Freedomforever:
Baba just be cool he is Ur bro,is only a matter of time you will be out of his out.so just chill and endure......

I had taken that decision today, I'm out for my self, I left the house already so no big deal

Whew just reading the OP's post is very draining. I think you have Obsessive compulsive disorder like someone earlier mentioned. You also don't like your brothers wife(tribalism/bad beef etc) which just makes the matter worse because if it was your sister who did that would you be this upset?

I agree that it was wrong for them to sleep on your bed but you need to get control of yourself and stop whining like a brat. When you stay in someone's house most times there will be clashes but you either control your emotions or move out so you get your own peace of mind.

You say married women are hitting on you and entertaining you. How do they get your number or get access to talk to you? It means you are also entertaining them and enjoying their attention. If you don't want anyone to talk to you or bother you, you know what you need to do.

A lot of people here have said that you sound irrational and immature etc. Sometimes you need to look inwards and take the advice good and bad and try and be a better person. To be honest you sounded crazy talking about goats, evolution and all that ish. Sounds like you have delusions of grandeur and OCD. I think you are also asexual hence the lack of interest and desire in sexual activity. Try and get more control over your emotion and feelings. Don't let emotions control your life. You don't have to love your brothers wife but at least respect that she is his wife and let go of all the pent up anger and frustrations. Life is way to short for all that sh1t. It shall be well.

Gang90:

I don't care about being any fucken prophet in a world where people are right becuase they are better off, if I'm 26, stays in my brothers house, my brother that I helped to see rise, but what every body here is saying I hate my brothers wife, that a grown adult will have sex in a room another will stay in and not seem it fit to tidy it up, I made it clear even if my brother won't wash it, the wife a woman should, after having sex they took their bath and but left some other places dirty becuase they are chaste to themselves but to me they are disgusting, let them have their house, let me have my sanity.

Again, like I said, You're one rigid and complex individual who needs immediate help!

rooftops:
...is she younger than you?

No one is talking about age here, shes older than me, but I just said this act is disgusting to me, if you must do this, tidy it up, is it too big,

YorubaPrince:


Again, like I said, You're one rigid and complex individual who needs immediate help!

The immediate help I need is freedom from those with no regards

Gang90:

I'm not looking to confront her, I can wash the sheet, but it disgusts me to wash an after sex sheet of a woman that naturally looks disgusting to me, for this I will leave the house soon, but note maybe it feels this way cause I had not really had sex, the fact is that I can't touch that bed sheet, the closest I had come with a woman is kiss here and more mild romance but this us in a whole new level for me to handle, I know what sex looks like when I see one, my mind could be playing an exaggeration scene in my head but it still disgusting, if I can go through this kind of horrible moments it should be at least for my own women not for a woman that has no atom of respect for my person, the issue is not about washing a bedsheet, sometimes ago when I abd my sister used to visit the orphanage I wash the kids clothes including their bedsheet but washing this particular one it totally dirty to me,

This is way beyond just washing a bedspread.

chrish:


This is way beyond just washing a bedspread.

it is definitely is way more than that. He needs professional help, it's not his fault. I would recommend he seek a psychiatrist or psychologist. He should also stop entertaining spiritualists or religious bigots.

Gang90:
So guys it valentine's day, I'm really disgusted, okay I stay in my brothers house, I travelled, I came back around 2:30 I wanted to enter my room but my brother told me wait a while, with my adult mind, I realised they having some couple time, I dropped my bag in the living room and head out.

But I came back to find out the room is scattered and the bedsheet there, a responsible woman should at least wash the bed sheet noting that a grown up Male stays there.

I will be 26 this year, I had not really had sex so all these things imagining a strange woman's bodily fluids in my bedsheet is disgusting. I can take it from the side of my brother but not the wife, she disgusts me honestly, she is not my girlfriend, not my sister, not my wife, not my mother why should she expect I wash her after sex sheets for her or why can't she just pick the sheet immediately and wash it, it could have dried by now. And it really feel awful for me if I try to wash it, honestly.

