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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Righteousness89(m): 10:54am On Dec 08, 2020
[quote author=Emeraldgreene post=96851371][/quote]
The Person who left to marry another will see whinnn!
Remove your mind from Him! GOD will give you your own..
Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by obryns: 10:55am On Dec 08, 2020
My brother,I understand how it can be when you love and provide for someone only to not be appreciated or regarded,but the issue is you have to live for your children,if u commit suicide or depressed d woman will tell d children you were irresponsible and they will grow to hate you even if you are dead,so what has dt achieved NOTHING,so my advice is simply get urself a girlfriend and ignore her or divorce her and hv ur peace but don't take out another person's irresponsibility on your self and punishing yourself for nothing, remember you are someone's kid and also someone's father,so deserve to live for them,hurt as much as you can but move on,such women always hit the wall and live in regrets.
We can hook up for a bottle of beer,you need it����,life is worth living
Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by yesloaded: 10:55am On Dec 08, 2020
MeeztaFabulouz:
It is really terrible to feel suicidal all because of marriage. I use use to see different news of how people commit suicide because of relationships and I always felt it was so stupid to think of suicide just because of a fail relationship.

Now I have seen it all clear that depression is really very bad especially when you feel so depressed in a marriage you work so hard and do everything to protect and make your family happy. Its very painful when you know honestly inside your heart that you don't cheat on your wife, provide everything she wants for herself and the kids even when business is quite rough.

She has no conscience and no regard for our union and our home. I am a guy that don't think about looking at wife's phone or suspecting her for anything but then after our first child she changed completely and as of today I don't know were I stand anymore because of my kids. I opened a business for her just so that she won't be like a house wife but she has completely taken the business more important than the family and wake up 4am to start cooking and close 8pm at night. Stressing herself so much but always complaining business is not moving and she is not making any money.

I sponsor everything in the home though am not complaining because that's what a man should do, but she does not have regard for anything or appreciate anything I do. Can you imagine I give her money for feeding weekly even though she is running a food business, she buys few food stuffs in the house which can stay almost two weeks without us eating them because we basically feed from food she cooks in her restaurant. I decided not to bother myself and just give her money to always ensure her business is moving and at least food will not be a problem for us.

One faithful day, I decided to check her phone because I observed a certain strange behavior about her and how she likes to off her phone at night or sometimes when I am around. I saw different chats with some two guys she claimed one was her ex boyfriend that just likes to check on her once in a while, and the other guy was someone I remember like coming to eat in her restaurant but she said they went to school together and he is working with a construction company doing a building project close to her restaurant. She also claimed that when they were in school he was asking her out even till they fished school but she preferred her ex boyfriend to him and when she had issues with her ex that was when I came into her life.

If the story she told me is true or not, I wasn't really bothered anymore because I know its normal for a woman you met at 26 years to have met other guys before you and obviously still has guys that don't respect people's marriage and still do anything to sleep with a married woman. But my paid now is because I feel so respected by many of the things she does and when I think of divorce, I only feel for my kids who will now have to grow up with another man or having to visit their mum and see her with another man.

Recently I have become so depressed that I have been thinking of suicide so that my kids will know their dad is no more rather than knowing that their dad is still alive but can only be with either daddy or mummy and not as a complete family. My depression is getting worse especially when I think about all I have done for her and the kids just to always make them happy but in return, she doest appreciate or even have any regard anymore for what is called "FAMILY"

Over 7 years now and at this point I really feel suicidal. Please I really need help because I make this big mistake.

Sir, suicide is never & will never be an option

Your children will suffer badly should you will yourself
Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by skillmyman(m): 10:58am On Dec 08, 2020
bro,
you have a long life ahead of you. Dont commit suicide, think about your children.
It is better for them to know you are alive somewhere than dead.
Who will pay their bills? who will send them to school and make their dreams come true?

Nothing you give that is not given to you by God so stop thinking after all you did for her.
It is not the end of the world my brother. Put all your energy into your business and see what happens.

