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larryking540:
sorry to interrupt you ,I know ladies who prefer to give Mouth Action instead of sex ,what's your take in that

ahahha

JoyJones2000:
Hahaha you just made my day thanks

I don't mind if we connect ,I swear , I love girls who are actually mean with their words ,what's up

It is very simple; If you know you will deny a man sex in a relationship, you should also know that you have to limit you demands, stop demanding for financial help unnecessarily.

Misslilbootay:
I am not a virgin because the guy I dated before made it seem like sex was the only thing that could keep him.
Unfortunately, that is another story of its own.


Recently, a friend of mine came and asked me if sex was necessary to keep a relationship. She told me the guy has given her everything she needed in a man but he couldn't stop asking for sex. She said that she wasn't ready to compromise her faith that premarital sex was a sin but she didn't want to lose this guy as he felt that her refusal to have sex with him meant she didn't love him.

The question I'm throwing now is
1. Can a man stay without sex in a relationship and wait till she is ready. (As in this case, she wants to wait till she is married)
2. Why is sex so important to men in a relationship? Do they see it as reciprocating of love especially when they spend heavily on the lady?
3. Also, most men wants a decent lady. Here is a lady who wants to keep herself for her husband but the boyfriend sees it as she manipulating him. Since you guys want a lady that isn't a borehole, why do you demand for sex when you are not sure if it will work out?

Your intelligent opinions will be appreciated.

It creates a bond between then, bringing them more intimacy.







It's a bond meant between married people though

erico2k2:
ahahha

seriously ,I know ladies give out Mouth Action freely than deep sex

Fornication is a deadly sin, flee from it. The consequences are brutal. Any man that wants to sleep with you while dating you does not actually love you and when he gets tired of you, he will move on to the next lady. Stop sharing your body, your body is the temple of the holy spirit which dwells in you. Stop creating soul ties with strange men, you will regret it later by the time sexual demons start tormenting your life, that is why many men and women have spirit husband and wife.

larryking540:
are you working , because I kw ladies who work still ask for money,talk more of the ones who don't work ,see babe joke apart ,guys aren't afraid of giving assistant to a lady but what's brings pain and agony to guys is the statement ladies makes ,that's is the real heartvreak when things go south/west bw them "what have you done for me" that little thing" ....
even though there is nothing to benefit from a lady ,sorry I might be rude with dat statement,the only thing we can atleast compensate our self is the sex kalasss

Your opinion!
Personally I don't take things from guys unless relatives ,Ladies aren't the same, you guys just made it seem that way

Bible says no.

Very necessary bajee. How we go dey date and we no go fuccck..Who does that?
Rubbish!

Romanoff:
Depends, if you're a Christian, sex is not necessary for a relationship but you have to ensure you're in a relationship with a Christian as well.

Amos 3vs3.

Premarital sex is the reason some have body counts that are beyond the fingers in their hands and feet.

@bold:

Hahahahaha

What else gives body count?

CalliDora1:
She should not initiate the break up but she should not give in. Let her just be watching him fool himself. When he's done, if he's for real he'll stay otherwise let him take a walk by himself.

she too should not ask for urgent N2k and credit
cos that too nah oxygen

Nazgul:
To me sex isn't necessary.

From my past relationships, if I'm to advice any girl I'll tell them to avoid sex and stand on it. Sex makes you suspicious of your partner. It makes you have unnecessary problems, unnecessary commitments, unnecessary responsibilities.... etc. How many guys would you keep offering your body to just to make them stay?

What makes most guys wants sex is when the financial demand from the girl becomes too much. Most girls will tell you that they're not ready for sex, but will still want you to show dedicated financial commitments towards them. No guy will ever agree to that.

Many girls naturally lack wisdom. Let me share a my own experience here. I met this girl some years ago, she told me her usual no sex till marriage. I asked her if she's a virgin she said no that she dated just one guy who broke her heart and now she has decided to zip up till her wedding night.

To me, I didn't have any problem with that. My problem was that this girl literally flirts on the phone with guys even in my presence. When I confront her she'll tell me they're just toasters that she doesn't have anything with them. She receives calls like a call center agent. Always on Facebook and WhatsApp till even midnight. And to make matters worse she's the urgent 2k type. So tell me would any guy in my shoes honour her request to date without sex....of course not. I had to end the whole stuff cos she wasn't contributing to my life in anyway. Most times I initiate a discussion with her on chat, she can't even sustain it without indirectly telling me one problem or the other she has.