This is about to be the worst valentine's day for me, I'm planning to head out and rent a room in hotel but who knows most hotel rooms will be disgusting today, what do I do please advice.

I'm hating knowing already, cause if I didn't know it could all not be so dirty to me, now my bed looks so dirty to me and I can't attempt to wash it until at least 24 hours and I will wash it soaked in hot water, I hate nonses just cause my brothers accepts you does not mean everyone in the family sees you as one flesh.

You're an idiot and an incredibly foolish idiot at that. How dare you foolishly talk down your sister Inlaw in her house. If you're so pained, go rent you own house. It's her house, she can do anything she likes in any corner of her house with her spouse. Imagine the entitlement mentality.

OP you're a mad man
You have mental issues. You need help before you bite someone.
You should be in yaba left honestly

OGA disgusting remove the sheet from the bed and sleep like DAT or beta sleep for ground u dey disturb us country to hard for dis ur mata

As an educated person, you still believe trashh, you still believe in ancient cultures which were made by foo*lish illiterates. You have a long way to go. If the whites had stu*pid beliefs and cultures, do you think the world would have been developed as it is. This is 22st century, wake up.

Gang90:

I'm an adult Male, and woman of menstrual age do not even enter all places in my culture talk more of sex in my room and not remove the signs, if it angers my faith you will understand, you will see my uplift and you will realise that someone is deeply hurt

Person dey ask for advice, yet the majority dey call am(Op) madman

E be things

Gang90:


What you refuse to understand is that I did not say shes a sinner I said this stuff is disgusting to me, I wonder what's hard to understand here, why should I forgive her or not did i say she wronged me, i said they ought to make the bed or wash it, given that another adult Male will be there

It's alright, I understand your point, you have every right to be disgusted but just let it go.

Rocktation:
I don't even understand why people are seriously paying this doltish character any mind. It looks to me like he just wanted to get his thread to the homepage. If he's not a grand wizard from the deepest pit of hell even, why would he leave his family house for his brother's house on Val's day ?
Kaii..the communal nonsense that some Nigerian wives have to put up with, because of the culture they find themselves in..

Videos or I don't believe it

The lady isn't trying at all, a very sillyyy woman. I am beginning to understand why he finds her disgusting.
You wash your bedsheets like twice a week? , Really? Who does that? Washing bedsheet once a week is okay, or once in two weeks. it is only intimate couples who should wash bedsheets as often as it gets stained. Guy, this isn't an issue of being a neatness freak, you may have a psychogical problem without knowing.

Gang90:


I have a spare bedsheet here which I usually wash and keep, about a week ago she collected the washed one, okay, last week I washed this one, twice, she knows that I'm a neat freak, I wash my bedsheet at least twice a week, but now she took the spare one, my brother gave me money to buy another set of bedsheet and two pillow, she had her own pillows but at one time she took one of my pillows, I did not complain then she took the second one, no complaints, last week she took the spare bedsheet, today she made out in my room and left the room scattered and did nothing it, my brother had warned her to stop attacking me, I'm a really quite person, I don't complain but this is not cool at all

And you eat free food and get tips and your excesses are condoned by the wife.

You have no idea how it irritates her


A lawfully wedded woman ()wife) can do as she wants, even if she is dirty, bear with it till you get yours.


In case you don't know having intercourse with one's partner in places they ought not to, sparks up most boring or long term marriages.

Viicfuntop:




I knew I wasn’t wrong about you from the first post. You have a patriarchy mentality. You are a freaking rude human. This is more personal. It was too obvious. Rude child. Pack out of that house or go stay with your uncles. Nonsense sense of entitlement.

That is NOT "Patriarchy". That is just an ediot talking. He is obviously mentally unstable if you read through his follow up comments.

