Elliot2:
For what? when she bn dey shout harder harder she no realise sey life no balance? Nag sey make him go theif or what? Instead of brainstorming, baby nagging she wants use solve problem?

TheCongo2:


I am eager to hear your story

Lucrativress:

Exactly
I've counted far more than 100 people here now
If everybody can drop 1k each
Let someone trusted see to the authencity of this story.
Let us send the money somewhere
Then think of a very good business approach for them
Probably use the money to open a Provision shop for the Wife in their area..
While the Husband starts thinking of a side hustle
The truth is that he is choked,only money can solve this problem, that woman is frustrated, so don't let us just proffer solutions but try to action them.
Or a POS Center in their compound, or something..
Provisions will still give her ample time for her kids and she'll be relaxed..
For the man ehn
Let him also sit down and calculate his expenses again
Let the both of them draft out their spendings,let them both know wassup,we can't always be a Superman abeg..

Prospertochu:
I got my girlfriend then now wife pregnant, I wasn't ready for marriage. My plan was to take care of her and my baby while she stays in her father's house, her mother was fine with it as long as I take care of my responsibilities, but everything changed when the scan confirmed that she was carrying triples, her mother said I must marry her because there's no way her daughter will still under her roofs with 3 children.

I pleaded with her to give me sometimes to find my own accommodations because I was living in my father's family house after his demise I stay with his siblings while my mum left with my younger sister.

My mother in law refused saying I must do something fast because she doesn't want people to mocked her that her daughter has gotten pregnant out of wedlock not just with one baby but 3 so I managed to save enough money to get a place for our own but her mother refused saying I must pay her bride price first, I didn't have any more money so i have borrowed from friends and added to the money I had to pay for her bride price. It wasn't a big party just something small, I took my wife to my father family house where we are living now with our triplets but things hasn't been easy for me, taking care of 3 children it's not easy, I am grateful that I am rent free but household bills are killing me.

My wife and I are always arguing because she keeps asking for more money my salary is 55k I use to give her 20k monthly, 10 monthly to my mother and I use 20 and save 5k she said the money wasn't enough that I am stingy, I now started giving her 25k she is still complaining about the money not being enough. I refused giving her more she started staving me of sex and foods. My family are tired of separating us fighting almost every day, my uncle has asked us to leave the compound because we are disturbing there peace and I had to beg him to forgive us that ur shouldn't be happening again and I cautioned my wife but she is threatening to abandon me with the kids. I have told her to do her worse because I am tired of her madness. I wish I never married her in the first, all I could've do is to take care of my kids and let her be I know it's too late now to change the past but what should I do?

Lucrativress:

No
I believe we all can do this together
There is power in many
If this story is true
Let's all contribute 1k each or #500
If anyone can do more fine..
That provision shop for the woman will really help,will keep her mind at ease also,it'll also help the man to calm down and reason..
Then we can start proffering solutions for him..
OP better go and do that medical stuff to freeze your eggs for the main time,cause it can happen again ooo....

CanadianNaija:


Drop money for what? So that they can relax and born the next set of triplets?

Actions have consequences, when he survives this one he will learn through experience and also teach others.
I for one don't believe in rewarding bad behaviour, its easy to shout I love you up and down. After knacks without precaution comes children, he should carry his cross.

Slynation:

Yea...but I will have to go anonymous because my gf knows this moniker and visit here on daily basis...

erico2k2:

you are missing the point, no money coming from him is enough even if he gives her the whole N55k it won't be enough.So since we know its not going to be enough what's the point of stressing the man who is trying his best? What she should be doing is praying and encouraging her husband to do well and be lucky..You are underestimating the power of positive thinking!

Righteousness2:
My Brother, what you are Facing right now are the Consequences we get when we decide to leave GOD'S way and go our way.
The Bible says ,
if thou will hearken.. you Expect this.
Likewise there are things we expect when we don't hearken.

Having Said that, you are Married right now so you are Husband and wife.
The Missing link I see in your Home is JESUS. You both need to Genuiely Surrender to JESUS.

You as the Head of the Home could be the link to bring JESUS into your Home.
Personally Surrender to JESUS, do away with all worldly stuff and let her see JESUS in you.

I Tell you she will have no other choice than to Join you and in no time you will see a whole new Home enjoying Peace from above.

Prospertochu:
I got my girlfriend then now wife pregnant, I wasn't ready for marriage. My plan was to take care of her and my baby while she stays in her father's house, her mother was fine with it as long as I take care of my responsibilities, but everything changed when the scan confirmed that she was carrying triples, her mother said I must marry her because there's no way her daughter will still under her roofs with 3 children.

I pleaded with her to give me sometimes to find my own accommodations because I was living in my father's family house after his demise I stay with his siblings while my mum left with my younger sister.

My mother in law refused saying I must do something fast because she doesn't want people to mocked her that her daughter has gotten pregnant out of wedlock not just with one baby but 3 so I managed to save enough money to get a place for our own but her mother refused saying I must pay her bride price first, I didn't have any more money so i have borrowed from friends and added to the money I had to pay for her bride price. It wasn't a big party just something small, I took my wife to my father family house where we are living now with our triplets but things hasn't been easy for me, taking care of 3 children it's not easy, I am grateful that I am rent free but household bills are killing me.

