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Sixfeetbelle:
Actually, no. Many ladies won't die of hunger if all men chose to be like you. Do you know why? I'll tell you why.


Sex sells.
Men would always want sex.
Men would always pay for sex.
Men would always pay more to have premium sex.



Do you understand now why/how you not spending on any lady is inconsequential to their feeding yearn?

Happyguy201:
You are home trained jare

jaelz:
So I decided to ask this question here because I have a lady that is overly demanding, I mean I tried pegging my monthly spending for her at 30,000 Naira per month including her hair, light, data and cable TV subscription plus one or two outings and hangouts.

But I noticed she never seems satisfied with my little efforts as she demands unimaginable things from me like buying her iPhone 12 and etc.

Guys pls how do you control spending on your women and how much do you spend on them monthly.

jaelz:
So I decided to ask this question here because I have a lady that is overly demanding, I mean I tried pegging my monthly spending for her at 30,000 Naira per month including her hair, light, data and cable TV subscription plus one or two outings and hangouts.

But I noticed she never seems satisfied with my little efforts as she demands unimaginable things from me like buying her iPhone 12 and etc.

Guys pls how do you control spending on your women and how much do you spend on them monthly.

jaelz:
So I decided to ask this question here because I have a lady that is overly demanding, I mean I tried pegging my monthly spending for her at 30,000 Naira per month including her hair, light, data and cable TV subscription plus one or two outings and hangouts.

But I noticed she never seems satisfied with my little efforts as she demands unimaginable things from me like buying her iPhone 12 and etc.

Guys pls how do you control spending on your women and how much do you spend on them monthly.

lecturer50:
I think it is more than 15 years.

Sixfeetbelle:
Riddle me this: you spend (heavily, might I add) on olosho to have sex but you can't spend on your girlfriend you're having free sex with?




I will never understand why ladies allow you guys free sex without getting something in return.

KaluwisxPRO:
Imagine the type of commotion on NL because of $70. Nigeria is really gone, and I mean it. $70 is not even enough to feed a dog monthly. Guys, please look for something better to earn better so you don’t go about thinking 30k is something. If you come here to tell me it is better than nothing, Ogun go fire you.

McTominay:
Thank God I'm single... No stress

Buh life wee str-hess you in other places.

Magnoliaa:
Buh life wee str-hess you in other places.

phorget:
And that was why I said "if all men should follow my path most ladies will die of hunger"
I admitted the fact that most Nigerian men are sissy when it comes to women matter hence the reason I stated that if men would take my path.

Women too do crave for sex and it wouldnt be a bad idea if men get payment for a service rendered abi you think say e dey easy to dey pound pussy?
Let all men stop the nonsense of chasing women around and let's see if women won't pay to have us.

Magnoliaa:
If the economy and money value is in shambles as you've said, then... it's everywhere. Telling them to go look for something better does not really solve anything and contradicts the last bolded and the first bolded.

- Let everybody go and hustle, stay off relationships and 'up' their worth

If relationships are that life-saving, then...

- the basis of relationships should be redefined (one of which is women not also providing free labor like it's expected if they are going to be working and paying bills just like men OR bills and domestic labour be shared between the boyf/gf (whichever works) ).

Uniquekriss:
Let's call a spade a spade, many of us spend double of that amount without recognizing it, hmmmm, we're talking about a whole month o, she visits you, while seeing her off u buy suya, or barbecue fish or shawarma, u spend almost #400 airtime talking to her on the phone daily, u sub for her and sometimes recharge her line, sometimes u send her money for hairdo and nails, u go to visit her with gifts or takeaway, on Sundays u both sit out or see movies, all these don pass 30k monthly bros.

Starzo:
What is free about the sex if one is actually spending money on the said girlfriend??

KaluwisxPRO:
As a man, if you want respect, avoid asking for the contributions of a woman in a home, if she’s a supporting wife that is able and you have nurtured your relationship in the right direction, she will support you in every way, even financially. Men who are yet to do anything for a woman are always expecting women to pick up bills in their home. What has been your contribution in her life until marriage? You invest in a woman, then she sees the value in you and reciprocate. Men and women are built separately, so do not expect women to live a life that is as rugged as men, they will only go that length after you have proved that you are worth it. We can evidently see that in most of our mothers who become breadwinners in our typical Nigerian homes after our fathers must have taken a back seat as breadwinners. So Mr, if you never do anything for woman, no dey expect one woman to follow you share bill. There are men out there who are willing to do what you are calling too much, and women know they have those options, so why should they suffer with you?

