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Allow your brother to learn in a hard way.

Life is all about learning

Wahala for ona wer de fall in love

Just advice your brother, that he deserves better than a lady who doesn't take responsibility for her actions, who gaslights and cheats on him. He is dating a narcissist.

If he doesn't listen, leave him to learn, the hard way.

Bennysam:
I hate people like you, so he will watch his younger brother be destroyed by woman all in the name of him minding his business

bro calm down bikonu. See eh, once man dey in love, Dem sense of good judgement dey affected, no matter d valid reasons u reason with am, e no go listen e go even yarn e babe wetin his bro advice am. Na ur head Dem go use settle lass lass when your bro find out say na d truth you dey the am since. Once man is in love u wey be his bro go become his enemy when you tell am reality wey he no like.

Your brother is digging his grave while the girl is digging her gold

Allow love lead he will surely receive sense

Obviously ur bro has no experience in dealing with smart ladies, so let him learn some lessons in the hard way now.
That will guide him when he eventually gets married.
And as for you, please learn to mind ur business because dat might be d only way ur brother finds peace in his relationship.
Abeg no add pressure to his blood

That banny wey you dey dread...then they roll am

Loner97:
Greetings all, pls ignore my typos.

I have a bro (3yrs younger) who have been inseperable to me ever since we became adults, we do virtually everything together not until he met this girl he calls gf.

She wasn't really a problem, till recently when I started perceiving foul play in her dealings. First she never accepts anything to be her fault even when she's at fault, always playing the victim card and my bro always goes back to apologize.

Secondly, my bro got a hold of this girl's phone and her chats were out of this world for sm1 who has a bf. Planning on how to go lodge in a hotel with sm1 she said was just her caring friend and nothing more when my bro asked due to the way they act even in the presence of my bro, although through their chats she was asking the guy what to do if her bf knew but that was only bcus she was scared my bro might find out soon.

My anger now is that when my bro confronted her she became angry.

Tell your brother to either marry her or leave her . My one cent advice
It not na that girl so go either separate you and your brother or send your brother to him early grave .

Good for her

Loner97:
I understand u bro, i have been in his shoes and it doesnt usually end well, am not between anything they have but my problem now is that she is trying to turn my bro against me and she has being disrespecting me so very much(Mind u am 6y/o than she is) maybe because she knows am uncovering her every evil dealings to my bro and its something i wouldnt take

A gal that insults her bf’s older brother like that has no manners and even no respect for her bf. Zero nada

punisha:
Pick your battles wisely young man.

Because it may well be you last

Loner97:
Saying my bro had no right to go through her chats, my bro wasn't taking any of that this time so he pressured her to say the truth but this same girl had same effrontery to lie again that she planned out the said chat to check the level of trust he had for her but my bro kept pressuring until she succumed and said the truth crying that she was very sorry.. I was really angry that i called my bro and let him knw my stance on this girl, Like while would sm1 lie after being caught?I told him to do away with this kinda toxic person before it gets late and he agreed.. Three days back i was around some folks and this girl was around too.. In the course of discussion she made a very derogatory comment bout smbdy and this person got angry and jokingly i said "leave that girl she get bad life" just to reduce the already flared temper n errbody laffed but this girl insulted me telling me i was very very stupid, like wtf

You said someone has a very "bad life" in public and you expected her to clap for you and tell u "thank you sir"?
If u had been so insulted by someone else,as a man, won't u have turned it physical?U are even lucky u didn't meet some of these girls with craze in their heads and very bad mouth,,u would have regretted ever being there.

You are talking about your younger brother relationship. If God lets you see what your own girlfriend does with other guys behind closed doors ehnnnn. You go kuku faint. Tell your bro about it if you want. But also tell him not to get unnecessary heart attack over one girl.

Loner97:
but this girl insulted me telling me i was very very stupid, like wtf

LOL

Are you saying you actually took her comment seriously?

Anyway...

Let's hope your brother doesn't visit Nairaland...

You can advise someone, but you still need to respect that person's right to completely ignore the advice

And let's be real: at times, some lessons can only be learned via experience.

Selah

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leave them alone. some people can only learn from their own mistakes.

let your younger brother make his own mistakes, only through that can he become a man.

Allow women to deal with him.

Loner97:
Saying my bro had no right to go through her chats, my bro wasn't taking any of that this time so he pressured her to say the truth but this same girl had same effrontery to lie again that she planned out the said chat to check the level of trust he had for her but my bro kept pressuring until she succumed and said the truth crying that she was very sorry.. I was really angry that i called my bro and let him knw my stance on this girl, Like while would sm1 lie after being caught?I told him to do away with this kinda toxic person before it gets late and he agreed.. Three days back i was around some folks and this girl was around too.. In the course of discussion she made a very derogatory comment bout smbdy and this person got angry and jokingly i said "leave that girl she get bad life" just to reduce the already flared temper n errbody laffed but this girl insulted me telling me i was very very stupid, like wtf

The thing shock bah? If you like ,allow your brother to continue with her. You will get beaten by her one day and mummy too............ Act fast oo

Leave people and their life alone.

