Dear Young Married Men and Women,

Stay away from your partners phones!

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MeeztaFabulouz:
It is really terrible to feel suicidal all because of marriage. I use use to see different news of how people commit suicide because of relationships and I always felt it was so stupid to think of suicide just because of a fail relationship.

Now I have seen it all clear that depression is really very bad especially when you feel so depressed in a marriage you work so hard and do everything to protect and make your family happy. Its very painful when you know honestly inside your heart that you don't cheat on your wife, provide everything she wants for herself and the kids even when business is quite rough.

She has no conscience and no regard for our union and our home. I am a guy that don't think about looking at wife's phone or suspecting her for anything but then after our first child she changed completely and as of today I don't know were I stand anymore because of my kids. I opened a business for her just so that she won't be like a house wife but she has completely taken the business more important than the family and wake up 4am to start cooking and close 8pm at night. Stressing herself so much but always complaining business is not moving and she is not making any money.

I sponsor everything in the home though am not complaining because that's what a man should do, but she does not have regard for anything or appreciate anything I do. Can you imagine I give her money for feeding weekly even though she is running a food business, she buys few food stuffs in the house which can stay almost two weeks without us eating them because we basically feed from food she cooks in her restaurant. I decided not to bother myself and just give her money to always ensure her business is moving and at least food will not be a problem for us.

One faithful day, I decided to check her phone because I observed a certain strange behavior about her and how she likes to off her phone at night or sometimes when I am around. I saw different chats with some two guys she claimed one was her ex boyfriend that just likes to check on her once in a while, and the other guy was someone I remember like coming to eat in her restaurant but she said they went to school together and he is working with a construction company doing a building project close to her restaurant. She also claimed that when they were in school he was asking her out even till they fished school but she preferred her ex boyfriend to him and when she had issues with her ex that was when I came into her life.

If the story she told me is true or not, I wasn't really bothered anymore because I know its normal for a woman you met at 26 years to have met other guys before you and obviously still has guys that don't respect people's marriage and still do anything to sleep with a married woman. But my paid now is because I feel so respected by many of the things she does and when I think of divorce, I only feel for my kids who will now have to grow up with another man or having to visit their mum and see her with another man.

Recently I have become so depressed that I have been thinking of suicide so that my kids will know their dad is no more rather than knowing that their dad is still alive but can only be with either daddy or mummy and not as a complete family. My depression is getting worse especially when I think about all I have done for her and the kids just to always make them happy but in return, she doest appreciate or even have any regard anymore for what is called "FAMILY"

Over 7 years now and at this point I really feel suicidal. Please I really need help because I make this big mistake.

OP SORRY FOR YOUR WIFE BEHAVIOUR BUT IF I MUST ADVICE ALL MEN SHOULD NEVER OPEN RESTAURANT OR BAR BUSINESS FOR THEIR WIVES. THE MEN THAT COMES THERE ARE VERY RANDY MEN AND TEMTATIONS CAN START FROM THERE.
I DE GO BAR AND I NO AS E DE BE

Most feedback we are getting from married couples are just insane, and you think I will chook hand inside this wahala? hmm

kalu61:
I don't want to kind but say you are a fool for contemplatinh suicide in this issue. Even of the worst happens, is suicide the solution you came up with in your head.
Die because of a woman.
Not every marriage must work and if yours is destined for it, there nothing you can do about it but take your life abi

Most of you unmarried NL teenagers judge things with your underdeveloped immature brains.
Marriage is not your girlfriend, boyfriend dumb relationship. It's always easy to come here and spew trash until you grow up, marry and find yourself in exactly same situation.
Kids keep polluting NL with their childish comments.

OP, if I were you, I wouldn't say anything to her, would call her mom and say please come and take your daughter back, I'm not marrying her again

Women are always scared to go back to their parents' house.

MeeztaFabulouz:
It is really terrible to feel suicidal all because of marriage. I use use to see different news of how people commit suicide because of relationships and I always felt it was so stupid to think of suicide just because of a fail relationship.

Now I have seen it all clear that depression is really very bad especially when you feel so depressed in a marriage you work so hard and do everything to protect and make your family happy. Its very painful when you know honestly inside your heart that you don't cheat on your wife, provide everything she wants for herself and the kids even when business is quite rough.