Chevrolet076:
why do you do all that?... what for??

Mcslize:
Lol pussy destruction indeed. Something that ladies enjoy than men.

I do give tfare, make them feel at home during visit and anything food, I take care of all that. But what I don't like is giving them money whether they need it or not.

That's because I don't want to be using money as a tool to influence their minds. I don't want to condition her or their minds towards that direction in which the day I do not give, her attitude will change.

That's what I don't want. If she is patient enough, I will reward her maybe later in the future for not having that money entitlement mindset. It's good I am doing this to filter the just gold diggers from the genuine ones.

Once I meet a lady, ask her out, just after the first visit, billing will start. For some I flow along leading them on but nothing will fall from my pocket. Some still like hanging around though after giving them good treats but not money.

Even though I am not giving them money, they still find my other aspect of my personality irresistible making them to still hang around. But I place them as side chicks cuz of that money mentality they already displaced. Sometimes I feel like helping out but ladies always turn generousity to foolishness.

That was how one day I just decided to help one with 1k airtime. Can you imagine the next day, she went on asking me for her house rent? Seriously? That's just because I helped her with airtime.

I usually sub with N3500 and she has been video calling me on WhatsApp, so I just decided to transfer her 1k airtime directly from my account. But she was too greedy to want to use that good gesture to start to bill me for her house rent. I simply told her I don't have. From that day, her video calling and chat reduced. Though she still chat me up once a while.

That mentality is truly not a good one. For some, they don't even wait enough before starting to bill a guy. Just because a guy is fresh , that will immediately activate their money hormone. For their mind, this guy go hold bar o. My hand don catch this one. I will bill am his eyes go clear. Unknown to them, I don't like using money to buy the interest of a girl.

I treat them well of course, but I don't find it interesting dashing them money or giving in to their money demands cuz there is a more important aspect I am fulfilling order than just using money as a tool to attract their interests.

phorget:
Do you know that your assertions were all faulty? I'll tell you why...

1. Ladies themselves do crave for sex just like men.

2. Since ladies will always crave for sex that means that they will be the one to approach and "pay" men in return for sex.

3. If all men will take my path that means we will patiently wait for women to come to us rather than going to them.

4. Sex is sex, nothing like a premium sex.
Premium sex is what the ladies use so as to obtain more money but at the end we will all cum.

achicares:
How did this even make sense to you? What were you thinking as you were typing?

"Sex sells".
Were you using yourself to measure everybody? If you have no sexual control, you conclude that everyone is like that. Life is all about sex. Women are all about sex, we live for sex, right?

Magnoliaa:
If the basis of the relationship is contractual, sex in exchange for spendings, ... then it'll be all right, make sense and the men will see it as an obligation they have to fulfill—paying their gfs for sex.

With a prostituted woman's body being used for their pleasure (highly wrong, though), the context is different. It's a bought consent, and the women negotiate and are negotiated on for a very little sum. Thing is, they are not paying for emotional connection, interest in the dreams of the woman who is pimped, her daily bills (hair, food, subscription, etc., lmaoo).

And this isn't me trying to give guys a pass in any way... "Spending" and as the guys have described here sounds like an extraction, an entitlement which is different from giving from a place where you truly love and appreciate someone. (It's not as if they have and are intentionally keeping a grip on the money in this Bøohari's economy). (And are there men who do that? To 'control' or punish their girlfriends/wife? Yes. But not the focus here).

But constantly feeling like you will lose your partner if you don't want to have sex or can't keep up with leveling their bills??

It's all nonsense to me. The way so many Nigerian men and women do their relationship thing.

Sixfeetbelle:
my sentiments exactly


Spend on the girlfriend

Starzo:
Meaning she's same as a p

Sixfeetbelle:
Relationship in Nigeria can feel like and become a contract if you're not careful. You get "spent on" more if you're of fairer complexion, has more assets and is from a well-to-do background or environment. Thus fair Stacey from Bells University and dark Onome from Delta State University will not get the same "financial treatment" from the same guy Kola, even if his cash and wallet is constant.

Now, judging by this scenario, ladies quickly pick it up and try to fit into the status quo. It isn't good, and as you said, a sign of low self-esteem but the end justifies the means. So upgrade they must even if they have to bring insults to themselves while doing it.