My take...if you don't want sex in a relationship and you don't want to have any problem with your man concerning your stand, then avoid unnecessary request so it won't make him feel that you're owing him. Avoid flirting with other guys on phone and in reality. Concentrate on your relationship by looking for ways to make an impact in his life. It could be through business ideas, could be counseling, could be partnership in business, education...etc. also develop yourself. Let him see that your life is progressing. That you're successful in whatever it is that you're into.

Make him see you as someone he can't do without and he'll stick to you regardless of your no sex stand.

I love your point...
Why most guys have the courage to ask for sex is because they feel they need something in exchange for the favour they have done for the girl,especially if the girl is a demanding type..

If you don't want sex before marriage, what are you doing in a relationship that you're not sure it will end in marriage, some girls are so hypocritical, a guy that is not your husband spending on you heavily, that one no be sin, you didn't complain, girls always want to reap and not sow, The responsible one that God's fearing, you girls will call him broke, open your yansh for him or walkout and stop looking at his money

JoyJones2000:
Your opinion!
Personally I don't take things from guys unless relatives ,Ladies aren't the same, you guys just made it seem that way

Hmm AUnty talk true small even T fare?

Misslilbootay:
I am not a virgin because the guy I dated before made it seem like sex was the only thing that could keep him.
Unfortunately, that is another story of its own.


Recently, a friend of mine came and asked me if sex was necessary to keep a relationship. She told me the guy has given her everything she needed in a man but he couldn't stop asking for sex. She said that she wasn't ready to compromise her faith that premarital sex was a sin but she didn't want to lose this guy as he felt that her refusal to have sex with him meant she didn't love him.

The question I'm throwing now is
1. Can a man stay without sex in a relationship and wait till she is ready. (As in this case, she wants to wait till she is married)
2. Why is sex so important to men in a relationship? Do they see it as reciprocating of love especially when they spend heavily on the lady?
3. Also, most men wants a decent lady. Here is a lady who wants to keep herself for her husband but the boyfriend sees it as she manipulating him. Since you guys want a lady that isn't a borehole, why do you demand for sex when you are not sure if it will work out?

Your intelligent opinions will be appreciated.

About this topic, I don't know if to answer yes or no. Well, I was a good boy and lost the first girl I ever loved because she wanted to have sex with me so bad but even my body said NO! I loved her and for the first time in my life then, I thought sex never meant a thing.... she left. I dated another and wanted sex so bad because I thought I made a terrible mistake for not wanting sex with my ex. She lied to me for three whole years that she was a virgin but these three years without sex was hell. She started loving me when we eventually had sex but left when she met a guy who had much more money than me. I then met another who upheld 'no sex until marriage' but I saw that as bullshit and did the do. I'm married to this good girl now so I don't know how to answer your question. I just believe GIRLS pretend a lot when it comes to sex issues, they love it but only pretend not to. I think we all should be real, if no sex works for you, fine, if it doesn't, sex your way up, if it leads you to marriage, no problem..... my opinion, not God's or any other's.

Devynecheeh:
I love your point...
Why most guys have the courage to ask for sex is because they feel they need something in exchange for the favour they have done for the girl,especially if the girl is a demanding type..

and the average Nigerian girl is a demander U must solve one problem like say U B their papa, some of them bring these mindsets abroad until reality sets in!

zedman1:
About this topic, I don't know if to answer yes or no. Well, I was a good boy and lost the first girl I ever loved because she wanted to have sex with me so bad but even my body said NO! I loved her and for the first time in my life then, I thought sex never meant a thing.... she left. I dated another and wanted sex so bad because I thought I made a terrible mistake for not wanting sex with my ex. She lied to me for three whole years that she was a virgin but these three years without sex was hell. She started loving me when we eventually had sex but left when she met a guy who had much more money than me. I then met another who upheld 'no sex until marriage' but I saw that as bullshit and did the do. I'm married to this good girl now so I don't know how to answer your question. I just believe GIRLS pretend a lot when it comes to sex issues, they love it but only pretend not to. I think we all should be real, if no sex works for you, fine, if it doesn't, sex your way up, if it leads you to marriage, no problem..... my opinion, not God's or any other's.

These no sex till marriage shyet u will mostly find amongst the not virgins.

