But an average, modern Nigerian banny automatically sees a man as her means to escape from the same poverty her father couldn't rescue her mother from, the very moment they enter into a relationship . And when you advice them to work,or simply learn a trade so as to be useful to themselves, family and society,they see you as a stingy man
Honestly,if not for konji wey no dey get sense normally, nothing wey for connect me to do anything with a Nigerian banny at all,for this life, maybe in the next one
giftson102: Every married woman has one man she loves more than her husband.
I know many of you will argue, but it's just the truth. If you give women the chance to marry more than one man, many of them will marry more than four men.. Sometimes, women idealize other men, creating unrealistic expectations..
A married woman once told me that she didn't marry her husband because he was her spec. She married him because he is caring, family orientated and rich. But in looks, body structure and other things that personal, he's not her spec.
As a man, it's important to have in mind that you cannot tick all her boxes when it comes to the qualities she wants in a man.
If her boxes are 10 and you tick 5 or 6, she will consider you. But that doesn't stop her from admiring other men who possesses the other options you did not possess.. At that point, they will wish the man is her husband and if care is not taken, cheating is likely to occur.
If culture permits women, many of them will marry more than 4 men. Women are more polygamous in nature than men and that's why they cheat the most, but the society is not ready for this conversation..
No matter how much your claim to love you, there's another man she still loves and wishes he was her husband/boyfriend.
And if that man she loves happens to be her Boss or her colleague at her workplace or even someone within her reach, there's nothing that would stop her from cheating on you with that man.
So, the earlier you understand that there's another man your woman loves, the better for you..
Have it in mind that you can NEVER tick all the boxes of a woman and those boxes you did not tick, there's another man out there who would tick it..
My sermon always sounds like a joke to some men but it's to whom it may concern..
I don't want to say much again but before I close the sermon, let me leave you with a Rongai proverb that says, "A woman who pushes her husband to try brand-new bedroom techniques is cheating."
When a kid dabbles into profound and complex human or female psychology he ends up spewing subjective rants.
I You're not yet half the journey of being a real man and your arrogance in generalizing only exposed your limited understanding of female behaviour.
Be cautious next time when projecting your romantic shortfalls as a disease all men suffer.
DeepSightZ: THIS LINE ALONE REVEALS YOUR STATE OF MIND WHICH IS WORRISOME -
You need to refocus your life. You have no valid complaints.
Ordeal?
Hahahahahahahaha!
How dare you?? Every customer has a right to what they consider decent, offensive and disturbing. And if a customer feels an advert tailored to him/her is below the his or her moral threshold, then he or she has a right to make a complaint.
You're terrible and the world would be a better place where warped minds as yours are re-educated.
bigpicture001: I forgot that in the course of our relationship I told her two jokes that is serious, about the emotional effcet both Beyonce songs "halo" and "poision" usually have on me..... because she wanders why I play them frequently on my play list..
Last weekend while spending the weekend with me, we got into a repeating argument that broke our flow down ND it was at noon, so I went out, watched football and came back at night... I didn't bother eating and went straight to bed..
I know I am wounding her with such attitude, but I wanted her to beg me... Instead of begging me, this lady pull off a big surprise on me..
She connected the MP3 with her fone and brought in by the door of the room where I was it was like say 9:30 pm. it was dark , raining and cold.. she put on just a lingerie, switch on and played "halo"..
She just didn't play Halo, sh stood by the door way, I was on the bed, wrapped in the duve and peeping at her.. with a teary eyes, sh gave me the best ever halo performance I have ever seen.. it was so so romantic and touching . This makes it perfect because sh has a tenor high pitch voice which matched Beyonce's,
She just stood there in a flood of tears and loud on the song both with her and the MP3.. the whole lyrics got into my head , I fealt tears roll down my eyes....I couldn't help but stand up ,walk to her and held her hand....ND tried walking her to bed, but she came slowly with the loud lyrics on her tenor voice, I joined her in the songs ND we both cried nd gave beyonce a proud performance.....
Well, what happened there after they say the rest is history!
U guyz should try download and listen to that song, it has a spirit in it.. same as poison, both by Beyonce
Christ4ever: You must have a mental problem if you expect old men to always protest on your behalf.
Better organise yourselves, do the needful and fight your battles.
Were the mentioned men in their youth when they engaged past administrations in protest? Or lend their voices in calling out mismanagement of our Commonwealth, insecurity and oppression?
The only mental problem I see here is your reluctance/unwillingness to upgrade your sense of judgement.
Where did you see Iran developing nuclear weapons?
Was it not these same bloodthirsty warmongers that claimed IRAQ had nuclear weapons, went there and slaughered a million people only for it to be shown that they LIED?
Has anyone been held to account for that?
NO.
