baralatie:

each before they got married have their own source of income.and because they are married does not not automatically transfer their productivity,increase their income from one person to another
so why should the income of a be that of the income of b

hmmmm, you can be in charge being single, but marriage is a different thing, everything each of them has, belongs to them, your money is hers and her money is his.

LeoThaGreat:


I honestly think one's mental health is also an asset (at least for people like me in the creative industry), so the guy stated terms that will make him stay in the marriage if adhered to, and if broken, could affect his mental health. Therefore I think a prenup covers (or should cover) more than wealth & riches.
E.g. In a case where a man wants to throw out his wife from THEIR home, a prenup could serve as an insurance for the lady.

Also, I hope you read the part the guy asked what could be added or taken out? I think this suggests he wants CLARITY that the girl is marrying him for love and not because he has been her benefactor (I didn't post this part of the story cuz it will extend the whole thing)

Will you sign (or negotiate) a prenup if offered? Or you'll rather walk away?

I would have signed a pre nup if my husband had asked if was to protect assets but to state things like if no children are born in such n such period of time etc i couldnt sign. Thats the sorta thing u take as it comes. Like say after two years or more of marraige if we hadnt gotten pregnant then he feels he wants the opportunity to persue kids with another woman n didnt wanna wait around n take a chance id give them to him then itd be easier to discuss it n work it out n divorce or whatever wen the time comes than to live those couple of years under stress n pressure of wat is expected of u. These things arent meant to be on a timetable. U take life together as it comes. As for mental health lije ur saying well i think thats another thing u take as it comes. First of all u should get to know the person ur marrying n if u do marry n the person changes with time n ur not happy and u cant work it out then is easy to divorce.
But overall i think its upto the individual person wat they want n if theyre willing to accept a contractual type marraige with listed expectations n timelines/deadlines/rules etc.
For me its unromantic.
The sort of things listed on the prenup here is the kinda things u discuss through out ur dating period before u marry so u know wat each other wants for their future n themselves n each other n their marraige etc n if u find that things wont be as u want with that person or that u cant resolve n compromise these kinda things then u shouldnt marry in the first place.
I married for love n everything else comes after that for me. Cos wen u love someone u compromise and u want to make them happy if they make u happy too. I just don't think a legal list of demands and deadlines n timelines is wat a marraige should be.

mechanics:
hmmmm, you can be in charge being single, but marriage is a different thing, everything each of them has, belongs to them, your money is hers and her money is his.

where did you sign that the money of a belong to b and the money of b belong to a?

Hmmm
This is prison not marriage.... Walk way he's not ready yet or let me say he's not yet a man

Babaken:
The guy is scared of the future.

cos of the future being female

baralatie:

where did you sign that the money of a belong to b and the money of b belong to a?

hahahaha, that's what the Bible says, two shall become one.

mechanics:
hahahaha, that's what the Bible says, two shall become one.

did the bible say the two seperate accounts shall become one account abi did the bible say the money of a and the money of b shall become one

baralatie:

did the bible say the two seperate accounts shall become one account abi did the bible say the money of a and the money of b shall become one

Just understand what am saying, the Bible says two shall become one, means that anything you have belongs to your partner and anything she has belongs to you, so if a married woman/ man goes against this instruction, they are not obeying the scriptures, the Bible must not mention accounts for you to believe.

THAT'S THE WAY TO GO

CHECK HIS TERMS AND CONDITIONS IF IT'S OKAY BY YOU BEFORE SIGNING, ANY OF THEM THAT LOOKS SOMEHOW YOU SHOULD CORRECT IT TOGETHER

GIVE HIM TOO YOUR TERMS AND CONDITIONS.

baralatie:



see counter offer!

you missed one important prenup arrangement and it is only one female.nairalander that knows it

1. For every woman he looks at, or has an affair with. He must buy property worth x million naira or the equivalent purchasing power of that timeframe of my choosing.
2. For every child, he will carry the pregnancy for 3 months while she will carry for six months. Of he cannot, then she will terminate the child or he settles it.
4. If he fathers a child outside the marriage, she will sue for divorce forthwith and collect 70% of his networth as alimony


