| Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her With This Her Mindset? by benji93: 8:34am On Dec 17, 2020 |
Well, well. At least this one told you beforehand. More like a devil you know.  Anoymus:
I have a girlfriend I am meaning to propose to during the festive period, she's everything I want in a woman except few exception which might be a hindrance to the proposal.
Gist is, my babe is a graduate but lack of work made her to learn fashion designing, she's done with the training and she's very good with what she does.
After marriage, I have told her that I'll assist in her business, I'm planning to get a bigger shop space for her and equip it with modern day machines, tools and tailoring materials goods to help make her work lucrative. I'm budgeting about 1.2-1.5m for this.
The issue now is that, 3 days ago, I asked her what her role would be if eventually after marriage she gets the shop, equipments and all, where she would come in in terms of responsibilities in the house. Her reply was she doesn't want to assume any responsibility and that it's my duty to cater for the family and she can only help & I shouldn't make anything compulsory for her. So many thoughts came through my mind. One of it was that, where the proceeds of her investment would be going to if I should shoulder all the responsibilities in the house knowing fully well that she makes money.
I rang my mum and told her of her response, I was shocked that she backed her saying that I shouldn't have asked her to foot anything in the house that it was my sole responsibility as a man to cater for my family my wife inclusive. My dad too, same thing. Even told my gf mum about it too , she giggled and said I shouldn't have asked her n that it's my duty to provide for my family. They all sounded foreign to me. Or am I the one not understanding?
My question now is, why invest that kind of money in her when I'm not sure of getting little or nothing in terms in return help to run the family. That sum of money could get me 4 brand new bikes and 2 neatly used Keke Napep for transportation business. I'm sure I'll be getting returns from these investment weekly or monthly basis.
I don't want who wouldn't have any sense of responsibility at home after investing in her, even if she's covering 10% or 5% I wouldn't mind. Mere helping doesn't go down well with me, she might have and decide not to give out. I rather not invest at all and expect nothing from her.
I don't know if I'm the one over thinking this things or my parent and her mum aren't seeing things from my perspective or am I being inconsiderate?
Criticism, Insults and bashing are welcomed. Thanks |
| Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her With This Her Mindset? by Offpoint1: 8:34am On Dec 17, 2020 |
Bola146:
 No matter how little, a responsible wife must support her husband and home!!! No matter how rich or poor the husband is! So that the blessings will be coming back to both of them. The man might go broke, his wife should be there to raise him up. How can I marry you please? What's the first step? 1 Like |
| Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her With This Her Mindset? by ikdaddy01(m): 8:34am On Dec 17, 2020 |
21cents:
lol. walahi.
OP shine your eyes and know this- that woman doesn't love you one bit. she a gold digger seeking financial security and won't think twice to dump you when she have financial security in the tune of >5-7million from you.
Love is sacrifice from both sides, and when she can't fulfill her own part of those sacrifices, the love is therefore termed "parasitic" where one party just wants to leech on the the other while screaming "you're the man".
except she gave you her virginity, which is amongst the core values of a righteous and virtuous bride/spouse, she's only with you due to what you offer and care less about bringing nothing to the table to run a family.
my advise- dont uplift her financially, let her sort herself out and come to terms that the home's responsibilities is 100% yours. if she can't make sacrifices (Virginity/purity, or financial contribution) then that's a parasite right there. I stand with you. Marriage is about lots of Sacrifice |
| Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her With This Her Mindset? by sylve11: 8:35am On Dec 17, 2020 |
Bola146:
No matter how little, a responsible wife must support her husband and home!!! No matter how rich or poor the husband is! So that the blessings will be coming back to both of them. The man might go broke, his wife should be there to raise him up. Correct babe!  |
| Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her With This Her Mindset? by wizkidblogger(f): 8:35am On Dec 17, 2020 |
lol. calm down..
Marry, invest in her biz and she will definitely be helping in the long run if the biz is moving fine.
cc : Anoymus |
| Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her With This Her Mindset? by Kyngfarabale1(m): 8:36am On Dec 17, 2020 |
Zzor:
I support her fully, it's a big turn off for a man to be asking hid wife to be such question,assist her if you can from your heart and I believe she's wise enough to know where and when to assist you as per responsibilities. I hate guys who throw such question,i have ignored a guy for this reason and till today he's still wondering what he did to me, don't give me the impression that your eyes are fixed on my money, its a big turn off with this ur comment..... I am very sure u can't get a good husband with this ur mentality....... heaven help those who help themselves |
| Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her With This Her Mindset? by Anaerobi(m): 8:38am On Dec 17, 2020 |
This is funny.
