₦airaland Forum

jawalis:
All I see in picture is a man with a very low self esteem who bows at the hearing of a female doctor. Trust me, yes You have a low self esteem. I can bet you are one of the people who worship doctors, lawyers and engineers. I’ll advise you work on your self esteem, Work on it and you will realize you are been enslaved. Forget all these high value silliness. It’s just what you think in your mind. I have worked with a female doctor here in Lagos who is social too. All of these blah blah blah about sleeping in 3 different hotels before you could meet her is trash. It’s not as if she work with National hospital or is she the only doctor in the hospital where she works? I read you stated that she had colleagues. So she don’t just value you as you portrayed, you are only trying to comfort yourself by those jargons you wrote up there. Not having time for you and you moving from one place to another just to see the woman whom you claimed took you for her colleague is not an evidence of high value woman. She’ll definitely make time for you if she respects and value you like you did for her. The doctor friend I have got married in 2018. She works with 2 different hospitals and still balance up her social life. All I see in your case is a man who has a low self esteem and got flattened by a doctor. Been a doctor doesn’t make a woman high value, ok? Adesua Etomi is more career oriented and trust me, she made up her time for Banky. We all know Funke Akindele’s family. So wake up and address her or you walk away. We have lots of female doctors on Nigeria, infact; There are hundreds of them out there. There are female barristers, female accountants and engineers who earn decently. So stop the foolishness in your heart and confront her.

sirjamesjnr, listen to what this person is saying it will save your low sef esteem life.

humilitypays:
You don't need all those epistle and tutorials brother, all u need to do is keep working hard and smart and then pray for God to bless the works of your hand, believe me, once your hustle start paying eh, you will never give a damn about the status of any lady honestly.


Can't you see how Anichebe, Anthony Joshua and co no even send Billionaire Otedola daughter despite that she is the daughter of a billionaire The reason is because those guys are ballers, they must have dated girls with higher profile than DJ Cuppy so them no go even notice her for serious stuff, that's how life works.



Learning one million ways to keep a rich Lady or high income earning lady is a waste of time, all you need to do is be successful and focused on your own money making business or career, Na she go De crack her head on how to make you happy and keep you amidst plenty other better ladies than her around you.


Women were created for a man to appreciate and have not the other way round.

Bro you too get brain. You said it all. op needs to double his hustle and wise up.

pcguru1:
Sounds like a regular relationship to me

No body is too busy to call or make out time for someone they love .... my Auntie is medical doctor that works in a big hospital in abuja ...she get days she don't to go work at all ....like one week on night shift ...one week off after the night shift.... annual leave of a month ... Even Christmas leave .. plus new year leave ....

Don't forget the DNA test after everything...Lol

powerhouse3:
wondering the song he will sang if he met dangote daughter or Alakija.dora akunyili.or mfon usoro ,the maritime woman in their prime....


she see you as a colleague in front of her colleague should tell you alot...but no you are blinded by lovey dovey....

alas ,so much for her high-class that you are the one still spending "Good money"to lodge in different hotel ,next time allows your high class woman do the spending to justify the hype


High-class.. what's if you now date those homely woman that work in government parastatal,...like immigration, custom...and prison service...

The OP is not serious. She claim to be high class but she couldn't pay for his numerous hotel bills. How can someone be high class and still be broke. OP is a confused low self esteem guy

truthsayer009:
So is she low value? I'm not understanding.

OP is just a SIMP! Simple.
What does he mean by "high value" in the first place?

musa7m:
No body is too busy to call or make out time for someone they love .... my Auntie is medical doctor that works in a big hospital in abuja ...she get days she don't to go work at all ....like one week on night shift ...one week off after the night shift.... annual leave of a month ... Even Christmas leave .. plus new year leave ....

Not that part , but the independence part, and having a career and all that. You have to make time for someone you care no doubt.

airsaylongcome:
High valued lady? Or a high earning one?

Every lady has a high value

God bless you sir. All I see here is a potential house boy

We4all:
The title should be: "My experience dating a crappy Nigerian doctor". Nigerian doctors based in Nigeria know next to nothing. They love to form busy but can only prescribe panadol and malaria drugs for patients.

gbam!! Dem yapaa for Luth

DrFunmisticGlow:
Honestly, nairalnders should have left this attitude in 2020.

Most average Nigerians are sadist they have got no joy in them and we have many of them here on this platform.Lets mind how we posts our personal issues on this platform.

sirjamesjnr:
You are dragging me out but I have to come clean.
Five top Sacrifices
1: Five years of good friendship with an American lady: I have to choose between Green card( working opportunities) or my girl.
2: I have to explain every motive sometime with proofs. ( I like being the boss in my relationship)
3:I had to endure a less romantic moment: due to her job, babe is always on calls.
4: I put up a lot of patience dealing with her: Last time we met I slept in three different hotels, spend good money, endure Lagos noise for three days before she could find time to be with me.
5: Always be the one travel to come meet her: Only once my babe visits me in Abuja. I like hosting my girl but I can't for now.
These are huge compromises for me.
Top five things you would wish for her to adjust to have your relationship better
1:Absolute Trust.
2: step up romantic words and deed
3: Find time to read books with me
4: Putting me first before her family
5: Go on a vacation with me.

