vivilafrosh:



So who told you that another reasonable well to do man won't cover up friend. Hustle and stop blaming our parents for nothing. I will not marry a man who can't boost of at least two million naira

And how much do you have in your account
Abi you are Handicap

Hustle legal or illegal abi
You don't care as far as the money is coming in

So i should blame Buhari for the increment of Bride Price and other irrelevant stuff they put on the list

2dice01:
True story
Trad wedding postpone till further notice

Oso ga eme�

setobaba:
Hello Nairalanders,

I’m 30yrs of age, and I never for once consider getting married, I lost interest totally, but this should incase i decide to tie the nut, how much should I have in my bank account to be on safer side before dragging myself into a life time contract with someone else daughter??

I currently own a car, and managing a salon plus other bussiness thag comes once a while, I’m working towards having a building of my own before getting married, but you see the country is so messed up right now that building a three bed room apartment for yourself is so difficult.
Families and friends are dragging me to get married without considering my financial status, they all felt I have what it takes to get myself a wife......lol tho I’m not moved or shake by their claims but I really need to know this.

Can one settle down with an available balance of a million naira and feel safe?

If you recently get married here, can you pls do a cost implication of the said wedding and cost of running your marriage since inception??
Many guys are scared, I swear

no amount of money is enough


all you need is a SANE GIRL AND ALSO YOUR SANITY

Aguogba:
Oso ga eme�

Bro i understand Igbo

Entering marriage with the mindset of doing your partner favor always make it herculean, prison-like, frustrating and most unenjoyable. It's a mutual trust shared between two people to look after each others welfare with each watching over their clearly defined God given role. Once you Pray, make your choice, work at it and make it's outcome enjoyable; that won't make you a simpleton.
For the cost, no amount will be enough and no reasonable amount will be too small. Once you know your financial capacity try iron out things with your partner, don't go above your budget or borrow unnecessarily to fund a one day ceremony while you suffer or struggle to rise thereafter. Go for marriage counselling from seasoned bible based marriage counselor, they'll open you up to some secret you are unaware of.
Marriage is indeed honorable and it is not good for a man to be alone, reason for your sense of need.

NOwazobia:
it only tell negatively of the types of ladies we have presently. Copy and paste ladies who love following trend at the expense of their life and serenity. When my time comes, i will be doing only one though or she foot the bill of the wedding if she so wanted it.

Traditional wedding is our white wedding
But our ladies carry another man's culture on their head like Gala and forget theirs

2dice01:
@ Bolded
Pride Price and Wedding Ceremony have swallowed the 1milli

I have a friend in your kinda situation
He is also a nairalander
He has postpone his wedding simply because his in-law are demanding above 300k for Traditional wedding
Now guess how much he will spend on the White Wedding

If only our Parent can cut their greed of milking their Potential son in-law
Also the wives should cut their coat accordingly

People kill themselves too quick simply because they want to have an elaborate wedding. Working with a fix number of invitees helps one curtail excess expenditure.

2dice01:
Traditional wedding is our white wedding
But our ladies carry another man's culture on their head like Gala and forget theirs

The men should start advocating for the women to start footing the expenses of the white wedding if the women so wanted it, except the man wants it likewise.

Is this question coming from someone who's about to get married??

setobaba:


You see what I’m saying, thanks I’m going back to my hustle. No more wedding for now baby mama can do

even if you have 20 billion naira today, for someone like you with your mindset, I won't advise you to go into marriage.

You neither know what you want or what marriage really is.

setobaba:


You see what I’m saying, thanks I’m going back to my hustle. No more wedding for now baby mama can do

Hmm...

If you really want to get married, do a quiet traditional marriage, just few people invited.

Also do a quiet church wedding. You don't need the whole world there. You don't need to organize a trending wedding. I can't even remember the food I ate or some of the things that happened at most weddings I've attended. All I know is that the couple are now married.

Don't let society and its "expectations" keep you from getting married. You only need an understanding woman.

exchange rate at the year you're getting married will determine considering the problem of regulating goods price in Nigeria



my dear brother I proposed 400k but I spent 750k that's traditional alone o, then court and reception in a moderate hall.