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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by tunize(m): 10:59am On Dec 08, 2020
If i tell you say i even understand your issue i lie oooh, is it that your wife is disrespecting you by the fact that she has changed completely, or the fact that she is chatting with her ex or the other guy? Make us understand something is she cheating on you? or you feel she is cheating on you? The chat you saw was it a chat that showed your wife is cheating on you? Additionally, lets assume your wife is cheating on you so you actually was thinking of killing yourself bros why u dey fork up nah? Do you think killing yourself will make her to stop cheating on you if actually she is? If you die today before one month your wife go forget you. Everything is subject to change in this life apart from the word of God; if the marriage tire you take break. I DON TALK MY OWN
Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Trogge: 11:00am On Dec 08, 2020
What good would happen if you commit suicide. She continues her life, while you die for nothing.. look for a lady that love's you. I suffered more than you brother. It's not worth your life
Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Nobody: 11:00am On Dec 08, 2020
What did you see in your wife's phone that you want to commit suicide over? Did you see human head? Alaye, tell the complete story.
Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Unrated900(m): 11:02am On Dec 08, 2020
incogni2o:


He has to take charge of his Family abeg, He is spoiling the Woman too much and needs to add a bit of sterness and "discipline".

Obviously the Woman is taking his love and care for granted, BTW, some women also don't see a big deal in it.

He has to talk sense into the Woman's Head, Not crumbling like a jelly fish.




Abiiii instead of just acting as if he is a coward
May be they toasted the wife for him.

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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by zudozz: 11:02am On Dec 08, 2020
Age 26 and NYSC year be like d period wey women dey DONATE palliative pass!
Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Unrated900(m): 11:04am On Dec 08, 2020
saasala:


Oga, goan sidown. Till now you have not mentioned where you saw her chat sleeping with other men. You only saw her friendly chats with the guy. Did you see any part where they fvcked?


So why is she turning off her phone as op claimed
Well they should face their walaha a lot happening in Nigeria at the moment
Also in the USA that I am at the moment
Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by AmbassadoR100(m): 11:05am On Dec 08, 2020
Bro I feel your pain. I am so sorry about that.

First mistake is checking your wife's phone. Please let's not do this no matter what!
Secondly, Suicide is the worst mistake you will ever make in this life. Please don't try it cos God Almighty will not be pleased with you!

Finally, the good news is that you can still reconcile and live in peace with your wife. You only need to talk things through with her. Divorce is not the Solution!
Go to the Chapel and talk to God First before talking with your wife.

Treat her with patience and love. It shall be well brother.

May Our Lady Mother of Perpetual Help come to your aid and assist you as you do this in the Mighty Holy Name of Jesus Christ Amen.

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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by okoroemeka(m): 11:06am On Dec 08, 2020
MeeztaFabulouz:


You can call me a fool, its fine. But I don't wish you my situation and pray you never meet depression.
I have said many times that social media has gifted women the freedom they are desperate to have for thousands of years,never in the history of mankind has it been possible for a woman at a touch of a button to take a picture of her breasts and send to an exotic man halfway across the world, you must have an open mind to stay with women of nowadays,I am married for 20 years now and I don't even bother going through phones or listening to call,,why bother looking when there is a 60-80% probability of seeing something that will make you miserable.

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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Onlinebar: 11:06am On Dec 08, 2020
King44:
Divorce could lead to things more horrible that one could regret later if not handled wisely.... This happens when children are involved... You won't want to put your children mental health in jeopardy to save yours only or would you?

So it has to be done wisely and as the very last option.

I'm definitely putting my mental health above that of my kids.....we will all learn to adapt
Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by clickwtB(m): 11:06am On Dec 08, 2020
I hope this is real.....
Confirm if she has really cheated on you,if she has its bye bye...
if she has not look for real energy booster and arrange and beat her silly her in the bed grin...
Many women calm down after this at least once in a month.. grin
Never think of wasting yourself ,i will never die for a woman and there are many out there...lookin for a man...
try loving her averagely but if she has done a major sin its bye bye..
Major Nos are
Infidelity
Ritualism
Attempt to kill me even if once
Any other can be condoned because of the kids.... cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy cheesy
Theres no perfect marriage....
Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by jonnieoneng: 11:07am On Dec 08, 2020
MeeztaFabulouz:
It is really terrible to feel suicidal all because of marriage. I use use to see different news of how people commit suicide because of relationships and I always felt it was so stupid to think of suicide just because of a fail relationship.

