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jawalis:
All I see in picture is a man with a very low self esteem who bows at the hearing of a female doctor. Trust me, yes You have a low self esteem. I can bet you are one of the people who worship doctors, lawyers and engineers. I’ll advise you work on your self esteem, Work on it and you will realize you are been enslaved. Forget all these high value silliness. It’s just what you think in your mind. I have worked with a female doctor here in Lagos who is social too. All of these blah blah blah about sleeping in 3 different hotels before you could meet her is trash. It’s not as if she work with National hospital or is she the only doctor in the hospital where she works? I read you stated that she had colleagues. So she don’t just value you as you portrayed, you are only trying to comfort yourself by those jargons you wrote up there. Not having time for you and you moving from one place to another just to see the woman whom you claimed took you for her colleague is not an evidence of high value woman. She’ll definitely make time for you if she respects and value you like you did for her. The doctor friend I have got married in 2018. She works with 2 different hospitals and still balance up her social life. All I see in your case is a man who has a low self esteem and got flattened by a doctor. Been a doctor doesn’t make a woman high value, ok? Adesua Etomi is more career oriented and trust me, she made up her time for Banky. We all know Funke Akindele’s family. So wake up and address her or you walk away. We have lots of female doctors on Nigeria, infact; There are hundreds of them out there. There are female barristers, female accountants and engineers who earn decently. So stop the foolishness in your heart and confront her.

You said my mind, no need to add anything. The guy has a low self esteem, thinking the lady is the price. He needs to realize that being in a relationship with the lady means he needs to be in charge of how things go, and not being told when he can visit her or spend time together.

sirjamesjnr:
. I will not because I know how to holds my ends. Comprise is good anyway.

lol....
I know you are in love dude, but sincerely how long do you intend to comprise? 5 years? 20 years? Remember, this is the path you have chosen, don't complain later. Time is the ultimate builder in every home, when it is lacking from the man or woman Hmmmmm... I don't want to say how it ends.

But always remember this, It is a woman that builds the home! A very very busy lady might not be a good home builder. This will definitely affect the kids and marriage.


Remember my WORDS TODAY and hit me up later!

Oga trust me when the kids are out, the first of such arguments you "always win" will automatically lead to her moving out of the house..... regardless of who owns it.
You go to her workplace...seriously?
I couldn't read this your stuff to the end...sorry man.

humilitypays:
You don't need all those epistle and tutorials brother, all u need to do is keep working hard and smart and then pray for God to bless the works of your hand, believe me, once your hustle start paying eh, you will never give a damn about the status of any lady honestly.


Can't you see how Anichebe, Anthony Joshua and co no even send Billionaire Otedola daughter despite that she is the daughter of a billionaire The reason is because those guys are ballers, they must have dated girls with higher profile than DJ Cuppy so them no go even notice her for serious stuff, that's how life works.



Learning one million ways to keep a rich Lady or high income earning lady is a waste of time, all you need to do is be successful and focused on your own money making business or career, Na she go De crack her head on how to make you happy and keep you amidst plenty other better ladies than her around you.


Women were created for a man to appreciate and have not the other way round.

Why did you load me all these plz

What the hell is "high-value woman"?!
All women are the same, literate, illiterate, beautiful, ugly, white, black, rich or poor, no exceptions.
I meet new people everyday, trust me, you don't need to look too deep to see that we are all just ordinary, irrespective of our social or professional classes.

sirjamesjnr:
Yes, She won't have time for me. She doesn't have time for herself either . But trust me she always takes out her precious nap and food time, just to talk to me .

I visit her workplace she wouldn't have time to say hi also I have to sleep three nights in different hotels to be able to see her. I got angry one day and ask her, how will she take care of my kids when we marry.

When she is with me, I never want that moment to end. Our romantic life has had to suffer a lot of time because of duty calls. I have to get myself busier so I don't get emotional. she is honest and blunt, doesn’t beat around the bush. Sometimes I have to win her with a strong argument and points.

She is independent and can make life-death decisions, so I don’t feel bad if she doesn’t consult me and make some decisions highhandedly. I trust her, she good decision-maker the majority of times. For us, It’s accountability and responsibility that counts. I won't settle for less and she won't either. No room for excuses or self-pity.

