₦airaland Forum

thorpido:
Is that so?A man should run into debts or even do illegal things when he has a wife who works?

He doesn't have to DO illegal things.

Those are fundamentals that a man ought to be able to provide by himself.

And should the wife work, well good for them both. But it's entirely up to her to decide if she wants to assist.

A man, a family one at that, MUST not fail to shelter, feed and clothe his family, and yes, pay for his child(ren)'s education. But should he encounter some difficulties, he should look for funds or assistance elsewhere, but not seek it from his wife.

EvilNeedle:
Simp

May your days be long!

Gentleman900000:
.!

One has to be careful when making input on marital issues. This is an institution as sacred and as private as can be, more than any other human institution.

However, when issues suggestive of unfaithfulness or adultery creep up, then it is only a matter of obligation that one lends an advice.

On the strength of this resolve, I'll make bold to tell you that you need to keep a closer watch on your wife. She has shown appetite for extramarital social engagements that open doors to adultery. She has preferred the company of another man in a private/romantic capacity over you. Her ex wouldn't ask her to "create time" if she didn't encourage small, suggestive talks with this man who's supposed to belong in the thrash can of her history.

I'm afraid, your "wife" has shown signs of irresponsibility and untrustworthiness. And you should sit up. Not being "romantic enough" is no excuse for her behaviour. While you must try to rekindle your romantic overtures in your relationship, the lack of it does not make a morally healthy woman dance to drums of infidelity. Women unlike men, build infidelity with emotional involvement and time spent together with their cheating partner. In other words, theirs is calculated and deliberate. In pure but harsher term, it's UNFORGIVABLE.

Dear untrusting ex-wife, you've lost him certainly for good. You don't give a husband of 20 years a golden and legitimate opportunity to a new puna and he won't grab it with both hands.

But on the backdrop, I think women in general should worry. Just like the "me too movement " lost its steam and credibility to some warped women with insincere intent who hijacked the process, the weaponization of womanhood by some disgruntled shedevils is casting dent on the credibility of rape cases.

The man ought to be taught some bitter lessons no matter what his reason or provocation might be. You don't bring violence to an infant for whatever reason.

However, domestic violence is on the rise on a global scale. Covid and economic meltdown are the two driving factors. We may want to pretend this limited to Nigerian men alone.

Prettygirl200:
Eheheeen naaaa am I lying Are some men not wicked Especially igbos with their ritual killings everytime

I see you got yourself a fairly new handle. The previous one needed discarding obviously because it carried the scars of your behavioural flaws.

Unfortunately, your in-person, the real you doesn't have such opportunity despite how desperately you need it.

Officialgarri:
As much as this is a big loss to Russia, especially having a tag of the largest warship to be sunk since the WW2, it will make no much difference to the onslaught going on in Ukraine as we speak.

The moskva is an old ship that has been under debate to be scrapped since 5 years ago.
Infact, it hasn't fired a single shot since the start of this war.

According to the Institute for the Study of War (IOW) the Moskva’s loss – regardless of the cause – was a “major propaganda victory for Ukraine”.

In contrast, it was likely to undermine Russian morale.
Whereas, in military terms, however, the loss might not be so significant.

It was an old ship that has undergone several recent reworks. And its significance was huge as it was the flagship of the entire black sea fleet. It also served as a command and control centre for the entire black sea fleet. Its loss, those replaceable is huge and Moscow has reacted angrily by increased military strikes including issuing threats to the West. The loss of the Moskva can't be overemphasized.

placeofallure:
Family nuances.

Every marriage with its peculiarities. All kinds of abuses physical, emotional, verbal and the rest of them boils down to our inability to properly communicate in the house. Communication isn't just opening and closing your mouth.

There'll always be misgivings committed by either of the partners. Now if your spouse does something bad, address that issue, ONLY that issue, proffer solution if you can. It ends there. Don't bring the history of how his uncle was like that, or reminding her about how all her sisters are divorced ....how he did the same thing last century and blablabla... Women are more guilty here. That is what annoys the man and if he lacks self control, your guess is as good as mine.