She has no conscience and no regard for our union and our home. I am a guy that don't think about looking at wife's phone or suspecting her for anything but then after our first child she changed completely and as of today I don't know were I stand anymore because of my kids. I opened a business for her just so that she won't be like a house wife but she has completely taken the business more important than the family and wake up 4am to start cooking and close 8pm at night. Stressing herself so much but always complaining business is not moving and she is not making any money.

I sponsor everything in the home though am not complaining because that's what a man should do, but she does not have regard for anything or appreciate anything I do. Can you imagine I give her money for feeding weekly even though she is running a food business, she buys few food stuffs in the house which can stay almost two weeks without us eating them because we basically feed from food she cooks in her restaurant. I decided not to bother myself and just give her money to always ensure her business is moving and at least food will not be a problem for us.

One faithful day, I decided to check her phone because I observed a certain strange behavior about her and how she likes to off her phone at night or sometimes when I am around. I saw different chats with some two guys she claimed one was her ex boyfriend that just likes to check on her once in a while, and the other guy was someone I remember like coming to eat in her restaurant but she said they went to school together and he is working with a construction company doing a building project close to her restaurant. She also claimed that when they were in school he was asking her out even till they fished school but she preferred her ex boyfriend to him and when she had issues with her ex that was when I came into her life.

If the story she told me is true or not, I wasn't really bothered anymore because I know its normal for a woman you met at 26 years to have met other guys before you and obviously still has guys that don't respect people's marriage and still do anything to sleep with a married woman. But my paid now is because I feel so respected by many of the things she does and when I think of divorce, I only feel for my kids who will now have to grow up with another man or having to visit their mum and see her with another man.

Recently I have become so depressed that I have been thinking of suicide so that my kids will know their dad is no more rather than knowing that their dad is still alive but can only be with either daddy or mummy and not as a complete family. My depression is getting worse especially when I think about all I have done for her and the kids just to always make them happy but in return, she doest appreciate or even have any regard anymore for what is called "FAMILY"

Over 7 years now and at this point I really feel suicidal. Please I really need help because I make this big mistake.

You have not told us the nature of your marital problems and why you are depressed.

Secondly, there is a disconnect between you and your wife. What is the source of your disconnect?

Lastly, you seem to suffer from Co-dependence syndrome. You seem to derive joy from your wife and your kids.

In as much as this is normal for a married man, cos after all, family is the reason for the hustle, the point is crystal clear that none can make you happy except yourself.

You need a change of environment. Just pack your bags and disappear for a week or month, if you can. Even if it's Badagry, Calabar or Benin Republic, please disappear.

Don't tell her anything. Just tell the kids you are travelling.

If she is still into you, she will be worried sick and she will get the message and you guys can sit and talk when you get back.

But if she has moved on, and is only in your life cos of the kids, you will know from her reaction.

This will enable you make an informed decision upon your return. Guess you will learn to move on with life too.

If you kill yourself today, she might not even shed a shred of tears before sucking the next available coc.k. I must be honest.

Just know for free that a woman can move on emotionally, but remain in the marriage cos of the kids.

For whatever it is worth, there is a disconnect in your marriage.

MeeztaFabulouz:
It is really terrible to feel suicidal all because of marriage. I use use to see different news of how people commit suicide because of relationships and I always felt it was so stupid to think of suicide just because of a fail relationship.

Now I have seen it all clear that depression is really very bad especially when you feel so depressed in a marriage you work so hard and do everything to protect and make your family happy. Its very painful when you know honestly inside your heart that you don't cheat on your wife, provide everything she wants for herself and the kids even when business is quite rough.

She has no conscience and no regard for our union and our home. I am a guy that don't think about looking at wife's phone or suspecting her for anything but then after our first child she changed completely and as of today I don't know were I stand anymore because of my kids. I opened a business for her just so that she won't be like a house wife but she has completely taken the business more important than the family and wake up 4am to start cooking and close 8pm at night. Stressing herself so much but always complaining business is not moving and she is not making any money.

