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Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by deltateam: 6:56am On Jan 09, 2021 |
BOSMANARIS: Look at first quote critically. What meaning does it connote or do you think her mind was at rest? Do you know what instinct means? You don't expect her to tell him to bring something. It would have been too forward besides it's assumed he had common sense which unfortunately isn't common as can be seen. Bottom line is: If 'little' things like this can cause problem in this relationship, what of the bigger ones? It clearly needs a break. |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by adex1300(m): 6:56am On Jan 09, 2021 |
Trayceey:If this was not his first time then am sorry to tell u that u are wrong. He brought something the first time and now he brought nothing, all you shud have done is to jokingly asked him why he did not give your mum anything, telling him what your mum said is very very wrong.Just try and settle things with him if you still love him though he is also wrong for not talking to you since then because a man that wants to get married needs to be emotionally matured. |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Jessepaid(m): 7:05am On Jan 09, 2021 |
Trayceey:... Shit... well.... The empty-handedness shouldn't be an issue.. He insisted on seeing your mum with or without you.. All I see is a man who wants to do things on his own terms... Whatever his reason for not getting your mum anything for visiting her, remains his business.. More over, it might just be a case of pure ignorance, financial unavailability , forgetfulness or even intentional.. Next time don't act entitled to a gift... Or is bread and milk more important than your marriage with this fellow? Remember na your happiness you dey find oo not your mama own! 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Oracleforce: 7:06am On Jan 09, 2021 |
For me;/this is the issue you need to discuss with your bf if you truly love him....firstly, you need to know his intention...because in some family taking gift to an in-law house is not a big deal but in your own case, it is an issue to your mother.... Op, I see your mother using you to control and manipulate that guy because you still depend on your mother to tell you what is wrong or right.... Why can you visit a certified marriage counselor to really know what should be done.. If I hear such story from my gf, then I will decide immediately what to do with the charade relationship. I guess, op is a Igbo lady... |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by mamaafrik(m): 7:07am On Jan 09, 2021 |
Trayceey:if he was open enough to come visit mama without you being around and he could come with that openness,he is a nice and honest man,he could even have just put you people to simple test. Mum should have appreciated the fact that he came at all. It's not all momma or family says that you react to,you just told mummy you really don't love the guy,If you truly do,you would have defended him and not drop call on him. If you are too egoistic to apologize,same mum will shout "go and bring good husband home" whentime pass,a time will come,mum won't be around anymore,step wisely. 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Trendishine: 7:11am On Jan 09, 2021 |
Mariangeles:Stop misquoting the bible, you know nothing about it's context here and twist everything to suit a dirty narrative.. Don't decieve yourself, you can't bend the rational truth with this. |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Damian10(m): 7:11am On Jan 09, 2021 |
I think people react to things differently, it wouldn't have being a qualms with another mum elsewhere since gift on such visit isn't mandatory. but the man being a gentle man should have apologized and make things up if he really cares simple. |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Anaerobi(m): 7:14am On Jan 09, 2021 |
TransAtlanticEx: oga off the mic pls.... it's too much. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Trendishine: 7:16am On Jan 09, 2021 |
Mariangeles:Speak for yourself.. There is nothing Igbo about it. It is not an Igbo culture to expect anything from a visiting & aspiring in-law anytime he visits... It's your hungry mentality of longer throat. It's not anybody's culture... Tufiakwa! 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by deltateam: 7:17am On Jan 09, 2021 |
BOSMANARIS: Now let me say this: Bad things happen when you think your partners views, presence and opinion is not important in things that directly or indirectly affects her. I hope you're married by the way. |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by TheOnlyUyai(f): 7:21am On Jan 09, 2021 |
BusinessCity: Shut up. Bloody lair. Do you tell tall tales for a living? You shall soon meet your waterloo, BigSquid. 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Anaerobi(m): 7:23am On Jan 09, 2021 |
if it was a guy that called the lady, asking why he didn't buy gift for his mom, ladies will tag him as Mommies boy.... confused gender....rubbish 3 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by luuvv: 7:24am On Jan 09, 2021 |
TransAtlanticEx:Kudos |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Vaabra01(f): 7:25am On Jan 09, 2021 |
Thanks for this o If naa orange 100# buy for hand and take along Don't ever and ever go empty handed whtn going to visit anybody talk of your GF's mum.... Mariangeles: |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by osazsky(m): 7:26am On Jan 09, 2021 |
Xmen149:what if like 3 guys are fukking her...see plenty gift...that one na fianceenances 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Kaimaonyeana: 7:27am On Jan 09, 2021 |
franugo: If he can't afford bread 500naira and a bottle of eva wine 1000naira then, he is not ready to marry. Did anybody say he would buy milo and milk or car? Buying those things is just out of courtesy. Be reasonable abeg. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by TheOnlyUyai(f): 7:28am On Jan 09, 2021 |
Acidosis: That wasn't his first visit, Acidosis. |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by fineboynl(m): 7:29am On Jan 09, 2021 |
Ingredient88:is the same thing. Fiance means lover and who intend to marry. It's not husband 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by kodix(m): 7:31am On Jan 09, 2021 |
