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Absoj:
u bad I swear.

lol why will him pregnant who he can't marry na

Mr there is no court or law that would grant u ur wish of ur 5 yr old daughter to stay with you when her mother is alive. Infact if she has a good lawyer u can end up paying her monthly upkeep and dats apart from ur daughters own upkeep. Stop been foolish u made a mistake live with it.

BREYZ:
You no be sure guy. see as girl dey play ludo with your head.

the OP is not sincere - it’s got nothing to do with the daughter - dude hasn’t gotten over the olosho yet, her tow tow dey sweet am, FACT!!!!


and once she born the second pikin, na pick pin and frog jump you go dey do each time she vex for you, your eyes go soon clear- yeye man!

SimplePlan34:
Mr there is no court or law that would grant u ur wish of ur 5 yr old daughter to stay with you when her mother is alive. Infact if she has a good lawyer u can end up paying her monthly upkeep and dats apart from ur daughters own upkeep. Stop been foolish u made a mistake live with it.

Cc openbusiness

First of all the child is mine. Secondly I am not spineless because I don't take shit from anybody, including her. MY daughter is my life and everything and the only mistake I made is letting the mother know how much I love my baby. I do have exes who still want me but for the sake of peace I declined.

Yamiriflathead:
Can one even marry in church these days without first having to do a court marriage or obtain a certicate from a marriage registry?
Most churches these days ask for either a court marriage certificate or marriage registry certificate.

Even if I forget everything else like 2 plus 2, or 1 minus 1, or 3 x 3 or distance = velocity x time, there's one thing I can never forget about Maths and Physics and that is THE SHORTEST DISTANCE BETWEEN 2 POINTS IS A STRAIGHT LINE. Just hire a pastor to do ceremony, no long thing. If you wanna go through the route of Father in the Lord, Daddy GO, prophet holiness etc, then be ready to carry the cross of whatever requirements they throw at you. But as far as basics go, the validity "straight line" conditionality of

religious wedding = man + woman + clergyman + 2 or 3 witnesses (equation don complete). Anything else is extra.

If your clergyman is Pastor Paul Adefarasin or Chris Oyakhilome or EA Adeboye or Mike Okonkwo or David Oyedepo or David Ibiyeomie or Paul Enenche, then be ready to play by their rules and pass through their boot camp. But if your clergyman is a pay-as-you-go clergyman, then you can skip merry-go-round and just go straight to the point. Everything boils down to individual preferences and degree of woke-ness.

ipobarethieves:
She told you"DON'T KILL YOURSELF"Dat's grade A olosho talking.Why accepted her back Wen u have her OMO ALLEN/OJUELEGBA Dozier/file?.Go do the "Daughter" DNA,.Whywail to outsiders?.First report her to police.Tell dem she's a nuisance/threatened u..fling her panties,bra,clothes etc outside.

na better grade A olosho. I’m here imagining how she did her face when telling op that
I don’t even know the kind of men we have these days.

I did consider asking her to leave with my daughter and giving me the chance to start afresh but... each time my daughter curls up next to me and tells me "daddy please I want to stay with you, I don't want to follow my mummy." That feeling leaves me touched and my feelings for her becomes stronger.
I can't let my daughter go.

Openbusiness:
Even if I forget everything else like 2 plus 2, or 1 minus 1, or 3 x 3 or distance = velocity x time, there's one thing I can never forget about Maths and Physics and that is THE SHORTEST DISTANCE BETWEEN 2 POINTS IS A STRAIGHT LINE. Just hire a pastor to do ceremony, no long thing. If you wanna go through the route of Father in the Lord, Daddy GO, prophet holiness etc, then be ready to carry the cross of whatever requirements they throw at you. But as far as basics go, the "straight line" conditionality of

religious wedding = man + woman + clergyman + 2 or 3 witnesses (equation don complete). Anything else is extra.

If your clergyman is Pastor Paul Adefarasin or Chris Oyakhilome or EA Adeboye or Mike Okonkwo or David Oyedepo or David Ibiyeomie or Paul Enenche, then be ready to play by their rules and pass through their boot camp. But if your clergyman is a pay-as-you-go clergyman, then you can skip merry-go-round and just go straight to the point. Everything boils down to individual preferences and degree of woke-ness.

Lmao....
You're a real niqqa
Excellent analysis
You type like someone else I know on Nairaland Sha, but it's kul

korilala:
Blackmailed By My Ex!!! Don't Know What To Do.