I sponsor everything in the home though am not complaining because that's what a man should do, but she does not have regard for anything or appreciate anything I do. Can you imagine I give her money for feeding weekly even though she is running a food business, she buys few food stuffs in the house which can stay almost two weeks without us eating them because we basically feed from food she cooks in her restaurant. I decided not to bother myself and just give her money to always ensure her business is moving and at least food will not be a problem for us.

One faithful day, I decided to check her phone because I observed a certain strange behavior about her and how she likes to off her phone at night or sometimes when I am around. I saw different chats with some two guys she claimed one was her ex boyfriend that just likes to check on her once in a while, and the other guy was someone I remember like coming to eat in her restaurant but she said they went to school together and he is working with a construction company doing a building project close to her restaurant. She also claimed that when they were in school he was asking her out even till they fished school but she preferred her ex boyfriend to him and when she had issues with her ex that was when I came into her life.

If the story she told me is true or not, I wasn't really bothered anymore because I know its normal for a woman you met at 26 years to have met other guys before you and obviously still has guys that don't respect people's marriage and still do anything to sleep with a married woman. But my paid now is because I feel so respected by many of the things she does and when I think of divorce, I only feel for my kids who will now have to grow up with another man or having to visit their mum and see her with another man.

Recently I have become so depressed that I have been thinking of suicide so that my kids will know their dad is no more rather than knowing that their dad is still alive but can only be with either daddy or mummy and not as a complete family. My depression is getting worse especially when I think about all I have done for her and the kids just to always make them happy but in return, she doest appreciate or even have any regard anymore for what is called "FAMILY"

Over 7 years now and at this point I really feel suicidal. Please I really need help because I make this big mistake.

After reading through your long post I'm still searching for what she did wrong that is making you suicidal.

I was expecting you to write that you saw chats where she was attesting to a swell time with another man.

All you wrote points to nothing. Many married Ladies still communicate with their exes for one reason or the other and as long as it has no sexual angle you have nothing to worry about... Even me I still chat up my exes.

Guy abeg you have nothing to worry about.

BlessedNuel:


Bro.... sometimes I feel like remaining single all the days of my life.

Wetin women dey do dey pain me.......They cheat alot

But i think you knw they are not cheating with themselves o.
Its a societal decadence, yet we still have sooooo many virtues women, if you open ur eyes wide and also involve God, you will meet bone of ur bone.

Even after marriage you still need to be putting eyes on activities of ur wife and people she relates with.

MeeztaFabulouz:
It is really terrible to feel suicidal all because of marriage. I use use to see different news of how people commit suicide because of relationships and I always felt it was so stupid to think of suicide just because of a fail relationship.

Now I have seen it all clear that depression is really very bad especially when you feel so depressed in a marriage you work so hard and do everything to protect and make your family happy. Its very painful when you know honestly inside your heart that you don't cheat on your wife, provide everything she wants for herself and the kids even when business is quite rough.

She has no conscience and no regard for our union and our home. I am a guy that don't think about looking at wife's phone or suspecting her for anything but then after our first child she changed completely and as of today I don't know were I stand anymore because of my kids. I opened a business for her just so that she won't be like a house wife but she has completely taken the business more important than the family and wake up 4am to start cooking and close 8pm at night. Stressing herself so much but always complaining business is not moving and she is not making any money.

I sponsor everything in the home though am not complaining because that's what a man should do, but she does not have regard for anything or appreciate anything I do. Can you imagine I give her money for feeding weekly even though she is running a food business, she buys few food stuffs in the house which can stay almost two weeks without us eating them because we basically feed from food she cooks in her restaurant. I decided not to bother myself and just give her money to always ensure her business is moving and at least food will not be a problem for us.

One faithful day, I decided to check her phone because I observed a certain strange behavior about her and how she likes to off her phone at night or sometimes when I am around. I saw different chats with some two guys she claimed one was her ex boyfriend that just likes to check on her once in a while, and the other guy was someone I remember like coming to eat in her restaurant but she said they went to school together and he is working with a construction company doing a building project close to her restaurant. She also claimed that when they were in school he was asking her out even till they fished school but she preferred her ex boyfriend to him and when she had issues with her ex that was when I came into her life.