Now I have seen it all clear that depression is really very bad especially when you feel so depressed in a marriage you work so hard and do everything to protect and make your family happy. Its very painful when you know honestly inside your heart that you don't cheat on your wife, provide everything she wants for herself and the kids even when business is quite rough.

She has no conscience and no regard for our union and our home. I am a guy that don't think about looking at wife's phone or suspecting her for anything but then after our first child she changed completely and as of today I don't know were I stand anymore because of my kids. I opened a business for her just so that she won't be like a house wife but she has completely taken the business more important than the family and wake up 4am to start cooking and close 8pm at night. Stressing herself so much but always complaining business is not moving and she is not making any money.

I sponsor everything in the home though am not complaining because that's what a man should do, but she does not have regard for anything or appreciate anything I do. Can you imagine I give her money for feeding weekly even though she is running a food business, she buys few food stuffs in the house which can stay almost two weeks without us eating them because we basically feed from food she cooks in her restaurant. I decided not to bother myself and just give her money to always ensure her business is moving and at least food will not be a problem for us.

One faithful day, I decided to check her phone because I observed a certain strange behavior about her and how she likes to off her phone at night or sometimes when I am around. I saw different chats with some two guys she claimed one was her ex boyfriend that just likes to check on her once in a while, and the other guy was someone I remember like coming to eat in her restaurant but she said they went to school together and he is working with a construction company doing a building project close to her restaurant. She also claimed that when they were in school he was asking her out even till they fished school but she preferred her ex boyfriend to him and when she had issues with her ex that was when I came into her life.

If the story she told me is true or not, I wasn't really bothered anymore because I know its normal for a woman you met at 26 years to have met other guys before you and obviously still has guys that don't respect people's marriage and still do anything to sleep with a married woman. But my paid now is because I feel so respected by many of the things she does and when I think of divorce, I only feel for my kids who will now have to grow up with another man or having to visit their mum and see her with another man.

Recently I have become so depressed that I have been thinking of suicide so that my kids will know their dad is no more rather than knowing that their dad is still alive but can only be with either daddy or mummy and not as a complete family. My depression is getting worse especially when I think about all I have done for her and the kids just to always make them happy but in return, she doest appreciate or even have any regard anymore for what is called "FAMILY"

Over 7 years now and at this point I really feel suicidal. Please I really need help because I make this big mistake.


Guy, what is your problem? Since the Woman isn't cooperating with you, free yourself man, and stop being a baby. If you commit suicide you will be the biggest fool of all time.
The first thing you need to do is, stop giving her money for feeding. You have spoilt her with your excessive care. If she wants a boyfriend, let her have he way. Stop being so caring about her, pay the children school fees and guy enjoy yourself. Go out with your friends and keep late outside. If she complains, just ignore her and go to sleep. Killing yourself our a Woman's stupidity is the biggest stupidity of all time. Your Ancestors will beat the hell out of your arse if you join them in Heaven on that account. My one Kobo advice.

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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by EgunMogaji2: 11:07am On Dec 08, 2020
saasala:


He still didn't mention if his wife was emotionally entangled with any of the guys.

I’m experienced enough to read between the lines and form a personal opinion.
Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by lucky4west: 11:07am On Dec 08, 2020
u cant commit suicide because u dont own your life....God will may not forgive u dat because u cant repent in the grave....eternity in hell is no joke better think of the afterlife properly b4 u embark on that journey...all humans will taste death if Christ tarries so why rush it....your kids, family and friends needs you around, you are an inspiration to many without realizing it...your wife is unfaithful but it is not enough for u to kill yourself....better check if the kids are yours so u can be sure where u are in your relationship ...if u cant forgive her and live with the aftermath and if she not willing to change and stop seeing her ex et'al....u can divorce her but you cannot remarry while she is still alive the Bible forbids that...marriage is a tricky and deep business...but dont regret anything dont feel too bad because this will make it worse...commit your ways and your wife to God, talk to your wife about the need to make the marriage work...pray and sing praises, encourage your self with the word of God and Christian worship songs...gradually the storm will pass ..there is nothing God cannot fix ..if u have not made peace with God by accepting Jesus Christ as your personal Lord and savior do so without delay...not all sources of troubles in the home are physical deal with the root of the issue and it will fizzle out cheers
Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Nobody: 11:09am On Dec 08, 2020
harizonal123:


