The mentality has always been he should provide for me when am in need, but when I have what I need I can flex the way I like. Men don't like irresponsible women as much as women despise irresponsible men. So, they are better left alone.

hisgrace090:
Because most financial stable women hardly accep their husband as the head of the family as you hardly see a humble rich lady.

Says who? I know of several women who earn more than their husbands and still let the men head their homes. If you find such, study the man and find out how he does it . You may learn a thing or 2
Some footballers earn more than their coaches but they dare not disrespect the coaches. Why is this?

Ikjosh04:
A Nigerian financial stable woman is different from the norms.


99.5% of Nigeria financially stable women living in Nigeria and even to some extent in the western world hardly contributes their own quota financially in the relationship.

Imagine this 3 scenarios.

Family A: Both hubby and wifee earn 12 million naira annually respectively but wifee still expect hubby to be financially responsible for above 50% of the family day to day financial activities.

Family B: Hubby and wifee earn 12 and 9 million naira annually respectively but wifee still expect hubby to be financially responsible for above 60% of the family day to day financial activities.

Family C: Hubby and wifee earn 12 and 5 million naira annually respectively but wifee still expect hubby to be financially responsible for above 70% of the family day to day financial activities.

Which of the family scene will you want to be your reality when you get married?

As for me, I'll go with family C cause, I'm sure of total submission from my wifee and I prefer paying above 70% of the bills. Every man loves peace of mind.

The Bible said women are our helpmate but only 10% of Nigeria girls from age 22 to 30 have the virtues and are willing to be helpmate. It's quite disheartening!!

Btw, i think Benue states still have decent girls cause I've met quite a few and the vibes I'm getting from them are different from the norms of Nigeria girls.

So are you saying because your wife earns more you won't take care of your family?

Kelvin3476:
U said sumtin gr8 bt the part u talkd abt respecting all ur wish like a zombie isn't part of the submission i am talkn abt.

That's some men's definition of submission - control. They want to control the woman and expect her to always do as they say. The moment the woman have any different opinion from theirs or object to any of their orders, you'll hear them saying that she's not submissive. Submission no mean say she no go get voice or say for the family Mata, is all about how she treats you and makes you feel.

Romanoff:

Most?
Rotfl.
Okay o

YA MOST . IF A MAN IS RICH A LOVING , NOTHING WILL CHANGE.

Kelvin3476:
YA MOST . IF A MAN IS RICH A LOVING , NOTHING WILL CHANGE.

Okay.

Romanoff:
The reason I advice women to be financially independent is cause you'll know why you're dating a guy. Not cause he's spending on you, but cause you really like him.

Man no fit use financially stable woman do Shakara.

Many men use their money as a tool to control a woman, which money you wan use control woman wey dey financially stable.

There's a difference between submission and control. Submission is earned and flows easily from the heart while control is conditional, with something attached to it.

spot on

Romanoff:


I believe submission is earned. The man earns submission by loving his wife.

Take away the money many men have and see their marriage crumble cause the so called "true colours" of the woman appears cause the money was a tool used to keep her controlled.

Take it or leave it, argue it, it's my opinion and I stand by it.

If you are not courteous, submissive, or patient, you just can't be. If you have to wait for a man to "earn" it like it was some kind of special task within the home after the one outside, that's not his home.
Some girls exude grace naturally while others act like they can.
It's not your fault if you are not the type, you are good for something else, not what we are talking about right now. People are created different, and for good reason too. There's thing people do which I marvel at, that I just won't do.
There's this girl I still can't forget since we met back in school. When I found her later on with social media, I found out that she's now married. But I know what I am saying.

Romanoff:


I believe submission is earned. The man earns submission by loving his wife.

Take away the money many men have and see their marriage crumble cause the so called "true colours" of the woman appears cause the money was a tool used to keep her controlled.

Take it or leave it, argue it, it's my opinion and I stand by it.

U ARE VERY CORRECT , BUT HOW CAN A BROKE MAN EARN SUBMISSION FROM A RICH WIFE ?

Romanoff:

Okay.

Ok

why would you want to control someone? You shouldn't even try to control your child or children not to talk of your spouse.

