Hello Young Man,

I hope you get to see this, the issue about getting married is not about how much you have actually is about planning and taking a step of faith. It is important you know that, you don't have the capacity do do anything, while not take that step and commit all to God.

We should realize that there, is life after marriage, I don't buy the idea of spending lavishly at weddings all in the name of trying to impress people or care about what people will say.

I broke up with my gf who was trying to make me spend lavishly on a wedding when I don't even have a car or a building on my own yet.

Long story short, I found someone who was willing to help me cut my budget to what I can afford, the parents even requested that they don't want a big wedding as they don't want us to spend lavishly and don't have something to fall back to after the wedding.

The issue is not about if you can afford it or not, it's a question of 'is that expense you want to make for your wedding necessary (Bridal shower, Renting event halls that are more expensive than your annual rent etc.)

Sixfeetbelle:


I hope you know thunder will strike you dead you day you marry a Nigerian lady even in that abroad you're going to.

Thunder will strike your entire lineage dead...
What is your business about my marital affairs?

Sixfeetbelle:


And is he not paying for the welfare of the kid and his mama or what am I missing exactly in this whole idea behind having a baby mama?

he will take care of that, but marriage ceremony exempted for now

mechanics:
lolz, Benue State.

Wow cool

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Bros, abeg lend me your ear. No marry when you never ready financially.
Even the baby Mama you're considering can cost you more.

This is the time you begin to understand your father(if you grew up in a nuclear family) and why he never had time to stay at home with you.
A family man's sacrifice cannot be overemphasized.
Pure unrefined love family men had for their wife and children. Once in a while when they err we're quick to castigate them because it's a man's duty to provide. Trust me it's never easy.

A family man is an embodiment of responsibilities right from childhood till his death. Yes! Cos upon his deathbed the bone of contention would be the properties he left behind for his family.

Choose wisely!
Loud it bro.

GboyegaD:


Did you grow up in a home or a house? Did you see your mother gain all and your father lose all? The dysfunction in our society is the result of many failed homes because what I read on NL is an indicator to this fact.

It's ovious your mother is typical example of a use.less .woman and she has sent all of you on a mession to devor men and scam them in the name of marriage or relationship. Na u get sense pass more than 80% of Nigerian men running away from marrying Nigerian girls cos u are .bounce of .liabilities

cbrezy:


Wow cool

Yeah.

2dice01:
Lmao Auntie dey vex You looking for Poverty Elevation Scheme Well I love your greed Na wetin Poverty dey cause Without your type ritualist won't find it easy

Motivational speaker...
Year in year out the same shoe,
The same shirt.
The same advice...
Well if you no dey around na who we for buy recharge card from for hold up.
It is well �

Escabado:


It's ovious your mother is typical example of a use.less .woman and she has sent all of you on a mession to devor men and scam them in the name of marriage or relationship. Na u get sense pass more than 80% of Nigerian men running away from marrying Nigerian girls cos u are .bounce of .liabilities

No vex ooo pin of useful woman. First, if you grew up in a home you would have known that you do not insult others and neither drag their parents into issues.

That said, your level of mediocrity as implied from your write up tells of your misery. Sincerely, the ladies are not the cause of your pains, stop trying to make them seem the cause.

GboyegaD:


No vex ooo pin of useful woman. First, if you grew up in a home you would have known that you do not insult others and neither drag their parents into issues.

That said, your level of mediocrity as implied from your write up tells of your misery. Sincerely, the ladies are not the cause of your pains, stop trying to make them seem the cause.

You talk like a poor.boy that have 7 seven grown up sister who are single like evening news paper and u are hoping for one rich foolish. man to marry them and then help your miserable. Life because to you marriage is a poverty alliviation. Anyway I don't have time for riff.rats. like you

Escabado:


You talk like a poor.boy that have 7 seven grown up sister who are single like evening news paper and u are hoping for one rich foolish. man to marry them and then help your miserable. Life because to you marriage is a poverty alliviation. Anyway I don't have time for riff.rats. like you

Uncle, stop thinking everyone's life is miserable as yours. Let's assume you are right, how does it concern you? I had a good laugh reading the junk you posted though.

GboyegaD:


Uncle, stop thinking everyone's life is miserable as yours. Let's assume you are right, how does it concern you? I had a good laugh reading the junk you posted though.

And who is your Uncle. Mannerless.idiot. you no no were your uncle dey ??

Must every trend in nairaland end with two people insulting themselves.

Escabado:


And who is your Uncle. Mannerless.idiot. you no no were your uncle dey ??

No vex daddy. I forget say na daddy I suppose address person like you.

Oracleforce:


Thunder will strike your entire lineage dead...
What is your business about my marital affairs?

I'm helping the gods put a seal on your declaration about never settling down with a Nigerian woman nah abi I did wrong?

Sixfeetbelle:


Is it that you guys actually think baby mama is cheap that's why you all are advocating for it or what?

If you jam an entitled Nigerian lady without a dime to her name as your baby mama, you'll spend more than you ever could if you had a wife. Go ask Davido and co.

There is no way you will spend money on a babymama than a wife.

BigJoe19:
There is no way you will spend money on a babymama than a wife.

Go get one first and then get back to me.

Sixfeetbelle:


Go get one first and then get back to me.

I have one already

BigJoe19:
I have one already

The good lord will have mercy on your soul. Amen.

Sixfeetbelle:




The good lord will have mercy on your soul. Amen.

What's wrong? Did I say anything bad.

BigJoe19:
What's wrong? Did I say anything bad.

They say marriage is honourable and a blessing. However, that does not cover for single unmarried people sharing a child.

You're commiting a grave sin. Go and marry and stop bringing children into "un-blessed unions"

Sixfeetbelle:


They say marriage is honourable and a blessing. However, that does not cover for single unmarried people sharing a child.

You're commiting a grave sin. Go and marry and stop bringing children into "un-blessed unions"

Lol, ok.

You should not consider anything to be safe for you need to spend only the right amount on your wedding. Most people blow a lot of money on their wedding sonyl for them to regret it later. There is so much more to a married life than the wedding itself. if your girl wants the expensive wedding then you should both contribute 50-50.

amirez:
Hello Young Man,

I hope you get to see this, the issue about getting married is not about how much you have actually is about planning and taking a step of faith. It is important you know that, you don't have the capacity do do anything, while not take that step and commit all to God.

We should realize that there, is life after marriage, I don't buy the idea of spending lavishly at weddings all in the name of trying to impress people or care about what people will say.

I broke up with my gf who was trying to make me spend lavishly on a wedding when I don't even have a car or a building on my own yet.

Long story short, I found someone who was willing to help me cut my budget to what I can afford, the parents even requested that they don't want a big wedding as they don't want us to spend lavishly and don't have something to fall back to after the wedding.

The issue is not about if you can afford it or not, it's a question of 'is that expense you want to make for your wedding necessary (Bridal shower, Renting event halls that are more expensive than your annual rent etc.)

Hmmmmm so how much did you spend in total for your wedding?

For you to know that you have enough money for the wedding and still be left with enough to continue your life then you need to ask yourself this question. Will I be able to live a comfortable life with all this money spent? Will I be able to take care of all of my expenses and most of all will you be at ease and not regret it?

1m

tosinhtml:


Hmmmmm so how much did you spend in total for your wedding?