2dice01:
@ Bolded
Pride Price and Wedding Ceremony have swallowed the 1milli

I have a friend in your kinda situation
He is also a nairalander
He has postpone his wedding simply because his in-law are demanding above 300k for Traditional wedding
Now guess how much he will spend on the White Wedding

If only our Parent can cut their greed of milking their Potential son in-law
Also the wives should cut their coat accordingly

He needn't postpone. Use all the available funds on traditional wedding and ditch white wedding. It's very unnecessary. Go to a registry with few thousands and get legally joined.

tosinhtml:


Please what is the full meaning of ET?

Executive trainees.
Young university leavers recruited by banks into graduate and management associate positions.

I Did my wedding in October last month really I don’t have anything in my account
But I spent 2.5m , will say God really used people to assist me

JOACHINpedro:
Propose to person wey get sense. Do a lowkey wedding Manage una assets No born pikins wey you no fit Carter for. Work smart, live good and retire better.


It has never been easy for anyone

Right on point...

NOwazobia:
from a person whose sisters and mother are all white. It's really great seeing a white man on nairaland.

Who the hell is this thing?

setobaba:


You see what I’m saying, thanks I’m going back to my hustle. No more wedding for now baby mama can do

you just need someone to discourage you abi you really want marry?

MARRY A GIRL THAT IS WORKING OR INT BUSINESS .DON'T BRING IN LIABILITY BECAUSE REGRETS MAY SURPASS YOUR JOY.

Go search for Donpata, read hin analysis..


I bet you go understand a thing or two about marriage, I for mention Offpoint too but my man dey beer parlour now...

Cheatnotagain:
* The marriage journey is a walk of faith...
From what you’ve said I think you are okay to start the process, your write up was focused on the financial part of the marriage, you’ve not even mentioned the choice of who you will marry which I think is the most important...
* Always focus on the marriage and not the wedding as the latter is just an event of a day or two while the former is for life...
* The steady income part is very important also...
* You also need to know that when you get it right (which I know God will help you to), marriage is a synergy (1 + 1 = 10) where you join efforts with your wife and get tremendous results, so stop seeing everything from your own side of the divide...

You're right marriage is a synergy when you get married to the right person(Man or Woman).

You deserve some accolades for this

I rise

womenareapes:
Mr man you shouldn't be thinking of getting married to those black apes called Naija women but rather you should be thinking of how to date foreign women

you see! these pieces of shiit don't have have anything to offer other than there 1000 diameter blackhole!

the disadvantages of marrying a Naija women far outweigh the advantages!

no economical value, NOTHING!

walking into marriage with Naija women is like signing life contract with the Devil!

Is your mum,a black ape.Did your dad sign a contract with the devil,mtcheeew.Stop generalizing,there are still good female Nigerians out there.

womenareapes:
Who the hell is this thing?

I never knew you also called your mother and sisters ape. I shame for you, especially after imagining the pain of pregnancy she went through to birth a son she was joyous about, not knowing you will later turn out to become an APE. My condolences to your mother and sisters.

Enough to see you through the wedding and atleast a year or two after

If na so every human being dey wait to get millions in account, then 80% of us will still be single....the truth is that Problems no dey finish at all, just cut ur cloth according to your size and double your hustle more when u get married...also open a small business for ur wife to generate more income too. You go old if u dey expect billions of naira b4 u get married, all ur friend pikin go dey call u uncle.

Mikepenny5:
I Did my wedding in October last month really[b] I don’t have anything in my account
But I spent 2.5m [/b], will say God really used people to assist me

chai

humilitypays:
Your case maybe different from his so don't use your case to judge and to advice him to follow your path which may not work for him.


Maybe you have good friends and family members who contributed to your wedding success....some people don't have anybody, in fact some guys are the lifeline of their generation; every family member is looking up to them, so how do you expect such guy to get married with empty pocket



The time has come for we Nigerians to realize that the life of a man or woman is not tied to marriage. Although I won't advice any lady to remain single if she can find a husband because it is more honorable for a lady to be married than to remain forever single.......marriage helps replenishes women......but for guys, they need to get their financial life sorted out to a good extent before embarking on that journey called marriage.


Paying house rent, taking good care of a newborn, helping his wife's family side (it must come so long as you are a Nigerian), etc all come with a financial burden that requires adequate preparation to avoid early death rampant among Nigerian men.