Kelvin3476:
U ARE VERY CORRECT , BUT HOW CAN A BROKE MAN EARN SUBMISSION FROM A RICH WIFE ?

by giving her what she doesn't have, real romance be real with her and watch her come around

IamBroke:
Even me I'm guilty of this.. especially as a broke ass niqqer I find it hard to Toast girls that are financially stable.

One thing about them is that..they are so confident when talking to you.

You can't even use money to get them.
Most of them are so disrespectful because they have money..

Supreme Leader of the Simps! May your reign be long. Nonsense!

Nigerian men though, how can they ever please you people?

If the lady isn't financially stable, you guys call her "broke and hungry", "urgent 2k", "gold digger" etc.

If she's financially stable, you guys will also use the same mouth to label her "proud", "stubborn", "bossy" etc.

What exactly do you men want? Nigerian women don suffer for una hand shaaaaaaaaaaaaa.

webizone:


If you are not courteous, submissive, or patient, you just can't be. If you have to wait for a man to "earn" it like it was some kind of special task within the home after the one outside, that's not his home.
Some girls exude grace naturally while others act like they can.
It's not your fault if you are not the type, you are good for something else, not what we are talking about right now. People are created different, and for good reason too. There's thing people do which I marvel at, that I just won't do.
There's this girl I still can't forget since we met back in school. When I found her later on with social media, I found out that she's now married. But I know what I am saying.

That both of you didn't end up together doesn't mean she's not submissive to the man she married. Shey you know.

Are you out of your mind?
How many financially stable women exist? That is who most men are looking for.
Mtchewww
Where are they they?

Romanoff:


That both of you didn't end up together doesn't mean she's not submissive to the man she married. Shey you know.

That's what I am saying. She just does exude grace and warmth naturally. My first contact with her, she just can't help it, and she didn't know me before. I didn't have to do anything to "earn" it. What happened then was, I just kept going to her more and more. And then, during our final year, we broke contact because we were all trying to graduate and we didn't stay in our houses during those times. I finally wanted to tell her how I felt but she wasn't home then. I had her number but lost my phone along with it. I was a little lucky to have found her Facebook id years later. I didn't say hi since I found her new marital status. So yeah.

webizone:


That's what I am saying. She just does exude grace and warmth naturally. My first contact with her, she just can't help it, and she didn't know me before. I didn't have to do anything to "earn" it. What happened then was, I just kept going to her more and more. And then, during our final year, we broke contact because we were all trying to graduate and we didn't stay in our houses during those times. I finally wanted to tell her how I felt but she wasn't home then. I had her number but lost my phone along with it. I was a little lucky to have found her Facebook id years later. I didn't say hi since I found her new marital status. So yeah.

If you had been a scumbag, you think you'd have these nice things to say about her?

All your scenarios do not reflect the reality of Nigerian homes and many homes outside Nigeria. Many homes are too poor to survive on a single income. If women don't spend according to your concocted fact, we should be richer. What else would we do with those extra cash?

Plus when women earn low, it is either because of her family commitment or the society's or biology.

Maybe it is time you ask your mum how often it was her money many times she told you your dad gave her money or your dad sent money to you?

Ikjosh04:
A Nigerian financial stable woman is different from the norms.


99.5% of Nigeria financially stable women living in Nigeria and even to some extent in the western world hardly contributes their own quota financially in the relationship.

Imagine this 3 scenarios.

Family A: Both hubby and wifee earn 12 million naira annually respectively but wifee still expect hubby to be financially responsible for above 50% of the family day to day financial activities.

Family B: Hubby and wifee earn 12 and 9 million naira annually respectively but wifee still expect hubby to be financially responsible for above 60% of the family day to day financial activities.

Family C: Hubby and wifee earn 12 and 5 million naira annually respectively but wifee still expect hubby to be financially responsible for above 70% of the family day to day financial activities.

Which of the family scene will you want to be your reality when you get married?

As for me, I'll go with family C cause, I'm sure of total submission from my wifee and I prefer paying above 70% of the bills. Every man loves peace of mind.

The Bible said women are our helpmate but only 10% of Nigeria girls from age 22 to 30 have the virtues and are willing to be helpmate. It's quite disheartening!!