Many men in my opinion are immature. You need to nurture them the way you would your 5-year old. If women understand this, there'll be peace.

That's not an excuse to misbehave notwithstanding. If you are not up to it as a man, don't marry. A man should be able to make informed choices that is best for his family. These failings or shortcomings are the things that infuriate a woman. And if she has an unbridled tongue, reeling begins. Plus men have this ego problem. It's not a taboo to see a wife more sensible than the husband. Men, know this and know wisdom. As a man, you could borrow sense if yours is inadequate. It doesn't make you less of a man. You're to complement each other. Marriage is not a competing ground.

God save our marriages.

With a mentality as that as you expressed, as highlighted, you definitely need help.

Sayishalom:
I am aware of a married man who is clearly cheating on his wife with a lady I know well. It disturbs me a lot cause I have feelings for the lady in question. Should I report to his wife or keep mute? I don't like women to be disrespected like this. The same lady doesn't care whether I am aware or not. Help a man with answers.

Thunder fire your Hypocrisy. "You don't like women to be disrespected like this" or the object of your love interest prefers a married man over your gameless ass.

Woman wrapper.

BRATISLAVA:
False bravado, as usual. Stale.

More fantasy and lies. You're digging yourself deeper in your self-made pit and you will realize it too late.

Expecting more hollow epistles and pained emojis from you. Predictably dry. The exact same comebacks of last time—your weekends in which you fantasize yourself a beast. Blah blah.

Go and heal. Get help.

Tell me what's as stale as your claim to not read the scathing rebuttal that rendered your emotional defences comatose.

Or as repetitive as the undies you recycle once in a week.

Tell me what's as dumb and harmless as your effort at clapbacks.

You can't touch me. Your arrows are several hundreds of km short of their target.

But I'm that consequences of your iniquities; the judgment that was delayed but now has come! Each word of mine is a measurement of your transgressions, and inescapably they've found their way like the air into your lungs.

Nairaland as before for you is OVER!

BRATISLAVA:
Didn't really read that. I know it must be foolishness.

You are still abusing and insulting yourself publicly, displaying the extent of your degeneration to all, still crawling after me from thread to thread and post to post.

All because of a post that was not directed at you months ago. On your flimsy, crazy grounds that don't make sense. You are digging yourself into a very tight pit, my dear. Retrace your steps.

Your epistles change nothing; if anything they apply to you. You post a lot of lies that are nothing. You are dull, repetitive and uninspiring—as always. Wake up. Get help.

Go and heal. Or you will continue to hurt yourself. Badly.

You didn't read something you invested over a thousand words in reply to, C'mon! You can do better than that dumb lie. And why, why is that the best of expletives always ended up in claims of not being read by you female snakes?

This cheap dumb lie was what made your endless list of boyfriends leave you. You just couldn't cover your cheating tracks and they soon found out you were a public toilet and a sperm dump. Even in the twilight of your market value, you still haven't changed. Are you destined for the grave dick-less? I can hardly see a man finding a partner in a lying, deceptive and bitter soul in the mould of a woman.

We're not intellectual peers to begin with, neither can your broken frame accommodate my literal proficiency but your pride and stupidity stirred you to go into this contest with me.

The best you could do in hurting me is giving me a few love scratch on my back in response to my severe pounding

Let the dice roll on. It's the weekend. (MY) MONSTERS (ARE REAL) by Shinedown blasts in my ears, my blend of Stout and Farm Fresh yoghurt tonic trickle down my lungs while you serve as amusement.

BRATISLAVA:
is that you, spurned not good-looking ex-husband?

And this was how I found you -- bald and shameless, brawling and drunk on the streets of bitterness.

I've followed your blood trails from yesterday's massacre. And here I found you nursing your wounds. The Predator always look for his prey and happy is he when he finds a weak one -- a weak one in you, BRATISLAVA, the shameless, perpetually angry beldame.