Bro you sound like a lover boy and an infatuated one at that. Believe it or not you are not the only bloke in her life, time shall reveal the bigger picture to you and i hope when it does it will not end in premium tears. You are preoccupied with the wrong priority, a woman that ain't your wife yet should not be a priority to you. I ain't hating.

jawalis:
All I see in picture is a man with a very low self esteem who bows at the hearing of a female doctor. Trust me, yes You have a low self esteem. I can bet you are one of the people who worship doctors, lawyers and engineers. I’ll advise you work on your self esteem, Work on it and you will realize you are been enslaved. Forget all these high value silliness. It’s just what you think in your mind. I have worked with a female doctor here in Lagos who is social too. All of these blah blah blah about sleeping in 3 different hotels before you could meet her is trash. It’s not as if she work with National hospital or is she the only doctor in the hospital where she works? I read you stated that she had colleagues. So she don’t just value you as you portrayed, you are only trying to comfort yourself by those jargons you wrote up there. Not having time for you and you moving from one place to another just to see the woman whom you claimed took you for her colleague is not an evidence of high value woman. She’ll definitely make time for you if she respects and value you like you did for her. The doctor friend I have got married in 2018. She works with 2 different hospitals and still balance up her social life. All I see in your case is a man who has a low self esteem and got flattened by a doctor. Been a doctor doesn’t make a woman high value, ok? Adesua Etomi is more career oriented and trust me, she made up her time for Banky. We all know Funke Akindele’s family. So wake up and address her or you walk


away. We have lots of female doctors on Nigeria, infact; There are hundreds of them out there. There are female barristers, female accountants and engineers who earn decently. So stop the foolishness in your heart and confront her.

SEE FINISH..

Victorclean1:
This is the greatest lie of the new year. Doctors have more time than most civil servants.

This guy is just faking story to creat traffic. Call duty gives doctors 24 hours work and 3 to 4 days off. Even doctors in private practice have time as well.

Am sick of all these fake news or stories here. Maybe he want to tell us he is dating a doctor and was dying of the hallucinating joy because of low self esteem.

Don't say what you don't know. That profession can be extremely demanding, except for consultants. Even at that, the hustle begins at consultant level, unless you want to die poor — you want to consult at my hospitals as you can. For those in private practice, unless you have other doctors working for you, you freedom is the hands of the patients. You may go to bed at 12 am, and the nurses will call you by 1am for emergency CS. You can't tell them to take the patient back, no matter how tired you are. And, in the morning, you start your day as usual.

Take it from me, it can be very very stressful!

Greystone:
"High-value woman".

Yet your preek is suffering

Correct guy, that's what is in my mind unless the guy have low libido. I can endure this kind of woman unless I hv some side chicks sha

Chimaokigwe:
Not those stupid girls like Trayceey who you take home and their mothers start crying that you didn't buy bread for them.

Haha

bragamycin:
If u have accepted the facts that U need more Romantic deeds, and vacation time for your relationship to be better , then you have not really compromised anything. U just stil dey use one eye study the relationship.

Gbam!!

How busy is this lady that spends about 1.143 days a month on nairaland? OP, you need to work on your self esteem and stop worshipping nothing.

pcguru1:
Sounds like a regular relationship to me

It better be a regular relationship, because irregular relationships dey get irregular problems.

Anyway, I wish the Op the best in his relationship.

Albertone:
Na funmisticqueen be your bae!!Let me not talk
Just check my signature.

which girl will even settle for a church rat like you in the first place? Your brokenness and frustrations have gotten the best part of u. All that's left of you is a rotten brain

sirjamesjnr:
Yes, She won't have time for me. She doesn't have time for herself either . But trust me she always takes out her precious nap and food time, just to talk to me .

I visit her workplace she wouldn't have time to say hi also I have to sleep three nights in different hotels to be able to see her. I got angry one day and ask her, how will she take care of my kids when we marry.

When she is with me, I never want that moment to end. Our romantic life has had to suffer a lot of time because of duty calls. I have to get myself busier so I don't get emotional. she is honest and blunt, doesn’t beat around the bush. Sometimes I have to win her with a strong argument and points.

She is independent and can make life-death decisions, so I don’t feel bad if she doesn’t consult me and make some decisions highhandedly. I trust her, she good decision-maker the majority of times. For us, It’s accountability and responsibility that counts. I won't settle for less and she won't either. No room for excuses or self-pity.

