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I'm a single guy ( 32 years ) who's aspiring to get married maybe in 2 to 3 years time , but news about failed relationships and my experiences gives me cold feet , I can't handle being cheated on as I just got out of one toxic relationship . So I ask people already in marriages if they have for once regretted being married to their current partners , if yes kindly give your reasons and share how you are coping with them , and if no also share your formula towards keeping a happy home , so we learn . Thanks in anticipation .

There is no perfect marriage, I'm not married, but I know at a point in time, one of them(especially the man) will regret getting married to the other, Marriage in this generation is a failed institution.


Know this and know peace


Peace

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Marriage no be force. Anytime you ready nobody go tell you.

Someone said you were never his spec,just an option because she was running out of time,marriage is for the bold ooo,is not even about cheating now,but I do ask myself,how would I live and stay loyal to one person for the unforeseeable future.

Most married men feel deep regrets after getting married. It's an Esoteric truth actually. Most women are full of shit.

bouncin04:
I'm a single guy ( 32 years ) who's aspiring to get married maybe in 2 to 3 years time , but news about failed relationships and my experiences gives me cold feet , I can't handle being cheated on as I just got out of one toxic relationship . So I ask people already in marriages if they have for once regretted being married to their current partners , if yes kindly give your reasons and share how you are coping with them , and if no also share your formula towards keeping a happy home , so we learn . Thanks in anticipation .

. For me, marriage is like most human endeavors. Being successful with it comes with a price. I wouldn't know if there are short-cuts to it

My people dint regret

So I won't too

Tho I'm about settling with a white lady

av regretted sooo many relationships n i think marriage would even b worst going by the way my married friends keep complaining n regretting whenever we do relax to watch football during weekends or hang out together..
they do talk marriage as if they are in life time bondage n are dieing silently n i end up advising n convincing them dt all marriages are d same n none is perfect...I just pray dt mine ends up a bit better n dts if I would get ready for such "bondage"...

Marriage is very tough business

bouncin04:
I'm a single guy ( 32 years ) who's aspiring to get married maybe in 2 to 3 years time , but news about failed relationships and my experiences gives me cold feet , I can't handle being cheated on as I just got out of one toxic relationship . So I ask people already in marriages if they have for once regretted being married to their current partners , if yes kindly give your reasons and share how you are coping with them , and if no also share your formula towards keeping a happy home , so we learn . Thanks in anticipation .

You can't handle being cheated on? So you completely rule out the possibility of you cheating on your wife. You won't be taken serious one bit if this stereotype you have towards women persists. Change it first.

blinking001:
[s]Most married men feel deep regrets after getting married. It's an Esoteric truth actually. Most women are full of shit. [/s]

You're saying trash... Why the hatred towards women by NL guys? It's so annoying and disgusting

I regretted mine, not necessarily for what she did but for my inability to follow my instincts about her which could have prevented the calamity. We were not married but things had been done towards that like introduction and trad before kasala burst. I was happy kasala burst before we went farther.

For anyone who wants to get married, by all means do so...but marry for the right reasons. You first need to understand yourself and your own limitations. If your aim is to have children, perhaps a contractual arrangement suffices. Unfortunately, many marriages today are not different from service contracts: I will provide shelter, food and security while you provide pussy when I want it and how I want it, and you must not provide it to someone else. Or I am marrying you because society expects and would respect me to be married as it shows I am responsible.

The Dutch Prime Minister is single.

Or I'd marry you only because I love you. These are wrong reasons to be married. For a potential spouse, look at compatibility, companionship, communication, character and charisma. Exude these qualities yourself and you shall find it in your potential partner. Love will fade, the butterflies in your stomach shall die, your partner shall irritate you, what then would hold your marriage?

The stories of wayward men and women are told everyday on this forum. Don't let them deter you. There are very good men and women from very good homes who are responsible to be wifed or husbanded. I know this because all my sisters have been married for years and no one has come to report that they have issues with them.

Don't go looking for a wife. Develop yourself and have the values of someone husbandable, creation will link you to your spouse.

In closing, my question to you is:

Why exactly do you want to get married? Are you truly convinced of the answer you give yourself?

My people dint regret So I won't too Tho I'm about settling with a white lady

Just marry the right woman...and yhull be happy for the rest of yhur life.... although life is not a bed of roses...but yhull scale through...

But if yhu marry the wrong woman....yhull be miserable...

blinking001:
Most married men feel deep regrets after getting married. It's an Esoteric truth actually. Most women are full of shit.