If the story she told me is true or not, I wasn't really bothered anymore because I know its normal for a woman you met at 26 years to have met other guys before you and obviously still has guys that don't respect people's marriage and still do anything to sleep with a married woman. But my paid now is because I feel so respected by many of the things she does and when I think of divorce, I only feel for my kids who will now have to grow up with another man or having to visit their mum and see her with another man.

Recently I have become so depressed that I have been thinking of suicide so that my kids will know their dad is no more rather than knowing that their dad is still alive but can only be with either daddy or mummy and not as a complete family. My depression is getting worse especially when I think about all I have done for her and the kids just to always make them happy but in return, she doest appreciate or even have any regard anymore for what is called "FAMILY"

Over 7 years now and at this point I really feel suicidal. Please I really need help because I make this big mistake.

Ohh so sad....pls whatever you do or how it hurts, do not consider suicide as a "solution". How about the kids you love so much and will leave behind. What happens to them?

Every situation or problem has a solution.

I pray God grant you the strength and wisdom in working to find a solution to this situation...

Toks2008:


After reading through your long post I'm still searching for what she did wrong that is making you suicidal.

Are you really okay? Did you smoke weed?

MeeztaFabulouz:
It is really terrible to feel suicidal all because of marriage. I use use to see different news of how people commit suicide because of relationships and I always felt it was so stupid to think of suicide just because of a fail relationship.

Now I have seen it all clear that depression is really very bad especially when you feel so depressed in a marriage you work so hard and do everything to protect and make your family happy. Its very painful when you know honestly inside your heart that you don't cheat on your wife, provide everything she wants for herself and the kids even when business is quite rough.

She has no conscience and no regard for our union and our home. I am a guy that don't think about looking at wife's phone or suspecting her for anything but then after our first child she changed completely and as of today I don't know were I stand anymore because of my kids. I opened a business for her just so that she won't be like a house wife but she has completely taken the business more important than the family and wake up 4am to start cooking and close 8pm at night. Stressing herself so much but always complaining business is not moving and she is not making any money.

I sponsor everything in the home though am not complaining because that's what a man should do, but she does not have regard for anything or appreciate anything I do. Can you imagine I give her money for feeding weekly even though she is running a food business, she buys few food stuffs in the house which can stay almost two weeks without us eating them because we basically feed from food she cooks in her restaurant. I decided not to bother myself and just give her money to always ensure her business is moving and at least food will not be a problem for us.

One faithful day, I decided to check her phone because I observed a certain strange behavior about her and how she likes to off her phone at night or sometimes when I am around. I saw different chats with some two guys she claimed one was her ex boyfriend that just likes to check on her once in a while, and the other guy was someone I remember like coming to eat in her restaurant but she said they went to school together and he is working with a construction company doing a building project close to her restaurant. She also claimed that when they were in school he was asking her out even till they fished school but she preferred her ex boyfriend to him and when she had issues with her ex that was when I came into her life.

If the story she told me is true or not, I wasn't really bothered anymore because I know its normal for a woman you met at 26 years to have met other guys before you and obviously still has guys that don't respect people's marriage and still do anything to sleep with a married woman. But my paid now is because I feel so respected by many of the things she does and when I think of divorce, I only feel for my kids who will now have to grow up with another man or having to visit their mum and see her with another man.

Recently I have become so depressed that I have been thinking of suicide so that my kids will know their dad is no more rather than knowing that their dad is still alive but can only be with either daddy or mummy and not as a complete family. My depression is getting worse especially when I think about all I have done for her and the kids just to always make them happy but in return, she doest appreciate or even have any regard anymore for what is called "FAMILY"

Over 7 years now and at this point I really feel suicidal. Please I really need help because I make this big mistake.

Do you have sense at all?

Personally, I believe majority of women are not to be trusted. Married or single.

Fussion1000:




But i think you knw they are not cheating with themselves o.
Its a societal decadence, yet we still have sooooo many virtues women, if you open ur eyes wide and also involve God, you will meet bone of ur bone.

Yes sure...but they are just few.

It's very hard for them to be contented......their inferiority complex is on a top notch

Say " NO TO SUICIDE"
GET ANOTHER WIFE AND MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE
LIFE GOES ON

MeeztaFabulouz:
It is really terrible to feel suicidal all because of marriage. I use use to see different news of how people commit suicide because of relationships and I always felt it was so stupid to think of suicide just because of a fail relationship.