My wife and I are always arguing because she keeps asking for more money my salary is 55k I use to give her 20k monthly, 10 monthly to my mother and I use 20 and save 5k she said the money wasn't enough that I am stingy, I now started giving her 25k she is still complaining about the money not being enough. I refused giving her more she started staving me of sex and foods. My family are tired of separating us fighting almost every day, my uncle has asked us to leave the compound because we are disturbing there peace and I had to beg him to forgive us that ur shouldn't be happening again and I cautioned my wife but she is threatening to abandon me with the kids. I have told her to do her worse because I am tired of her madness. I wish I never married her in the first, all I could've do is to take care of my kids and let her be I know it's too late now to change the past but what should I do?

erico2k2:

Look my gate, Man earns N45k, he has 5 kids him dey manage Oh.But He has his wife doing little bits to support the front!

madridguy:
Brother, no point regretting marrying your wife. The only problem is a simple fact, 55K is small for a family of 5 in this present Nigeria.

I would suggest you continue to pacify your wife because raising 3 kids is not a small a task.

May God expand your income.

Kestolove:
condom no b sex, dat one na rape..e no dey sweet nd we ladies don't like it

veave:


Coco leave this guy alone. When someone makes a comment you know if he has first hand experience or not. This one is probably unmarried.

My concern is how they can cope with the meagre amount. And it's not like the children are already big enough to eat garri and soup o

RedSquid:
If you are old enough to have an erection, have fun, why bother the world

Tomorrow if those triplets are Davido, Burna and Wizkid, you'll disturb the whole continent

My friend would you buckle up and be a man

. Just kidding. Now on a serious note, the first place of solution is your mind. You need to have a solid grasp of your mind so you can come up with sharp and accurate solutions to your urgent needs.



The first is finance. Plan around the new reality you have so you can get the needed resources you need for the family.


1. Plant her in a church and in a service unit where she will get recognised and will ultimately turn out to an avenue for getting help like job etc from time to time.



2. Your reality is your reality. Put pen to paper on your financial earnings and plan with it first while you strive to make more.

bigpicture001:


I am a realist...I don't believe in wishes...if ur pay is 55k and u HV a wife and 3kids to feed...taking 20k equal with ur home for a month is out of place

Prospertochu:
I got my girlfriend then now wife pregnant, I wasn't ready for marriage. My plan was to take care of her and my baby while she stays in her father's house, her mother was fine with it as long as I take care of my responsibilities, but everything changed when the scan confirmed that she was carrying triples, her mother said I must marry her because there's no way her daughter will still under her roofs with 3 children.

I pleaded with her to give me sometimes to find my own accommodations because I was living in my father's family house after his demise I stay with his siblings while my mum left with my younger sister.

My mother in law refused saying I must do something fast because she doesn't want people to mocked her that her daughter has gotten pregnant out of wedlock not just with one baby but 3 so I managed to save enough money to get a place for our own but her mother refused saying I must pay her bride price first, I didn't have any more money so i have borrowed from friends and added to the money I had to pay for her bride price. It wasn't a big party just something small, I took my wife to my father family house where we are living now with our triplets but things hasn't been easy for me, taking care of 3 children it's not easy, I am grateful that I am rent free but household bills are killing me.

My wife and I are always arguing because she keeps asking for more money my salary is 55k I use to give her 20k monthly, 10 monthly to my mother and I use 20 and save 5k she said the money wasn't enough that I am stingy, I now started giving her 25k she is still complaining about the money not being enough. I refused giving her more she started staving me of sex and foods. My family are tired of separating us fighting almost every day, my uncle has asked us to leave the compound because we are disturbing there peace and I had to beg him to forgive us that ur shouldn't be happening again and I cautioned my wife but she is threatening to abandon me with the kids. I have told her to do her worse because I am tired of her madness. I wish I never married her in the first, all I could've do is to take care of my kids and let her be I know it's too late now to change the past but what should I do?

erico2k2:

have you had a child B4??

Duru9:


Tomorrow this child will be this (Dangote)
Tomorrow this child will be that (Bill gate)
Y'all forgot that the child can still be (bandits, boko haram, ritualist, kidnapper, cultist)

Make una no de bring the idea of tomorrow child fit be this jare



At OP if she wants to leave you with the kids let her go
Get a sister to take care of your kids for you
Atleast you've got kids already no need to marry again just hustle and make sure you provide for them

Unless you too wan dey useless like their mama

Klass99:
The way you people are running your relationships these days dey weak me o! Na so your own papa and mama take marry?

Yours is the 4th story with a similar theme I am seeing on NL within a space of one week and all of you narrating your ordeal are men.

Where is Hathor sef? Do you see what I mean by people procreate first and think later? OP, sorry o! I don't have helpful advice for you

cococandy:
how does that answer my question?

chrizzyace:


I understand your view here, but let me ask you this...
Is that how your parents thought of you when you were born? Like they imagined that you could be a terrorist badit or kidnapper in the future, I weak for you mehn...

Revolva:
you married a stupid woman........i have seen family of 5 managing with 55k or less and love is there in their two bed room face me face you


that lady is gonna wreck you down......