you can control - fix your life financially first before embarking on any marital moves. If you have 3million naira as a single guy in Nigeria, you are in fact rich in the Nigerian eye.....but as a married man, if you have 10million, you are not......why Too many responsibilities comes with marriage. It is easier for you to travel out of Nigeria to seek for greener pasture as a single guy than as a married guy. I will advice you put all your efforts towards looking for a way to migrate out of Nigeria to boost your income....and if you love Nigeria so much, you can go back to Nigeria haven raised enough capital to start a good business venture. If you are single, it will be easier for you to mingle with older white ladies online and get help to move out of Nigeria....if you are married, you cannot do that.....your chances become limited as a guy the moment you marry. Don't be angry with your girl and her family, they really care about you.....marriage is not all to life......get your feat financially and your marriage will be sweet. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by kiddapunk: 9:50pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
Chummynoni:share this story bro, some of us need to hear it |
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by Cousin9999: 9:51pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
I think both of you need to work on your careers a bit before jumping into starting a family. You're young. Don't put too much pressure on yourself right now. Just hustle. If you can't find an opportunity or a good one, create it. If you have to sell corn and chickens, who cares? Make your money. Your nice house won't care how the money was made. And your bride won't care if tomatoes got her a nice wedding dress. 1 Like |
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by Notatribalist(m): 9:54pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
thesicilian:With 80k how can he go into real estate? |
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by Isuku01(m): 9:54pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
FanOfMyself: I am not like them. I am quite serious minded. I would contact via the WhatsApp number tomorrow. Regards |
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by cathodekazim: 9:55pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
Escabado: First two years of my marriage, I was earning just 30k. Glory be to God. I had my first child earning 30k. We pay house rent, phcn bills, transport, feeding in that 30k. My wife was jobless yet we survived. As God will do it, my 4th year now, my monthly income is roughly 80k and we are living happily. I can't imagine someone saying 80k is too small to keep a marriage. God is truly wonderful. I appreciate you oh lord. Better focus and look for your right girl ( the op) Material ladies are dangerous. Those Early signs are clear enough 3 Likes |
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by GboyegaD(m): 9:57pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
Jamestown123: Is it really this bad? I understand many are underemployed however, there are many that are not and earn more than N80k as fresh graduates. In his case, he had some years of experience which implies he should earn more. |
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by poiZon: 9:58pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
Afikoo:Trust me if I have a job of 60k I would have long married even if my wife is earning 30 to 40k monthly. That babe isn't yours. Pray make God give u someone who understands how life is. And also from Godly family. Are they expecting you to take care of them too or what? |
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by MarthaGlobal: 10:03pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
My guy nothing in weeding. You better open your eyes. Of you have this low relationship feelings subject to your salary you better leave girl for now and focus on your life.. I don't know why most of you fall for women trick easily... Wake up. Afikoo: |
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by humilitypays(m): 10:03pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
cathodekazim:I doubt you live in Lagos, Abuja or any of the top Nigerian cities. I am happy that you are happy with your income.....but don't encourage others to take on the same dangerous route you took and survived by chance or luck....they might die in that same dangerous route. The op need to forget anything marriage now and improve his life and finances. He stand better chances of making it now financially than when he is married. Nigeria is getting tougher by the day and international doors are closing everyday which helped lots of Nigerians escape poverty......he should forget about marriage now and hustle to migrate out of Nigeria or acquire a sellable skill that will give him better chances of improving his income. Things will never get any better in Nigeria......it will continue getting worst, so every Nigerian youth now ought to plan well. Ladies don't ever marry without a means of earning money to support your future husband.....don't commit that crime! it is crime to marry as a lady now without a job or handwork or business that earn you income, don't do it for the sake of your innocent unborn kids! They deserve good life pls. As for you that I am quoting, please encourage your wife to get something to do....even if its business, handwork....or work from home business....don't let her continue to be idle while the family rely on your income alone, it is suicidal. Correct it now!! 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by reccy(m): 10:06pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
FanOfMyself: I'm in sir. I'm so much interested sir |
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by isaacola57: 10:07pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
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Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by Asour: 10:12pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
Gerrard59: To be true (depending on the state he resides in) he can afford to in many Nigerian states. However this is NOT without qualifications. E.g. No children for a while., A Rather minimalist lifestyle and commitment to save and improve earnings. Now the MAJOR issue is the Nigerian society. One element of our cultural thinking that has become a trap is the clamour for large weddings. It's hard to argue that a Wedding is usually the average Nigerian [Youth's] Single largest Project. And this project ends in a day or 2! It's a Big war to do any different. Society (including family) would fight back. God help us. |
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by Nobody: 10:14pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
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Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by Myhusband(m): 10:17pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
OP you want to carry responsibility at your early age ba? in a relationship your fiance family have started dictating for you in the relationship and you don't see that as a red flag? so as an in-law you've the responsibility to be calling them everyday because you want to marry their daughter now you're earning 80k in a month which is not bad with the Level of unemployment in this country but your fiance family, not your own family o is making you to feel comfortable with the income when many couples earned lower than that before marriage, this is laughable lastly the Lady is just learning a skill yet her family are making her look like one Queen in your hand? an apprentice dating an average working class graduate and you're still feeling inferior of your capacity? you want to marry a Lady that's still learning skill? how many years did you spend in institution bro? it's a total waste of time my advise for you always check your birth certificate every 2days not only to influence your psychological traits back but to reinstate your self esteem 1 Like |
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by miidae(f): 10:18pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
80k?? When the lady has no source of income don't even try it |
Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by donvicky2007: 10:19pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
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Re: My Relationship Is Being Affected Because Of My Low Income. by miidae(f): 10:19pm On Nov 20, 2020 |
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