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I am here to learn. However, I think a guy will not bother a lady too much if he doesn't spend heavily on her. He thinks sex will be his only gain if the relationship did not lead to marriage

Misslilbootay:
FYI
She has never asked the guy for money

She needs commitment ,attention and validation at least one

Uzomacharles:
Please eeh

Can you date a guy with no dick?

This is for those saying sex is not important in a relationship..

If you ain't ready for sex while indulging in a relationship

*#VERY SIMPLE#*.... YOU CAN'T GO AROUND FIRE EXPECTING NOT TO SWEAT.

eyinjuege:
Coincidentally, Jesus equates murder, fornication and adultery as sins that even THOUGHTS of them alone is enough to defile you.
Matthew 15:8-19, Jesus said, "Out of the heart proceeds evil thoughts, of murder, adultery, and fornication, things that defile a person."
1 Corinthians 6:18, also shows Paul warning Christians too flee from fornication, because you defile your body.
This is a religious belief, you don't really need any theological explanations for this, as it is pretty straightforward.

I agree that Fornication is a SIN in the eyes of God but I always like people to practice what they preach!

You said it all but my little contribution is that what if you stick to that partner till wedding only for you as the woman to notice he cant perform in ther other room or you as the man find out she doesnt enjoy sex and cant satisfy your sexual desires, what do you do then,what worked for mr A might not work for mr B, like what my brother has have sense in all you do.

Nazgul:
To me sex isn't necessary.

From my past relationships, if I'm to advice any girl I'll tell them to avoid sex and stand on it. Sex makes you suspicious of your partner. It makes you have unnecessary problems, unnecessary commitments, unnecessary responsibilities.... etc. How many guys would you keep offering your body to just to make them stay?

What makes most guys wants sex is when the financial demand from the girl becomes too much. Most girls will tell you that they're not ready for sex, but will still want you to show dedicated financial commitments towards them. No guy will ever agree to that.

Many girls naturally lack wisdom. Let me share a my own experience here. I met this girl some years ago, she told me her usual no sex till marriage. I asked her if she's a virgin she said no that she dated just one guy who broke her heart and now she has decided to zip up till her wedding night.

To me, I didn't have any problem with that. My problem was that this girl literally flirts on the phone with guys even in my presence. When I confront her she'll tell me they're just toasters that she doesn't have anything with them. She receives calls like a call center agent. Always on Facebook and WhatsApp till even midnight. And to make matters worse she's the urgent 2k type. So tell me would any guy in my shoes honour her request to date without sex....of course not. I had to end the whole stuff cos she wasn't contributing to my life in anyway. Most times I initiate a discussion with her on chat, she can't even sustain it without indirectly telling me one problem or the other she has.

My take...if you don't want sex in a relationship and you don't want to have any problem with your man concerning your stand, then avoid unnecessary request so it won't make him feel that you're owing him. Avoid flirting with other guys on phone and in reality. Concentrate on your relationship by looking for ways to make an impact in his life. It could be through business ideas, could be counseling, could be partnership in business, education...etc. also develop yourself. Let him see that your life is progressing. That you're successful in whatever it is that you're into.

Make him see you as someone he can't do without and he'll stick to you regardless of your no sex stand.

AnonymousRebec:
My dear, don't let anybody pressure you into having sex. Let the people who want to stay, stay. Those that want to go should go

If she believes in no sex before marriage and her boyfriend believes opposite, why is she still in the relationship. Common sense dictates she quits the relationship and find someone with similar beliefs. It's obvious they are not spiritually compatible.

In this world there is what is called a niche. It applies to all spheres of life. If you find yourself with someone in a different niche as far as sex is concern, just quit and find someone in your own niche instead of complaining.

Caseywilliams:
weather premarital or after marital one thing is certain
be it relationship, courting, dating, mutual friendship, friends with benefit, auxiliary friendship...one thing is certain, sex is meant to happen at any given time moment and place, it's a natural phenomenon dat tends to occur.

U 4got, there is a new one in town its called Situationship!

fati2001:
bla bla bla.... you can turn the Bible upside down as you want it to be..

I don't have a PASTOR.. okay

Pls enjoy your sin and flex with it.. ...

Na wah 4 U ohh AUnty, I dey talk blah blah blah and U dine label me sinner See U wey nor B siner see as U stay ni

Liposure:
i like your honesty there. It shows you are human afterall even tho you sound weak

How do I sound weak

Nazgul:
To me sex isn't necessary.