Now I have seen it all clear that depression is really very bad especially when you feel so depressed in a marriage you work so hard and do everything to protect and make your family happy. Its very painful when you know honestly inside your heart that you don't cheat on your wife, provide everything she wants for herself and the kids even when business is quite rough.

She has no conscience and no regard for our union and our home. I am a guy that don't think about looking at wife's phone or suspecting her for anything but then after our first child she changed completely and as of today I don't know were I stand anymore because of my kids. I opened a business for her just so that she won't be like a house wife but she has completely taken the business more important than the family and wake up 4am to start cooking and close 8pm at night. Stressing herself so much but always complaining business is not moving and she is not making any money.

I sponsor everything in the home though am not complaining because that's what a man should do, but she does not have regard for anything or appreciate anything I do. Can you imagine I give her money for feeding weekly even though she is running a food business, she buys few food stuffs in the house which can stay almost two weeks without us eating them because we basically feed from food she cooks in her restaurant. I decided not to bother myself and just give her money to always ensure her business is moving and at least food will not be a problem for us.

One faithful day, I decided to check her phone because I observed a certain strange behavior about her and how she likes to off her phone at night or sometimes when I am around. I saw different chats with some two guys she claimed one was her ex boyfriend that just likes to check on her once in a while, and the other guy was someone I remember like coming to eat in her restaurant but she said they went to school together and he is working with a construction company doing a building project close to her restaurant. She also claimed that when they were in school he was asking her out even till they fished school but she preferred her ex boyfriend to him and when she had issues with her ex that was when I came into her life.

If the story she told me is true or not, I wasn't really bothered anymore because I know its normal for a woman you met at 26 years to have met other guys before you and obviously still has guys that don't respect people's marriage and still do anything to sleep with a married woman. But my paid now is because I feel so respected by many of the things she does and when I think of divorce, I only feel for my kids who will now have to grow up with another man or having to visit their mum and see her with another man.

Recently I have become so depressed that I have been thinking of suicide so that my kids will know their dad is no more rather than knowing that their dad is still alive but can only be with either daddy or mummy and not as a complete family. My depression is getting worse especially when I think about all I have done for her and the kids just to always make them happy but in return, she doest appreciate or even have any regard anymore for what is called "FAMILY"

Over 7 years now and at this point I really feel suicidal. Please I really need help because I make this big mistake.

Because of this small isue you want to die. What if you meet ur wife where they are sleeping her what ll you do. Let me advice you, take that marriage like a pinch of salt. Don't go to her shop again. Don't sleep with her again. Enjoy ur self outside before you get home.is your money spent it on your self. If is too hard for you don't fight her. Just pack ur cloth and document go start a new life. She ll knw you value when is time to pay house rent.

Who says a man should pay all bills........ You wan die........

Real guys go through worst than this ,they never think of suicide or deoression.
Kill ursef, u will see men knacking her from ur grave and ontop of ur grave.
Ur plan; get side babe
Divorce
Settle issues.
As for me, I pick side babe dat wil make me happy, wen she sees u drifting away, she beg or get out

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Hmmm, though I haven't married yet in other to have the experience. But based on my experience on disagreement that do usually occur in marriage cos I grew up in family house, so I have seen alots of feud between spouse. So therefore, based on my own perspective on these issue, I will advised u to prayed over it. Consult your pastor or Alfa for an advised. May almighty allah guide u and protect your marriage.

MeeztaFabulouz:


You can call me a fool, its fine. But I don't wish you my situation and pray you never meet depression.

Sucide is cowardice Bro, No matter the reason, Always remember, It is not going to remain gloomy.

Firstly if you don't like Her talking to other Men, have you spoken to her about it, You are a Man Bro, at least you did not say it is because she is sturborn, Talk to her to delete thier numbers and see what she does.

Secondly, what is the extent of the relationship she has with them, You did not give any details,

YOU BETTER DON'T LET THE devil AND HIS demons AGGRAVATE SOMETHING THAT IS NOT WORTH IT IN YOUR HEAD, I must tell you the devil is very good at that, The bible calls it the Fiery Darts of the wicked.

