Mariangeles:


Taaa gbafuo! Gini ka I ma? Ji k'owu ede?



Onye ihere lara n'anya. Ga juo ese otu eshi e meta ihe nu na ilu nwaanyi, gi choputacha, I bia mu na gi a kpaa ya bu okwu.

I na suru'm bekee!

Gi choro I sa'm okwu a, saa'm n'Igbo. M'oburu na ighaghi emeli ya, I chefue okwu!

Kitikpa gbabuo gi ebe ahu i no, onye gwara gi na ma amaghi ihe di n'ilu nwayi na ala igbo, i bu efulefu burukwa onye nzuzu. Nwanyi na etuku ana anyu mamiri na agwa mu bu nwoke okwu otu a, chai, ndi oyibo emebiela omenala anyi, ka m gwa kwa gi ya ozo, nwoke ahu alubeghi nwayi ahu, mgbe obula o jiri nwe kwo ugwo isi ya, ha buruzia ogo, ndewo

DrayZee:

Of course he did. It didn’t take much for me to know he was a proper guy. But you’re taking the side of the person who called him an animal.

Comedy Central

The is just a good chap, that babe need to grow up.

shantti:



Kitikpa gbabuo gi ebe ahu i no, onye gwara gi na ma amaghi ihe di n'ilu nwayi na ala igbo, i bu efulefu burukwa onye nzuzu. Nwanyi na etuku ana anyu mamiri na agwa mu bu nwoke okwu otu a, chai, ndi oyibo emebiela omenala anyi, ka m gwa kwa gi ya ozo, nwoke ahu alubeghi nwayi ahu, mgbe obula o jiri nwe kwo ugwo isi ya, ha buruzia ogo, ndewo

Edemede gi a mejisara gi oyi nnoo. I nweteghi ya ma ncha. Ya buru ule, I daala final.

O na gu'm I ji gi e me ihe ochi, mana ka'm hapu...chi ejiela.

K'odi!

colestephan86:

You are a fool.
Even if he is not going to marry the babe , how much is a bottle of non alcoholic wine.
You are seeing an elderly Person for the first time. What did he go there to discuss with the woman.

First time ke? That wasn't the first time. "What did he go there to discuss with the woman " really, he should just go and drop the supposed gift and walk away? Na so e Dey be.

EzegeNdiigbo:
My question is "is it the first time he is visiting your family"??

It's not, the babe and the mum no try

BusinessCity:




Was he pointed a gun and forced to go. You don't go to your in laws empty handed. The Bible says don't go to the prophet empty handed. It's the same thing. Tricky tee went to Bayelsa governor empty handed, Nenyi took a gift along, did you notice the different reception they got? A man's gift mrakes way for him.

Waht are you quoting? Is thag a precedence or what.

brightalo1010:


Which African law said boyfriend must give his girlfriend's mama money when he visits her?

I tire, it's really absurd.

DropsMic:


REDFLAG....
He wasn’t supposed to argue with you. All he needed to do was to apologize to you and your mom but he couldn’t do that... That’s the REDFLAG

He should take everything hook line and sinker? and u be man?

Mariangeles:


Edemede gi a mejisara gi oyi nnoo. I nweteghi ya ma ncha. Ya buru ule, I daala final.

O na gu'm I ji gi e me ihe ochi, mana ka'm hapu...chi ejiela.

K'odi!

E nyere m gi ezigbo aziza, mana ihere na mpako agaghi ekwe gi nabata ya, i si na i ga eji m nwe mere ihe ochi? achia m na latin, i ji onwe gi nwe mere ihe ochi n' iru ndi na agu ihe a i na ede, nne, ka m gwa gi eziokwu, chiri ute gi nawa, o nweghi ihe ozo nwere isi i ga ekwu nwu, kwusi igosi na i di iberibe ebe a, udo

Trayceey:
not really. The first time he came to see her, which has been a while now, he didn't come empty handed

So what's the problem now? He should bring gifts everytime??

Like what the fuvk is wrong with us?
When did gifting become mandatory?

and you had to tell him that it would have been better if he didn't come at all??

Mehnn, this had better be one of dem tales by the moonlight.

cassyrooy:
See how you women cause trouble unnecessarily? The young man came to formally introduce himself but rather than assess him, properly know his intentions and plans that's welled up in his heart you people are busy looking under his palm to know what he brought, probably to know whether it's cheap or expensive.