From my past relationships, if I'm to advice any girl I'll tell them to avoid sex and stand on it. Sex makes you suspicious of your partner. It makes you have unnecessary problems, unnecessary commitments, unnecessary responsibilities.... etc. How many guys would you keep offering your body to just to make them stay?

What makes most guys wants sex is when the financial demand from the girl becomes too much. Most girls will tell you that they're not ready for sex, but will still want you to show dedicated financial commitments towards them. No guy will ever agree to that.

Many girls naturally lack wisdom. Let me share a my own experience here. I met this girl some years ago, she told me her usual no sex till marriage. I asked her if she's a virgin she said no that she dated just one guy who broke her heart and now she has decided to zip up till her wedding night.

To me, I didn't have any problem with that. My problem was that this girl literally flirts on the phone with guys even in my presence. When I confront her she'll tell me they're just toasters that she doesn't have anything with them. She receives calls like a call center agent. Always on Facebook and WhatsApp till even midnight. And to make matters worse she's the urgent 2k type. So tell me would any guy in my shoes honour her request to date without sex....of course not. I had to end the whole stuff cos she wasn't contributing to my life in anyway. Most times I initiate a discussion with her on chat, she can't even sustain it without indirectly telling me one problem or the other she has.

My take...if you don't want sex in a relationship and you don't want to have any problem with your man concerning your stand, then avoid unnecessary request so it won't make him feel that you're owing him. Avoid flirting with other guys on phone and in reality. Concentrate on your relationship by looking for ways to make an impact in his life. It could be through business ideas, could be counseling, could be partnership in business, education...etc. also develop yourself. Let him see that your life is progressing. That you're successful in whatever it is that you're into.

Make him see you as someone he can't do without and he'll stick to you regardless of your no sex stand.

On point

Misslilbootay:
I am not a virgin because the guy I dated before made it seem like sex was the only thing that could keep him.
Unfortunately, that is another story of its own.


Recently, a friend of mine came and asked me if sex was necessary to keep a relationship. She told me the guy has given her everything she needed in a man but he couldn't stop asking for sex. She said that she wasn't ready to compromise her faith that premarital sex was a sin but she didn't want to lose this guy as he felt that her refusal to have sex with him meant she didn't love him.

The question I'm throwing now is
1. Can a man stay without sex in a relationship and wait till she is ready. (As in this case, she wants to wait till she is married)
2. Why is sex so important to men in a relationship? Do they see it as reciprocating of love especially when they spend heavily on the lady?
3. Also, most men wants a decent lady. Here is a lady who wants to keep herself for her husband but the boyfriend sees it as she manipulating him. Since you guys want a lady that isn't a borehole, why do you demand for sex when you are not sure if it will work out?

Your intelligent opinions will be appreciated.

1)Virginity is a man's worst nightmare, so a man should never marry as a VIRGIN. BUT VIRGINITY IS A WOMAN'S TREASURE.

2)Sex is very important in a relationship because that's the only thing a man cannot do to himself. Men want women, women need men.
In a relationship men drop commitment, attention and resources asides others while women drop sex and submission asides others

3)BECAUSE MEN NEED WOMEN, WE ARE ALWAYS IN A DILEMMA. Men are polygamous by nature so we have to acknowledge this nature and also confirm to monogamy structure and its difficult because most men constantly fight this nature.
Men see women firstly as sex objects before anything else.
WE WANT TO WIFE VIRGINS who have good marriageable qualities BECAUSE THEY RAISE THE BEST CHILDREN AND KEEP A GOOD HOME.

So if women can accept men are polygamous by nature then there won't be constant cases of cheating and women will enjoy their husbands.

We Bleep hoes and whores but wife virgins that's our natural makeup.

wirinet:
If she believes in no sex before marriage and her boyfriend believes opposite, why is she still in the relationship. Common sense dictates she quits the relationship and find someone with similar beliefs. It's obvious they are not spiritually compatible.

In this world there is what is called a niche. It applies to all spheres of life. If you find yourself with someone in a different niche as far as sex is concern, just quit and find someone in your own niche instead of complaining.

I just tire o.

Misslilbootay:
FYI
She has never asked the guy for money

Women need commitment, attention and resources asides others before they can submit to a man.

Women love conditionally

So she's getting either of those three or even all three from the guy

erico2k2:
Na wah 4 U ohh AUnty, I dey talk blah blah blah and U dine label me sinner See U wey nor B siner see as U stay ni

every body is a sinner... no body is holy!!
let me ask you ( are you single or married)?

BLACK PEOPLE!

EVERYONE bleeps AND PRETENDING.

