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Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by UnBanEbenezer(f): 8:27am On Jan 09, 2021 |
ceeceeuwa:ashawo and illiterate |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by osazsky(m): 8:28am On Jan 09, 2021 |
tesseract:he is right o..he cant respect her mum again o..imagine after she gives birth and d mum wants to come to his house for omuguo..d mum let herself down big time..it will be wise if they call it off.the guy will call to apologise and send d mum money so as to sustain the free puna he is getting for now while looking for better options..i b guy i know wat i am saying 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by nams77: 8:28am On Jan 09, 2021 |
Mariangeles:My friend shut up! The woman is wrong. Even if she was expecting a gift or even if he was obligated to bring a gift, she shouldn't have held any grouse against him to the point of complaining to her daughter. She should have shrugged it off and be more interested in the personality of the guy and the ability to give his daughter peace. I am now standing in gap for my father and will not be looking out for one young man to bring me gift because he wants to marry my sister. When its time for marriage, those things he is obligated to do for the lady's father, i will ask him to discard it and also struggle to see how to bring the financial burden down for him. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Bennysam: 8:28am On Jan 09, 2021 |
SweetCunt97:No it’s not, I tell you from my own understanding , first visit is for you to present yourself to the girl family for them to know you and the parents will ask you a few questions |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Nellsworld(m): 8:34am On Jan 09, 2021 |
osazsky:Bros u dey harsh sha, but these days people don't know hw to code again, like wen my bae came to see my dad for the first time, i bought the drink she presented to him cos she wasn't working at then, if i just left her like that it would ve been disastrous, she should ve cover for the guy, and then when she visit him, she should ve jokely tell him when coming come with something for her mum and tell him the reason for it, and she should also sit down with her mummy and tell her mum not to be expecting gifts all the tym especially this era na anyway commonsense is not common. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by DollarBuddy: 8:34am On Jan 09, 2021 |
Trayceey: My dear sister.... Trayceey, pls don't beat yourself over all those bashes you get from all those folks. And don't you ever be angry with your mom or make trouble with her for what she did. She did nothing wrong. Mama was only trying to see things from the African worldview. Also, your fiance did nothing wrong too. If he visited before And brought gifts for mama, I don't see anything wrong in his coming empty handed this time. Kindly visit your man, make peace with him and then see how to also cover mama's grouse. Do not lose your man because of something as trivial as this. I repeat, do not lose your man because of something as trivial as this. E get why. I wish you both a happy relationship that hopefully leads to marriage. 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Jasmine360(f): 8:37am On Jan 09, 2021 |
How come your mama was expecting so much from a man yet to marry you? |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by chukel(m): 8:39am On Jan 09, 2021 |
Biglittlelois:that one weak me. They are not just poverty stricken but wicked. It will do that guy a lot good to avoid that family by all means. Wish he is here on nairaland. This type of family will make sure the guy concentrates on them alone and forgets his own family. Tufia. Never knew some adults still reason this way even after education. What does this education even do again? 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Ola14(m): 8:41am On Jan 09, 2021 |
That's how my ex was mislead by her mother she happened to be my long time girl and I love her so much but then I was still hustling a visit to her mother one night was the end of our relationship. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by PinkDick(m): 8:45am On Jan 09, 2021 |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Virtualbar: 8:46am On Jan 09, 2021 |
Mariangeles: Na lie, not always. it's a choice. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Regex: 8:46am On Jan 09, 2021 |
odogwunaija: Sarcasm mate. Sarcasm. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by franugo(m): 8:47am On Jan 09, 2021 |
Kaimaonyeana: Na wa...all the compliments of the season you did this past festive season was said with you bearing gifts? |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by franugo(m): 8:51am On Jan 09, 2021 |
Kaimaonyeana: And I understand the courtesy demanding aspect....but like I said earlier, maybe he just did not have much being dt festive seasons are usually so cash intensive, he has probably spent his budget for the period. Does dt mean he should not visit the woman? Most likely sef, might be dt the mum has probably told him to visit whenever he has d chance |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Liposure: 8:51am On Jan 09, 2021 |
izzou:haba! for what? 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Coolgent(m): 8:52am On Jan 09, 2021 |
