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Re: Am I Really Being unfair To These Two Girls?? by humilitypays(m): 2:43pm On Dec 19, 2020 |
tyup:instead of condemning you, people should reflect over this scenario. Especially ladies, this should be a wake up call to Nigerian ladies to change their ways. Many guys are doing what this op did without telling anybody, and nobody can change their mindset towards ladies. Ladies sit up! Some of you have ruined the chances of other ladies. Ladies reflect on this, ask yourself why you as a lady is wicked and selfish to men in your life Ask yourself why you never add any meaningful value to the lives of your boyfriend, husband and male friends As you reflect on this, make a resolve to be a good lady that makes positive impact in the life of anybody you come across. Condemning the op won't stop plenty other men out there from doing same. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am I Really Being unfair To These Two Girls?? by jahlove4jah: 2:43pm On Dec 19, 2020 |
Heart of men is wicked. May God protect us from the hands of those we call friends. 2 Likes |
Re: Am I Really Being unfair To These Two Girls?? by Martinez39s(m): 2:45pm On Dec 19, 2020 |
Ginaz:Doesn't this make God unjust and unwise? If you were God, would you make your light shine on a Nigerian politician, child abusers, and serial killers? 2 Likes |
Re: Am I Really Being unfair To These Two Girls?? by lanreHeda: 2:51pm On Dec 19, 2020 |
Janet200:w |
Re: Am I Really Being unfair To These Two Girls?? by Martinez39s(m): 2:56pm On Dec 19, 2020 |
tyup:Some wise men are beginning to wake up. Instead of helping women and elevating their statuses out of kindness and thinking they will reciprocate or at least be appreciative, ❌ men have decided to wise up, take their chances, and let women sort out their own issues by themselves. Also, some wise men are beginning to put themselves and other men first (eg. OP was looking for his male friends instead, a man giving his fellow man a ride instead of a woman). I hope men will stop extending to women favours that women will never extend to them. 11 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Am I Really Being unfair To These Two Girls?? by Janet200: 2:56pm On Dec 19, 2020 |
lanreHeda: It’s not about gender, in his case he has no male friend that was suitable for the position. It’s jealousy ‘ make I come help them, make them better pass me’ 4 Likes |
Re: Am I Really Being unfair To These Two Girls?? by MummyD2020(f): 2:57pm On Dec 19, 2020 |
hashtagged: See how people are quick to conclude. What makes u feel his cousin is even worth it? Becos it's a cousin? Male padi dont stab their fellow buddies at d back abi? Go figure.. The guy was simply playing God. 2 Likes |
Re: Am I Really Being unfair To These Two Girls?? by Prinnce1: 2:59pm On Dec 19, 2020 |
tyup:bruh what you did was wrong and also right, I don't know what you have passed through ladies hands to act up like her. My brother once arranged a girl here in Nigeria for his friend in Texas for marriage it wasn't up to two month when she scandalized my brother to the guy this she did so that she will be in charge, those gender called women are very Sly. Anyways the three bedroom flat he got for her expired, the guy placed someone to monitored her closely only discovered she changes guys like pants, anyways she is back to square one, no monthly stipend of 150k again. Fear women |
Re: Am I Really Being unfair To These Two Girls?? by MummyD2020(f): 3:00pm On Dec 19, 2020 |
Janet200: Correct jare! Both genders. Have devils and good people. People will just be fuming for female matter like say no be woman born them. Mþhewww 1 Like |
Re: Am I Really Being unfair To These Two Girls?? by Magnoliaa(f): 3:01pm On Dec 19, 2020 |
I believe your Conscience is the greatest Judge here, op. I see no reason for this thread, more so if that conscience is dead and you subscribe to no moral codes... And life might just, in its usual oddities, find a way to make you realize the impact of what you did - whether it's unfair or not. *shrugs* 1 Like |
Re: Am I Really Being unfair To These Two Girls?? by tyup(m): 3:04pm On Dec 19, 2020 |
mrblessed: The most sensible comment I've read so far but no one understands fortunately for me, I don't give a damn bout what they said on my Mention or whateva insult they've hurled on here |