The only area I'm interested is the content of the chats with those guys. You couldn't prove that she is cheating on you which u try to establish. All beautiful married women have toasters it all boils on how she deals with the situation that shows her commitment to their marriage

any married man or woman that keeps contacting with exes will end up sleeping with them. it just a matter of time. its a natural law. don't throw caution to the wind. the more d husband tries to prevent her, d more she finds reasons to keep going back to that ex. an ex of mine had this issue with her husband cos she was chatting me. d husband broke her sim and do all sort to stop her. but she still finds a way to find me. until i broke every contact with her. women are very complex creature...

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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Maximus85(m): 11:11am On Dec 08, 2020
MeeztaFabulouz:
It is really terrible to feel suicidal all because of marriage. I use use to see different news of how people commit suicide because of relationships and I always felt it was so stupid to think of suicide just because of a fail relationship.

Now I have seen it all clear that depression is really very bad especially when you feel so depressed in a marriage you work so hard and do everything to protect and make your family happy. Its very painful when you know honestly inside your heart that you don't cheat on your wife, provide everything she wants for herself and the kids even when business is quite rough.

She has no conscience and no regard for our union and our home. I am a guy that don't think about looking at wife's phone or suspecting her for anything but then after our first child she changed completely and as of today I don't know were I stand anymore because of my kids. I opened a business for her just so that she won't be like a house wife but she has completely taken the business more important than the family and wake up 4am to start cooking and close 8pm at night. Stressing herself so much but always complaining business is not moving and she is not making any money.

I sponsor everything in the home though am not complaining because that's what a man should do, but she does not have regard for anything or appreciate anything I do. Can you imagine I give her money for feeding weekly even though she is running a food business, she buys few food stuffs in the house which can stay almost two weeks without us eating them because we basically feed from food she cooks in her restaurant. I decided not to bother myself and just give her money to always ensure her business is moving and at least food will not be a problem for us.

One faithful day, I decided to check her phone because I observed a certain strange behavior about her and how she likes to off her phone at night or sometimes when I am around. I saw different chats with some two guys she claimed one was her ex boyfriend that just likes to check on her once in a while, and the other guy was someone I remember like coming to eat in her restaurant but she said they went to school together and he is working with a construction company doing a building project close to her restaurant. She also claimed that when they were in school he was asking her out even till they fished school but she preferred her ex boyfriend to him and when she had issues with her ex that was when I came into her life.

If the story she told me is true or not, I wasn't really bothered anymore because I know its normal for a woman you met at 26 years to have met other guys before you and obviously still has guys that don't respect people's marriage and still do anything to sleep with a married woman. But my paid now is because I feel so respected by many of the things she does and when I think of divorce, I only feel for my kids who will now have to grow up with another man or having to visit their mum and see her with another man.

Recently I have become so depressed that I have been thinking of suicide so that my kids will know their dad is no more rather than knowing that their dad is still alive but can only be with either daddy or mummy and not as a complete family. My depression is getting worse especially when I think about all I have done for her and the kids just to always make them happy but in return, she doest appreciate or even have any regard anymore for what is called "FAMILY"

Over 7 years now and at this point I really feel suicidal. Please I really need help because I make this big mistake.

So, you know it will be a mistake if you kill yourself, right?

Oga, life is hard but it's beautiful. Take a time off. Travel to beautiful places. Meet new people. Move closer to God. There's more to life than how people treat us. Your happiness is not dependent on anybody but YOU!
Take care of yourself first. You will pull through and if you have concrete evidence that she has been sleeping with these guys. The Bible allows you to get rid of her and get yourself a beautiful and responsible woman to marry again.
Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Nobody: 11:11am On Dec 08, 2020
MeeztaFabulouz:


7 years of struggle to cater for and build a decent home, I have spoken so many times and to no avail. Since I was born up till this year, I hit a woman for the first time in my life. The reason is just because she did something stupid, I didn't want to get involved in any argument or fight, I just went to book a hotel room and had a quite time to myself that night till the next morning and on getting home she just attacked me saying I went to sleep with another woman.
I have given her the options so many times to go her way if she is not happy being with me but she won't go. As am writing this, I have not eaten her food since yesterday and I just got home only to see her serving me food and trying to make up but this is not the first time. I practically made her not go to the shop today and I was expecting to see that she went to the shop. When ever we talk, she listens and behave herself for a while but its like there is a spirit that comes into her and when it does, she forgets everything and only tries to bring trouble and more trouble.