She has to be nice to her patients and fellow male colleagues. I don’t mistake this for flirting. Her male colleagues are there with her than I am, so I am more comfortable and carefree because I trusted her. we do know our boundaries. Most of the time she will be discussing how much she misses me with them. I have the self-confidence that helps me though sometimes I get a bit jealous.

She is Superwoman without the cap all the time. So I have to decide whether to expect even more from her or be Super Man myself and share her burden a bit more.. understand her a bit more..love her a bit more.

As a doctor, she is extremely sensitive but also blunt. She knows when I need a hug and when an earful. Most of the time, she sees me as a case, desperately trying to diagnose my actions, detect my mood, I have to explain every action, etc.

She is great, very polite, courteous, intelligent, and fun and I love her effortlessly. The hard part is living with the job, the workload, the schedule, she never off duty, even when she is off duty, no time for long conversations. I already know I am committed to her and I must be committed to her job too. I need to be supportive of her, emotionally mature and have a life of my own. It has been a long ride but our relationship is thrilling. Will I choose another if given an opportunity? Only if I stop been me.

Learn from me, if you can't compromise in some area never date a high valued woman. With slay mamas wannabe, You have no issue, all you need is your time and money and you are the boss.

She no get friends.........

Men are in phases, life is in seasons.

E still dey shack u...

When u get made and u are truly big, u will value her having time to do the things u need a woman for, than over rating a woman who is totally married to her career...Emphasis on totally...

At that point, her money go be small schange to you and the hype of whatever career she has will mean nothing to u.

A woman in love makes time for the one she loves...dont get carried away by title or career and forget the basics...my advise for u is to date a couple more "high-value" women as u call them and dont let love blind u from seeing that a woman who has never visited u at your town, makes u spend 3 days without seeing her (even when u visit) e t.c. is not ideal for u...

I have supervised "high value" women who call in sick when their love is in town...

I know the Op has a low self esteem but pls the start up salary of a resident Dr is higher than those in immigration, customs and prisons.

33bandit:
Nice assertion ..looks like something off a nigerian movie tbh

All my life, I have always been a realist. I never been the type to sugarcoat things. What I said is obtainable with most doctors. My guy no be go come.

You want us to learn from you and I see nothing to learn from all these 'drive me crazy words of you' rather than exaggeration et al.

You'll soon learn that girls aren't dependable .

jawalis:
All I see in picture is a man with a very low self esteem who bows at the hearing of a female doctor. Trust me, yes You have a low self esteem. I can bet you are one of the people who worship doctors, lawyers and engineers. I’ll advise you work on your self esteem, Work on it and you will realize you are been enslaved. Forget all these high value silliness. It’s just what you think in your mind. I have worked with a female doctor here in Lagos who is social too. All of these blah blah blah about sleeping in 3 different hotels before you could meet her is trash. It’s not as if she work with National hospital or is she the only doctor in the hospital where she works? I read you stated that she had colleagues. So she don’t just value you as you portrayed, you are only trying to comfort yourself by those jargons you wrote up there. Not having time for you and you moving from one place to another just to see the woman whom you claimed took you for her colleague is not an evidence of high value woman. She’ll definitely make time for you if she respects and value you like you did for her. The doctor friend I have got married in 2018. She works with 2 different hospitals and still balance up her social life. All I see in your case is a man who has a low self esteem and got flattened by a doctor. Been a doctor doesn’t make a woman high value, ok? Adesua Etomi is more career oriented and trust me, she made up her time for Banky. We all know Funke Akindele’s family. So wake up and address her or you walk away. We have lots of female doctors on Nigeria, infact; There are hundreds of them out there. There are female barristers, female accountants and engineers who earn decently. So stop the foolishness in your heart and confront her.

wise man

Red7:
Why did you load me all these plz

the whole post from op to some comments cracked me up. Just a Doctor lol

It is well sha. Guys really need to be financially buoyant in life to see life from a different perspective.



I am sure this Dokita lady is the biggest chick the op have dated in his life



I am sure when they ever try to make love, the guy fit faint on top of her out of over excitement

DrFunmisticGlow:
Wow!! Nairalanders can never be happy for other people, can they?!

Babe u can never b busier than my girlfriend..lemme give you the load down....sh is in the health /medical profession..