What ever you can't tolerate in marriage, don't pretend to cool with it while dating.
Frown on what you don't like.... call her and sit her down, talk to her...
I just hope she isn't stingy...
This kind person may not cook because #10 Maggi no the house. so you get to go and come back and buy the Maggi.
I reject such Sha ... just kidding. |
| Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her With This Her Mindset? by sammirano: 8:38am On Dec 17, 2020 |
What kind of men are we breeding this days for God sake. This one na woman oo. 1 Like |
| Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her With This Her Mindset? by sophy17(m): 8:38am On Dec 17, 2020 |
Anoymus:
I have a girlfriend I am meaning to propose to during the festive period, she's everything I want in a woman except few exception which might be a hindrance to the proposal.
Gist is, my babe is a graduate but lack of work made her to learn fashion designing, she's done with the training and she's very good with what she does.
After marriage, I have told her that I'll assist in her business, I'm planning to get a bigger shop space for her and equip it with modern day machines, tools and tailoring materials goods to help make her work lucrative. I'm budgeting about 1.2-1.5m for this.
The issue now is that, 3 days ago, I asked her what her role would be if eventually after marriage she gets the shop, equipments and all, where she would come in in terms of responsibilities in the house. Her reply was she doesn't want to assume any responsibility and that it's my duty to cater for the family and she can only help & I shouldn't make anything compulsory for her. So many thoughts came through my mind. One of it was that, where the proceeds of her investment would be going to if I should shoulder all the responsibilities in the house knowing fully well that she makes money.
I rang my mum and told her of her response, I was shocked that she backed her saying that I shouldn't have asked her to foot anything in the house that it was my sole responsibility as a man to cater for my family my wife inclusive. My dad too, same thing. Even told my gf mum about it too , she giggled and said I shouldn't have asked her n that it's my duty to provide for my family. They all sounded foreign to me. Or am I the one not understanding?
My question now is, why invest that kind of money in her when I'm not sure of getting little or nothing in terms in return help to run the family. That sum of money could get me 4 brand new bikes and 2 neatly used Keke Napep for transportation business. I'm sure I'll be getting returns from these investment weekly or monthly basis.
I don't want who wouldn't have any sense of responsibility at home after investing in her, even if she's covering 10% or 5% I wouldn't mind. Mere helping doesn't go down well with me, she might have and decide not to give out. I rather not invest at all and expect nothing from her.
I don't know if I'm the one over thinking this things or my parent and her mum aren't seeing things from my perspective or am I being inconsiderate?
Criticism, Insults and bashing are welcomed. Thanks This is one of the warning signs you see before marriage. You overlook it at your own risk. Even during dating period, she must bring something to the table no matter how little and it is also important that it is done willingly otherwise it's all pretence. Parents are not always right. They are humans and can be selfish too. So don't be swayed. 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her With This Her Mindset? by Topmaike007(m): 8:38am On Dec 17, 2020 |
Franktom247:
1.4million will buy 4 keke napep e be like say na goodluck jonathan be your president enter market make you price as for you and your babe matter i cannot help you because mordern day marriage or relationship na scam ode he said 4 bike or 2 keke |
| Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her With This Her Mindset? by bethyz(m): 8:39am On Dec 17, 2020 |
Your mum is right. If you continue thinking from her purse you wont face yours. She can only help when need be. I dont know how you men think oo. You want to give her role as in . You dont no as a woman her role alone is tiring and depressing. 2 Likes |
| Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her With This Her Mindset? by Babinski: 8:39am On Dec 17, 2020 |
stacyadams:
Ur thinking in the right direction bro, others RE not seeing it.. He is thinking in the wrong direction and it is commendable that all others in his family have told him the right thing even without seeing each other. If you help you wife's business you help yourself. A wife is meant to help and support her husband and that is different from being a "co-husband" that the OP is asking for. 2 Likes |
| Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her With This Her Mindset? by DoubleEngine007: 8:41am On Dec 17, 2020 |
stacyadams:
Ur thinking in the right direction bro, others RE not seeing it.. Yes, he is wise to have been able to notice that.. I see selfishness in somebody's heart.. I would have expected her to say, ss long as my business is blessed, we will build our family together. |
| Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her With This Her Mindset? by slimjosh43: 8:42am On Dec 17, 2020 |
Anoymus:
I have a girlfriend I am meaning to propose to during the festive period, she's everything I want in a woman except few exception which might be a hindrance to the proposal.