Now, as much as my original comment might have been suggestive, I had a different end goal in mind. Generally, it is a fact that guys will pay more for a night stand with a "high class babe" than with any lady. A well packaged Stacey is a high class babe in men's opinion. So I proposed for this: instead of patronising packaged goods, why not spend on your Onome and turn her into a Stacey. Same thing applicable to married men. There's nothing in that fair side chic that isn't in their wives if only they put in the effort.

But they argue the point with me always and I find it absurd. Paying heavily for a one night stand isn't a problem for them, but spending on their girlfriend (as per treating her well romantically) always seems to infuriate them considerably.

Asides the amount of money being poured into prostitution, why would a lady want to be in a relationship if suddenly transportation fare is such a pain? A common courtesy is now an issue?

And if that is so, then to me, relationships are suddenly not worth it anymore because for a single lady, the sex can be gotten through other means, she doesn't have to stress herself being accountable to him just because, and most importantly she doesn't have to worry about spending extra in order to spice up herself or her look because she's in a relationship. So really, what is the benefit to look forward to?

ceaser:
Okay.

I'm usually not too convenient with the proximity of those waves in such scenario. Being exposed to so much large doses of those radio waves on constant basis.

Sixfeetbelle:
Since I never requested you to tell me why my assertions are faulty, I did not attempt to read the rubbish you put down

#sorrynotsorry

Magnoliaa:
Okay... I get what you're saying.




I understood the bolded differently.

On the rest of what you said, I don't see where we disagree – and with what most of the guys on this thread've said. The scenario you're describing is with men who stereotype some ladies and would rather prefer to go with them than with their "small" babes, choosing not to spend the money they have.

The OP is about entitlement and compulsory billings from ladies (do guys also have their expectations, yes? This is not about that). Except for some few ones with loose nuts here, the guys here unanimously agreed to spending and taking care of their girlfriends they value. They aren't about not spending. And see the list sef, the lady basically is DEMANDING money for her basic upkeep. Toothpaste, toothbrush, etc. Ahan. And still complaining (when she likely knows the financial background of her "bf". I blame the broke guys who go for such high maintenance babes, anyway, and the women who accept them. I know men will still shame her, but if her lifestyle must be funded, she should go for the ones who can). The relationship OP described is shaky and surviving on the guy's continued sustenace -- that's the only thing I've seen guys here advising him against. Don't tie your worth/attraction to your pocket.

And yeah, the way naija relationships are lacks value. I don't know why they'd kick against spending on a girl they don't benefit from—whom they willingly approached.



I don't know how common sha, but men do get free sex from those well-packaged babes and from regular babes. Without paying a dime or very little. Women whose bodies are used for sex are in every corners. This spending this is an ego thing to men, so I'm seeing it from an economic view in which they actually have expenses to cater to and not because they hate spending on their gfs. And some of these broke guys are in the same social circle with their babes, so why/where do want a person just like you are to cough out money to SUSTAIN you? (Note the words and the kind of babes we are talking about. I'm not disputing that there are women who pay bills and run things in the home).



Thing I think about this is: both parties think they are doing each other a favor. Everything is so warped. I come to see you, favor; I open my legs, favor; I spend on you, favor; I wife you, favor. I can see where both guys and girls are coming from in this instance- you love me, why should coming to see me, for us to have sex and enjoy ourselves be such a huge deal you can't afford? And why should paying, getting me to come see you when you love me be something you can't pay for? So men want to keep money to avoid spending unnecessarily to avoid - I don't know, and girls don't want to give in to sex quickly, form about it to avoid - I don't know. Each one trying to gain advantage over the other...



I don't get what you're trying to say here... Rephrase?

KaluwisxPRO:
Oga, you need to upgrade whatever you do and earn better please. You will need it. FYI, I am a man.

Sixfeetbelle:
Well, if you do the bold, can I be your girlfriend?



As for the money hungry behavior of women, I have no argument.

Sixfeetbelle:
Paying and spending isn't the same thing.


In the spending, the guy gets to enjoy too like vacation to nice place, dinner at expensive somewhere, tour visit to a magical elsewhere are all part of spending. Make people wey dey relationships dey pepper us wey dey single. You understand?

moorevic:
Praise the Lord everyone,
i want to thank God for breaking up my relationship of 3 years of deceit, lies and ashawolism. My dear brothers, since the wreckage I've been able to build my self financially and emotionally. [/b]May amadioha visit that lady[b]