RoyalPearl:
Whew just reading the OP's post is very draining. I think you have Obsessive compulsive disorder like someone earlier mentioned. You also don't like your brothers wife(tribalism/bad beef etc) which just makes the matter worse because if it was your sister who did that would you be this upset?

I agree that it was wrong for them to sleep on your bed but you need to get control of yourself and stop whining like a brat. When you stay in someone's house most times there will be clashes but you either control your emotions or move out so you get your own peace of mind.

You say married women are hitting on you and entertaining you. How do they get your number or get access to talk to you? It means you are also entertaining them and enjoying their attention. If you don't want anyone to talk to you or bother you, you know what you need to do.

A lot of people here have said that you sound irrational and immature etc. Sometimes you need to look inwards and take the advice good and bad and try and be a better person. To be honest you sounded crazy talking about goats, evolution and all that ish. Sounds like you have delusions of grandeur and OCD. I think you are also asexual hence the lack of interest and desire in sexual activity. Try and get more control over your emotion and feelings. Don't let emotions control your life. You don't have to love your brothers wife but at least respect that she is his wife and let go of all the pent up anger and frustrations. Life is way to short for all that sh1t. It shall be well.

I was going to sympathise with him till I saw how rude he was to his brother's wife and no word about his brother, I guess if the brother had sex with himself in his room he won't come here and blab, his anger is the woman not the sex or his brother

Seriously You sound irrational,Rude and immature.. you need to really work on yourself before is too later..

[quote author=GodisFirst post=99085208][/quote] Nice points you offered.

But as you also said, he needs to work on his self more

Gang90:

That was yesterday, I was a shameless squatter in my brothers house because I wished they washed the bedsheet, I keep clean, but today, I'm a free born with great destiny

The fact that you're mentally unstable and many people in here think you're just plain stoopid, is more worrisome.

I don't expect you to understand this, because obviously there's a missing screw in your head. Hopefully, you're able to get all the help you need to live a normal life.

Trust me bro, you are a disaster waiting to happen. Yours is so clear as daylight. You are self-obsessed, immature, proud and ignorant at the same time. Mhen... I pity the woman that will foolishly think she can put up with you. Chai! Ndo ehn!

If you know how disgusting you sound ehn. I would even put up with my bed being smeared with semen than to put up with someone that is self-obsessed like you. Tufia!

What's that talk about wahala and bicycle again?
My son, may God help you. May He also deliver all daughters linked to me in any way from getting involved with you. Amen.

Bankerboy:
Guy you have a problem, why is it dat you hate ur bro's wife dat much. Ordinary bedsheet. . Is either you remove it or you wash it or you pack out for them. . U've almost rejected every advice here , what do you want us to do 4u nw?

Exactly what I had in mind. Your brother's wife disgusts you but you are in her house, eating her food. Wicked soul talking about morals

Gang90:
So guys it valentine's day, I'm really disgusted, okay I stay in my brothers house, I travelled, I came back around 2:30 I wanted to enter my room but my brother told me wait a while, with my adult mind, I realised they having some couple time, I dropped my bag in the living room and head out.

But I came back to find out the room is scattered and the bedsheet there, a responsible woman should at least wash the bed sheet noting that a grown up Male stays there.

I will be 26 this year, I had not really had sex so all these things imagining a strange woman's bodily fluids in my bedsheet is disgusting. I can take it from the side of my brother but not the wife, she disgusts me honestly, she is not my girlfriend, not my sister, not my wife, not my mother why should she expect I wash her after sex sheets for her or why can't she just pick the sheet immediately and wash it, it could have dried by now. And it really feel awful for me if I try to wash it, honestly.

This is about to be the worst valentine's day for me, I'm planning to head out and rent a room in hotel but who knows most hotel rooms will be disgusting today, what do I do please advice.