Sh created the now very busy health center which see's minimum 35patients daily.sh has a resposibility to keep them happy lest she folds up...unlike just a professional employee whose job might be as your job

Sh has responsibility of getting all the drugs,medical test kits and all from distributors promptly and regularly, and constantly keep in touch with professional associate professionally :mostly with the head of numerous other clinics.

Sh is saddled with the huge responsibility of continous nd non stop marketing of the health center which as she says "no paid marketer can do it with much zeal as the creator."

Sh deals with the account books daily nd balances out all printed receipt by the accountants to reduce employee theft, sh deals with the numerous government and health agencies which usually com for tax and inspection.mind you,many atimes these arguments extend for weeks with her continuous visitation of government agencies..

He phone rings non stop.sh doesn't even have time for herself: cooking,washing , out going are non existent in her life till I came in......sh needed me just like ur guy to fall in line of her heavy schedules. I was irritated..later realized just like your guy that all I need do is compromise..

We sat down and drew up ways of shedding some weight off her and yet get efficiency. I started to take up some of her "meet the government official roles. Me my self am super busy then trying to grow my now good biz.

Time came out for outtings, visitations, company,although she visits me less than I visit her cuz of time constraints. But I want you to know we both compromised and are having a better relationship now.....

So lady adjust for your man...your not the busiest..you might firstly and hurriedly cross the finished mark of the race and yet forget your baton

Wait ! Did forget to stat that sh passed all levels of her ICAN exams so far.she is now in the final stage to become a chattered accountant just because of the accounting in the firm.

Yes! Sh is just 25!

Chii59:
Is he you? Are you him? What gives you the right to think that just because you FEEL something about someone's relationship, that's what's happening?
Very presumptuous of you, old man.
Stop projecting your insecurities onto others.

This is a public forum, if you bring an issue here, you want feedback from strangers, unless if he was expecting only positive feedback and that would be delusional of him.

Funny calling me old when you don’t know me and you’re accusing me of being presumptuous.

sirjamesjnr:
Yes, She won't have time for me. She doesn't have time for herself either . But trust me she always takes out her precious nap and food time, just to talk to me .

I visit her workplace she wouldn't have time to say hi also I have to sleep three nights in different hotels to be able to see her. I got angry one day and ask her, how will she take care of my kids when we marry.

When she is with me, I never want that moment to end. Our romantic life has had to suffer a lot of time because of duty calls. I have to get myself busier so I don't get emotional. she is honest and blunt, doesn’t beat around the bush. Sometimes I have to win her with a strong argument and points.

She is independent and can make life-death decisions, so I don’t feel bad if she doesn’t consult me and make some decisions highhandedly. I trust her, she good decision-maker the majority of times. For us, It’s accountability and responsibility that counts. I won't settle for less and she won't either. No room for excuses or self-pity.

She has to be nice to her patients and fellow male colleagues. I don’t mistake this for flirting. Her male colleagues are there with her than I am, so I am more comfortable and carefree because I trusted her. we do know our boundaries. Most of the time she will be discussing how much she misses me with them. I have the self-confidence that helps me though sometimes I get a bit jealous.

She is Superwoman without the cap all the time. So I have to decide whether to expect even more from her or be Super Man myself and share her burden a bit more.. understand her a bit more..love her a bit more.

As a doctor, she is extremely sensitive but also blunt. She knows when I need a hug and when an earful. Most of the time, she sees me as a case, desperately trying to diagnose my actions, detect my mood, I have to explain every action, etc.

She is great, very polite, courteous, intelligent, and fun and I love her effortlessly. The hard part is living with the job, the workload, the schedule, she never off duty, even when she is off duty, no time for long conversations. I already know I am committed to her and I must be committed to her job too. I need to be supportive of her, emotionally mature and have a life of my own. It has been a long ride but our relationship is thrilling. Will I choose another if given an opportunity? Only if I stop been me.

Learn from me, if you can't compromise in some area never date a high valued woman. With slay mamas wannabe, You have no issue, all you need is your time and money and you are the boss.

You are a bloody SIMP
Your only grace is if her hypergamous nature is in check

ValCon888:
Any relationship that is harder than further maths will drive you crazy.
Premium tears loading for OP.