Misslilbootay:
I am not a virgin because the guy I dated before made it seem like sex was the only thing that could keep him.
Unfortunately, that is another story of its own.


Recently, a friend of mine came and asked me if sex was necessary to keep a relationship. She told me the guy has given her everything she needed in a man but he couldn't stop asking for sex. She said that she wasn't ready to compromise her faith that premarital sex was a sin but she didn't want to lose this guy as he felt that her refusal to have sex with him meant she didn't love him.

The question I'm throwing now is
1. Can a man stay without sex in a relationship and wait till she is ready. (As in this case, she wants to wait till she is married)
2. Why is sex so important to men in a relationship? Do they see it as reciprocating of love especially when they spend heavily on the lady?
3. Also, most men wants a decent lady. Here is a lady who wants to keep herself for her husband but the boyfriend sees it as she manipulating him. Since you guys want a lady that isn't a borehole, why do you demand for sex when you are not sure if it will work out?

Your intelligent opinions will be appreciated.

if your friend don't want sex let her stay away from dating till she is ready for marriage simple as A B C,

larryking540:
seriously ,I know ladies give out Mouth Action freely than deep sex

Ofcos the funny thing is ladies well let me say Girls lie more to their fellow girlfriends than guys, nah dem code pass.

erico2k2:
List one successful marriage i n the world stage that was virgins b4 marriage even the men of God that we all listen to did not marry a virgin! and God did not curse the marriage

I am interested in what God says not what men thinks.
Premarital sex is sin. That is what Bible says.

ncredible disinformation on the subject of premarital sex, which is another enticing addictive behavior to be considered. In this instance, our own government is responsible for much of the confusion. For some thirty years, federal and state programs have promoted a concept its promoters call "safe sex," which refers to the use of condoms in sexual intercourse. Billions of dollars have been spent telling young people that they can have sex—lots of really good sex—without suffering from the consequences of it. Condoms, they say, will solve all the problems.
James C. Dobson, Life on the Edge: A Young Adult's Guide to a Meaningful Future


We have to begin giving them the whole truth about premarital sex and the difficulties it can cause.
James C. Dobson


Now I need to speak directly and with compassion to those who have already pushed open the door of premarital sex. The monster has been released. You've lost your virginity and may have been sexually active for years. Perhaps you've been carrying a load of guilt for doing what you knew was wrong.
James C. Dobson, L

erico2k2:
and the average Nigerian girl is a demander U must solve one problem like say U B their papa, some of them bring these mindsets abroad until reality sets in!

Lol...God help us

Nazgul:
To me sex isn't necessary.

From my past relationships, if I'm to advice any girl I'll tell them to avoid sex and stand on it. Sex makes you suspicious of your partner. It makes you have unnecessary problems, unnecessary commitments, unnecessary responsibilities.... etc. How many guys would you keep offering your body to just to make them stay?

What makes most guys wants sex is when the financial demand from the girl becomes too much. Most girls will tell you that they're not ready for sex, but will still want you to show dedicated financial commitments towards them. No guy will ever agree to that.

Many girls naturally lack wisdom. Let me share a my own experience here. I met this girl some years ago, she told me her usual no sex till marriage. I asked her if she's a virgin she said no that she dated just one guy who broke her heart and now she has decided to zip up till her wedding night.

To me, I didn't have any problem with that. My problem was that this girl literally flirts on the phone with guys even in my presence. When I confront her she'll tell me they're just toasters that she doesn't have anything with them. She receives calls like a call center agent. Always on Facebook and WhatsApp till even midnight. And to make matters worse she's the urgent 2k type. So tell me would any guy in my shoes honour her request to date without sex....of course not. I had to end the whole stuff cos she wasn't contributing to my life in anyway. Most times I initiate a discussion with her on chat, she can't even sustain it without indirectly telling me one problem or the other she has.

My take...if you don't want sex in a relationship and you don't want to have any problem with your man concerning your stand, then avoid unnecessary request so it won't make him feel that you're owing him. Avoid flirting with other guys on phone and in reality. Concentrate on your relationship by looking for ways to make an impact in his life. It could be through business ideas, could be counseling, could be partnership in business, education...etc. also develop yourself. Let him see that your life is progressing. That you're successful in whatever it is that you're into.

Make him see you as someone he can't do without and he'll stick to you regardless of your no sex stand.