I'm hating knowing already, cause if I didn't know it could all not be so dirty to me, now my bed looks so dirty to me and I can't attempt to wash it until at least 24 hours and I will wash it soaked in hot water, I hate nonses just cause my brothers accepts you does not mean everyone in the family sees you as one flesh.

why not call fmly meeting for Ur brother head

philip0906:

That is NOT "Patriarchy". That is just an ediot talking. He is obviously mentally unstable if you read through his follow up comments.

Oh I did, believe me. He said there are some places women can enter. I’m Yoruba. We do not see women as less. I have a female king in my village. So yeah, that screams of patriarchy. Not only is he arrogant for noting, he is “ I don’t even know the adjective to describe him”.

OP You sound like a phucking diva and I detect hints of the GAE in your speech.
You can wash man's body fluid but not woman because it disgusts you?

Remember your place in that house or GTFO.
It's very simple.

bukatyne:
Very very funny thread

The couple was wrong to have sex in the room the OP is staying in and doubly wrong for not cleaning up after themselves.

I can not process having sex with my husband in a room not mine and not cleaning up.

I can't imagine sleeping on a bed people had sex in and not cleaned up.

We all know what is right by decorum and courtesy.

Let's not let our 'disagreement' with the OP's outlook towards life change that.

He also stated somewhere that he expects his brother's wife to wash the sheets because she is the stranger to him and would require same from his sister's husband. (Well!)

The OP is obviously one who believes in traditional spirituality and has OCD hence his disgust for women (fluids, periods, pregnancy, childbirth etc) and rigidity. Some do not share a bed with their wives when during her periods. Some don't eat her food then and other crazy stuff. Some do not even share bedrooms or bathrooms with their wives. Such men are also very 'traditional' to the point of misogyny.

If the OP sieves through the thread, he has been given enough counsel. He should also ensure he marries a lady who has same outlook towards life like him.

Firstly, whatever traditional spirituality and OCD a normal human has, ends at their door steps. You don't go to another man's house with your baggage of spirituality or whatever lingua to the point of claiming "Right".

Secondly, I entirely get where you're coming from and your posit would have had me thinking maybe if I hadn't read through his follow up posits. His follow up posits simply points to one thing: He is clearly mentally unstable. It's not hard to spot one.

Gang90:

The moment I step out of this house, that's the moment the moment I ask for my share of my late fathers property, the truth is, if they can have sex in my room why can't she wash it, I didn't say I hate her, I said she disgusts me, which right now she looks more disgusting to me,

No wonder nobody has even bothered to phuck you at this your grandfather age of 26.
I pity the woman that grees to go into your life.

Na your type dey slap and kill woman upon say she fried the wrong egg and boiled the other one.

Gang90:

Let them have sex even inside a burning furnace and I won't care as far as they leave no traces.

There are husband and wives with children, all living in one room and no one knows how they have sex, so what's the difference, here wash the bedsheet after that's maturity, if you must use a room another sleeps in keep it clean, sex is more than two married people breathing fast and sinking deeper into one another, it a connection that points to everything we are it only little kids that takes sex as flimsy, do you know how many forces act during sex

Who goes about washing bedsheet after sex... Bachelors have sex every day on their bed and friends... These things are not even worth any stress. ..
Na the woman way go marry ur type I de pity. No b only neat freak. U are twenty six no sex, no wonder ur brain is so disjointed

Gang90:

Let them have sex even inside a burning furnace and I won't care as far as they leave no traces.

There are husband and wives with children, all living in one room and no one knows how they have sex, so what's the difference, here wash the bedsheet after that's maturity, if you must use a room another sleeps in keep it clean, sex is more than two married people breathing fast and sinking deeper into one another, it a connection that points to everything we are it only little kids that takes sex as flimsy, do you know how many forces act during sex

Sex is not deeper anythin... Its like two people eating rice... Go and fuxk and resetbur mentality.

Why should the woman wash bedsheet because she had sex in the room u stay... U even get sense?