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Another day, another event that never happened. No Nigerian man will decline the greencard to be with a lady in Nigeria he's not yet married to. Yet again, to obtain the greencard (permanent residency) implies he has lived in the US for some years. OP didn't write as someone who has lived and worked in the US.

Fake news!

sirjamesjnr:
She has seen the thread.

ah..she even have time for Nairaland..hmmmm....which means she has enough time already

sirjamesjnr:
Yes, She won't have time for me. She doesn't have time for herself either . But trust me she always takes out her precious nap and food time, just to talk to me .

I visit her workplace she wouldn't have time to say hi also I have to sleep three nights in different hotels to be able to see her. I got angry one day and ask her, how will she take care of my kids when we marry.

When she is with me, I never want that moment to end. Our romantic life has had to suffer a lot of time because of duty calls. I have to get myself busier so I don't get emotional. she is honest and blunt, doesn’t beat around the bush. Sometimes I have to win her with a strong argument and points.

She is independent and can make life-death decisions, so I don’t feel bad if she doesn’t consult me and make some decisions highhandedly. I trust her, she good decision-maker the majority of times. For us, It’s accountability and responsibility that counts. I won't settle for less and she won't either. No room for excuses or self-pity.

She has to be nice to her patients and fellow male colleagues. I don’t mistake this for flirting. Her male colleagues are there with her than I am, so I am more comfortable and carefree because I trusted her. we do know our boundaries. Most of the time she will be discussing how much she misses me with them. I have the self-confidence that helps me though sometimes I get a bit jealous.

She is Superwoman without the cap all the time. So I have to decide whether to expect even more from her or be Super Man myself and share her burden a bit more.. understand her a bit more..love her a bit more.

As a doctor, she is extremely sensitive but also blunt. She knows when I need a hug and when an earful. Most of the time, she sees me as a case, desperately trying to diagnose my actions, detect my mood, I have to explain every action, etc.

She is great, very polite, courteous, intelligent, and fun and I love her effortlessly. The hard part is living with the job, the workload, the schedule, she never off duty, even when she is off duty, no time for long conversations. I already know I am committed to her and I must be committed to her job too. I need to be supportive of her, emotionally mature and have a life of my own. It has been a long ride but our relationship is thrilling. Will I choose another if given an opportunity? Only if I stop been me.

Learn from me, if you can't compromise in some area never date a high valued woman. With slay mamas wannabe, You have no issue, all you need is your time and money and you are the boss.

Nice writeup i guess! But all i see is a low class mentality guy. Dont sleep too much in what you just describe here. Get something you can live on before things get out of hand.

Well, nice writeup again, you should be writing script for movie directors.

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powerhouse3:
sirjamesjnr....sound like a name my people (akwa ibom) could love to bear....


Any I doubt if AKWA ibom got SIMPle man,like op


Funministic queen is whom you hype like these to high heaven..... she's yet to use her uncouth mouth on you...

not wishing you e here ,but when it's hit the brick ,be smart enough to lets us know where both of you got wrong..

Bleep you dude for mentioning my people.

jawalis:
All I see in picture is a man with a very low self esteem who bows at the hearing of a female doctor. Trust me, yes You have a low self esteem. I can bet you are one of the people who worship doctors, lawyers and engineers. I’ll advise you work on your self esteem, Work on it and you will realize you are been enslaved. Forget all these high value silliness. It’s just what you think in your mind. I have worked with a female doctor here in Lagos who is social too. All of these blah blah blah about sleeping in 3 different hotels before you could meet her is trash. It’s not as if she work with National hospital or is she the only doctor in the hospital where she works? I read you stated that she had colleagues. So she don’t just value you as you portrayed, you are only trying to comfort yourself by those jargons you wrote up there. Not having time for you and you moving from one place to another just to see the woman whom you claimed took you for her colleague is not an evidence of high value woman. She’ll definitely make time for you if she respects and value you like you did for her. The doctor friend I have got married in 2018. She works with 2 different hospitals and still balance up her social life. All I see in your case is a man who has a low self esteem and got flattened by a doctor. Been a doctor doesn’t make a woman high value, ok? Adesua Etomi is more career oriented and trust me, she made up her time for Banky. We all know Funke Akindele’s family. So wake up and address her or you walk away. We have lots of female doctors on Nigeria, infact; There are hundreds of them out there. There are female barristers, female accountants and engineers who earn decently. So stop the foolishness in your heart and confront her.

Not only low self esteem ,he is struggling to force us to like the situation, even though inside him he knows something is wrong with the relationship but he is pretending everything is normal, then he struggles to cope with the situation.

Rubbish.