If I be that guy, I'll simply walk out of this entire thing. Person bring him esteemed self una no want am, na gifts and salary for visitation una dey look for. Old for your papa house na.

If that marriage goes ahead that woman will expect the man to be paying her salary, all this nonsense they follow make men no Dey live long. Unnecessary drama everywhere

Please Tracy, help me tell the guy to run away from a family of leeches

You don't really love the you just want to eat him and leave him, girls like always bring third party into your marriage. You let ur mom to come between you and your man.

Trayceey:
so many nairaland boys are broke and this is why they're so pained on this issue. You won't blame them though. This country is messed up

You have an attitudinal problem, better work on yourself. If you can't take criticism why bring it up here? Any one who criticizes your action is a broke guy. Very appalling

What I don't understand is the meaning of "it would have been better he didn't come at all".

Does this mean that his visit is meaningless since he didn't come bearing gifts?.

That is not a good way to reason.

TransAtlanticEx:
Swears
I always tell people to avoid poor women as much as possible,it's for reason like this.
Personally I'd rather die single than have anything to do with this class of women.
Bread for that matter,Ha!

I've read all the comments here and I notice that most people here have low mentality...what the man did goes to show that he's stingy and nobody wants to marry a stingy man...he should have gotten bread or something else..you are visiting her mom from a far place and you didn't get anything?...that's crazy...the man self is a fool

LadySarah:
The first time my husband then fiance visited he brought nothing and my mom never brought the issue up. All their discussion was centered on his character as a person.

As it stands he's my moms favorite in-law when it comes to gifts which I have never solicited on her behalf. I'm always the last to know. please don't loose a good man cos of frivolities.

Ezigbo Di Di uko!

Funny though, I'm just remembering it now.let me go and ask him for African culture first time gift.

never a yardstick to proof point, then he made mistake, i am very sure when you were going to his parents place you brought gifts, definitely he would come back to his senses

LadySarah:
The first time my husband then fiance visited he brought nothing and my mom never brought the issue up. All their discussion was centered on his character as a person.

As it stands he's my moms favorite in-law when it comes to gifts which I have never solicited on her behalf. I'm always the last to know. please don't loose a good man cos of frivolities.

Ezigbo Di Di uko!

Funny though, I'm just remembering it now.let me go and ask him for African culture first time gift.

never a yardstick to proof point, then he made mistake, i am very sure when you were going to his parents place you brought gifts, definitely he would come back to his senses and made amendment;

MakyavelitheDon:





After seeing the way you replied some people here on nairaland and after saying you hung up on your future husband it's shows me some things about you
1. You lack grace
2. You're Ill mannered and Ill tempered
3. You have your priorities completely twisted and you have no idea what marriage is about
4. Youre pompous and arrogant


I can go on but let me peg it there.

Now that your mother had used her witchcraft to truncate your marriage plans let her go and bring husband from inside the river for you.

I give that guy kudos for taking off... Both you and your mother don't seem like people a reasonable guy would wanna spend his life connected to

and the way you too reply her shows ur aggresiveness,high temperment and lack of respect. i pity the woman that will or is ur wife

15ssDRIVE:
I am proud to be an African. Its our culture !!!

culture dey every where you go.


who goes to see his/her mother Inlaw empty handed ? Even correct woman no go, come see her mother Inlaw empty handed ....... no be hunger oh... na courtesy

Mother in-law? Did you see any where in the OP post referring to mother in-law? Na person wey marry they get mother in-law African culture when it suits your narrative, you guys dont shout African culture when it doesn't define your narrative. Boyfriend and girlfriend matter, hunger full this country.

Sixfeetbelle:


Why visit 20 times and not bring bread even once? Who does that?

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Lol...i mean if he brings 19 times and didnt bring for once out of the 20times, everyone will complain

GIANTPLUSHUB:


Traceey, we have passed that culture things. Now, everyone is trying to be careful and put somethings into test. You see, your man did nothing wrong at all.

How about he does not takes anything to your house but he gives you peace and comfort in marriage and always support if any situation arises in your own family side?

You need to think and go beg your man. So far he's a good guy to you. Somethings just need wisdom. Since he's into going to your house without buying something along. Next time, whenever he wants to go, try and meet him up and handover something to him to give them at home. Maybe as time goes on, he will get used to it. Do this with calm and good words, like you just want your family to see him as a more better good man.