You need to get closer to God Bro, So that God has your side, He will then fight for you and also give you the Wisdom, Knowledge and Understanding to deal with the issue.

Don't be deceived, every marraige has it's challenge (or learning curve).

This is not the time to QUIT.

I Pray that God will lead and direct you to the right and wise decisions and take to make your Family a happy Home,

And God will give you PEACE, ABUNDANT PEACE, that you'll even remember today later and smile it of and THANK GOD for the progress you have made.

It is well.

Macsjebs:

Really sorry about your experience, I would suggest you both have an open discussion and iron things out; It's really not some ladies fault, guys keep pestering them irrespective

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What sort of open discussions are you talking about here man.

You think every man should be subjected to the rules of women..

The man has been enduring long time

Read my words to him

Can’t the woman respect and knows that the husband is trying hence respecting him and honoring him should Be her primary assignment,which kain open discussions you Dey talk self..

Abiii na u Dey chat the woman for back niii

If you are married. And your wife is loyal and faithful to you. You don’t know what God has done for you

I hope and pray that you are a Christian and a true one at that. If you are then your case is not hopeless and suicide must never be contemplated. Jesus said the devil comes to steal, kill and destroy. He is stealing your joy and peace. He is destroying your marriage and family and he will achieve the final one which is to kill you. That is why thoughts of suicide are coming to you. Seek immediate help from genuine and matured Christians, Pray and command the devil to stop his trespass into your territo
ry. Commit your wife's heart to God. I believe the situation is not beyond redemption. Please never think suicide again. That is Satan seeking to take you to hell where he is going. Read John 10:10 Be wise.

foreshore:


Do you have sense at all?

He lacks common sense. In fact, common sense is not common for him.

am so so happy dear love for even opening up. God will keep u and ur kids. As it is now, please and pls don't CONSIDER suicide pls . . . it doesn't give respect to death , human and God. Guide ur heart with confidence .

Pls instead of suicide go for devoice

Bigggloadofcum:
Hmm!

This matter carry weight o. As proper and justifiable as it is to check the phones of our spouses, the discovery might turn out to be SUICIDAL.

First, you are within ur marital right to check on ur wife's phone even though a few persons might disagree with that.

From your writeup I could deduce u are broke even though you try ur best to provide for ur family. The woman you married doesn't feel the need to respect someone who she feels she's better than financially.

This is a real story. When I was 9 my dad was going through serious financial challenges and even though my mum was totally supportive, he felt incomplete. One evening I saw my dad with a rope.

He didn't say a word to me... He went out. Late at night he didn't come home and we started looking for him but he was no where to be found. There was no phones like there is now.

Late on oga came back looking frail and disconnected from this earth. We welcomed him as usual. Next day he called me and told me that he had hung the rope to a tree and was about tying it round his neck but he thought about my siblings and I.

Few years down, thinks turned around tremendously. He became happy, our family became happy.

Now b4 you take that suicidal step, think of your children, double ur hustle but if that woman is cheating on you, kick her ass out. You deserve better.

A woman shouldn't be the end of you. There is always light at the end of the tunnel.

May God enrich you with more wisdom bro. Death shouldn't be the last option.

I see why some men dont really like marrying a woman that is still in her youthful exuberant age in life, (20s), they will prefer to marry someone who has passed that stage in life even though some will call them evening newspaper, but they will still come for advice wen morning newspapers Bleep them up


Back to the matter, mr man, it is only a coward that thinks suicide is the only solution to their problems

Secondly, wen u die because a woman, I guarantee u that thousands of women will walk pass ur graveside

Thirdly, ur wife will say ,no be me kill am na, na him kill himself, so life must go on

Fourthly, u would have thought ur children that wen life is difficult for them, they should take on suicide

Lastly,, ...... coming soon

grandlexuz:

Idiots all over the place

Who?