Trayceey:Though we have different culture/tradition... The first time i meet with my Inlaws i gave them 2 bottles of perfume that cost me 10k, they really appreciate that gesture. I am married now for 5years, Some of my Friends are even praying to have Inlaws like mine. Let your Man understand that it's culture thing not that you Mum was expecting him to provide for her. Cos as a matter of fact he may place this simple issue in a negative scale. On the other hand your Mum shouldn't have reacted to her future inlaw this way. Frankly speaking her action sent a negative signal not to only your guy but to most Guys on this forum. |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by vickydevoka(m): 8:54am On Jan 09, 2021 |
Nellsworld:Dats jst it. De babe is a no no for me. De guy should leave her . I think de lady is a working class arrogant bitch 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by franugo(m): 8:55am On Jan 09, 2021 |
Kaimaonyeana: Eva wine 1k n bread 5h no be for everybody... Get people wey u go give dt kind thing, dem go look you like pauper. I still believe nigga did nothing wrong. The mum can complain all she wants, its her right. Na the traaceey I blame,..imagine calling me n scolding me on phone and then hanging up when I'm in the middle of my speech...woman you will bring ur kinsmen to beg for reconciliation Modified... I tire of this back n forth,,,, have a nice day bro shalom |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Liposure: 8:56am On Jan 09, 2021 |
ceeceeuwa:becos of ordinary gifts. You guys are taking things too far |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by mabea: 8:57am On Jan 09, 2021 |
Trayceey:Your mum was wrong |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by mapet: 8:58am On Jan 09, 2021 |
Trayceey: What ? The best time to stop posting and commenting was before you brought this issue to NL. The next best time is now.... you and your mum are all shades of wrong 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Ziniora: 9:06am On Jan 09, 2021 |
TransAtlanticEx: Wait did she say she is not poor, you can be rich and have a poor mindset, which will destroy you in the long run. We like claiming African culture when it’s time to claim favour and right, it’s in the African Culture that he can marry two wives, I hope she will agree to it too. |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Deeace01: 9:08am On Jan 09, 2021 |
You are likely on the verge of losing the only man that could give you rest of mind for the rest of your living. You and your mum are all wrong expecting gift or stipend from the would-be husband. Some guys nowadays, because of experiences they have would be careful and strategic enough to know how lack/demanding the wife family is before they will tie the knot to evaluate the lifetime liabilities involved. knowing that if its much than his income estimate then its a no-go deal If you really love a man and you're seeing him as your husband then you need to adjust your lack mentality and take corrections. MY PENNY TO YOU Trayceey: |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Ziniora: 9:08am On Jan 09, 2021 |
Trayceey: You really need a paradigm shift in your thinking, it simply makes no sense to expect gifts everytime he visits your mum, what have you done for his own mum. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by lequama10: 9:11am On Jan 09, 2021 |
TransAtlanticEx:with your mentality I am so sure your guy was confused on what to buy that will satisfy your mom... |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by osazsky(m): 9:12am On Jan 09, 2021 |
Coolgent:ur u bought gift only the first time consequently u stop.pls sir read the write up.it was not a fitst time visit ..d innocent first son has been visiting before.how i wish i could get his numb..so many good girls dey my hand i need to start sharing numb |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by osazsky(m): 9:15am On Jan 09, 2021 |
Trayceey:a poor woman is better than a person with a poor mentality 4 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by Ziniora: 9:18am On Jan 09, 2021 |
So if he bringing a business deal to improve your mum’s fortune. He will go and look for gift first before coming to visit your mum. Na wa o 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by SweetCunt97(f): 9:21am On Jan 09, 2021 |
Bennysam:Yes |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by missymide: 9:21am On Jan 09, 2021 |
Even though i think your mum should not have reacted and you also should have wisely dropped the issue as it is possible he didnt have the means or that it didnt occur to him that you dont visit someone emptyhanded especially someone whose daughter or son you want to marry until you have become a well accepted person to them. It is just the appropriate thing when visiting someone. Even the whites we are trying to copy in this case will visit with chocolates, a bottle of wine .... All these men ranting, most of their mothers (especially the easterners) are worse when it comes to issues like this. Some will be expecting the lady to bring george lace, quality wrappers etc. Sis next time present your case either to your fiance or your future husband wisely so you dont create enemity between them |
Re: My Fiance Visited My Mother Empty-Handed & Now Our Relationship Is Threatened by AtoningBlood(m): 9:23am On Jan 09, 2021 |
Trayceey: Am happy you've settled with your man. Please, this is a lesson for you, never discuss any bad remarks your family give your spouse with him and always defend him. It's not his first time so your mum shouldn't have raised it at all. I don't visit anyone empty handed, i have been thought, my friends knows me. |
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