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Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by atiku4President(m): 8:36pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
He may not be your husband or you are not ready to get married. This will be the same even when you get married. You woukdn't know how to cover up for your husband. You would have covered up for him somehow. And for you to call him about it shows you allowed emotions to rule you. Not good at all 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Sixfeetbelle: 8:37pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
descarado: Apparently, neither does the guy 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by oluwaseyi0: 8:37pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
NeoWanZaeed: What about the previous gift he came with? It has expired and gift must be renewed at every single damn visit? Don't you think you are the kid here? 8 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by NoToPile: 8:37pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
descarado: Kindly expantiate on the bolded |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by AmgMakanaki(m): 8:37pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
What kind of mother do you have... at this point of the relationship,, she don Dey sabi beg.. Na wa o �� 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Hushpuppies(m): 8:37pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
TransAtlanticEx: 1 Like
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Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by OdenKelechi(m): 8:38pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
izzou: Gbam!! Me i no fit even visit if she no dey there. But this guy insisted and still went ahead |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Maobichek: 8:38pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Mariangeles: Good evening, for the first time ever since i joined Nairaland (2011), i will use this word: Tufiakwa!!! what part of Igbo are you From? it's better you say your family and not Igbo tribe. All my sisters are married and are Happy in their respective homes . My both parents are Igbos so correct your comment by saying your family or Village and not Igbo, thank you. 9 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Lashist(m): 8:38pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Sixfeetbelle:Madam every visitor is not suppose give you biscuits everytime they come greet you...it depicts excessive hunger....if you want to give them water to drink, your cup of tea but dont expect them to bring you bread and biscuits...Just imagine your mentality. Person wey end up with you will put up with alot of rubbish 8 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by H2ho(m): 8:38pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Red flag |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by AmgMakanaki(m): 8:39pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
He’s telling you the truth sister... your mom is a bitch 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by JovialJune(f): 8:40pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Mariangeles: Eyah referring to yourself abi, pele you'll be fine. 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by omotoyossi(m): 8:40pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
I advise that guy to leave your family alone. A family of hungry people that will bring burden. 3 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by oluikotun: 8:41pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Mariangeles:What African culture says you should bribe your girlfriend or boyfriend's parents? From where I am from, on the of introduction the groom family comes with gifts while the bride's family host them same on the wedding day. |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Nobody: 8:41pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
luminouz: Will u keep quiet! The same irresponsibility that is worrying the guy is what is worrying you. Why do the whites go with a box of chocolate, bottle of wine or even a bunch of flowers. You went to greet your in-laws empty handed and yet you were offered Coke and you drank it. If I were him I would not drink that Coke. So, it would be a goalless draw. Guys like you be calling the woman and her daughter poor. And what if they are poor? Is it a crime to be poor? Didn't the guy see them as poor before dating the lady? Must the poor woman use her last 100naira to entertain an irresponsible guy and he still shamelessly drank it and stood up to say goodbye ma. Guy don't jump on my mention next time. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Lashist(m): 8:41pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
BusinessCity:Flex |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by vickydevoka(m): 8:41pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Mariangeles:Aunty rich people like us don't take it seriously. Please don't generalise, speak for ur self African gal 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by YelloweWest: 8:42pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Your mother is most likely concerned because your fiancee behaved like an uncultured fool. How can u go to your future inlaw for the forst time empty hande? Did his father not each him anything?? |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Politicapastor1: 8:42pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
I pity your family, are you people that hungry that you now depend on your fiance. Go and thank ur God. If am they guy, that relationship is over. Rubbish quote author=Trayceey post=97807939]I Need Your Opinion On This Issue That's Threatening My Relationship My fiance wanted to come to the house to see my mum but I told him I won't be around because I'm about heading out to somewhere, so he asked me if my mum would be around, then I said yes and he said he would still go to see her and it doesn't matter if I'm not around. When I later got home that night, my mum complained that he came empty handed. He didn't bring anything for her and she was the one who offered him her drink. Although initially, I didn't see anything wrong with that but when my mum expressed her displeasure, I later called him to ask why he came to the house empty handed then I let him know I wasn't happy with him, that it would have been better if he didn't come. He tried arguing with me but I hung up. Since then, we haven't spoken to each other nor visited each other. Was I wrong?[/quote] |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by LadySarah: 8:43pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
BusinessCity: shrugs. OK if you say so. |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Kaimaonyeana: 8:43pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Sixfeetbelle: Poverty mentality |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Sixfeetbelle: 8:44pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Lashist: It's your perspective, finally. If you like, when you visit people, show up empty-handed. I won't do it. If the people are hungry or rich, it doesn't matter to me as my gift is what I make of it, not what they make of it. |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Nobody: 8:44pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
NoToPile: Na so my guy. Many of them should still be sucking Mama's b000bs. Putting their mouth in matters that are way too big than them. |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by bukatyne(f): 8:44pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
WILLuKPquiet: Goalless draw kwa? 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by netmillionaires(m): 8:44pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Personally, I don't like the bearing of gifts on the first visit as I see it as buying over the would-be in-laws with money. I prefer to go on a casual visit to study and mingle with the family I plan to get married to. When they happen to like my personality and approve of me, I can then spoil them with gifts when next I visit. It is hard to differentiate between the family that loves you from the one that is just in it for your gifts and money when you come bearing gifts right from day one. Most men do it to buy favour but when their in-law became entitled, they start to complain. The problem with relationship in this part of the world is that we make it about what others can do for us instead of what we can do for others. My family don't expect much from people other than love and sincerity. J111333: 4 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by BusinessCity: 8:44pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Sixfeetbelle: 8:45pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Kaimaonyeana: No. Explain your previous idiotic sentence |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by MrOON: 8:45pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
TransAtlanticEx: I rarely do come to fight on NL cos i know I'll get a bloody nose for winked pipo like you. You just buried the poor girl. |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Lashist(m): 8:45pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
WILLuKPquiet:Read properly next time and obey your moniker. The same white people will tell you "you shouldnt have brought that box of chocolate cus they weren't expecting it. He is not their in-law yet and he has taken gifts to them before...expecting gifts every single time is entitlement mentality. So once he calls her on phone, he should quickly recharge her line cus she spoke to her 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by MightyHand(m): 8:45pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
You better go beg your man, your mum will push you to ritualist sooner or later... 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Komu1048(m): 8:46pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Trayceey: Is that how he used to do, or this is the first time he came without dropping anything |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by richie240: 8:47pm On Jan 08, 2021 |
Trayceey:Eyahhhhh....e go soon clear 4 ur aiz when, @ d slightest provocation, that same mother will taunt u on how she had bn married and had delivered all her children at ur age and ask u to go and marry, not minding d fact dt her greediness and wrong advice contributed to u being single. Na dt time u go know say u don enter one chance! 5 Likes |
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