Gist is, my babe is a graduate but lack of work made her to learn fashion designing, she's done with the training and she's very good with what she does.
After marriage, I have told her that I'll assist in her business, I'm planning to get a bigger shop space for her and equip it with modern day machines, tools and tailoring materials goods to help make her work lucrative. I'm budgeting about 1.2-1.5m for this.
The issue now is that, 3 days ago, I asked her what her role would be if eventually after marriage she gets the shop, equipments and all, where she would come in in terms of responsibilities in the house. Her reply was she doesn't want to assume any responsibility and that it's my duty to cater for the family and she can only help & I shouldn't make anything compulsory for her. So many thoughts came through my mind. One of it was that, where the proceeds of her investment would be going to if I should shoulder all the responsibilities in the house knowing fully well that she makes money.
I rang my mum and told her of her response, I was shocked that she backed her saying that I shouldn't have asked her to foot anything in the house that it was my sole responsibility as a man to cater for my family my wife inclusive. My dad too, same thing. Even told my gf mum about it too , she giggled and said I shouldn't have asked her n that it's my duty to provide for my family. They all sounded foreign to me. Or am I the one not understanding?
My question now is, why invest that kind of money in her when I'm not sure of getting little or nothing in terms in return help to run the family. That sum of money could get me 4 brand new bikes and 2 neatly used Keke Napep for transportation business. I'm sure I'll be getting returns from these investment weekly or monthly basis.
I don't want who wouldn't have any sense of responsibility at home after investing in her, even if she's covering 10% or 5% I wouldn't mind. Mere helping doesn't go down well with me, she might have and decide not to give out. I rather not invest at all and expect nothing from her.
I don't know if I'm the one over thinking this things or my parent and her mum aren't seeing things from my perspective or am I being inconsiderate?
Criticism, Insults and bashing are welcomed. Thanks I think you were wrong asking. Women are committed to responsibility when they take it upon themselves to assist. Asking was not necessary a woman that loves you and marries you would definitely assist you without you asking as asking makes it seem like you are entitled which you are not. It is the role of the man to provide for the needs of his family and the woman's role is to complement her husband. Love would not make your wife see you get burned out just to provide for the family. To determine your future with her you need to ask yourself the traits she's exhibiting currently. Is she supportive both in words and action currently in your relationship if yes she'd still be if money enter her business.... Talking from experience 3 Likes |
| Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her With This Her Mindset? by kastgeraldino: 8:43am On Dec 17, 2020 |
Refreshing to see someone who thinks and reasons. Any woman who is not giving and generous to you does not love you. The OP will learn the hard way. There is another man out there that this same woman would move mountains for. If she is not moving mountains for you, then you were never even close to her first or even third choice. 21cents:
lol. walahi.
OP shine your eyes and know this- that woman doesn't love you one bit. she a gold digger seeking financial security and won't think twice to dump you when she have financial security in the tune of >5-7million from you.
Love is sacrifice from both sides, and when she can't fulfill her own part of those sacrifices, the love is therefore termed "parasitic" where one party just wants to leech on the the other while screaming "you're the man".
except she gave you her virginity, which is amongst the core values of a righteous and virtuous bride/spouse, she's only with you due to what you offer and care less about bringing nothing to the table to run a family.
my advise- dont uplift her financially, let her sort herself out and come to terms that the home's responsibilities is 100% yours. if she can't make sacrifices (Virginity/purity, or financial contribution) then that's a parasite right there. 1 Like |
| Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her With This Her Mindset? by Beremx(f): 8:43am On Dec 17, 2020 |
Most nairaland men are bad advisers. See the kind of bad advice they are giving the Op?