I agree with you 100%

erico2k2:
Hmm AUnty talk true small even T fare?

I don tell you my type of person

joyandfaith:
I am interested in what God says not what men thinks.
Premarital sex is sin. That is what Bible says.

ncredible disinformation on the subject of premarital sex, which is another enticing addictive behavior to be considered. In this instance, our own government is responsible for much of the confusion. For some thirty years, federal and state programs have promoted a concept its promoters call "safe sex," which refers to the use of condoms in sexual intercourse. Billions of dollars have been spent telling young people that they can have sex—lots of really good sex—without suffering from the consequences of it. Condoms, they say, will solve all the problems.
James C. Dobson, Life on the Edge: A Young Adult's Guide to a Meaningful Future


We have to begin giving them the whole truth about premarital sex and the difficulties it can cause.
James C. Dobson


Now I need to speak directly and with compassion to those who have already pushed open the door of premarital sex. The monster has been released. You've lost your virginity and may have been sexually active for years. Perhaps you've been carrying a load of guilt for doing what you knew was wrong.
James C. Dobson, L

Pls tell me what did the Bible say about sex b4 marriage lets go there ,

Misslilbootay:
I am not a virgin because the guy I dated before made it seem like sex was the only thing that could keep him.
Unfortunately, that is another story of its own.


Recently, a friend of mine came and asked me if sex was necessary to keep a relationship. She told me the guy has given her everything she needed in a man but he couldn't stop asking for sex. She said that she wasn't ready to compromise her faith that premarital sex was a sin but she didn't want to lose this guy as he felt that her refusal to have sex with him meant she didn't love him.

The question I'm throwing now is
1. Can a man stay without sex in a relationship and wait till she is ready. (As in this case, she wants to wait till she is married)
2. Why is sex so important to men in a relationship? Do they see it as reciprocating of love especially when they spend heavily on the lady?
3. Also, most men wants a decent lady. Here is a lady who wants to keep herself for her husband but the boyfriend sees it as she manipulating him. Since you guys want a lady that isn't a borehole, why do you demand for sex when you are not sure if it will work out?

Your intelligent opinions will be appreciated.

U said u weren't a virgin because ....
That's a big lie. Truth is, u made that choice yourself or were u raped? Well, that's a question for another time.
Forgive me if I go by asking you questions as a way to answer your As.
1. Can woman stay without her needs or wants being met until the he is ready to marry her?
2. Why is money so important to women in a relationship? Do they see it as their gains upon having sex knowing such was for mutual satisfaction?
3. Almost all ladies want an accomplished man. A typical man is one who wants to save up, invest so as to plan for his future but when he doesn't satisfy for monetary needs, she sees him as being stingy.
Since you ladies don't want a man that is broke, why get him to satisfy your needs when it isn't sure you would be with him to the end.

@OP, I don't like the picture u are trying to paint. The girl is just as guilty as the guy. There are ladies out there and men out there who respect themselves as regards these issues because they ruled out making demands.

JoyJones2000:
I don tell you my type of person

nah today we dey hear that kind talk!
make bar drop wether attitude nor change!

Nazgul:
To me sex isn't necessary.

From my past relationships, if I'm to advice any girl I'll tell them to avoid sex and stand on it. Sex makes you suspicious of your partner. It makes you have unnecessary problems, unnecessary commitments, unnecessary responsibilities.... etc. How many guys would you keep offering your body to just to make them stay?

What makes most guys wants sex is when the financial demand from the girl becomes too much. Most girls will tell you that they're not ready for sex, but will still want you to show dedicated financial commitments towards them. No guy will ever agree to that.

Many girls naturally lack wisdom. Let me share a my own experience here. I met this girl some years ago, she told me her usual no sex till marriage. I asked her if she's a virgin she said no that she dated just one guy who broke her heart and now she has decided to zip up till her wedding night.

To me, I didn't have any problem with that. My problem was that this girl literally flirts on the phone with guys even in my presence. When I confront her she'll tell me they're just toasters that she doesn't have anything with them. She receives calls like a call center agent. Always on Facebook and WhatsApp till even midnight. And to make matters worse she's the urgent 2k type. So tell me would any guy in my shoes honour her request to date without sex....of course not. I had to end the whole stuff cos she wasn't contributing to my life in anyway. Most times I initiate a discussion with her on chat, she can't even sustain it without indirectly telling me one problem or the other she has.