Check that man wellooo bcs what your mother is telling you is true,he should not have come empty handed is a pure red flag,you might not like what u will see if u keep on with him,is not even your mums problems then but she is just trying to help u and she might not necessarily need anything from him but courtesy demands he would have get even if small thing since you're not even @ home,so be careful with him. |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Anaerobi(m): 7:32am On Jan 09, 2021 |
the guy already have in mind to visit the family not minding who is at home or not.... but didn't plan it to be a big visit.... but seriously op your mom was wrong. I. as much as they are our parents doesn't mean they are always right .... you mustn't support mom in everything.... if you love your man, do the needful.... go and say sorry and talk to your mom about such mindset. |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by osazsky(m): 7:33am On Jan 09, 2021 |
Trayceey:dear how are u doing..sorry for the batching and insults yesterday o..u done shitt this morning..if no pls try to visit the toilet this morning..is there tissue paper...i want to buy some as gift wben i come visiting ur mum this evening 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Bennysam: 7:33am On Jan 09, 2021 |
SweetCunt97:Oga if you have not married, I’m married and also visit my in-law before we got married nothing like gift everyday what my in-laws is after is well being of their daughter that is what a reasonable mother will be after |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Kaimaonyeana: 7:34am On Jan 09, 2021 |
franugo: Then he shouldn't have gone to visit then. Courtesy demands u visit elderly people u see once in a while bearing gifts. It's the thought that count not the actual gifts it'self. Na wa oo |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Fiscus105(m): 7:34am On Jan 09, 2021 |
shantti: I knew it, you would result to grammatical war, go back to secondary school and do WAEC, IF NOT NECO, YOU WOULDN'T HAVE KNOWN OR SEEN, 4 WALLS OF HIGHER INSTITUTION, back to your 'supposed grammatical intimidation. Why did you seek the help of MS WORD to identify grammatical blunders in an unofficial write up? Saying alot about your academic background. Despite the fact you sought the help of 'application to identify errors, you couldn't say the exact grammatical blunder I made. Sorry for naija education, NECO and Android devices graduates. Let me correct your blunders above ..............I copied and viewed them" on "MS WORD, saw red and blue lines everywhere. Pronoun "it will be used for single error and not many errors. Copied & viewed (past tense)...... Must follow by saw (past tense) Olodoooooooooooooo |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by osazsky(m): 7:37am On Jan 09, 2021 |
Anaerobi:even if she apologises the relationship can nerver remain the same..he will continue to look down on her mum even after marraige..i am a man..and u nor know d kind mindset way we get..after this fraca the guy will definately send the mum some cash so that the hole can continue to service him..i know how it will end if this continue especially if the guy has told any of his sibbling or parents..damage control |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Kaimaonyeana: 7:39am On Jan 09, 2021 |
franugo: A whole compliment of the season emptyhanded . Na wa ooo |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by ceeceeuwa: 7:39am On Jan 09, 2021 |
UnBanEbenezer:Poverty shall finish off your offspring till their last generation and their shall be no remedy to it! Amen!! |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by osazsky(m): 7:40am On Jan 09, 2021 |
Kaimaonyeana:the mum cant be an elderly woman..we know how ederly women behave.she is a single mum..and men with pot bellies always come visiting with cash gift..hence she xpects same gesture from her daughters bf |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Nobody: 7:42am On Jan 09, 2021 |
Trayceey: Young lady you are making a terrible mistake oo. From all indication, this guy is a good guy. He even came with something the first time. Till you stay at home with your mum till 40, e go clear for your eyes. Or you loose him to another woman. Good men scarce oo. I can even assure you that this guy may dislike your mum forever even if she still forgives and loves you. You are the sole architect of everything here. Why tell him what your Mum said? By the way, How about buying things for your Mum 2 days later and say that he sent money for it? Or you don't even tell him what your mother said at all because believe me, it reeks of greed and bad taste. If I were him, I will follow your mother witha 100 feet pole. |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Anaerobi(m): 7:45am On Jan 09, 2021 |
osazsky: I understand. but if you notice, she never mentioned it to the guy that the mom complained. so let her keep it to herself that she's the one complaining not the mom... but hanging call on him is so wrong. if is me, I will call you back and ask did you hang the call or it was network.... I will really be sure you hanged the call. |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by osazsky(m): 7:46am On Jan 09, 2021 |
AngryIgboDon:other girls who dont have such responsible boy friend will be giving her bad advice so that when they break up they quickly jump in..i hope the guy didnt report her to any of his siblings or parent.se let down..which kind eye them wan take they look her mama cuz of 200 bread..banana and groundnut |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by shantti(m): 7:46am On Jan 09, 2021 |
Fiscus105: Grammatically and logically your write up made no sense, your funny, ive not even seen my neco result till date, i entered the university with only WAEC. Empty vessels make the loudest noise, you expressing pity for Nigerian education is the joke of the century, at least you should be schooling abroad to pity our educational system, but i am very sure you never see money register for jamb lesson not to talk of going to the university, keypad warrior, claiming online but offline you're very pathetic. May that urgent 2k you are planning to get today die by fire, let me know how you will feed 1 Like |
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