If you check, life expectancy for Nigerian men is around 53yrs while in USA its 78yrs and Ethiopia is 66yrs.

This point should be in front page.

setobaba:
Hello Nairalanders,

I’m 30yrs of age, and I never for once consider getting married, I lost interest totally, but this should incase i decide to tie the nut, how much should I have in my bank account to be on safer side before dragging myself into a life time contract with someone else daughter??

I currently own a car, and managing a salon plus other bussiness thag comes once a while, I’m working towards having a building of my own before getting married, but you see the country is so messed up right now that building a three bed room apartment for yourself is so difficult.
Families and friends are dragging me to get married without considering my financial status, they all felt I have what it takes to get myself a wife......lol tho I’m not moved or shake by their claims but I really need to know this.

Can one settle down with an available balance of a million naira and feel safe?

If you recently get married here, can you pls do a cost implication of the said wedding and cost of running your marriage since inception??
Many guys are scared, I swear

to tell you the truth, if ur parents are not wealthy,you can not save enough, just make do with what you have, first of all make inquiry from ur wife to be on, the cost implications of the traditional rites. just start buying what you can, drinks, get a decent wedding venue,( you fit manage out door to save cost. it's dry season) Bro just do ur best God will handle the rest. afew good people will definitely support you financially, but don't totally bank on that. l did my wedding in September l started planning it from March this year, and it was awesome ( even as my Papa no be dangote) discuss with ur wife to be to plead with her parents Soo that they don't stress you much, that will help a long way. wishing you all the best Bro.

humilitypays:
Your savings is not as important as your continuous income. What you need most is steady means of income, not a static savings. You need a steady, sustainable income of at least NGN200,000 every month for the first 5 years of marriage if you live in Lagos, Abuja, Portharcourt....and an increase to like NGN400,000 - NGN600,000 within the next 6 - 10 years of your marriage to run a healthy, truly comfortable family.


If you are talking about wedding, you can plan wedding with NGN500,000.....in fact plan the wedding now that COVID-19 restricted number of gathering and don't center the success of your marriage around flamboyant wedding. Wedding day does not define how great a marriage would be.


I have a friend whom I was his best man some 7 years ago.....the wedding was so dull like it was a burial ceremony - all thanks to lack of money.....but today, this guy is worth over NGN200million from his legal business deals not through crime.

He married a deserving lady....a virtuous lady who helped to push him to greatness. Whoever he is today, owe tribute to his wife. His wife turned his life around. His wife provided the capital he used to catapult his business empire today....not that his wife was rich though, but she came from a well to do family and she cried to her family members to help her husband and they helped him with no-interest loans that turned his business fortune around.


Marry such lady!

To lessen the burden, make sure your wife-to-be is earning monthly income too.

Be it from her own sustainable business with growth prospect or from a well defined career path or handwork.


Never you make the mistake of marrying an unemployed, lazy, not-making-effort-to-earn lady. That is the beginning of solidifying family poverty.



Marry a lady of vision. Marry a lady who have zeal and burns for success!


Marry a lady who is working to earn a living...a lady who aspires to be like some great women, don't marry a lady who reminds you that so so and so man married and told his wife to stop working because he is rich enough to take care of his family.


Run from ladies with this dirty, foolish mentality......it is the mentality of ladies who land men into perpetual poverty with time, flee from them no matter how pretty she is!

You have a healthy brain bro, nice one

Wedding is for a day but marriage is for a long time. After whatever you spend on wedding day which may be some fat sum of money comes the real thing. It's better for you to have steady income so as to sustain marriage.

paul100:

Is your mum,a black ape.Did your dad sign a contract with the devil,mtcheeew.Stop generalizing,there are still good female Nigerians out there.

you are talking to a male Ape, and you expect an Ape to see something good in that which is not Ape. He already called his mother an Ape, and Apes only give birth to Ape(s). He is only angry that he could not find the Ape he is in the women around him. He will have to travel home to marry his sisters who are Apes because that is the only Ape family in our country. Stupid young man who lacks intelligence and brilliance.

NOwazobia:
i never knew you also called your mother and sisters ape. I shame for you life, especially after imagining the pain of pregnancy she went through to birth a son she was joyous about, not knowing you will later turn out to become an APE. My condolences to your mother and sisters.

you should keep that condolences to your Bastard mother and and sister