Go back to your fathers house, she will not. Ok go and be with any other person that will tolerate your attitude she will not leave my house. All she does is money money money this and that. Even with her business, she does not use a dime for anything in the house aside her own stuffs.
Can you imagine she had a fight with me some time ago because I personally went to pay my kids school myself? All because I didn't give her the money to go and pay herself as I normally do?

Can you also imagine she had a fight with me one day all because I bought a jeans and slippers for myself without buying anything for her and the kids because I had bought some nice stuff for all of them including her like a week before then.

This is a woman that has never bought me even a boxers since marriage and has never gotten me anything gift for my birthday or anything but I just ignore all that and focus on making the family happy. Yet I am not happy in my home because I know what I go through especially this year that corona made things rough, I have passed through hell just to ensure my family is fine and we are not put to shame yet a matured thinking lady does not even care about anything.

Those saying I am a fool for thinking of suicide because of a woman, it is not because of the woman I am thinking of such, if you really know what depression can cause, knowing how hard you struggle to earn your money and spend it on someone who cares less for you, you will understand.


What is doing you is lack of money. If you have money, you won’t even notice all these issues you listed. It’s only kind hearted women, the ones their fathers showed love, that buys their men gifts. Other women don’t. And yes, they will demand from you because you’re meant to be the head. Know this and know peace.

Instead of inviting depression, channel that energy to thinking of ways to make more money, and you’ll be happy.
Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Emeraldgreene(f): 11:11am On Dec 08, 2020
[Awww.marriage of convenience.so sorry.she was never deeply truly crazy in love with you.love makes people go extra mile,make sacrifices.not even a gift on ur birthday...ure being used by ur wife.she is just manipulating and using you as a money bag,for all u do for can't reciprocate ur gestures.u really need some loving right now reach out to ur mother,u will get love
from her,then I think it's time to discuss this issue with ur wife family, parents,elders,ur own parents and elders too.call for an urgent family meeting.Things are serious and getting out of hand if Iur considering suicide
when u should be enjoying ur wife and babies and living happily.call for a family meeting with both sides present ASAP ...quoteorr=MeeztaFabulouz post=96831267]

I have never looked forward to her assisting me financially and I am not accusing her of extramarital affairs. I feel bad being so disrespectful and not being caring for our home. There are many things I am unable to write because its like writing a book. Maybe if you think of how it feels when you dedicate yourself to someone then do everything to make that person happy and that person does not care and is only self centred then you will understand how painful it feels.
Seven years I have done all a man needs to do to try and build a peaceful and decent home, there are good times when we just overlook things and be happy and then that attitude just comes alive again from no where and all I get is trouble upon trouble again. Some days I can hardly even eat at home and in seven years, I can only remember hearing "am sorry" just twice apart from when I try to just ignore certain things and she just give me all those sober reactions.
I really don't know how to explain but I believe some married men here will understand better because its like most comments I see are from people that are not married and don't understand what dedicating your life to someone you once loved so much means.[/quote]
Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by SunTzu123(m): 11:20am On Dec 08, 2020
kalu61:
I don't want to be kind but say you are a fool for contemplatinh suicide in this issue. Even if the worst happens, is suicide the solution you came up with in your head?

Die because of a woman.
Not every marriage must work and if yours is destined for it, there nothing you can do about it but take your life abi angry grin

He is not a fool. He is asking for help. Sometimes when you go through issues of life, you will understand his expression. Help him if you can.