POPULATION KEEP INCREASING LIKE NO MAN BUSINESS

izuu20:
*#VERY SIMPLE#*.... YOU CAN'T GO AROUND FIRE EXPECTING NOT TO SWEAT.

No mind them....

They just want someone they will be billing for nothing....

Just tell the dude you ain't intrested in any sort of relationship..

DEMZEE:
We Bleep hoes and whores but wife virgins that's our natural makeup.

BUT KARMA IS A BITCH!

calcal:
BLACK PEOPLE!

EVERYONE bleeps AND PRETENDING.

POPULATION KEEP INCREASING LIKE NO MAN BUSINESS

How's population affecting black people

omotola90:
how long will a guy continue doing sampling technique?? Sex is no ultimatum for a perfect relationship you know

Then tell the dude that no need for relationship....

You want to be the only one benefitting

fati2001:
BUT KARMA IS A BITCH!

It's our nature

We train our daughters to be virgins and respect their feminity.

We don't train them to end up like the hoes and whores we bleeped before marrying their mom

Lazykulture:
How do I sound weak

i expected a contrary stance from you being a chaste person

DEMZEE:
So if women can accept men are polygamous by nature then there won't be constant cases of cheating and women will enjoy their husbands.

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that's why in the beginning GOD created Adam,Eve and Evelyn .to reduce the cheating...

Very necessary.

DEMZEE:
It's our nature

We train our daughters to be virgins and respect their feminity.

We don't train them to end up like the hoes and whores we bleeped before marrying their mom

SO DUMB

Sex is d pillar

fati2001:
SO DUMB

How??

CalliDora1:
Capital NO!

Only wordly men and sinners practice premarital sex. Take it or leave it!

Spirituality asides. Sex does not keep a man or determine a successful relationship or marriage.

Morally speaking, it is not good. Keep your chastity. It pays.

You hit right on the spot.

Nazgul:
To me sex isn't necessary.

From my past relationships, if I'm to advice any girl I'll tell them to avoid sex and stand on it. Sex makes you suspicious of your partner. It makes you have unnecessary problems, unnecessary commitments, unnecessary responsibilities.... etc. How many guys would you keep offering your body to just to make them stay?

What makes most guys wants sex is when the financial demand from the girl becomes too much. Most girls will tell you that they're not ready for sex, but will still want you to show dedicated financial commitments towards them. No guy will ever agree to that.

Many girls naturally lack wisdom. Let me share a my own experience here. I met this girl some years ago, she told me her usual no sex till marriage. I asked her if she's a virgin she said no that she dated just one guy who broke her heart and now she has decided to zip up till her wedding night.

To me, I didn't have any problem with that. My problem was that this girl literally flirts on the phone with guys even in my presence. When I confront her she'll tell me they're just toasters that she doesn't have anything with them. She receives calls like a call center agent. Always on Facebook and WhatsApp till even midnight. And to make matters worse she's the urgent 2k type. So tell me would any guy in my shoes honour her request to date without sex....of course not. I had to end the whole stuff cos she wasn't contributing to my life in anyway. Most times I initiate a discussion with her on chat, she can't even sustain it without indirectly telling me one problem or the other she has.

My take...if you don't want sex in a relationship and you don't want to have any problem with your man concerning your stand, then avoid unnecessary request so it won't make him feel that you're owing him. Avoid flirting with other guys on phone and in reality. Concentrate on your relationship by looking for ways to make an impact in his life. It could be through business ideas, could be counseling, could be partnership in business, education...etc. also develop yourself. Let him see that your life is progressing. That you're successful in whatever it is that you're into.

Make him see you as someone he can't do without and he'll stick to you regardless of your no sex stand.

more blessings I pray for u.

Infact relationship has not started if sex hasn't occured yet.. at that point both y'all just friends.

fati2001:
that's why in the beginning GOD created Adam,Eve and Evelyn .to reduce the cheating...

But the reality is that Christianity isn't the only religion that uses God.

Polygamy was never a sin and is never A sin in any religion.

Men are polygamous by nature not by God And women are hypergamous by nature Not by God

Don't ever look for a boyfriend if want sex.

DEMZEE:
1)Virginity is a man's worst nightmare, so a man should never marry as a VIRGIN. BUT VIRGINITY IS A WOMAN'S TREASURE.

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VIRGINITY IS NOT A MAN'S WORST NIGHTMARE (EXCLUDING YOU AND THE SO CALLED MEN LIKE YOU), SO BOTH GENDERS SHOULD MARRY AS A VIRGIN AND IT'S ALSO A TREASURE TO BOTH...