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Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by Divoc19(f): 4:51pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
Yes. Raise your kids in Africa before you send them abroad, they will thank God and appreciate you later 4 Likes |
Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by Christistruth00: 4:51pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
VenumX: By the time the one on the right spends 6 months in UK he will be unrecognisable. That doesn’t mean that there are no Criminals in the UK but there are more alternatives to Crime. |
Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by Nobody: 4:51pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
yes and no |
Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by Farki: 4:52pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
The answer is NO If it was we wouldn't have so many people trying to escape to "get a better life for their children". 1 Like |
Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by vioment: 4:53pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
Not now if you can. There is hope. Elementary school, maybe. Secondary school now, is not good any more. University not yet. |
Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by jaxxy(m): 4:53pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
WoundedLamb: Just like we learn more from failure than success, we learn alot of things from suffering and only experience can teach u some of it. It’s no mistake Many of best minds and achievers suffered at one point in time. |
Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by Asadujames202(m): 4:53pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
Actually, kids raised in the west are mooncalfs poorly equipped for a grueling life |
Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by Nobody: 4:54pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
etrange: You have been brainwashed. The worst scammers are actually in the western world and not from Africa. You should have stopped at inventiveness. You are the one joining them to stereotype your Africa because that is the part they have brainwashed you into seeing same way they brainwashed you into seeing all the niceties in the west and not the horrors of their system. 7 Likes |
Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by moredolu(m): 4:54pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
In my own little way as a parent, apart from not being trying to avoid parenting responsibility its very good for one's to train their children by themselves. Society would contribute from where you stop. Let give children a good home training they will fix well in the society. descarado: 1 Like |
Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by descarado: 4:54pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
SatanicPriest:Thank you. A Ghanaian outside Ghana behaves better, represents Africa better than a Nigerian. Or is it those from southern Africa? We only chest beat when we see other African countries but outside we behave like animals. Look at this forum e.g, so vile, u can't communicate without cursing and we call that the naija factor. Money overrides every other thing and we answer only to money. We only pretend to care if its a means to a financial outcome. 4 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by WoundedLamb: 4:55pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
jaxxy: Yes but not physical suffering. I don't know how carrying a bucket of water or reading with candles or fighting for a bus would help anyone in the American society. Lol. But I'm open to learning more. |
Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by Ojycelarma: 4:55pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
Okay 2 Likes |
Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by LordKO(m): 4:56pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
An environment has almost nothing to do with how a child turns out as an adult ethically; instead, the ethical leanings and or worldview of the parents/guardians couple with the child's mental quotient has everything to do with how he/she will turn out as an adult. In fact, with the obvious ethical leanings and worldviews of most of the posters on this thread, the chances of having the proverbial thought of sending some of your offspring or grand offspring to Africa for futile ethical reasons is inevitable; unless something urgently is done to curb the menace - misinformation, bigotry, misrepresentation, greed, misinterpretation, etc. Case study - A blanket statement from the mindset that held the belief that African parents do not allow their children to exercise their liberty, while the Western parents do allow their children to exercise theirs without regards to decorum: This I know isn't true, citing my background. Where it's a case, however, know that it isn't a general phenomenon. Anyone with this kind of blanket statement mindset or who truly experience such because their parents are from weak ethical leanings hardly exercise their liberty within the limits of decorum, and they tend to allow their children to exercise their liberty without regards to decorum and in the course of doing so they misrepresent how the elite Whites truly train their children. The elite Whites do not encourage their children to exercise their liberty outside the limits of decorum. - A blanket statement from the mindset that held the belief that women/wives are oppressed in Africa: This I know isn't true too, citing my background. Anyone with this kind of blanket statement mindset, or who truly experience such because their parents are from weak ethical leanings, is likely going to abuse the freedom the West offers erroneously through contention, as a woman, while in the case of a man, he'll become effeminate, and the end result is raising children who witness their parents either scheming to outdo each other or abusing each other, thereby making them not having respect for one or both parents and losing their sense of decorum in general. Meanwhile, there's a different set of parents whose purpose of sending their children to Africa isn't because of ethical issues, but for the purpose of cultural inculcation, even though they oftentimes wittingly or unwittingly say that it is for ethical reasons. They want their children to have that sense of Nigeria/Africa is your place of origin and true home - this is called never forget your root under no circumstances. This is good because it discourages brain drain; embassies do acknowledge this through some of the measures they put in place when granting visas. 5 Likes |
Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by Nobody: 4:58pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
The answer is an emphatic NO. What can a child possibly gain from blackouts or this extreme hardship? You experienced Nigeria, you want your children to experience the same Nigeria. Na generational curse? 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by Reference(m): 4:59pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
I think for the formative years a child will do better here in a reasonably resourced, reasonably enlightened family. Beyond the that the gap begins to open up quite markedly. 1 Like |
Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by floss(m): 4:59pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
Only those that grew up in the west and also in Africa will know better, but you can't tell me raising up your kids in Zoogeria is a good thing. Reject that OP, for your own good. Zoogeria is hell on earth. |
Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by Eriokanmi: 4:59pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
Yes, yes and yes!!! |
Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by InvertedHammer: 5:02pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
/ Unless the Africa he means does not include Nigeria. Nigeria don cast a long time ago. The Nigeria he knew is no longer the Nigeria available these days. / |
Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by Godszilla: 5:03pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
I feel the key word here is better off, which can be subjective that is what you want from your child. note intelligence doesnt equate to wisdom. Obviously they will be more expose than your average africa child. So by better off is what do you really value from a child. I will always stay with africa way of bringing up a child not perfect because nothing is but its a system that tries to guard the curious mind of a child although we are seriously losing this sha. You cant spare the rod and expect the child to learn. train up a child in the way of the lord so it doesnt depart when she grows up, a lot has really change in africa cos of this our western thing we are picking. there is alot of poistive stuffs to pick from the western world eg Technology, working economy,etc "Genuine love will take no account of what gratifies the other, of what is agreeable to him and affords him satisfaction, but will only be guided by what is useful to him, without considering whether it affords him pleasure or not. That is real love and service. for love cannot be separated from justice" WoundedLamb: 1 Like |
Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by Nobody: 5:03pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
floss: Brainwashed soul 1 Like |
Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by Slimdan360: 5:04pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
I also think kids raised in Nigeria are better off,but take note, not all kids raised in Nigeria turn out fine,the best are those raised by average parents,the importance of hardwork is ingrained in them at an early age, respect for elders and for parents are also important aspects,fear for parents at early stage of life which later turns to respect as the child grows older is also there. let me tell u a story,when I wrote jamb,I scored relatively good and wanted to change to another University for some reasons but my dad disagreed and used that African parent force on me,I wasn't happy about it initially but when cutoff mark for the school I intended changing to came out,I didn't meet the cutoff I thought would not have been a problem,what am saying in essence Is that if I were to be a kid raised in America,I definitely would have changed universities and that would have been a big mistake I would not have been able to recover from. At teenage age, children exhibit youthful exuberance and require guide from someone they both respect and fear to walk them through it. the moment I realised the level of insolence kids raised in America exhibits was when I watched the movie "power",it will be difficult for a kid raised by an average Nigerian parent to turn out like Tariq in that movie (nb=emphasis on average Nigerian parent,not the extremely rich or extremely poor parent) 2 Likes |
Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by BigDawsNet: 5:06pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
WoundedLamb: Well I didn't mention anything like "spoilt" but the only difference from those kids in Lagos and Abuja with the Northamerica is that they are discipline... They are not spoilt like the foreign kids and they don't abuse their parent...no kids in Nigeria will dial 911 ... they're never disrespectful, they follow the lifestyle of Nigeria and their parents are very happy these kids are growing up in Nigeria because they can learn how to be respectful.. I'm not sure if people still send their kids to Nigeria this days to learn how to be a good kid I only know of my cousin that sent his son to Nigeria for few months so he can drop in weight |
Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by kolnel: 5:07pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
whatever rocks your boat Most of the times, parents send their kids home so they can cope with the stress here. kids are kids everywhere, its the style of parenting that differs. while its true that the exposure here is not helpful, I will still choose here over Africa. The education at home is archaic. The most important is finding time for the kids. But that won't happen when parents work minimum paying jobs and the have to work back to back. |
Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by akigbemaru: 5:07pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
WoundedLamb: 1 Like |
Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by Reeses: 5:07pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
This same America i live in? All my children will surely go back to Nigeria for highschool then return for college i cant gamble on this nah its necessary. 2 Likes |
Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by Nobody: 5:08pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
Kayberg: What sort of mentality is this. Parents, the church, teachers and the environment all have a role to play in a child's life. Children do not train themselves, they imitate what they see, if a parent is bad, they imitate that and that will become their reality. |
Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by floss(m): 5:09pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
How I wish Elon Musk can just transport all Nigerians all over the world to Mars so that they will all understand themselves and relate better there with their irrational mentality... Earth will be a better place, Nigeria is the problem Africa and the world is facing, anywhere they are SANITY stops existing. |
Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by Yankee101: 5:12pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
If you have security, good education, Infrastructure and rule of law, yes! Pickin dey lost for obodo oyinbo (drugs, disrespect, depression, atheism, dabauchery) |
Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by VenumX: 5:13pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
Christistruth00: A criminal is a criminal regardless of where he/she was brought up. I can bet you that the one on the right will still land in UK jail. No matter how hungry a disciplined individual is, he/she will never steal or kill. Nigeria is the wrong place to raise children. |
Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by MisterRuk(m): 5:13pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
I can't say for the whole Africa, but for Nigeria our parenting system is "toxic". Unless you retrain yourself mainstream parenting system in Nigeria creates two types of people: Jagudas and simps. In the Asian and Western world older generations see youngsters as potentials, as seeds to fertilized to bring forth fruits and carry on a legacy. In many Nigerian homes young ones are seen as nothing but tools. Many of us don't teach our young ones good values but when they commit a flaw we are quick to rain beating upon them. If you think training a child in the "Africa way" is ideal, shebi the family is the core of every society ? Look around you, the characters of many millenials and gen Z in today's Nigeria, you will realize that there have been a lot of flaws in raising children over the past years. Again these guys outside have a strong family system where family values are shared, both nuclear and extended. It's sad to say that in Nigeria our traditional family system is breaking apart, there is so much envy, segregation, fear and distrust among family members ( fear of village people is a subtle sign of that). In many African homes there are no family values, you just need someone to fear in order to behave. 4 Likes |
Re: Is Africa Really A Better Place to Raise A Child Than The Western World? by Godbpraised: 5:14pm On Feb 22, 2021 |
This is my take, i feel that it would be better to bring the child up in Africa at his/her formative ages, once he attains age 17 or 18 years send him back to the West. That way he/she would appreciate what you have done as a father or mother. etrange: 1 Like |
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