To the OP.
You didn't tell us what you saw on your wife's phone? Anyway, it's bad enough to make feel suicidal.
1. Do not confront her yet.
2. Gather more evidence.
3. Focus on become a better person. It's difficult but if you let her know she is hurting you, she may decide to drive in the dagger (hurt you more)
4. Do not display emotional weakness. Manifest emotional strength.
5. Set a higher goal for yourself. I know his may sound funny to everyone but I've gone through more than enough in life to know that focusing on a higher goal (starting a new business, expanding an existing one, starting a house project, starting a course etc) brings up energies inside of you and fills you with new life and new hope.
6. Do not take any decisions regarding your marriage now. You are beclouded with anger.
7. Find a support group; an elder in church or mosque or community, in her family or in your own family (trustworthy of course).
8. Do one thing everyday that makes you happy; listening to your favourite song, take a walk, make friends with random strangers ( I didn't say you should carry your wife matter to them o!) Etc.
9. Let me know if you want me to reach you personally.
Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Suspect33(m): 11:21am On Dec 08, 2020
MeeztaFabulouz:


7 years of struggle to cater for and build a decent home, I have spoken so many times and to no avail. Since I was born up till this year, I hit a woman for the first time in my life. The reason is just because she did something stupid, I didn't want to get involved in any argument or fight, I just went to book a hotel room and had a quite time to myself that night till the next morning and on getting home she just attacked me saying I went to sleep with another woman.
I have given her the options so many times to go her way if she is not happy being with me but she won't go. As am writing this, I have not eaten her food since yesterday and I just got home only to see her serving me food and trying to make up but this is not the first time. I practically made her not go to the shop today and I was expecting to see that she went to the shop. When ever we talk, she listens and behave herself for a while but its like there is a spirit that comes into her and when it does, she forgets everything and only tries to bring trouble and more trouble.

Go back to your fathers house, she will not. Ok go and be with any other person that will tolerate your attitude she will not leave my house. All she does is money money money this and that. Even with her business, she does not use a dime for anything in the house aside her own stuffs.
Can you imagine she had a fight with me some time ago because I personally went to pay my kids school myself? All because I didn't give her the money to go and pay herself as I normally do?

Can you also imagine she had a fight with me one day all because I bought a jeans and slippers for myself without buying anything for her and the kids because I had bought some nice stuff for all of them including her like a week before then.

This is a woman that has never bought me even a boxers since marriage and has never gotten me anything gift for my birthday or anything but I just ignore all that and focus on making the family happy. Yet I am not happy in my home because I know what I go through especially this year that corona made things rough, I have passed through hell just to ensure my family is fine and we are not put to shame yet a matured thinking lady does not even care about anything.

Those saying I am a fool for thinking of suicide because of a woman, it is not because of the woman I am thinking of such, if you really know what depression can cause, knowing how hard you struggle to earn your money and spend it on someone who cares less for you, you will understand.
Chai, man up and throw that piece of garbage out of your house, she feels entitled to your money
Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Tohsynetita1: 11:22am On Dec 08, 2020
Poshriel:


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Hit me up for their contact Dami.ojo@yahoo.com
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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by jditimiya(m): 11:23am On Dec 08, 2020
Good Morning Bros, my only advise i can give is call a family meeting and you guys should open up your minds and see the outcome and in the process of the meeting try and lock down the shop so that she will have time to be alone and think about the mistake she has cause the family. Try not to do anything to yourself or her, always look at your kid and live for him. Please killing yourself will cause your kid pains that even his mother can not take away. Just put all these in prayer and also know that you can fill for separation until u have gotten all the fact to return to her and your kid. keep away from her phone next time and live a happy life. grin grin grin grin grin grin
Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Attakwu101: 11:24am On Dec 08, 2020
If you die you lose
Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by jonnieoneng: 11:25am On Dec 08, 2020
MeeztaFabulouz:


7 years of struggle to cater for and build a decent home, I have spoken so many times and to no avail. Since I was born up till this year, I hit a woman for the first time in my life. The reason is just because she did something stupid, I didn't want to get involved in any argument or fight, I just went to book a hotel room and had a quite time to myself that night till the next morning and on getting home she just attacked me saying I went to sleep with another woman.
I have given her the options so many times to go her way if she is not happy being with me but she won't go. As am writing this, I have not eaten her food since yesterday and I just got home only to see her serving me food and trying to make up but this is not the first time. I practically made her not go to the shop today and I was expecting to see that she went to the shop. When ever we talk, she listens and behave herself for a while but its like there is a spirit that comes into her and when it does, she forgets everything and only tries to bring trouble and more trouble.