Hahaha hahahaha
I wan laugh die
Which one be premium tears again? Lol

jawalis:
All I see in picture is a man with a very low self esteem who bows at the hearing of a female doctor. Trust me, yes You have a low self esteem. I can bet you are one of the people who worship doctors, lawyers and engineers. I’ll advise you work on your self esteem, Work on it and you will realize you are been enslaved. Forget all these high value silliness. It’s just what you think in your mind. I have worked with a female doctor here in Lagos who is social too. All of these blah blah blah about sleeping in 3 different hotels before you could meet her is trash. It’s not as if she work with National hospital or is she the only doctor in the hospital where she works? I read you stated that she had colleagues. So she don’t just value you as you portrayed, you are only trying to comfort yourself by those jargons you wrote up there. Not having time for you and you moving from one place to another just to see the woman whom you claimed took you for her colleague is not an evidence of high value woman. She’ll definitely make time for you if she respects and value you like you did for her. The doctor friend I have got married in 2018. She works with 2 different hospitals and still balance up her social life. All I see in your case is a man who has a low self esteem and got flattened by a doctor. Been a doctor doesn’t make a woman high value, ok? Adesua Etomi is more career oriented and trust me, she made up her time for Banky. We all know Funke Akindele’s family. So wake up and address her or you walk away. We have lots of female doctors on Nigeria, infact; There are hundreds of them out there. There are female barristers, female accountants and engineers who earn decently. So stop the foolishness in your heart and confront her.

the Dokita must be the biggest chick that replied the Op's hello in his lifetime, I can imagine it already

jawalis:
All I see in picture is a man with a very low self esteem who bows at the hearing of a female doctor. Trust me, yes You have a low self esteem. I can bet you are one of the people who worship doctors, lawyers and engineers. I’ll advise you work on your self esteem, Work on it and you will realize you are been enslaved. Forget all these high value silliness. It’s just what you think in your mind. I have worked with a female doctor here in Lagos who is social too. All of these blah blah blah about sleeping in 3 different hotels before you could meet her is trash. It’s not as if she work with National hospital or is she the only doctor in the hospital where she works? I read you stated that she had colleagues. So she don’t just value you as you portrayed, you are only trying to comfort yourself by those jargons you wrote up there. Not having time for you and you moving from one place to another just to see the woman whom you claimed took you for her colleague is not an evidence of high value woman. She’ll definitely make time for you if she respects and value you like you did for her. The doctor friend I have got married in 2018. She works with 2 different hospitals and still balance up her social life. All I see in your case is a man who has a low self esteem and got flattened by a doctor. Been a doctor doesn’t make a woman high value, ok? Adesua Etomi is more career oriented and trust me, she made up her time for Banky. We all know Funke Akindele’s family. So wake up and address her or you walk away. We have lots of female doctors on Nigeria, infact; There are hundreds of them out there. There are female barristers, female accountants and engineers who earn decently. So stop the foolishness in your heart and confront her.

Go to the closest Cubana bar and ask for the Chief priest. They will give you a treat at their VIP lounge. All expenses paid!
When people try to justify their low esteem, I don't just bother. So if she is a director in a top company, guess guy man will write a book about on how many countries he travelled just to "see"(we understand) this high value whatever.

sirjamesjnr:
Yes, She won't have time for me. She doesn't have time for herself either . But trust me she always takes out her precious nap and food time, just to talk to me .

I visit her workplace she wouldn't have time to say hi also I have to sleep three nights in different hotels to be able to see her. I got angry one day and ask her, how will she take care of my kids when we marry.

When she is with me, I never want that moment to end. Our romantic life has had to suffer a lot of time because of duty calls. I have to get myself busier so I don't get emotional. she is honest and blunt, doesn’t beat around the bush. Sometimes I have to win her with a strong argument and points.

She is independent and can make life-death decisions, so I don’t feel bad if she doesn’t consult me and make some decisions highhandedly. I trust her, she good decision-maker the majority of times. For us, It’s accountability and responsibility that counts. I won't settle for less and she won't either. No room for excuses or self-pity.

She has to be nice to her patients and fellow male colleagues. I don’t mistake this for flirting. Her male colleagues are there with her than I am, so I am more comfortable and carefree because I trusted her. we do know our boundaries. Most of the time she will be discussing how much she misses me with them. I have the self-confidence that helps me though sometimes I get a bit jealous.