I dated this lady several years back but due to her promiscuity we broke up but by then she was pregnant for me.

When my daughter clocked 3, I asked for my daughter to stay with me (she's staying with her mother's family) but she gave me a condition. That I forgive her and forget the past and we should plan a future together with our daughter. For my daughter's sake I accepted and she moved in with us but alas she still messages her ex and still reaches out to them. I confronted her again today and her reply to me is "you better don't kill yourself."

We're not married but every time I tell her to leave she threatens to take our daughter who is only five years old and who has grown a strong bond to me.

Mods in the house please advise me.

did you pay her bride price?

korilala:
I did consider asking her to leave with my daughter and giving me the chance to start afresh but... each time my daughter curls up next to me and tells me "daddy please I want to stay with you, I don't want to follow my mummy." That feeling leaves me touched and my feelings for her becomes stronger.
I can't let my daughter go.

Putting the Kids First is a Recipe For Disaster. Never do it.

Note: For anyone who thinks I “hate kids”, or I don’t want you to have kids, please read the first footnote before complaining. Then don't complain.

So either you fell for the baby trap, or you think you found your Disney Girl, and you are, or are about to become a dad.

Congrats. I hope everything goes well.

Spoiler Alert: It probably won’t.

There’s going to be a lot of pressure to start mouthing the mantra: "THE KIDS ALWAYS COME FIRST!!!"

I have seen this 1000x. It is the bluepill propaganda of baby-worshipping diaper-sniffers. It's designed to be an unassailable excuse so that dad can be put last or neglected altogether. It is the natural evolution of the "Woman > Man" philosophy of Toxic Feminism: Kids > Woman (but not really, it’s just the lie they tell) > Man.

She's a woman a will always be sympathetic to whatever stories mum tells her about you whether you try to be a good dad or not.
Children who grew up in monogamous homes, still prefer their mum's not minding what dad went through to keep the family soaring, have you bothered to ask yourself why?

Openbusiness:
Don't ever let any babymama threaten you with taking your child away. YOU HAVE THE BLOODY ADVANTAGE. Forget about what you know about America or Western countries, NIGERIA SYSTEM is DIFFERENT. A woman ONLY has legal upperhand to win child custody IF YOU WERE MARRIED (court wedding). But fortunately for you, you didn't marry her. By Custody Law in Nigeria, for unmarried parents, THE FATHER GETS CUSTODY OF HIS CHILD, not the mother. The mother can only keep the child IF the father is not available or didn't claim the child. But once a father makes CLAIM for his child, THE ONLY REQUIREMENT is for him to PROVE PATERNITY. Once you can prove the paternity, child custody is given to YOU.

Most men don't know this. IN NIGERIA THE CHILD BELONGS TO THE FATHER, for unmarried parents. The mother can only take custody IF nobody is coming forward claiming to be the father and proving paternity.



This is one of the big reasons to avoid court wedding. As a man, you are literally signing your power and advantages away and transferring those powers to your wife when you sign the court papers. If things go south between the 2nof you, she has the legal upperhand, and the only way left that you can only beat the system is it you are very rich and connected and she's does not have that kind of money to take you on in a fight. Court wedding puts a man in chains. There's absolutely nothing wrong with that IF you are fortunate to marry a very humble decent woman that is well behaved that has genuine love for you. Happily ever after will be your lot. But unfortunately, in our society, this type of woman is very very rare. Na nonsense girls full town. That's why as a man if you are fortunate to find a very decent well-behaved calm woman that loves you, guy hold am well oh, cuz her type don't cum in 2. Na one one God dey make dem. No go dey chase slay queen wen u have a real queen.

you make sense die and 1000 gbozah for your analysis - however you failed to mention one point

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE GUYS, no matter how drunk you may be or how careless you may be - NEVER EVER NUT IN AN UGLY BABE- make sure you inpregnate a very pretty girl because some girls go cut wor wor for your pikin ehnnnn na forever regret be that oooo

Openbusiness:
Don't ever let any babymama threaten you with taking your child away. YOU HAVE THE BLOODY ADVANTAGE. Forget about what you know about America or Western countries, NIGERIA SYSTEM is DIFFERENT. A woman ONLY has legal upperhand to win child custody IF YOU WERE MARRIED (court wedding). But fortunately for you, you didn't marry her. By Custody Law in Nigeria, for unmarried parents, THE FATHER GETS CUSTODY OF HIS CHILD, not the mother. The mother can only keep the child IF the father is not available or didn't claim the child. But once a father makes CLAIM for his child, THE ONLY REQUIREMENT is for him to PROVE PATERNITY. Once you can prove the paternity, child custody is given to YOU.