I have the keys to the vault of your miseries; the undertaker with the spells to unleash the ghost of your horrors past. Here's the dam erected against your proud feminist waves. I'm the consequences of your wayward life, wasted away on the altar of forbidden pleasures.

Now your vulva throws up the regurgitation of your whoredom in the form of your milk-like monthly discharge and your mouth spits hate against the object of your misery -- men. But your thighs were yours to either open or close. The blame was yours, owing to your being a woman of easy virtue.

Your chance of settling down slips. Each new day fastens the bolts to your despair and nairaland becomes the vent of that unimaginable frustration. And here you'd find me bringing it all to a quick end.

TawTaw:
nectars of fools.....you keep recycling that dumb line like you recycle your underwear.

Brainless tagalong.

Bruised fool

Thought you'd be blasting on the mic over the airwaves but I remembered it's Friday.

Bother not with her, she's run off.

Kobojunkie:
Gender equality is about according equal rights to all human irrespective of gender.

On paper, yeah but we all know that to be a fat lie.
What about nonsense like preserving certain numbers of seats/positions for women in politics and other cooperate establishments?

Gender equality in its pure, simplified form has long been achieved. What we have now is a malicious new wave of anti-men agenda.

The good news is there's a lot pay for.

And, Oh, BRATISLAVA , just before you think you got away with your emotional and religious blackmail, know this;

Don't try to rope other women into the mess you got yourself. Not all of them are shedevils like you who live for the hate of men. We hate your kind and will not pass up an opportunity to make that known and felt.

But generally, we love good women. I'll make sure you're made an example of how not to be a bîtch who has fûcked her destiny away and now rove around this blogosphere looking for men to pour revenge.

When those dicks were trafficking their way through the stench-trench you call your vagina, little did you know that the peanuts you were getting were poor exchange for your future husband. Now you're an old hag no man wants. Instead of you to count your loses in humility, you're here displaying your facade of feminine heroism.

May fireworks explode in your already dilapidated pûssy!

BRATISLAVA:
Women should beware of posts that look like they come from Christian men, but actually come from the darkness within woman-haters who use Christianity to mask their unholy desire for the abuse of women.

Some on this thread are degenerates year in and year out, bitter and hateful of themselves, unfulfilled and thus full of bile. Yet they will come up to post about family life, something they lack. Don't let foolish men guide you. Especially not the ones who have grown old and are well-rooted in their foolishness.

On this thread you have a very good example of such a thing.

You're an olosho who got fûcked without pay and for lack of shame starts making noise in the neighborhood.

What you accuse us of you're much more guilty.

Frustrated old layer.

BRATISLAVA:
Anything you post(ed) is for you and postmann to deal with. Can't be bothered to read your shared regurgitated repetitive trash reasoning. It's gotten old so fast. It's uninspiring.

Truly both your posts are the nectars of fools.

Enjoy your pathetic monologue(s).

Keep following.

"Can't be bothered to read your shared regurgitated repetitive trash reasoning"

We all knew that you read it. You're too emotionally fragile to ignore and not read it. You're a human mass of pretence in motion. And that adds to your natural ugly face and shapeless body.

Add it all up to your Vesicovaginal fistula (VVF) conditioned pûssy, it will explain why you're the most frustrated and angry old hag on the forum.

BRATISLAVA:
What is this an attempt at?

When will you understand that all your sex fantasy doesn't mean anything? All the insults from the blue mean nothing. It simply indicates unwellness.

You don't hold the monopoly of abuses/insults and it is insanity for you and your hell-bound mentor (postman-who has began using pained emojis everywhere ) to think so. When you both finally come up with something that warrants true insults/abuse from this quarter, you will get it. Right now, you're both repetitive and uninspiring.

To your tents, O unwell misogynist males.

Enshrined sepulchers festering in the depths of hate and insecurity. The male Christianoids of today.

We're not worth the insult and we're uninspiring yet your reply was twice as long as the 'uninspiring' post. How much more stupid can you get?