My take...if you don't want sex in a relationship and you don't want to have any problem with your man concerning your stand, then avoid unnecessary request so it won't make him feel that you're owing him. Avoid flirting with other guys on phone and in reality. Concentrate on your relationship by looking for ways to make an impact in his life. It could be through business ideas, could be counseling, could be partnership in business, education...etc. also develop yourself. Let him see that your life is progressing. That you're successful in whatever it is that you're into.

Make him see you as someone he can't do without and he'll stick to you regardless of your no sex stand.

u just wrote my mind

CalliDora1:
Capital NO!

Only wordly men and sinners practice premarital sex. Take it or leave it!

Spirituality asides. Sex does not keep a man or determine a successful relationship or marriage

Morally speaking, it is not good. Keep your chastity. It pays.

That line makes no sense.

Any marriage without good sex will crash.

Misslilbootay:
I am not a virgin because the guy I dated before made it seem like sex was the only thing that could keep him.
Unfortunately, that is another story of its own.


Recently, a friend of mine came and asked me if sex was necessary to keep a relationship. She told me the guy has given her everything she needed in a man but he couldn't stop asking for sex. She said that she wasn't ready to compromise her faith that premarital sex was a sin but she didn't want to lose this guy as he felt that her refusal to have sex with him meant she didn't love him.

The question I'm throwing now is
1. Can a man stay without sex in a relationship and wait till she is ready. (As in this case, she wants to wait till she is married)
2. Why is sex so important to men in a relationship? Do they see it as reciprocating of love especially when they spend heavily on the lady?
3. Also, most men wants a decent lady. Here is a lady who wants to keep herself for her husband but the boyfriend sees it as she manipulating him. Since you guys want a lady that isn't a borehole, why do you demand for sex when you are not sure if it will work out?

Your intelligent opinions will be appreciated.

I think it depends on the couple,

The guy might be the kind of person that wants sex while the girl doesn't want it, sometimes the girl would require a little "push" before she let's the guy have sex with her some guys would go to extreme lengths......

And sometimes you're lucky enough to get someone exactly like you, where you'll either love sex together or abstain from it.

For your number one question, definitely a man can stay but it depends on his nature not all men will ask you for sex and not all men will decide not to touch you unless you're married to him

Your number 2 question is quite noteworthy though,
I think it's pretty hard to know what will really happen....or what goes through the mind of any human

In some cases it would be her way of reciprocating her love for you and in other cases she will probably start disliking you if you push her to sex
So we can never really know, it's not general, each sane man will only know when he meets that one he truly loves


Although for your 3rd question I think sometimes guys themselves are so in love that they think they will end up marrying that specific girl without knowing that relationship will fail a few months later. Some would be soo certain of it.

MoneyGhost:
No it's not
But people already made sex so important in relationship
Guys ask for it
Ladies ask for it also
Ladies even enjoy sex more.

Also when you start billing the dude too much he will ask for sex because he will start seeing the relationship as partnership.
Sex for money and money for sex.

To avoid this,just look for a girl or guy that's practicing celibacy and also avoid girls that will start billing and ripping you and will be hiding under celibacy.
You'd be dumb to date that kind of girl.

Sex is not even important tbh but this generation yaf turn relationship to pornship and moneyship

This comment right here really cracked me up

Many today's youths fail to see that there's a lot to gain from a relationship than just money & sex

Your friend should leave the guy because everything she is getting from the boy are strategy to convince her to submit to defilement.

Hear this, sex is not a condition for relationship because when you finally comes together as husband and wife, there will be enough time and more years of sexual fellowship.

Any boy who make sex a priority in a relationship is not a husband material. The original plan of God for marriage is Companionship, be a partner in pursuance of each other's dreams and aspirations. Therefore whatsoever a man is doing for you now with an hidden motive behind the nice guy shows not considering the future is not a husband material.

The Bible says marriage is honourable and the bed undefiled.
Getting been pregnant before marriage seem to be order of the day, the truth is it's against God standard.

70percent of those who were deceived into premarital sex and end up in unwanted/unplanned pregnancy and eventually resulted in marriage are MARRY WRONG PEOPLE that is why most of such marriages are full crises today.
For one on one Counseling 08181075096

In my own case its opposite my woman do pester me for sex which I don't literally feel good about, she always counsel me that its part of love.