MeeztaFabulouz:
[s]It is really terrible to feel suicidal all because of marriage. I use use to see different news of how people commit suicide because of relationships and I always felt it was so stupid to think of suicide just because of a fail relationship.Now I have seen it all clear that depression is really very bad especially when you feel so depressed in a marriage you work so hard and do everything to protect and make your family happy. Its very painful when you know honestly inside your heart that you don't cheat on your wife, provide everything she wants for herself and the kids even when business is quite rough.She has no conscience and no regard for our union and our home. I am a guy that don't think about looking at wife's phone or suspecting her for anything but then after our first child she changed completely and as of today I don't know were I stand anymore because of my kids. I opened a business for her just so that she won't be like a house wife but she has completely taken the business more important than the family and wake up 4am to start cooking and close 8pm at night. Stressing herself so much but always complaining business is not moving and she is not making any money.I sponsor everything in the home though am not complaining because that's what a man should do, but she does not have regard for anything or appreciate anything I do. Can you imagine I give her money for feeding weekly even though she is running a food business, she buys few food stuffs in the house which can stay almost two weeks without us eating them because we basically feed from food she cooks in her restaurant. I decided not to bother myself and just give her money to always ensure her business is moving and at least food will not be a problem for us.One faithful day, I decided to check her phone because I observed a certain strange behavior about her and how she likes to off her phone at night or sometimes when I am around. I saw different chats with some two guys she claimed one was her ex boyfriend that just likes to check on her once in a while, and the other guy was someone I remember like coming to eat in her restaurant but she said they went to school together and he is working with a construction company doing a building project close to her restaurant. She also claimed that when they were in school he was asking her out even till they fished school but she preferred her ex boyfriend to him and when she had issues with her ex that was when I came into her life.If the story she told me is true or not, I wasn't really bothered anymore because I know its normal for a woman you met at 26 years to have met other guys before you and obviously still has guys that don't respect people's marriage and still do anything to sleep with a married woman. But my paid now is because I feel so respected by many of the things she does and when I think of divorce, I only feel for my kids who will now have to grow up with another man or having to visit their mum and see her with another man. Recently I have become so depressed that I have been thinking of suicide so that my kids will know their dad is no more rather than knowing that their dad is still alive but can only be with either daddy or mummy and not as a complete family. My depression is getting worse especially when I think about all I have done for her and the kids just to always make them happy but in return, she doest appreciate or even have any regard anymore for what is called "FAMILY"Over 7 years now and at this point I really feel suicidal. Please I really need help because I make this big mistake[/s].

Nonsense.

I hate it when men lose total control over women.

no need to think suicidal since you talk to your wife and she told you her own side why not talk to the men involve and if no changes then i guess u have to get a divorce

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MOST MARRIED PEOPLE LIVE LIKE THIS AND IT'S STARTING TO FEEL LIKE MARRIAGE HAS OUTLIVED ITS USEFULNESS.

I'VE FIGURED MANY PEOPLE (WOMEN ESPECIALLY) GET MARRIED BECAUSE OF THE "WEDDING". YES. FOR THEM IT'S THE WEDDING PARTY, FANCY DRESSES AND PICTURES, AND ATTENTION THAT MATTERS. WHAT HAPPENS AFTER THAT DAY IS HARDLY GIVEN A THOUGHT AS LONG AS THE WEDDING DAY IS REMARKABLE AND MASSIVE.
MANY MEN ENTER INTO MARRIAGE TO SATISFY THEIR FAMILY AND RELATIONSHIP PARTNERS. THERE'S HARDLY ANY FAMILY TODAY THAT CAN SAY THEY'RE 100% HAPPY WITH EACH OTHER. IT'S LIKE THE REGRET SETS IN 30 MINUTES AFTER THE WEDDINGS AND EVERYBODY WISHES THEY SHOULDN'T HAVE DONE THIS.

WHAT FOLLOWS ARE SILLY EXCUSES, THAT "NO MARRIAGE IS PERFECT". THE TRUTH IS THAT MOST MARRIAGES SHOULD NEVER HAVE HAPPENED, AND THE VERY FEW MARRIAGES THAT EXISTS WITHOUT REGRETS ARE THE PERFECT ONES THAT MOST LOSERS PRETEND DOESN'T EXIST.

On point

MeeztaFabulouz:


You can call me a fool, its fine. But I don't wish you my situation and pray you never meet depression.

Mental health in this part of the world is taken with levity. I feel your pain bro. If she is cheating, she does not deserve you... Please and please kick her out... Nothing wrong with starting over for your sanity sake!