You must be the easiest lay a man can find in this country with this crass display.

Dishonest twàt.

BRATISLAVA:
Your posts are the nectar of a fool, like flowers produce nectar.

Such lousy grade E attempt at poetry.

Shameless and shallow beldame.

Your pen is empty of its fluid and your menopausal pûssy is as lonely as the graveyard where all you hear is the echoes of the ghost of your whoredom as it shrinks under the weight of its abandonment.

BRATISLAVA:
What else will you come up with on your way to hell? Is there anything new you have to say? Anything real? Anything that makes sense so that we will see you as a person whose head is screwed on right?

Enjoy your pathetic unmoving monologue, "Christian"misogynist.

Bye, Felicia.

I didn't know man-haters are bound for heaven as their fellow Muslim jihadist counterparts.

In your case, you'd get the fûcking of your life by 7 demons in hell. With flaming rod and girth the size of your feet, they'd make a fiery pathway through your vulva, roasting your entrails, while your mouth let off the smokes of your horror.

Disillusioned olosho.

BRATISLAVA:
After talking about sex organs you've never seen before, as always,

What other absurd "lethality",

ugly, unmannered, pudenda-obsessed, unwell "Christian" misogynist?

You've been nothing but a lousy fûck all this while . You've remained on your back with your thighs spread about while I pierced through.

You couldn't even as much as arch your hips or raise the small of your back to meet my thrust.

Type something worthwhile or get some lub in that dry and dirty cûnt of yours or put your cloths back on. It's getting boring, bîtch!

BRATISLAVA:
From vagina, to relationships to appearance.

What other absurd "lethality",

ugly, unmannered, unwell "Christian" misogynist?

Was that all you saw in my jab? You didn't see your lack of originality?

When you have clits bigger than your IQ why won't you be coming to such quirky conclusion. And this was what lead to the pulverisation of your pûssy. Dumb hoè!

BRATISLAVA:
Is that all,

Ugly, unwell "Christian" misogynist?

See how you draw your inspiration from my concluding jab "ugly, demented, man-hater".

This is further proof you don't have originality running in your contaminated blood. I (man) lead and you (woman) follow. You spread your thighs and we part your vulvas. The velocity depends on what kind of a woman you are.

For ugly, shapeless, bad-mannered toads like you, you won't get the courtesy of fóreplay. It would be as a nail driving into a wood. But then, again, I forgot you have a broken elasticity down there.

Damn!

BRATISLAVA:
You are still a fantasist.

Your "lethal vitriol"? Or your usual megalomania? So pitiful.

What will you say, except post false garbage about my hypothetical vagina, relationships and other things you fantasize about? And everyone reading will know that something isn't right with you still.

The fact that you found out a post in which I couldn't be bothered to spell your name correctly—and recall the time it occurred—indicates that our last encounter didn't go the way you expected it to. You are aggrieved.

And to think you call yourself a Christian. Fake hell-bound misogynist Christian. You are a Christian who will give account of his online posts.

Ooze back into your depths.

You're a waste of words.

Enjoy your pathetic monologue.

You never disappoint with your advanced level of pretence. How come 2 months down the line after my encounter and I've moved on you're still talking about me?. I guess your vulva is still left gaping from the last withdrawal of my shaft.

And you have the intellectual dishonesty to try to pin this one on me. You're beyond pathetic. Little wonder you're always angry with the world around you. Only ugly, used and dumped girls go around with grudges in their dark chests.

I don't need physical evidence to be certain you have a broken elasticity in-between your thighs, or that you look like yesterday's pot of cold porridge. Bad things happen to the wicked and I'm here to ride you to Hades.

Ugly, demented man-hater.

cococandy:
Unlike in a mom’s case, your partner is not your child. If you do your due diligence and select a partner you can rely on, you won’t be afraid that everything will fall apart when you cry. If you lose a parent or a friend or a child, if you are facing a life-changing/debilitating medical diagnosis, if you’re injured in a bad accident, you should be able to cry about it. And your woman should be equipped enough to hold your head and handle issues while you recoup. Even beyond that.