He loves her so that's it.
He has to show her he got all it takes for a woman to stay. Eventually she will.

I keep telling people, how much do you have to think you can take one woman all by your self?

Mind your biz Or you will lose your respect And become the problem to their relationship.

meobizy:
These stories happen because men, out of inexperience, fall for females who don’t regard them as much as they are willing to show. I once had a female for almost a year who I called mine; she acknowledged this whenever in my presence yet couldn’t stop herself from bouncing on different phalluses whenever she itched down there. I couldn’t take the shame then called it off after a while. This idiot ran around telling friends that I imagined I was her guy, claiming she kept me only as a friend who eventually got delusional. I won’t lie, her stories crushed me. Guess what, I grew emotionally stronger after all was said and done.

Always expect disrespect from a woman. If you don’t then you’re headed for a world of emotional hurt. I know very well being single is the best policy; relationships are too much work to get into plus maintain.

This one has gender identity crisis.

Pierocash:
Mind your business! Your brother isn't a kid,he should know what is good for him.

and have you seen mind your business as taking us to as a nation. even elders also need advice

When they tell you now to swallow the redpill you will say we hate women
You and your brother shud cope with her she go change with time

But wait o! That girl use juju for u brother or is she the only girl in this whole wide world. There re many young girls in Nigeria. That relationship is toxic and at the long run it wouldn't end well. I hate cheat

jaxxy:
A gal that insults her bf’s older brother like that has no manners and even no respect for her bf. Zero nada

because the older one refused to mind his business

Loner97:
I cnt leave my bro to suffer in her hands, i have had this experience and its not a nice situation to be in.. Moreover my bro is not the problem here, the girl is.. She insults me when she gets the slightest opportunity, trying to turn my bro against me and i have even seen her chat with my bro where she said she respects me just becus of my younger bro if not she would have given me the insults of my life and my bro was just begging her not to insult me so as not to enlongate the issue(Just imagine). Thats utter disrespect to me, am just trying to figure how to f**k her up real bad without hurting my bro

lol
son listen carefully
I know you got a good heart but calm down
don't be desperate in your actions and words
your brother may read another meaning to it!
calm down and let nature take care of these situations
my only advice I have for your brother is to use condoms or maybe stay away from having sex(abstainance )
shalom

Jesus is on the way repent for the kingdom of God is so close
Jesus is Lord

Loner97:
Greetings all, pls ignore my typos.

I have a bro (3yrs younger) who have been inseperable to me ever since we became adults, we do virtually everything together not until he met this girl he calls gf.

She wasn't really a problem, till recently when I started perceiving foul play in her dealings. First she never accepts anything to be her fault even when she's at fault, always playing the victim card and my bro always goes back to apologize.

Secondly, my bro got a hold of this girl's phone and her chats were out of this world for sm1 who has a bf. Planning on how to go lodge in a hotel with sm1 she said was just her caring friend and nothing more when my bro asked due to the way they act even in the presence of my bro, although through their chats she was asking the guy what to do if her bf knew but that was only bcus she was scared my bro might find out soon.

My anger now is that when my bro confronted her she became angry.

unfortunately (?) Your brother has to learn his lessons either from others (which is better) or as a victim. Wash your hands from their matter but be there for him when shít finally hits the fan

1) I would advise Loner97 to let his brother be. They are both adults so he should be allowed to make his own mistakes or good decisions.

2) Loner97, respect yourself. Focus on your life, your ambitions, your career, your school, your goals (as applicable).
Don't become that older brother that leaches on the junior one who has become more successful. If you're trying to manage his relationship now, then, you'll try to manage his business and even take control of his property if anything happens (God forbid).

3) You'll never lose yourself nor your respect when you're successful. A dog that will get lost will not hear the flute of the hunter. Your brother will still date a couple of girls after her surely so let him learn and gain experience.

4) Withdraw financial and any resource support. This will give them their deserved privacy and also, you wouldn't have much to lose.

5) Your brother has equal access to your parents but ensure he is not milking Mum or Dad (with lies) to collect money to spend on the girl. If this is the case, you'll still come clean the mess.

My 10 Kobo.

Loner97:
I cnt leave my bro to suffer in her hands, i have had this experience and its not a nice situation to be in.. Moreover my bro is not the problem here, the girl is.. She insults me when she gets the slightest opportunity, trying to turn my bro against me and i have even seen her chat with my bro where she said she respects me just becus of my younger bro if not she would have given me the insults of my life and my bro was just begging her not to insult me so as not to enlongate the issue(Just imagine). Thats utter disrespect to me, am just trying to figure how to f**k her up real bad without hurting my bro

The fact that your younger brother's girlfriend has the audacity to insult you probably shows that your brother has likely made some derogatory comments about you in her presence.

Your main problem is with your brother not this girl