Now they've come again with their LIES about ''Iran nuclear weapons'', and you accept.
The same ''nuclear weapons capability'' Trump said he'd ''obliterated'' a few months ago.
The IAEA has said repeatedly that there is ZERO EVIDENCE of Iran enriching uranium for nuclear weapons.
The Ayatollah that was just assassinated HAD ISSUED A FATWA against nuclear weapons development, saying it was un-Islamic.
He's now been replaced by his hardline son, who DID WANT NUKES, and has just said to America, ''no more negotiations. Let's fight''.
Your long thesis of terroristic apologies will not fly.
Is Iran the greatest sponsor of terrorism? Yes of course.
Is Iran the greatest regional destabilizer in the Middle East? Yes!
Does Iran run parallel militia armed terrorists with the government of other countries, eg Lebanon, Palestine, Yemen, Syria, Iraq etc? Yes.
Is that why Arab countries are less keen on accepting Palestinian refugees into their countries for fear of the Iranian parasite, planting terrorist militia within Arab countries to destabilize the legitimate home government? Yes.
Even without proof, I know the Iranian parasite is in Nigeria.
Enriching uranium far beyond civilian purposes is to achieve what?
Building the nuclear facilities 80 feet underground is for what purpose?
zinaunreal: Defenders of pedophiles. Shut up and sit down You killed and 86 year old out of service leader meanwhile 10 more are waiting to take his place. Every Iranian is a potential leader
The down fall of America has begun Israel is looking like smashed sardine It won't end till they turn to baking powder
Youre here defending isreal and Ben Gavir is begging for a cease fire
Classic denial syndrome bothering on radical delusions. Wake up and smell the coffee. It's over. There is no coming back for Iran for several decades.
Your snow bearded terrorist has clinged to the dust from whence he came. Such sheer violent death marks the tragic end on a "wretched and vile man" who picked a fight beyond his scope.
Svoboda: [s]The US is being isolated by its Middle east allies. Saudi Arabia says it won't allow its territory to be used to launch war against Iran. Likewise the UAE. Now Turkey is asking for commonsense to prevail, yet the senile old fool is allowing his childish fantasies get the better of him. Has he forcefully seized Greenland yet like he bluffed he would do?[/s]
[s]If the US couldn't defeat the Taliban in Afghanistan after twenty years, what makes you think it'd defeat the Islamic Republic? Even if Trump were to succeed in assassinating the Ayatollah, there are about 18 Ayatollahs lined sequentially to succeed him. Don't allow the western media twist your brain and spoonfeed you with propaganda. Go and independently study about Iran and its resilience, survival and victory over the US and it's allies for almost 50 years.[/s]
Classic example of subjective criticism and distorted view of world politics.
Kobojunkie: I am 74. Five years ago, at 69, I left my husband after 42 years of marriage. It was the hardest and best decision I ever made. I know what you are thinking. 69...is that not too late to start over? Why would anyone leave a marriage after more than four decades? She must be unstable. She must be selfish. She must be having some kind of crisis.
Maybe it looks that way from the outside, but inside, I could finally breathe. If you're in an unhappy marriage, worried about wasted time or age, hear me. I believed those lies, too. Before I share why I left, let me explain why I stayed so long, the untold part.
Everyone wants to know what finally made you leave. They never ask about the invisible chains that keep you there year after year. I got married at 27. It was 1979. We were living just outside Cleveland, Ohio. I thought I was doing everything right. My husband Thomas was dependable. He had a steady job. He came from a good family. My parents approved. My friends said I was lucky. I wore a white dress and believed in forever.
The problems did not arrive loudly. They arrived quietly. There was no violence, no obvious betrayal, nothing you could easily point to and say, "This is wrong." He simply did not see me. did not really hear me. Did not ask what I wanted or needed. Every major decision was his, where we lived, how money was spent, what our weekends looked like. When I suggested something different, he brushed it aside. That is impractical. That does not make sense. Why would we do that?
Eventually, I stopped suggesting anything at all. I remember one night, maybe six years into the marriage, I told him I wanted to go back to school. I had always wanted to finish my degree in English literature. He smiled and laughed, not cruelly, just dismissively, like I had said something naive. "What would you even do with that?" he asked. "We cannot afford that right now." There was always something more important. His career, the house, the car payments, everything except me.
I told myself this was marriage, compromise, sacrifice, and being realistic. My mother had stayed in a quiet, unhappy marriage. So had my grandmother. This was just what women did. Then we had children, two daughters, and suddenly staying felt noble. “I am doing this for them,” I told myself. They need stability. They need both parents. I poured everything into being a mother. If I could not be seen as a woman, at least I could be needed as a mother.