MrBachelor:
@DrfunmisticGlow, seeing how you are gallivanting about on this thread like you have all the time in the world makes me wonder why your man would complain that you lack time for him.

OP, a piece of advice from one who's seen it all. Done it all. No one is ever too busy for the one they are truly attracted to. High-value or low-value, it doesn't matter.

*whistles and walks out of thread*

i only have time now, cos i called bae and he said he was tired and needed to rest. I have not had time since yesterday that he created this thread.

DrFunmisticGlow:
you think I don't put in the work, we have both put in the work in this relationship. I really do value the relationship. But thanks for your input.

Mama, gbenu buruku e soun joor! Keep deceiving the Fool, OK?

CalliDora1:
Sorry to say but this doesn't seem like a relationship to me. It looks like enslavement. You're enslaved with her in her job.

Wait until you start having kids, that's when you'll know the slavery you put yourself.

Your relationship, your cross.

You've been making small sense this new year.

What happened?

Ekemeze:
Wait a sec! you actually believe op's bullcrap? op and "dokita fund mi I fvck you glow", same person using different moniker.

you are petty as hell.

ValCon888:
Any relationship that is harder than further maths will drive you crazy.
Premium tears loading for OP.

He might end up cheating on her. My brother's wife did when she couldn't take the emotional stress anymore. Make he think am well o whether e like as Kim and Kanya own be.

YorubaPrince:
Mama, gbenu buruku e soun joor! Keep deceiving the Fool, OK?

don't use foul language at me.

It's not my fault your mom didn't train you well

Albertone:
Na funmisticqueen be your bae!! Let me not talk
Just check my signature.

I was surprised, I have seen several of her posts. The babe can argue for Africa, her way of thinking very bias, this guy is definitely a SIMP. See the way he was hyping her guess he fascinated by dating a doctor.

My observation:
Op and the doc are same person. Me feel Doc funmi created the op moniker and created this thread. Notice how Op has disappeared, while the supposed very busy Doc have been quoting upandan....

sirjamesjnr:
She has seen the thread.

what's her username ...if dem open the account today I no believe you

Why so bitter? Wouldn't you want such an attentive and besotted man? Na wa o! Please work on your esteem.

The5DME:
You're feeling fly all because you're dating an insecure man who 'worships' you.....it will end in tears las las.

Ekemeze:
Wait a sec! you actually believe op's bullcrap? op and "dokita fund mi I fvck you glow", same person using different moniker.

Lol.. really??
Ok.

Both of you should know better than opening and responding to this thread.

Badbelle people are here and the distance is a major factor, lagos to abuja is not lekki to badagry.

MrBachelor:
@DrfunmisticGlow, seeing how you are gallivanting about on this thread like you have all the time in the world makes me wonder why your man would complain that you lack time for him.

OP, a piece of advice from one who's seen it all. Done it all. No one is ever too busy for the one they are truly attracted to. High-value or low-value, it doesn't matter.

*whistles and walks out of thread*

I have not spent up to an hour gallivanting

Ignore 'him'.

DrFunmisticGlow:
The only insecure person i see here is you.

I can only help by recommending you to the nearest psychotherapist or clinical psychologist in your area.

jawalis:
All I see in picture is a man with a very low self esteem who bows at the hearing of a female doctor. Trust me, yes You have a low self esteem. I can bet you are one of the people who worship doctors, lawyers and engineers. I’ll advise you work on your self esteem, Work on it and you will realize you are been enslaved. Forget all these high value silliness. It’s just what you think in your mind. I have worked with a female doctor here in Lagos who is social too. All of these blah blah blah about sleeping in 3 different hotels before you could meet her is trash. It’s not as if she work with National hospital or is she the only doctor in the hospital where she works? I read you stated that she had colleagues. So she don’t just value you as you portrayed, you are only trying to comfort yourself by those jargons you wrote up there. Not having time for you and you moving from one place to another just to see the woman whom you claimed took you for her colleague is not an evidence of high value woman. She’ll definitely make time for you if she respects and value you like you did for her. The doctor friend I have got married in 2018. She works with 2 different hospitals and still balance up her social life. All I see in your case is a man who has a low self esteem and got flattened by a doctor. Been a doctor doesn’t make a woman high value, ok? Adesua Etomi is more career oriented and trust me, she made up her time for Banky. We all know Funke Akindele’s family. So wake up and address her or you walk away. We have lots of female doctors on Nigeria, infact; There are hundreds of them out there. There are female barristers, female accountants and engineers who earn decently. So stop the foolishness in your heart and confront her.