I don’t want that world either. There’s absolutely no reason why successful suicide should be prevalent in one group over another for the simple reason that one group is poorly equipped to deal with emotional and life’s issues.

laughable

"Women and children"

You will hear these three words most often in times of crisis or in times of privileged disbursements. Women and children do share a lot in common and chiefly in common is the need to be catered for and protected by the male in their lives.

A woman, as proven by science, would develop some manly traits when she attains motherhood for the sake of her child. For real men, these traits are inherent. He would not be found weak, CRYING!

And there's a difference in letting the tears drop in private -- which is absolutely OK -- than actual crying (wailing) like the OP presented "crying as a child". That's shameless and a deliberate normalisation of making men comfortable with being a Ponce.

I've been in a ghastly accident. My vehicle of less than a year was written off and I had a calcaneus fracture that took me for the first time to a hospital. There was no reason for me to cry or even shared tears. Those examples of yours are what make women cry, not men.

About the suicide tendencies in relation to gender: It's not a perfect world, and it never will be. For every peace we enjoy, there's a corresponding war or at least the threat of it. There's and always will be a CHRIST in humanity's struggles and challenges and that Christ like the biblical ONE is most likely a He than a She and so is the corresponding suicide rate.

It will be gross stupidity on your part if you do.

You can't bring fire any close to inflammable substance without a great risk of an explosion. Even if willful sex doesn't take place, there's no ruling out accidental discharge.

These two people will grow fonder as they spend time alone in that big an lonely atmosphere. The cousin, by his sheer physical presence will be taking your place and would do the things only you would have done were you present; even little things like changing bulbs in the bedroom.


The bed would be just few inches away.

Don't be a Fool, bro!

cj1900:
Hi guys,
I won't take much of your time. I have a very delicate matter in my hands and I need diverse opinions please.

Background
I don't live in Nigeria but me and my wife both have a very comfortable 4 bedroom duplex in Nigeria. We have a one year old baby. I have been in Nigeria for 5 months now and I will be returning to UK in a few weeks.

Ever since I've been in Nigeria, my cousin (mid 30s) has been with us. Quite frankly, it is not very easy for him at the moment and i do care about him as a brother. He is in the process of processing his visa, so its not as if he is loafing about.

The plan is that both me and my wife will be taking turns in visiting each other for the next 2 or so years until I return fully to Nigeria.

The problem
The problem is that I do not feel comfortable leaving just him and my wife under thesame roof whilst I return and he is not showing any signs of leaving when I return to my base.

So, this is my situation and I don't know if I am being insensitive.

I married a very good wife and under most circumstances, I trust her. I am just not comfortable leaving my wife with any man atall under thesame roof.

I need your opinions pls.

cococandy:
Men are not mysterious. Just human

Things like this are why men have a higher successful suicide rate than women.
Also the reason why young boys will die before they talk about their sexual assault at the hands of older men and women. Because they feel they can’t be seen as weak. Whereas it’s nothing to do with weakness.

#thepartriarchyhurtsmentoo

Even in the most difficult of circumstances, a mother holds back her tears for the sake of her little children; for fear of not demoralising and making them feel hopeless in that particular situation. Likewise, men are trained to take it in the chin in the most difficult situations, not breaking down and cry (abomination)! What would the followers do, when a leader is given to emotions and tears? It's unmanly as it is irresponsible!

I don't expect a world where women should have a higher suicide rate than men. It can only happen on a planet where the evil forces have succeeded in bridging the gender gap -- and we might as well get there someday with the speed at which we're heading towards the 'equality' goal.

And yes, men are mysterious human beings with 80% of patents belonging to them. Much of the remaining 20% are joint-gender patents still lead by this mysterious, mostly-bearded, adrenaline-driven warriors who would do anything, not sparing his life, to defend a noble cause.