Go back to your fathers house, she will not. Ok go and be with any other person that will tolerate your attitude she will not leave my house. All she does is money money money this and that. Even with her business, she does not use a dime for anything in the house aside her own stuffs.
Can you imagine she had a fight with me some time ago because I personally went to pay my kids school myself? All because I didn't give her the money to go and pay herself as I normally do?

Can you also imagine she had a fight with me one day all because I bought a jeans and slippers for myself without buying anything for her and the kids because I had bought some nice stuff for all of them including her like a week before then.

This is a woman that has never bought me even a boxers since marriage and has never gotten me anything gift for my birthday or anything but I just ignore all that and focus on making the family happy. Yet I am not happy in my home because I know what I go through especially this year that corona made things rough, I have passed through hell just to ensure my family is fine and we are not put to shame yet a matured thinking lady does not even care about anything.

Those saying I am a fool for thinking of suicide because of a woman, it is not because of the woman I am thinking of such, if you really know what depression can cause, knowing how hard you struggle to earn your money and spend it on someone who cares less for you, you will understand.


Guy, guy, guy?? Wetin be your problem set?? If you are not careful this woman will ruin your life. Obviously, you love your wife and that's the reason why you are this agitated. But, you need to calm down. If she is enjoying whatever it is that she does to make you feel like this, then the problem isn't your wife. The problem is YOU, the guy who refuses to grow up. Now let me ask you, by killing yourself, what have you gained? You take yourself out of the picture and allow one Motherfucker unhindered access to fucking your wife free of charge. The mere fact that you are alive makes anything she does behind you to be illegal. Don't quarrel with your wife anymore, it's childish and immature. Pick up yourself and enjoy your hard-earned �money a little bit. I am not saying hate your wife, but you must stop showing how much you care for her. You must stop supporting her Business. A lady that doesn't value your support isn't worthy of it. Allow those trying to work her to spend their money as it is obvious they have it, which is why they are after her. Enjoy your weekend, enjoy your week days, Go to a club ,party just a little and let that woman know that she isn't the only one that can hit Town. When she quarrels with you, just ignore her. You are a nice Man which is why she is taking advantage of you. Stop being nice! Bea little bit mean for a change but never physical assault your wife.
Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Orjioorji(f): 11:25am On Dec 08, 2020
Donk kill yourself bro. The first thing you should do is closed down her business let her stay at home as a full time house wife till she get sense.
Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Nobody: 11:26am On Dec 08, 2020
Common messages you saw, you're here typing epistles. Lol. Nigerian Men. Weaklings. How about the many things married women see? nude pictures in husband's phone, different flirty chats and hook ups, even seeing their husbands on top of women. And yet, women stand gidigba to do their thing and try to live their lives. The smart ones cry, wail then walk away from the marriage and focus on their kids. Truly, men are not emotionally strong. You're all weak! Even the responses on this thread still shows you are all weak.

Have you all forgotten that you claim to be polygamous in nature? Why are you all crying and wailing simply because your fellow man, who wants to exercise his polygamous rights, wants your wife?

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Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Godsonkemz(m): 11:28am On Dec 08, 2020
This is very rampant where I reside where most irresponsible men ask married women out simply because they've known her right from the time she was single.

My advise for you is to call the attention of her family and inform them of your decision to move on with your life if their daughter continues in her infidelity. Your life is very important and don't because of a loose woman think of ending your life. Likewise, don't resort to violence in settling this. It can be very tempting to descend on her and tear her into pieces but you gotta have self-control. If her parents are late, engage those she listens and submits to to sternly caution her.
Re: I Feel So Suicidal Because Of My Marriage. by Darasimis: 11:29am On Dec 08, 2020
Please just forgive and forget. These kinds of things are prevalent nowadays. Forgive her and move on with your life and marriage for the sake of your health and Kids.

God will heal your heart and comfort you.

Shallom

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