Re: Am I Really Being unfair To These Two Girls?? by MummyD2020(f): 3:05pm On Dec 19, 2020 |
Heathrow44: OP see a guy oya answer am sharperly. Ndi guys 1 Like |
Re: Am I Really Being unfair To These Two Girls?? by Bankalert(m): 3:05pm On Dec 19, 2020 |
While both gender are prone to uncertainties in future, you can't deny it is a natural thing for women. Women feel entitled to your money, your assistance, everything. If he gave them the opportunity and it worked out well, same ladies will ignore him in future, call him a broke guy and even tell him "what did you do for me?" "You were only a tool" bla bla bla... Nonetheless, only render help as long as your feel comfortable with it to both genders. I borrowed a lady a sum of money last week to help her broke corper sister. She promised to pay back the next day or the following week. The following week has ended and she does not want to pay up the money after calling her about three times for it. Is this what we expect to get when we help ladies? I swore in the past never to borrow a lady money and i decided to make an exception for her(she is not a close friend sef) . Now she just made me realised helping ladies(not sisters, mothers, or even girlfriends) is not worth it 95% of the time. They always feel entitled to it! 7 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Am I Really Being unfair To These Two Girls?? by MummyD2020(f): 3:07pm On Dec 19, 2020 |
humilitypays: Success is not monopolistic. Females have opportunities too. In some cases, more than their Male counterparts. Go figure 2 Likes |
Re: Am I Really Being unfair To These Two Girls?? by Bankalert(m): 3:08pm On Dec 19, 2020 |
mrblessed:true.... Even your mother would tell you "i carried you for nine months that is why you should do this that this...." women always feel entitled to what men have irrespective of if they are independent or not! |
Re: Am I Really Being unfair To These Two Girls?? by humilitypays(m): 3:10pm On Dec 19, 2020 |
MummyD2020:my dear, if men decide to shut the door of opportunities and success, women will suffer, you don't need to argue this. The opportunities women have were given to them by men out of emotional pity or feelings or empathy or sexual relationship. Should those stop, women will suffer immensely which I don't pray for cos I love fine girls with sweet bombom All we are saying is you ladies should adjust and be kind and fair to guys around you, that's all hun 1 Like |
Re: Am I Really Being unfair To These Two Girls?? by wisdomkid: 3:10pm On Dec 19, 2020 |
You think you're wise and not a SIMP... You're a real Nigga, abi? Well well, always f**king remember the choice you made, because when someone else does the same to you or your family, if you open your mouth say fem, thunder wey poverty don finish go destroy you. 3 Likes |
Re: Am I Really Being unfair To These Two Girls?? by Pharaoh4rin(m): 3:11pm On Dec 19, 2020 |
light099: It's a lie. Karma Judges action and not intention. God judges intention and not always action (James 4:5) 1 Like |
Re: Am I Really Being unfair To These Two Girls?? by VEXT: 3:12pm On Dec 19, 2020 |
maiquel: Okay simp male goat |
Re: Am I Really Being unfair To These Two Girls?? by Magnoliaa(f): 3:12pm On Dec 19, 2020 |
mrblessed: He is a good man, but no lady is good enough to render help selflessly? Hah. The op himself mentioned his decision was *influenced* by gender bias; he alluded to stories he's heard - that's the basic reason else he wouldn't have said that. Whatever (sour) personal relationship he may have with them is just being echoed by him because of the comments here nudging him to think in that direction. If they were BAD, he'd be vocal about it and he wouldn't even be guilt-stricken in the first place. |
Re: Am I Really Being unfair To These Two Girls?? by tyup(m): 3:23pm On Dec 19, 2020 |
Heathrow44: Been up to two months or more now ion know if it's still available but I'll get across to you if it's still there cheers man I'm only out to help guys 1 Like |
Re: Am I Really Being unfair To These Two Girls?? by tollyboy5(m): 3:26pm On Dec 19, 2020 |