She has to be nice to her patients and fellow male colleagues. I don’t mistake this for flirting. Her male colleagues are there with her than I am, so I am more comfortable and carefree because I trusted her. we do know our boundaries. Most of the time she will be discussing how much she misses me with them. I have the self-confidence that helps me though sometimes I get a bit jealous.

She is Superwoman without the cap all the time. So I have to decide whether to expect even more from her or be Super Man myself and share her burden a bit more.. understand her a bit more..love her a bit more.

As a doctor, she is extremely sensitive but also blunt. She knows when I need a hug and when an earful. Most of the time, she sees me as a case, desperately trying to diagnose my actions, detect my mood, I have to explain every action, etc.

She is great, very polite, courteous, intelligent, and fun and I love her effortlessly. The hard part is living with the job, the workload, the schedule, she never off duty, even when she is off duty, no time for long conversations. I already know I am committed to her and I must be committed to her job too. I need to be supportive of her, emotionally mature and have a life of my own. It has been a long ride but our relationship is thrilling. Will I choose another if given an opportunity? Only if I stop been me.

Learn from me, if you can't compromise in some area never date a high valued woman. With slay mamas wannabe, You have no issue, all you need is your time and money and you are the boss.

This is he type of woman we have now,they think all is money chasing wealth up and down,they want to feed men so they wont control them,

If ur a lady after all your MSC PHD you don't take of of ur home and husband especially ur kid a d u still proud of having msc PHD,u cant take care of ur home ur marriage wont last make my word

@Op, I really don't know why you carry your relationship come Nairaland. I hope you are mature enough to take the bashing from these folks.

FAIRALL:
How busy is this lady that spends about 1.143 days a month on nairaland? OP, you need to work on your self esteem and stop worshipping nothing.

you are a mad man for monitoring my life. Damned son of a bitch. Jobless idiot. Who are you to dictate what I do with my time? Jobless fool

DrFunmisticGlow:
No it hasn't!! He's a wonderful person and will continue to be. The people I lost respect for are some nairalnders who wont let the past go!!

What past are we talking of here?

You mean your past as the cheerleader of the Nairaland coven of man-hating feminazis? Who would have thought that after all your braggadocios you'd be humbled by one SIMPle man.

I only pity all those naïve impressionable young girls you led astray to hating men while you were secretly collecting Vitamin D, bd.

studentofTruth:
@Op, I really don't know why you carry your relationship come Nairaland. I hope you are mature enough to take the bashing from these folks.

I'm enjoying the ride. Remember it's a faceless forum. Most of them are frustrated, teenagers, poor church rats who just had garri and kulikuli as their only meal today

Chimaokigwe:
Not those stupid girls like Trayceey who you take home and their mothers start crying that you didn't buy bread for them.

Guy, you just carry this Traceey matter for head .

humilitypays:
Just dating a Dokita abi Doctor make u de write all these Mills and Boon stories for, odikwa egwu oh, wetin guys weh come De date young managers working with IOCs go do Na, maybe release a full music album




My brother see eh, if you are making like 3m to 5million monthly every month as a guy based in Nigeria (not all those abroad $$ based income our people ignorantly convert to Naira and start to scream), believe me, u will be dating Kiki Osinbajo and not give a fvck about who her father is.

Your problem is you seem to be far below her income status and maybe your perceived class.


But a Doctor is not that big na, Doctors don't earn much in Nigeria to warrant this big grammar lol, na wa oh


#talkingfromexperience

This might be true o. Because the way zlatan blocked otedola's daughter on SM really shock me.

iLegendd:
Nice post to an extent, but not for my kind.

For iLegend, me and my woman will be billionaires without working day and night and with all the time in the world to catch cruise.

No work obstruction. I don't compromise quality time for money/work. I compromise money for quality time.

This is why men should work smarter to avoid being in OP's shoe. At last, he will raise another man's child.

The woman is in control and she subtly dictates all in the name of work.

Why you wan crash funmi relationship na?

humilitypays:
I go beat u oh, kilode, ati ya wehre ni

Get lost

cerebralniggie1:
You got these words right outta my mouth. Does being a doctor automatically make one "high value"? The level of asslicking I see in his write up is nauseating, to say the least.
Mind you, I'm married to a doctor. All through our dating months, she was very available. Whoever values you will make himself/herself available

Gbamsolutely!

We4all:
The title should be: "My experience dating a crappy Nigerian doctor". Nigerian doctors based in Nigeria know next to nothing. They love to form busy but can only prescribe panadol and malaria drugs for patients.

Hahha Are you sure which hospital do you go when you are sick?

Y

bluefilm:
It will still end in premium tears.

Mark my words.

Why? Please tell me, is like you have experience dating such kind of women