Chai!! 1 Like |
| Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her With This Her Mindset? by Michelle28520: 8:43am On Dec 17, 2020 |
I don't seems to understand those who support dis man's opinion, in d first place men need to understand dt before u say u want to marry,it means u r okay and u can take care of at least extra two mouth, since u know u r not up to it y go for it, secondly, y will u be asking ur wife to be what responsibility she will carry when u guys marry, y asking her dt kind of question, as a lady she knows what she will in d house,y making it look as if u av to share responsibility in d house dt means u r not man enough, someone said a woman u married, u provide food for, u take care of, guys mentality, u shouldn't take care of her because when u met her she was not well taken care of, I don't get,if u continue with d mindset of my wife must take responsibility in d house, I can assure u, u will av to remain single, whatever u invest in ur wife, don't expect to collect anything in return,dts ur responsibility, if it wasn't d right thing ur mother won't support talkless of ur father. Mr. If u want to av a home u had beta stop dt attitude of sharing responsibility I'm d house, I tell u if u do, u won't av any say because she will remind u, I take responsibility in d house so u can't order me around, because we ladies we r funny, we will lambast u on top ur money,na so God tey create us. So, my dear, take ur responsibility,act like a man so dt u can av control of ur home. 3 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her With This Her Mindset? by Nobody: 8:43am On Dec 17, 2020 |
It's up to you to decide. But a girl who loves you will be generous towards you and her home. While a responsible girl will do same whether or not she loves you. (My point is, a girl with a mindset of responsibility doesn't have to love you to share expenses with you)
I must say this, your fiance appears to be childish. 4 Likes |
| Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her With This Her Mindset? by EmmyBiggy(m): 8:43am On Dec 17, 2020 |
She is human, there is no way she will leave every responsibility for you unless when she sees you are capable. She can't watch the family go hungry when she has something to offer. 3 Likes |
| Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her With This Her Mindset? by agenegene(m): 8:44am On Dec 17, 2020 |
its not bad to have asked. she is a woman she would naturally find her place |
| Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her With This Her Mindset? by samdaisi: 8:45am On Dec 17, 2020 |
Omo your thinking faculty is still shallow what exactly do you want from this woman she has spoken well she can only support you because God has made you a head.buying meat,peppers buying sweat,bobo putting insider your children lurch bag while going to school is it not part of it,covering your neckedness when you have broke.Oga you are approached this issues based on your knowledge but you lack wisdom and understanding what marriage stand for 4 Likes |
| Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her With This Her Mindset? by Toks2008(m): 8:46am On Dec 17, 2020 |
Anoymus:
I have a girlfriend I am meaning to propose to during the festive period, she's everything I want in a woman except few exception which might be a hindrance to the proposal.
Gist is, my babe is a graduate but lack of work made her to learn fashion designing, she's done with the training and she's very good with what she does.
After marriage, I have told her that I'll assist in her business, I'm planning to get a bigger shop space for her and equip it with modern day machines, tools and tailoring materials goods to help make her work lucrative. I'm budgeting about 1.2-1.5m for this.
The issue now is that, 3 days ago, I asked her what her role would be if eventually after marriage she gets the shop, equipments and all, where she would come in in terms of responsibilities in the house. Her reply was she doesn't want to assume any responsibility and that it's my duty to cater for the family and she can only help & I shouldn't make anything compulsory for her. So many thoughts came through my mind. One of it was that, where the proceeds of her investment would be going to if I should shoulder all the responsibilities in the house knowing fully well that she makes money.
I rang my mum and told her of her response, I was shocked that she backed her saying that I shouldn't have asked her to foot anything in the house that it was my sole responsibility as a man to cater for my family my wife inclusive. My dad too, same thing. Even told my gf mum about it too , she giggled and said I shouldn't have asked her n that it's my duty to provide for my family. They all sounded foreign to me. Or am I the one not understanding?
My question now is, why invest that kind of money in her when I'm not sure of getting little or nothing in terms in return help to run the family. That sum of money could get me 4 brand new bikes and 2 neatly used Keke Napep for transportation business. I'm sure I'll be getting returns from these investment weekly or monthly basis.
I don't want who wouldn't have any sense of responsibility at home after investing in her, even if she's covering 10% or 5% I wouldn't mind. Mere helping doesn't go down well with me, she might have and decide not to give out. I rather not invest at all and expect nothing from her.
I don't know if I'm the one over thinking this things or my parent and her mum aren't seeing things from my perspective or am I being inconsiderate?