Most married women feel deep regrets after getting married...most men are full of shit...

Stop being narcissistic..

Jodha:
Most married women feel deep regrets after getting married...most men are full of shit...

Stop being narcissistic..

It's only in women matter they have strength. Team "Alpha" apes

The truth is that if you can endure women's repugnant character you won't regret your marriage.

Marriage is all about enduring each other's character.

if you have tough enduring skin you'll have a PERFECT marriage.

@the bolded.

If you don't want to get married, that is on you and your choice to make. Don't come here and be saying bullshit

icebird25:
Every married men here is regretting on venturing into the scam called marriage ..they wont tell you is a scam because they want you to be a victim too ....just take a look at the Duncan mighty's marriage ...if to born dey hungry you just look for one woman and impregnate her and make her your baby mama ...even women prefer baby mama status this days than being married, and every woman has the potential to cheat ..you were never his spec but just an option, if she sees that man that's her everyday crush ..you wouldn't mind to offer her pussy to him .. that's to show what women can do.. marriage is a scam, baby mama all the way ...all men was born equal and free. If you later go and marry you are on your own

let me tell you, time will come when you will regret ever marrying her and their will be a time when you bless the day you meet her, marriage is full of ups and downs.. marriage is a game of card cos you can't know your woman's character 100%..

bouncin04:
I'm a single guy ( 32 years ) who's aspiring to get married maybe in 2 to 3 years time , but news about failed relationships and my experiences gives me cold feet , I can't handle being cheated on as I just got out of one toxic relationship . So I ask people already in marriages if they have for once regretted being married to their current partners , if yes kindly give your reasons and share how you are coping with them , and if no also share your formula towards keeping a happy home , so we learn . Thanks in anticipation .

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Don't let the news of what u read up online deter u.
Real marriages take place in the home and not all these nonsense being paraded online...

I'm not married, but worried you may be marriage-shy because of stories and experiences. It's normal

After staying with very successful couples, i'd just say you should cancel any perfect marriage picture you may have formed before now.

There will be arguments, there will be disagreements and maybe momentary regrets due to anger or other things. Couples that rise above that took time to work things out.

bouncin04:
I'm a single guy ( 32 years ) who's aspiring to get married maybe in 2 to 3 years time , but news about failed relationships and my experiences gives me cold feet , I can't handle being cheated on as I just got out of one toxic relationship . So I ask people already in marriages if they have for once regretted being married to their current partners , if yes kindly give your reasons and share how you are coping with them , and if no also share your formula towards keeping a happy home , so we learn . Thanks in anticipation .

icebird25:
Every married men here is regretting on venturing into the scam called marriage ..they wont tell you is a scam because they want you to be a victim too ....just take a look at the Duncan mighty's marriage ...if to born dey hungry you just look for one woman and impregnate her and make her your baby mama ...even women prefer baby mama status this days than being married, and every woman has the potential to cheat ..you were never his spec but just an option, if she sees that man that's her everyday crush ..you wouldn't mind to offer her pussy to him .. that's to show what women can do.. marriage is a scam, baby mama all the way ...all men was born equal and free. If you later go and marry you are on your own

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Provide proof that EVERY married man out there is regretting ever getting married or u remain silent..

I honestly hate to see people type crap, how can someone say every married man is in regret

That to me comes from a place of unresolved pain.

Uyi168:
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Provide proof that EVERY married man out there is regretting ever getting married or u remain silent..

bouncin04:
I'm a single guy ( 32 years ) who's aspiring to get married maybe in 2 to 3 years time , but news about failed relationships and my experiences gives me cold feet , I can't handle being cheated on as I just got out of one toxic relationship . So I ask people already in marriages if they have for once regretted being married to their current partners , if yes kindly give your reasons and share how you are coping with them , and if no also share your formula towards keeping a happy home , so we learn . Thanks in anticipation .

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There's no perfect spouse or marriage anywhere. Just make sure you study whoever you're dating very well to see if you will be able to cope with their imperfections. Sadly men are too focused on physical looks and women too desperate to become Mrs to see through any flaws their prospective spouse may have. Las Las, na hide my id go end their matter.

Don't be discouraged by all the tales of gloom and doom you read on social media about marriage. There are a lot of marriages that are doing well.

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Let me park here. It's gonna be an interesting topic.

a lot of things on my mind to tell you

but you know what?

I won't say a word