If he wants to be ridiculous, so can she

DrFunmisticGlow:

1. For every woman he looks at, or has an affair with. He must buy property worth x million naira or the equivalent purchasing power of that timeframe of my choosing.
2. For every child, he will carry the pregnancy for 3 months while she will carry for six months. Of he cannot, then she will terminate the child or he settles it.
4. If he fathers a child outside the marriage, she will sue for divorce forthwith and collect 70% of his networth as alimony


If he wants to be ridiculous, so can she

this is called negotiating with the hand of queen nefititi

That is complete and utter claptrap. When the relationship starts like this it is not going to go well. Already, she is being asked to contribute money to a house built by the husband to be's father. In the same breath, telling her that her family, her problem. She is better off walking away because when the proverbial poodoo hits the ceiling, she will end up high and dry.

It's called a prenup or prenuptial agreement google it

mechanics:
Just understand what am saying, the Bible says two shall become one, means that anything you have belongs to your partner and anything she has belongs to you, so if a married woman/ man goes against this instruction, they are not obeying the scriptures, the Bible must not mention accounts for you to believe.

In truth, the Bible said "the two shall become one", but in our current reality, the two are separate entities pretending to be one.
Husbands feel it's their right to selfishly fulfill their sexual desires outside their marriage. Wives feel it's their right to spend their money at their discretion with no input from the husband whatsoever, but she has a major stake in the husband's finances in the name of "maintaining the home."
The husband will refer to their house as "my house," the wife will refer to utensils she bought as hers as well, not theirs.

Our current realities aren't according to biblical suggestions at all. Selfish interests rules here

LeoThaGreat:

In truth, the Bible said "the two shall become one", but in our current reality, the two are separate entities pretending to be one.
Husbands feel it's their right to selfishly fulfill their sexual desires outside their marriage. Wives feel it's their right to spend their money at their discretion with no input from the husband whatsoever, but she has a major stake in the husband's finances in the name of "maintaining the home."
The husband will refer to their house as "my house," the wife will refer to utensils she bought as hers as well, not theirs.

Our current realities aren't according to biblical suggestions at all. Selfish interests rules here

It's well, once couples understands each other, selfishness won't have exist.

LeoThaGreat:
I was browsing through a Ghanaian website when I saw this article that interests me. It was about a confused lady asking for what to do because her boyfriend gave her a prenuptial agreement (terms & conditions for marriage) to sign before he can proceed to legalise their relationship.
This reminded me of Kim Kardashian & Kanye West and other Western couples that sign prenups before getting wed. The prenup covers what to do during the marriage and what happens in case of a divorce.
This lady's story was long so I decided to cut out the agreement part to paste them here.





My questions are:
1. If you were a guy, will you propose such a prenuptial agreement to serve as a guideline (and safe house) before getting wed?

2. If you were a lady, will you agree to (or negotiate some clauses in) such a prenuptial agreement, or you'll throw it all away?

Word!

As a man with a deep knowledge of financial education and several investment variables, I'm in full support of a prenuptial agreement for any business-savvy man (or woman). Pre nups are part of financial planning.

"It is an agreement made by a couple before they get married in which they say how their money and property is to be divided if they get divorced."

This will protect a lot of us men who are financialy wealthy from those females that behave like the small but deadly South American "Piranha fish."

It is just like hedging your assets againt loses with insurance policies.

Any woman who doesn't agree to these terms after gentle persuation should be ditched by any man.

No sentiments!

poeticsoldier:
The lady has just won a contract not marriage.She can wisely turn it down by giving her own pre whatever too.Such as;
1.There will be intercourse between us once in a month
2. None of your family should come around until after verification by me.
3.No lady should have anything to do with you except me even in your dream
4.Your beard, size and complexion must not change throughout the marriage
5.After we are done giving birth to two children let's zip up darling,you know it is of no use again.

hahahaha,this one touch my soul ,wait oh , after giving birth with two children, Toto go rest till death apart

Godoverevery:
#7 is very key....lol

Marriage is really scary this days......I can't really fault the guy.


Apart from kids, men benefits next to nothing in marriage.

Are kids a benefit? Black people with simple view of life