Criticism, Insults and bashing are welcomed. Thanks You ought not to ask such question. Just go ahead and set her up. If truly she is what you describe her to be, she will surely support if things go south but pray that you will never have any reason to depend on your wife even if she makes billions a day. All the best. 4 Likes |
| Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her With This Her Mindset? by Franktom247(m): 8:46am On Dec 17, 2020 |
Topmaike007:
ode he said 4 bike or 2 keke dundee united,mr mumu,eleribu it still doesnt change the fact that the money will nt buy 4 bikes or 2 keke as at now dey your dey |
| Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her With This Her Mindset? by OKVALLY: 8:47am On Dec 17, 2020 |
Build your relationship on Love not deceit, pray to marry your wife not another mans life.
God may bless you beyoud your imagination that you will continue to invest and invest into that business without asking for anything, don't pray to rely on the proceeds of the shop to feed your family.
That investment will remove a big load on your shoulder from the woman, she cannot be doing that and you will be catering for her minor needs,
don't think of feeding from the invest because the shop will close fast and she will return to the house and your problem will multiply. 2 Likes |
| Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her With This Her Mindset? by IDERAWOLE(m): 8:47am On Dec 17, 2020 |
Anoymus:
I have a girlfriend I am meaning to propose to during the festive period, she's everything I want in a woman except few exception which might be a hindrance to the proposal.
Gist is, my babe is a graduate but lack of work made her to learn fashion designing, she's done with the training and she's very good with what she does.
After marriage, I have told her that I'll assist in her business, I'm planning to get a bigger shop space for her and equip it with modern day machines, tools and tailoring materials goods to help make her work lucrative. I'm budgeting about 1.2-1.5m for this.
The issue now is that, 3 days ago, I asked her what her role would be if eventually after marriage she gets the shop, equipments and all, where she would come in in terms of responsibilities in the house. Her reply was she doesn't want to assume any responsibility and that it's my duty to cater for the family and she can only help & I shouldn't make anything compulsory for her. So many thoughts came through my mind. One of it was that, where the proceeds of her investment would be going to if I should shoulder all the responsibilities in the house knowing fully well that she makes money.
I rang my mum and told her of her response, I was shocked that she backed her saying that I shouldn't have asked her to foot anything in the house that it was my sole responsibility as a man to cater for my family my wife inclusive. My dad too, same thing. Even told my gf mum about it too , she giggled and said I shouldn't have asked her n that it's my duty to provide for my family. They all sounded foreign to me. Or am I the one not understanding?
My question now is, why invest that kind of money in her when I'm not sure of getting little or nothing in terms in return help to run the family. That sum of money could get me 4 brand new bikes and 2 neatly used Keke Napep for transportation business. I'm sure I'll be getting returns from these investment weekly or monthly basis.
I don't want who wouldn't have any sense of responsibility at home after investing in her, even if she's covering 10% or 5% I wouldn't mind. Mere helping doesn't go down well with me, she might have and decide not to give out. I rather not invest at all and expect nothing from her.
I don't know if I'm the one over thinking this things or my parent and her mum aren't seeing things from my perspective or am I being inconsiderate?
Criticism, Insults and bashing are welcomed. Thanks The fault isn't entirely hers, but those who trained her. Thank God she opened up to you. While I'm not going to demand anything from a lady I'm married to, simple sense of love and care should help her brain to know how to appreciate someone who's ready to take upon his responsibility for the family. I shouldn't waste my time advising you. Marry her if you want, for me, it's bye for good. 5 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her With This Her Mindset? by Chanchit: 8:47am On Dec 17, 2020 |
Zzor:
Is he marrying her for gains, why have are you men becoming leeches smh And you don't think someone that wants an investment in the region of 1.5m without thinking of giving anything back is not the bigger Leech? I pity person weh go marry you, cos you've never being reasonable. 2 Likes |
| Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her With This Her Mindset? by Toks2008(m): 8:48am On Dec 17, 2020 |
Beremx:
Most nairaland men are bad advisers. See the kind of bad advice they are giving the Op?