All the very best.

since we have passed that culture, why did she need to buying gift and handed it to him to give her parents again? He should continue go there empty handed, after all, he is taking care of their daughter. I dnt think he needs to get used to culture we have outlived na.

you talked , within a second you counter your chidish opinion.

someone did something wrong, you are pampering and twisting , marriage is for mature and responsible man and not immature mind.

Trayceey:
that's your family

I wish I can get his number, let me give him 10 reasons why he needs to run away from you and your family.

descarado:
@op, call and apologise to your man. Go and reprimand your mum else she will continue with this mentality.

A good mother in law to be will look for something to give him to take home with. That's how she will endear herself to this man and in turn make the man love and cherish you more.
Ladies use your sixth sense!

Is it mother in law that will find way to endear herself to son -in law Or potential (incoming) son- in -law that will find way to endear himself to his in-laws?

turning the whole show upside down,you guys should think deeply before posting on public forum please, ur posts can be used to deduce ur thinking faculty

Trayceey:
I'm not defending my mum. You know these mothers always have a hold on us

and your mum had to offer him her drink.
your husband to be ooo, thats bad.
and you hang up on him, good one babe.
next time, you'll not only hang up but insult his family.
don't mind nairalanders, he's not your husband.
your own husband is coming.

Trayceey:
not really. The first time he came to see her, which has been a while now, he didn't come empty handed

then what's the fuss about? I see no issue here, just adults acting up. And ladies find it insulting when they're said to be melodramatic.

Hathor5:
You should have never told your boyfriend what your mother said. BIG mistake!
Even if you mend the relationship with him, he will feel different about her from now on and I can't blame him.
Expecting people to always give you something every time they visit is pure greed or the result of poverty. I don't know which one it is in your case.

n0t poverty i can assure you. Being poor isn't an excuse.

shantti:



Can u imagine how you paint someone evil, because a boyfriend did not buy a gift for his girlfriends mum on one of his visits( he bought gift for the mum on his first visit) he is now a potential bad father, bad husband and bad in law, i know u must be a woman,
Let me ask u a question, the guy you are dating, assuming he stays with his mum, will u be buying her gifts per visitation keeping in mind that u will be visiting like thrice per week. I know the answer in no, so does that now means you are insensitive, irresponsible and bad. Judging someone personality using ordinary gift as a yardstick,I spit in disgust at your reasoning, u need therapy, counselling, deliverance(six, become one wont be enough), rehabilitation,sermon, preaching, exercise( to improve brain function), early morning sun, fruits, vegetables( to improve brain function), milk, surgery, brain transplant, head transplant, yoga, sex, strolling, love and care, education, career, talent, passion, wisdom, exorcism, water, discipline, incantation and chloroquine injection

Going by barbarous you wrote up thr, Its is clearly shown you will soon enter market naked, you are going through most difficult time in ur life. your mind is seriously troubled, I pray God will see you through.

No need point of order again.

Kaimaonyeana:



Yes, i can't go to an intending in-law's place empty-handed as a man. It doesn't speak well of me as an igbo man. Just 1000 naira bottle of eva wine would suffice. It really isn't that deep. Nobody gives my daddy an invitation card empty handed, a bottle of wine accompanys it. And no, we are not hungry, broke or entitled. It's just a symbol of respect. By the way, i also grew up my wholelife in the west. Only came down to the east precisely Enugu for my tertiary education and i still know the basics.

So he should stay in his own lane if he doesn't have anything to give?
This is part of the reasons why some married people don't like visiting their in-laws.... A good n healthy relationship should supersede bearing gifts.
Nigga probably thought "lemme just go n see my gf's mother n say compliments of the season", nothing wrong with that at all. He shouldn't have to tax himself whenever he wants to see his girl's family, dt is just a recipe for permanent phone n video calls

esthel:
Well at first you said you saw it as nothing when she told you, that's what it should have been,you shouldn't have allowed her convince you further it was wrong. You need to apologise to him, whether he accepts or not is now left to him.

apology is just to be 0n g0od terms. As for the relati0nship, it's dead. Cause a hostility has already been c0nceived. People d0n't forget.

Freemasonry:

You see!
He’s not really as stingy as you make it seem.
He probably didn’t think bringing stuff for your mom was a lifelong ritual.
Please lose this mentality and get your man back.

the relati0nship is already tainted. The guy wouldn't be free with the in law or the lady in question again. He would live in awe. Scared to be judged or make a mistake. They've already shown they're c0ntrol freaks and thus, it'd be a mental battle for the man, c0nsidering going to see an in law is akin to going to a law court.