Most men don't know this. IN NIGERIA THE CHILD BELONGS TO THE FATHER, for unmarried parents. The mother can only take custody IF nobody is coming forward claiming to be the father and proving paternity.



This is one of the big reasons to avoid court wedding. As a man, you are literally signing your power and advantages away and transferring those powers to your wife when you sign the court papers. If things go south between the 2nof you, she has the legal upperhand, and the only way left that you can only beat the system is it you are very rich and connected and she's does not have that kind of money to take you on in a fight. Court wedding puts a man in chains. There's absolutely nothing wrong with that IF you are fortunate to marry a very humble decent woman that is well behaved that has genuine love for you. Happily ever after will be your lot. But unfortunately, in our society, this type of woman is very very rare. Na nonsense girls full town. That's why as a man if you are fortunate to find a very decent well-behaved calm woman that loves you, guy hold am well oh, cuz her type don't cum in 2. Na one one God dey make dem. No go dey chase slay queen wen u have a real queen.

you make sense dye and 1000 gbozah for your analysis - however you failed to mention one point

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE GUYS, no matter how drunk you may be or how careless you may be - NEVER EVER NUT IN AN UGLY BABE- make sure you inpregnate a very pretty girl because some girls go cut wor wor for your pikin ehnnnn na forever regret be that oooo

Well traditionally, you can't take the child as she was born out of marriage.

The ladys' family has exclusive right to the child.

korilala:
I did consider asking her to leave with my daughter and giving me the chance to start afresh but... each time my daughter curls up next to me and tells me "daddy please I want to stay with you, I don't want to follow my mummy." That feeling leaves me touched and my feelings for her becomes stronger.
I can't let my daughter go.

You did what? You consider what? SHEY U DEY MAD NI? That should never even be up for consideration unless you want to be an unfortunate father. So if your daughter didn't cling to you, you will let her go just like that? Check yourself, he b like na 1 ball dey between ur legs, I no think say u carry 2 wit d way ur talking. Cuz if u get 2 balls, woman no go dey control u anyhow, dey threaten u like small pikin. If you are a weak man, women go dey carry u misbehave, but if dem know say bomb dey ur head, dem go dey do normal. Carry ur head cum may I break that indomie wey dey inside
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ogbonti:
you make sense dye and 1000 gbozah for your analysis - however you failed to mention one point

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE GUYS, no matter how drunk you may be or how careless you may be - NEVER EVER NUT IN AN UGLY BABE- make sure you inpregnate a very pretty girl because some girls go cut wor wor for your pikin ehnnnn na forever regret be that oooo

Kikikiki, words on marble. Best Quote of the Month Award . Me I can't juz nut inside any girl oh. I look at your genes, as in critically. I examine your genetic quality. Genetics are a critical factor for me. My nut is liquid gold, only the best of the best can get it. I can't be downgrading the next generation. Upgrades ONLY!

pocohantas:
Team Babymama over to you.

He got the Baby Mama by mistake, it wasn't his plan from the get go. So don't mock us it's clear he is not man enough to handle his shi5.

Collins4u1:
Well traditionally, you can't take the child as she was born out of marriage.

The ladys' family has exclusive right to the child.

By which tradition specify abeg.......where i'm from and in most places in the world the "owners" of a child are the two people who brought the child to the world i.e Mother and father...not the mother's family

korilala:
Blackmailed By My Ex!!! Don't Know What To Do.

I dated this lady several years back but due to her promiscuity we broke up but by then she was pregnant for me.

When my daughter clocked 3, I asked for my daughter to stay with me (she's staying with her mother's family) but she gave me a condition. That I forgive her and forget the past and we should plan a future together with our daughter. For my daughter's sake I accepted and she moved in with us but alas she still messages her ex and still reaches out to them. I confronted her again today and her reply to me is "you better don't kill yourself."

We're not married but every time I tell her to leave she threatens to take our daughter who is only five years old and who has grown a strong bond to me.

Mods in the house please advise me.

So much for the alpha male and baby mama shiits,

Where the simp groups

korilala:
Blackmailed By My Ex!!! Don't Know What To Do.

I dated this lady several years back but due to her promiscuity we broke up but by then she was pregnant for me.