She is Superwoman without the cap all the time. So I have to decide whether to expect even more from her or be Super Man myself and share her burden a bit more.. understand her a bit more..love her a bit more.

As a doctor, she is extremely sensitive but also blunt. She knows when I need a hug and when an earful. Most of the time, she sees me as a case, desperately trying to diagnose my actions, detect my mood, I have to explain every action, etc.

She is great, very polite, courteous, intelligent, and fun and I love her effortlessly. The hard part is living with the job, the workload, the schedule, she never off duty, even when she is off duty, no time for long conversations. I already know I am committed to her and I must be committed to her job too. I need to be supportive of her, emotionally mature and have a life of my own. It has been a long ride but our relationship is thrilling. Will I choose another if given an opportunity? Only if I stop been me.

Learn from me, if you can't compromise in some area never date a high valued woman. With slay mamas wannabe, You have no issue, all you need is your time and money and you are the boss.

You know nothing.........until then

Mind you I broke up with a doctor due to this nonsense you're coping with........because the idea of us was not working......and eventually married my wife in the same profession but far more sensible.

Are you a simp?

This is another she Male writing a meaningless and lengthy prose full of inferiority complex.

Tejuri:
This is a public forum, if you bring an issue here, you want feedback from strangers, unless if he was expecting only positive feedback and that would be delusional of him.

Funny calling me old when you don’t know me and you’re accusing me of being presumptuous.

You described OP as "a teenage boy" so you must be grey - haired, aren't ya?
Look here, you have no right to presume things, even on a public forum as this.
Saying he's acting like he just got his first girlfriend... Pfftt.

Awesome and wonderful!

If you are dating someone on Nairaland, avoid bringing your relationship here. Nuff said.

bigpicture001:
Babe u can never b busier than my girlfriend..lemme give you the load down....sh is in the health /medical profession..

Sh crested the now very busy health center which see's minimum 35patients daily.sh has a resosibility to keep them happy let's sh folds up...unlike just a professional whose job might job b to do your job

Sh has responsibility of getting all the drugs,medical test kits and associate professionally with head of numerous other clinics.

Sh is saddles with the huge responsibility of continous nd non stop marketing of the health center which as sh says "no paid mrkter can do it with much zeal as the creator."

Sh deals with the account books daily nd balances out all printed receipt by the accountants to reduce employee theft, sh deals with the numerous government and health agencies which usually com for tax and inspection.mind you,many atymx these arguments extend for weeks with her continuous visitation of government agencies..

He phone rings non stop.sh doesn't even have time for herself: cooking,washing out going are non existent in her life till I came in......sh needed me just like ur guy to fall in line of her heavy schedules. I was irritated..later realized juST like your guy that all I need do is compromise..

We sat down nd drew up ways off shedding some weight off her nd yet get efficiency. I started to take up some of her "meet the government official roles. Me my self am super busy then trying to grow my now good biz.

Time came out for out tings, visitations, company,dou sh visit me less Dan I visit her cuz of time constraints. But I want you to know we both compromised and are having a better relationship now...

So lady adjust for your man...ur not the busiest..you might firstly and hurriedly cross the finished mark of the race nd yet forget your baton

Do you guys stay in the same location?!

It will end in tears, hot one


Continue to deceive yourself there

kazyhm:
You know nothing.........until then

Mind you I broke up with a doctor due to this nonsense you're coping with........because the idea of us was not working......

No two people are the same. Same thing with relationships.
The "nonsense" you speak of, makes him happy. So shift.

Too many bitter souls on this forum.

DrFunmisticGlow:
No it hasn't!! He's a wonderful person and will continue to be. The people I lost respect for are some nairalnders who wont let the past go!!

I thought "Men are scum" in your dictionary.

Extreme case of low self esteem. It might end in premium tears!

humilitypays:
the Dokita must be the biggest chick that replied the Op's hello in his lifetime, I can imagine it already

Only small minded people hate!!
I would advise that you be more productive. Please try it.

Nlers are wicked. See how they made the relationship look stupid. I bet Op was feeling fly when he typed all that damn

Raalsalghul:
I thought "Men are scum" in your dictionary.

i never wrote 'men were scum'

People just assumed i did.