Btw, i think Benue states still have decent girls cause I've met quite a few and the vibes I'm getting from them are different from the norms of Nigeria girls.

Of course nigerian men are scared intimidated and feel threatened by successful and powerful women... Nigerian men are weaklings

Some of them are too competitive. When you think you ve made the right choice.

IamBroke:
Even me I'm guilty of this.. especially as a broke ass niqqer I find it hard to Toast girls that are financially stable.

One thing about them is that..they are so confident when talking to you.

You can't even use money to get them.
Most of them are so disrespectful because they have money..

You can't use money to get a reasonable woman and such are few.

Romanoff:


If you had been a scumbag, you think you'd have these nice things to say about her?

Well, I mean, I am the same guy who's met other girls, who are rather rude. Why are they like that? They will only act nicely if I "earn" it. Before I used to think it was my game, like I am not the guy who would play around with words, I am the guy who will try to talk a little, say that I like a girl, a little, and my behaviour will show it, even a bit.
I don't tend to act, especially so long, waiting for someone to recognise me or "reward" me.

I only knew I could be romantic because she gave me a chance. She actually listened to me, and responded, no matter how stupid I said stuff, not trying to put me down in any way.

You be got to distinguish dem financially stable women from the Porta potty crew, must of the women you see form the latter group, any woman who sleeps with a billionaire can buy a rover, doesn't mean they re financially stable.

Real financially stable women don't lack suitors BTW.

The idea is to be rich not to look rich, most of these abuja and Eko based wannabe babes can't fuel their SUVs, you see them spend hours in their luxury cars begging one rich dude for fuel money, seen that a lot.

Only parasitic men spend their time looking for so called rich lady.

webizone:


Well, I mean, I am the same guy who's met other girls, who are rather rude. Why are they like that? They will only act nicely if I "earn" it. Before I used to think it was my game, like I am not the guy who would play around with words, I am the guy who will try to talk a little, say that I like a girl, a little, and my behaviour will show it, even a bit.
I don't tend to act, especially so long, waiting for someone to recognise me or "reward" me.

I only knew I could be romantic because she gave me a chance. She actually listened to me, and responded, no matter how stupid I said stuff, not trying to put me down in any way.

A shabbily raised or uncultured male or female is a disaster, even in marriage and I am not talking about those.

Girls that don't earn are belittled.

Girls that earn are berated.

No comfy place.

Romanoff:
The reason I advice women to be financially independent is cause you'll know why you're dating a guy. Not cause he's spending on you, but cause you really like him.

Man no fit use financially stable woman do Shakara.

Many men use their money as a tool to control a woman, which money you wan use control woman wey dey financially stable.

There's a difference between submission and control. Submission is earned and flows easily from the heart while control is conditional, with something attached to it.

You've said it all. Why would anybody want or feel the need to control another, you being the head of the family doesn't mean you're perfect or with out flaws. For things to move smoothly in a relationship everybody needs to bring something to the table. Financial stable woman or not what really matters is that you and your partner have COMMON SENSE.

Romanoff:
The reason I advice women to be financially independent is cause you'll know why you're dating a guy. Not cause he's spending on you, but cause you really like him.

Man no fit use financially stable woman do Shakara.

Many men use their money as a tool to control a woman, which money you wan use control woman wey dey financially stable.

There's a difference between submission and control. Submission is earned and flows easily from the heart while control is conditional, with something attached to it.

I love marrieds to financial stable woman,then I’ll know and convince that her love toward me is genuine.....I’ll even respect her the more....and I’ll try not to become bordering to her

pozehnani:


Well... Thats the demon behind money. It makes people think higly of themselves than others especially if they don't have the spirit of God.

baby girl , spirit of god na another topic be that o,,,,who lack self control will have difficulty managing family and money be it a male or female,I kw of a family relative when money enter e hand no body fit talk to am again ....,,,na give away em they do steady .

Hot rod.

A RICH woman can only fall a good Hot Rod.

But don't give her overdose. Let her keep asking you'll see her desire for you will be till eternity

Prescription for husbands only please

Kelvin3476:
U ARE VERY CORRECT , BUT HOW CAN A BROKE MAN EARN SUBMISSION FROM A RICH WIFE ?

Because women are hypergamous and men have egos to protect.