When my daughter clocked 3, I asked for my daughter to stay with me (she's staying with her mother's family) but she gave me a condition. That I forgive her and forget the past and we should plan a future together with our daughter. For my daughter's sake I accepted and she moved in with us but alas she still messages her ex and still reaches out to them. I confronted her again today and her reply to me is "you better don't kill yourself."

We're not married but every time I tell her to leave she threatens to take our daughter who is only five years old and who has grown a strong bond to me.

Mods in the house please advise me.

How sure are you that's your child?

Openbusiness:
Kikikiki, words on marble. Best Quote of the Month Award . Me I can't juz nut inside any girl oh. I look at your genes, as in critically. I examine your genetic quality. Genetics are a critical factor for me. My nut is liquid gold, only the best of the best can get it. I can't be downgrading the next generation. Upgrades ONLY!

yes ohhhh

alllow her to go with her. ur daughter go soon marry ur name hmmm

"You better don't Kill yourself"

You should start from these words
They mean a lot!.

The heart and brain has always been at war when it comes to issues pertaining women.

And bro for your sake please let your brain win this war.

korilala:
Blackmailed By My Ex!!! Don't Know What To Do.

I dated this lady several years back but due to her promiscuity we broke up but by then she was pregnant for me.

When my daughter clocked 3, I asked for my daughter to stay with me (she's staying with her mother's family) but she gave me a condition. That I forgive her and forget the past and we should plan a future together with our daughter. For my daughter's sake I accepted and she moved in with us but alas she still messages her ex and still reaches out to them. I confronted her again today and her reply to me is "you better don't kill yourself."

We're not married but every time I tell her to leave she threatens to take our daughter who is only five years old and who has grown a strong bond to me.

Mods in the house please advise me.

Na wa o! You allowed yourself to be blackmailed and gave her the upper hand. What a pity.

korilala:
Blackmailed By My Ex!!! Don't Know What To Do.

I dated this lady several years back but due to her promiscuity we broke up but by then she was pregnant for me.

When my daughter clocked 3, I asked for my daughter to stay with me (she's staying with her mother's family) but she gave me a condition. That I forgive her and forget the past and we should plan a future together with our daughter. For my daughter's sake I accepted and she moved in with us but alas she still messages her ex and still reaches out to them. I confronted her again today and her reply to me is "you better don't kill yourself."

We're not married but every time I tell her to leave she threatens to take our daughter who is only five years old and who has grown a strong bond to me.

Mods in the house please advise me.

Mr. Simp, go and do a DNA test first. Heard it is now 60k

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korilala:
Blackmailed By My Ex!!! Don't Know What To Do.

I dated this lady several years back but due to her promiscuity we broke up but by then she was pregnant for me.

When my daughter clocked 3, I asked for my daughter to stay with me (she's staying with her mother's family) but she gave me a condition. That I forgive her and forget the past and we should plan a future together with our daughter. For my daughter's sake I accepted and she moved in with us but alas she still messages her ex and still reaches out to them. I confronted her again today and her reply to me is "you better don't kill yourself."

We're not married but every time I tell her to leave she threatens to take our daughter who is only five years old and who has grown a strong bond to me.

Mods in the house please advise me.

Ignore whatever move she makes from now on, whether its texting msgs or answering calls or even going out with whoever she want ,
Just Ignore her and be yourself, focus only on your daughter,
If you want her full attention back to you again ,
Sometimes fake calls like....
Hey babe whats up ?
You miss me ?
Ok, see you soon dear ,
But if you don't want her back again
then do the needful asap
plz use your damn brian dude .

ogbonti:
you make sense dye and 1000 gbozah for your analysis - however you failed to mention one point

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE GUYS, no matter how drunk you may be or how careless you may be - NEVER EVER NUT IN AN UGLY BABE- make sure you inpregnate a very pretty girl because some girls go cut wor wor for your pikin ehnnnn na forever regret be that oooo

na your post make sense pass for the whole thread!

NEVER EVER NUT IN AN UGLY BABE

alphaNomega:
na your post make sense pass for the whole thread!