Chai!! What do you expect when most of the advisers are either teenagers or inexperienced in matters concerning purposeful union...nevertheless all nah advise and its left for the OP to choose which one to follow. 2 Likes |
| Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her With This Her Mindset? by Rrex99(m): 8:49am On Dec 17, 2020 |
Bro, tell her you won't be investing on her (shop) anymore after marriage since she won't assist you little with home billing. Tell her you would use the money to invest in another meaningful stuff that will bring income to the house to foot house billing. Then you can rest but hv it at the back of your mind, if she tells you that she won't assist in billing..that's what she gonna do. Goodluck. 1 Like |
| Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her With This Her Mindset? by Dbeautifulme(f): 8:50am On Dec 17, 2020 |
Sit her down and make her reason your own way bro.
My wife said more than this before we got married... As a patient man
I didn't like it but I was just watching back then
Even my mum supported her to my annoyance lool...
But what do we have today?
When I don't really have too much with me she supports on virtually Everthing as she even earns more than me sef
And when I have I take control as well.
See heen marriage is a long time thing
It's pointless when your partners Purpose dosent align wif yours o
Me am enjoying mine to the best God is helping us and we give glory to God. 3 Likes |
| Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her With This Her Mindset? by 10thangel(f): 8:50am On Dec 17, 2020 |
A responsible woman will always assist her husband therefore the question of what will be your responsibility shouldn't have come up in the first place. I believe that she is a responsible lady from your description. She will assist you whenever the need arises but asking her to define the responsibility will be a hard thing. That is why both your parent and hers said same thing. 3 Likes |
| Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her With This Her Mindset? by hashtagged(m): 8:51am On Dec 17, 2020 |
Anoymus:
I have a girlfriend I am meaning to propose to during the festive period, she's everything I want in a woman except few exception which might be a hindrance to the proposal.
Gist is, my babe is a graduate but lack of work made her to learn fashion designing, she's done with the training and she's very good with what she does.
After marriage, I have told her that I'll assist in her business, I'm planning to get a bigger shop space for her and equip it with modern day machines, tools and tailoring materials goods to help make her work lucrative. I'm budgeting about 1.2-1.5m for this.
The issue now is that, 3 days ago, I asked her what her role would be if eventually after marriage she gets the shop, equipments and all, where she would come in in terms of responsibilities in the house. Her reply was she doesn't want to assume any responsibility and that it's my duty to cater for the family and she can only help & I shouldn't make anything compulsory for her. So many thoughts came through my mind. One of it was that, where the proceeds of her investment would be going to if I should shoulder all the responsibilities in the house knowing fully well that she makes money.
I rang my mum and told her of her response, I was shocked that she backed her saying that I shouldn't have asked her to foot anything in the house that it was my sole responsibility as a man to cater for my family my wife inclusive. My dad too, same thing. Even told my gf mum about it too , she giggled and said I shouldn't have asked her n that it's my duty to provide for my family. They all sounded foreign to me. Or am I the one not understanding?
My question now is, why invest that kind of money in her when I'm not sure of getting little or nothing in terms in return help to run the family. That sum of money could get me 4 brand new bikes and 2 neatly used Keke Napep for transportation business. I'm sure I'll be getting returns from these investment weekly or monthly basis.
I don't want who wouldn't have any sense of responsibility at home after investing in her, even if she's covering 10% or 5% I wouldn't mind. Mere helping doesn't go down well with me, she might have and decide not to give out. I rather not invest at all and expect nothing from her.
I don't know if I'm the one over thinking this things or my parent and her mum aren't seeing things from my perspective or am I being inconsiderate?
Criticism, Insults and bashing are welcomed. Thanks
If she is not ready to change her mindset don't marry her. How can a lady just sit down at home doing nothing and expect you to be feeding her like she is one of your children. My mom always worked to support my dad she never sat at home doing nothing, that mindset is very backward. In my aunt's home my aunt pays for the food while her husband covers ta other bills. In the home, look at white people bills are shared between partners don't marry her if she thinks you would be a bank while she would be at home doing nothing, marriage is for life don't make the mistake of marrying the wrong person 3 Likes |
| Re: Should I Go Ahead And Marry Her With This Her Mindset? by stacyadams: 8:51am On Dec 17, 2020 |
Babinski:
He is thinking in the wrong direction and it is commendable that all others in his family have told him the right thing even without seeing each other.
If you help you wife's business you help yourself. A wife is meant to help and support her husband and that is different from being a "co-husband" that the OP is asking for.  Shebi na for this nairaland, I read story of one man wey go burn him wife shop as she no d contribute anything for house. I support OP from now till Jesus come |