For a while, that was enough. The girls kept me busy. They distracted me from how lonely I felt lying next to someone who felt more like a roommate than a partner. Thomas and I became polite strangers. We attended school events together, went to church, and hosted holiday dinners. From the outside, we looked fine, respectable, stable. But inside the house, we barely spoke. Whole weekends passed, where we moved around each other like ghosts, sharing space, never connecting.
I remember our 25th anniversary. our daughters through a party. Friends raised glasses and spoke about our beautiful marriage and lasting love. I smiled. I thanked everyone. And that night, I went home with a man I no longer loved. Lay on my side of the bed and cried silently into my pillow.
The years kept going. The girls grew up, moved out, and built lives of their own. And suddenly my reason for staying was gone. They did not need me to stay anymore. But by then, I had a new reason. What would people think? I was 56, then 61, then 66. We shared our history, friends, and family. How do you untangle over 40 years? How do you tell your children their childhood was built on quiet unhappiness? And practically, how does a woman in her late 60s start over? I had not worked full-time in decades. I did not have my own income. So, I stayed year after year, telling myself it was too late, too complicated, too frightening, until the call from my doctor.
I was 68. It was a routine mammogram. I had done dozens before. This one was not routine. He said the word no one is prepared to hear. Cancer, breast cancer, stage two, caught early, but serious surgery, possibly radiation. I sat there listening to treatment plans and statistics, and all I could think was I am going to die having never really lived. Not because the prognosis was bad. It was not. But because I suddenly realized something unbearable. I had been slowly disappearing for decades.
The surgery was scheduled three weeks later. And in those three weeks, something shifted inside me. fear, clarity, and the awareness of time. All the reasons I had stayed, reputation, comfort, and fear, suddenly felt meaningless. Because if I died tomorrow, the last 40 years of my life would have been a performance.
I survived the surgery. The cancer was removed. Recovery was quiet. I remember lying in that hospital bed while my husband sat nearby scrolling through his phone, not holding my hand, not speaking, just present in body. And I knew at 69 years old, I made a decision. If I were lucky, I might have 10 or 15 years left. And I refused to spend them slowly disappearing.
Two months later, I told Thomas I wanted a divorce. He did not get angry. He looked confused. We have been married over 40 years, he said. Exactly, I replied. And I have been lonely for almost all of them.
The divorce took nearly a year. It was painful, expensive, and uncomfortable. Some friends disappeared. My sister told me I was selfish. "You are throwing everything away," she said. But I was not throwing anything away. I was finally choosing myself.
Telling my daughters was the hardest part. They were grown by then in their late 30s. They were shocked. But you and Dad always seemed fine, one of them said. That broke my heart because it meant I had hidden my unhappiness so well that even my children believed it was normal. Eventually, they understood. One of them even thanked me. She said watching me choose myself gave her permission to question her own life.
At 70, I moved into my own apartment alonefor the first time in my life. I was terrified. I woke up at night wondering if I had ruined everything. But I did not fall apart. I learned. I adjusted. And slowly I remembered who I was. The woman who loved books, who had opinions, who had dreams. I even went on a date. It did not last, but it reminded me that it is never too late to feel seen.
I am 74 now. My life is not perfect. My apartment is small. My income is modest. Sometimes I am lonely, but I am free. And that freedom is worth more than anything I lost.
Here is the truth. No one tells you the regret is not about leaving. The regret is about not leaving sooner. If you are watching this and quietly unhappy at any age, hear this. You are not too old. It is not too late. And you have not invested too much time. The life you are waiting for is waiting for you to choose it.
If this story touched something in you, I want to ask you one thing. What is one fear that has kept you stuck longer than it should have? You do not have to explain everything. Just one word is enough. Sometimes writing it down is the first step to letting it go.
This might as well mirror your reality. Never anything positive about marriage from you.
When women lost something valuable, they go all out to prevent other women from having it.
Nothing good has emanated from your love of ungodly freedom and it's the reason you're here trying to sell what's unsellable. No good woman should take your advice.
EponObi: Donald Trump has brought ridicule to the highly revered seat at the White house.
His case is just like Wike. There's a level people will tolerate your madness; they might even respect you for being rugged, a no-nonsense, crazy and blunt. But make you no overdo; else the respect will turn to disrespect in a jiffy.
Since yesterday, people all over the world just throw shit at the madman and the US and I love it. A European lawmaker explicitly told him to f*ck off on live TV. Macron called out his bullshit at Davos and is rallying EU to align with China. Republicans are now warning Trump of impeachment if he touches Greenland.
Even if people (EU leaders) respect you too much to a point of weakness and tolerate your bullshit, there is always a limit and it seems they've reached their elasticity limit.
You invited France to be on your Board of Peace and they should commit $1b, but because they rejected it, you threaten them with 200% tariff on their wines and champagne. Clown!