NEVER EVER NUT IN AN UGLY BABE

yes ooo I saw this first hand with a friend- He is a cute guy but the first chic he dated in secondary school was ugly but very jovial and financially supportive to him since he was from a poor background then. So when he came to study in my university we became friends and this same ugly girl gained admission too to study with us and in final year this gurl became pregnant and my friend couldn’t get her to remove it as she insisted she must have the baby - and she did. My friend moved on with his life despite our pleadings to marry the girl. Years later he met and fell in love with an averagely cute chic and they had a daughter - guy you go like pikin na

when i compared the pics of his 2 kids - I concluded never ever will i marry or even impregnate an ugly girl - my advise to everyone —— if una can’t hold body abeg, wear condom, make we no go get ugly people like El Rufai, Oshomole, Tinubu, Obaseki and Evans Enwerem full for Nigeria LOL

korilala:
Blackmailed By My Ex!!! Don't Know What To Do.

I dated this lady several years back but due to her promiscuity we broke up but by then she was pregnant for me.

When my daughter clocked 3, I asked for my daughter to stay with me (she's staying with her mother's family) but she gave me a condition. That I forgive her and forget the past and we should plan a future together with our daughter. For my daughter's sake I accepted and she moved in with us but alas she still messages her ex and still reaches out to them. I confronted her again today and her reply to me is "you better don't kill yourself."

We're not married but every time I tell her to leave she threatens to take our daughter who is only five years old and who has grown a strong bond to me.

Mods in the house please advise me.

Gather evidence that can be use in the court, then leave her and petition for the custody of your daughter.

korilala:
Blackmailed By My Ex!!! Don't Know What To Do.

I dated this lady several years back but due to her promiscuity we broke up but by then she was pregnant for me.

When my daughter clocked 3, I asked for my daughter to stay with me (she's staying with her mother's family) but she gave me a condition. That I forgive her and forget the past and we should plan a future together with our daughter. For my daughter's sake I accepted and she moved in with us but alas she still messages her ex and still reaches out to them. I confronted her again today and her reply to me is "you better don't kill yourself."

We're not married but every time I tell her to leave she threatens to take our daughter who is only five years old and who has grown a strong bond to me.

Mods in the house please advise me.

My dear, she has said it all, do t kill yourself

First of all let her leave if she can't be responsible and decent and if you can no longer tolerate her illegal life

If she demands for her daughter, let her go with her daughter and you visit her over there

You are not yet married to her so she is hell bent on frustrating you, using her daughter as a bait

You have to tread with caution because she no send and you want to kill your self

Law of survival is you first

Na person like you dey advice young guys to look away when dem dey yansh their wife.

Ode!

RedPanthar:
SIMP. Why it's okay to be lovey Dovey in the dating phase, that's not the standpoint from which a man must run a home, family and manage a marriage.


A man must take the lead, hold the reims, take charge and make decisions albeit inspiring cooperation from his partner. Your comment indicates that you're weak, too weak to assume control over your affairs and can't manage yourself let alone a human being



Let's look at it from a myriad of ways...


... Where did you learn your fatherhood skills from. Did you grow up in a broken home and raised by just a woman? You need to first sink into your psyche, speak with people to help you identify your obvious weakness which you seem to be unaware about and beginning the fixing in your mind. You are too weak to be qualified as an adult man



.... Tell me of what use is a daughter you don't truly inspire her as father, daughter and her source of everything... While the daughter maybe yours, the close bond that has kept you out of her life is deliberately schemed to ensure everything she knows is purely from what her snake mother tells her. Making her of little to no use beyond emotional attachment, this you don't know or choose to ignore the complications. Even if that girl grows under you with the way she's under the mothers tight grip, you have little to nothing to benefit from fathering her. The fatherhood and family structure is defective and destructive. You have no advantage fathering that child... And if you want to be in her life as a father, you need to assume the role and stop acting like a sperm donor. If you won't stop begging as it shows in your comments that even your day to day activities is begging to be the child's father, get out of their life and go fix yourself




Go and get yourself some redpill and develop mentally and psychologically. You're too weak.



She only used you when she ran into tight corner and you SIMPed for her antics




Grow some balls, be the man and stop whining. If you want her out, when she goes whoring, ensure she comes back to meet her thrash outside the door. And begin to act like you don't care about the child even if you do. Hide the love, withold all show of affection that's being used to control you. And steal back the remote control being used to control you from her hand



You're pathetically weak.

Leave the child for now, work on yourself first. You're too weak for a man

Whatever you do, make sure you get " Redpilled "

Lord have mercy. I have never been more horrified by a nairalander's comment than I feel now after reading yours. A father should deprive his own child of love so that he won't be perceived as weak. Wow. I wonder the kind of emotionally damaged children a person like you will raise. A child needs love in order to grow. What a toxic human you are