You said the truth, I have a close relation who was a dating a doctor the guy has self-esteem unlike OP, the babe was dictating and trying to control his life he put his foot down and broke up with her few days to the introduction, now he is happily married to another doctor who is loyal to the core.

Lie from hell! Doctors are very busy people, especially in Nigeria.

yemmie:
@DrFunmi, pack well and reason..

I have consultant neurosurgeon, consultant cardiologist, consultant Gynecologist as buddies, we roll right from Uni days in their undergrad days and still roll hard till now..

Look into the mirror and get your priority right so you don’t regret in your old age ..

Hear word from AgbaAkin ..

This is what I will advise you to do, anytime you miss her and wishes to see her so badly, go to the hospital she works, pretend as if you are sick and register to see a doctor making sure it must be her, if you succeed explain to her how you became so sick that seeing her is the only doctor's prescription that can cure you. This act is both romantically and emotional sensible. Thank me later bruh���

Which balance madam? that is so wrong with so much confidence!

The truth without any sentiment is that the op has a low self worth....he thinks getting married to a doctor is the yardstick for a successful marriage.

For how long does he want to continue to compromise? Being a redpill is not to treat ladies bad or harm them just like some jobless kids are portraying it but it is all about you knowing the right time to walk away if things are no longer funny and convinient regardless of the feelings you have for the person that is called (self respect and value)... relationships and marriages can only work with two people undivided efforts not one.. having a great career does not guaranteed a great marriage if the parties involved are not ready to sacrifice..

Back to ur comment,
The truth is that he did not find any balance, he is only just being patient and see if the lady will eventually fall in love totally or find time for him..that is like testing the water what of if she did not change? Should I break your heart?I have females lawyer and doctors within and outside this platform that wil communicate very well...one was even still accusing of me forgetting her this afternoon for you to know that being a doctor or does not derived you attention and time for sum1 you truly care for.

My advice for op is just to be himself and hold his ground where the situation called for it.

Women don't like weak men..

Wittyglam:
I'm happy you found your balance.

Best comment!!

jawalis:
All I see in picture is a man with a very low self esteem who bows at the hearing of a female doctor. Trust me, yes You have a low self esteem. I can bet you are one of the people who worship doctors, lawyers and engineers. I’ll advise you work on your self esteem, Work on it and you will realize you are been enslaved. Forget all these high value silliness. It’s just what you think in your mind. I have worked with a female doctor here in Lagos who is social too. All of these blah blah blah about sleeping in 3 different hotels before you could meet her is trash. It’s not as if she work with National hospital or is she the only doctor in the hospital where she works? I read you stated that she had colleagues. So she don’t just value you as you portrayed, you are only trying to comfort yourself by those jargons you wrote up there. Not having time for you and you moving from one place to another just to see the woman whom you claimed took you for her colleague is not an evidence of high value woman. She’ll definitely make time for you if she respects and value you like you did for her. The doctor friend I have got married in 2018. She works with 2 different hospitals and still balance up her social life. All I see in your case is a man who has a low self esteem and got flattened by a doctor. Been a doctor doesn’t make a woman high value, ok? Adesua Etomi is more career oriented and trust me, she made up her time for Banky. We all know Funke Akindele’s family. So wake up and address her or you walk away. We have lots of female doctors on Nigeria, infact; There are hundreds of them out there. There are female barristers, female accountants and engineers who earn decently. So stop the foolishness in your heart and confront her.

High value women don't prioritize family and children

They are the worst set of women to marry and expands one's lineage

Shadysen:
Bleep you dude for mentioning my people.

if you read well you'll understand me better...


nwanake ye afo

I just hope this relationship will not go down the drain cos of the contributions of some people. Believe you me, the chance that the op's mind is not being poisoned by the comments of some people is very slim. You (op) shouldn't have come up with the topic knowing fully well that discouraging comments like this would surely come up.

Take down the thread if you have the capability!

My honest answer to you.

I can't date a lady who doesn't have time for family. Ha! I love family so much! I don't joke with them. I, myself, do not like a job that will make me not to have time for my family. Even though the job is lucrative in nature, I will only do it for few years to gather enough and then establish my own business.

powerhouse3:
if you read well you'll understand me better...


nwanake ye afo

ok buddy

UDbester:
This is what I will advise you to do, anytime you miss her and wishes to see her so badly, go to the hospital she works, pretend as if you are sick and register to see a doctor making sure it must be her, if you succeed explain to her how you became so sick that seeing her is the only doctor's prescription that can cure you. This act is both romantically and emotional sensible. Thank me later bruh���

Aww!!

Thanks. We stay in different states

nothing concern me with op, I wish him well #nairalander, free traceey....