Kapilta:What about ex that billed life out of someone? A female friend has also shocked me also. I don't do too much for ladies. Note I'm not expecting anything either 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am I Really Being unfair To These Two Girls?? by drlateef: 3:28pm On Dec 19, 2020 |
tyup: Which hospital is that? |
Re: Am I Really Being unfair To These Two Girls?? by MummyD2020(f): 3:34pm On Dec 19, 2020 |
humilitypays: see guy, suffer or not it's not the issue. Remember it's a vicious cycle. E go still affect una in one way or the other. I'm not claiming gender superiority in any way. Wetin concern me? U will end up shooting ursef on the foot if u have this mindset. It's a vicious cycle |
Re: Am I Really Being unfair To These Two Girls?? by hashtagged(m): 3:38pm On Dec 19, 2020 |
MummyD2020: You are not a guy that's why, if you were you would know Bros hardly stab themselves in the back when it comes to repaying a favor. And a cousin is closer to you than any broke bitch. Bitches like you always talk like this when it comes time to repay a favor una go fvck up. It's better not to give it to anyone at all than to give a bitch that isn't family. so oga I don answer you 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am I Really Being unfair To These Two Girls?? by Mac12(f): 3:39pm On Dec 19, 2020 |
Don't worry, life na turn by turn and it'll get to your turn to be sky rocketed to the next level... I have male besties that have gone outta their ways to help me. One without prior notice to his employee, stopped work for three days just to help me pursue my transcript(mind you, we've got no emotional strings attached) Till date we are more than cool, in fact hubby knows about him and some of my male friends that helped me in the past and even give him work to design for him sometimes... I helped fix my ex's brother in my in law's football academy, why because he was more than good to me. I have male friends that I know if any opportunity pops up tomorrow, guy dem no go forget me; same goes to me. There are friends that are more than family, hope you know? You don't serve everybody with the same plate for goodness sake; I'm so pissed right now. What did we ever do to be judged wrongly almost all the time Coming to nairaland and seeing how we are been judged makes me cry. Everybody is not the same bro. You just made me cry tbvh 3 Likes |
Re: Am I Really Being unfair To These Two Girls?? by GMBuhari: 3:42pm On Dec 19, 2020 |
emotional comment RedPanthar: |
Re: Am I Really Being unfair To These Two Girls?? by RedPanthar: 3:45pm On Dec 19, 2020 |
Re: Am I Really Being unfair To These Two Girls?? by Martinez39s(m): 3:49pm On Dec 19, 2020 |
seanwilliam:I thought I was the only one that didn't believe her bullśhit story. I don't trust the stories or words that come out of a woman's mouth without evidence because they are full of śhit, and to boldly speak the lie as if it is the truth is their speciality. As for the ladies shouting "it will soon be the OP's turn" or "karma is real" should swear that they will help a close man friend before a female acquaintance. How many guys have they helped without looking for something in return? 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Am I Really Being unfair To These Two Girls?? by Klass99(f): 3:49pm On Dec 19, 2020 |
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Re: Am I Really Being unfair To These Two Girls?? by LoudLord(m): 3:52pm On Dec 19, 2020 |
fati2001: Leave talk and do the right thing... If God dey think all this kind stuff,I swear the man for no dey answer anybody prayer,after God bless some of us finish wetin we dey do with the money sometimes no dey okay but he no mind and he go still bless us.... Brr help if you wan help no dey talk too much but I for say make you help that your school mates,i no dey vibe with ex's The only ex I need now is Ex-tra money |
Re: Am I Really Being unfair To These Two Girls?? by CHoccolaTE: 3:53pm On Dec 19, 2020 |
OP dont worry. You didn't do anything wrong, Oys let's pray; In Jesus name, somebody will have a chance to help you make plenty millions in future but they will sit on that opportunity and hide it from you because they assumed you will be ungrateful. Oya say Amen, if you truly believe you are in the right and your actions are correct. |
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