Imagine a US president writing Norway that he will no longer keep peace because he wasn't given the Nobel Peace Prize 🤣🤣🤣 What a buffoonery!
I'm enjoying the drama sha. Let the clip keep rolling 😂
KingGBsky: He hates Donald Trump to a fault. Donald Trump is a wicked person I used to like him but my eyes are clear now. The man wants America to rule the world including Europe
Europe is on its knees. Weakened by wokism. This has created a vacuum China and Russia — two greatest of evils are trying to fill.
Only Trump have the balls to not only realize this but seek to fill this vacuum.
The world will be in a much darker place with China and Russia having more influence than they already have.
KobolanderSegun: Me I am Laughing..... In 2026 men are still prioritizing Female Virginity as a yardstick for marriage ? In 2026 !!!
What about Female Intelligence, Female Wisdom, Female Comportment, Female Financial Literacy ? They are not even looking to see whether she can cook. But No she must be a Virgin.
I cannot speak for everyone but no wonder Africa is so backward when you place so much energy on a state God created but you will not look for attributes that come with self development.
Your only crime here is to portray your views as superior to the preference of those who prioritize virginity.
No doubt, you're a progressive. Your dominant core is powered by greed, materialism and little regard for morality.
And that's where it actually got nauseating — the nerve to think you're right
Kobojunkie: There are a type of girls that may chase you — prey on you for obvious reason—, but to say that women(generally) chase you as in truly desire you when you become rich? Nah! That only happens in the delusions of men who have low self-esteem issues. 🥱🥱🥱
Every narrative is sbaped from personal experience. A backlog of relationship mishaps have taken you to realms of delusions, denials and hate.
She failed. It's that simple. Never mind the morally loose libtards saying otherwise.
Once you guys have agreed in principle to get married and have informed both your parents, then she's supposed to hold her loyalty to high standards.
If she can't give you loyalty at the proposal phase, then its beyond idiotic to expect her to be loyal when she has become your wife.
She had no business being open to discussing with strangers of the opposite sex on social media, let alone delving into her personal space That only means she has a loose personal barrier and poor inhibitions and is open to dating despite agreeing to your marriage proposal with her mom. That's infidelity gathering its storm. You are advised to take shelter before it rains.
She is still in the dating market holding out in hopes that someone (financially better) will pop up before the wedding date so she can switch lane.
You don't want to settle for such women. She's not attracted to you. You're just a handy escape from her spinsterhood. If she was, every idea of a better dude in the dating market would never crossed her mind. Why would you want to marry a woman who settled for you for lack of opportunity? She would still be in searching mode while breastfeeding your child.
Go up your game and get a woman who values your worth. One for whom no other man exists because thoughts of you sits at the center of her universe.
isyourboy: I’m not the begging type as I have a lot of things going on for myself. My sister joined her husband in Canada last year courtesy of her husband. Outside of the little 50k, 100k there that this man used to send to me (I don’t know how much he gives my parent — In law, by the way ), he’s never thought of establishing me in business or find a way for me to join my sister in Canada.
Even most times you have to remind him before he send the pittance he sent to me. Last week, I told him to find a way for me to join my sister in Canada, and he said he’s still paying for the debt he took for my sister to join him and he want to send her to school also. Meanwhile I didn’t know this. Okay then I can wait. After then I told him to find me a bulk sum so I can start some business. He asked how much and I said 5M naira would be enough, he cut the phone, called him back and send him msg on WhatsApp which he read and didn’t reply. I called my sister and told her what her husband did and she said she will talk to him.
You have been in Canada for a while and little things to give back to the family is difficult for you? Not his fault
See entitlement mentality? You got no shame to say the least.
Nnamdipapa: I came across this on FB and I want to know your thoughts on this, why would a black lady disclose she is not dating African men? Imagine if a black guy makes this kind of post and indicate they would not date black or African ladies, them black ladies will come with pitch forks.
Black ladies, stop discriminating against African men.
Why would a post from one woman trouble you this much. Get busy and go make money. You would be less concerned about a single lady's dating preference.
Sportsflash50: Burkina Faso’s transitional parliament has passed a law banning same-sex acts, with penalties of 2–5 years in prison plus fines. The move, unanimously approved on Monday, comes amid a wider crackdown on LGBTQ+ rights across Africa. So where on the continent is homosexuality still a crime?
Fantastic news. Homos are an existential threat to the continuity of the human race. There is no excuse why these sets of beings shouldn't be treated as such.
Celebrities › Re: Don’t Make Marrying A Rich Man Your Goal, Focus On Becoming Rich Yourself - Ivy by postmann: 6:58pm On Jun 02
. And when you advice them to work,or simply learn a trade so as to be useful to themselves, family and society,they see you as a stingy man 
