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In keeping it brief, I'll point out that harlotry is when a woman offers invitations to random dudes -- whether in the guise of having a crush, infatuation, love or attraction -- to her honey pot.

I may not address most of what you opined but I wanted to make clear why more men will be going for younger women than before.

LadyRosa:
I believe harlotry is for women who get paid for SE.x.Or do you intend your meaning generally for women who have random sex but have good paying jobs or those who are just prostitute? Speaking on the former,I argue that financial freedom in Nigeria in most cases are seen as an attribute for rebellion by women.Funny is how so many men on here cry about a broke cheating girlfriend.its kind of funny and I don't think cheating is same as submitting.

Not in all cases are grown women sexually inactive.Anyone who works hard physical and otherwise may have his/her game affected in a way, sometimes even considerably.There many instances where I just wanna _4ck to relieve the accumulated stress of work.Alas!My partner is snoring in the day after a night of office stress.So while one may be sleeping it off,the other may want to "_fuck" it off.So it depends...

[b]Now,this is not it!I think I disagree with this.Girls unfortunately want to grow big,you know when I was 15 all I do is watch Beyonce, Rihanna,try to wear my aunties stilettos and wigs,and red lipsticks and paint my god damn face.Sometimes I want to kiss a boyfriend and do things matured ladies do.So it may be that the younger girls envy the older,more independent ladies above their teens and more...Again,there are more younger guys, ofcourse I really don't know wtf is happening who look way matured than their age.Till date,I still find it difficult telling the face from the age.Many Nigeria guys will stand next to me and yet would pass for an elder brother or husband.I'm older than my partner,funny thing is he knew I was.He jokingly and spitefully told me more than 8 months into the relationship.For weeks I kept blinking my eyes in utter disbelief! What?!
So you see, I don't think there's any envy at all as long as preferences matters to individuals."Alpha" like you call yourselves don't think age.They play their game.A "small" girl can now slice throat better than an evening "newspaper".Street is a jungle,learn early,succeed early is the code.While the code for the late papers might be to settle and make babies,the younger wants to make money and abort babies.
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Young girls marry old men,it's as old as man.its not new,for financial gains, protection, religious cum cultural reasons and sometimes by choice.Even celebrities from well to do homes still get entangled with older men.Infact being a second or third wife is old fashion now trending...I guess the freedom to still have time to do other "things" while the Alpha feast on other wives shouldn't be underestimate or ignored.There many "unforseen' things going through the tiny brains of many Nigerian wives.Dont be surprised to read they think more about the future than the men.While the men work towards it,they solidify it to their own advantages.
Finally, you'd be surprised why women go into marriages.I don't think majority of Nigeria women marry for love right from the onset.It more often than not what is meritable and available.[/b]

I choose to respond to this particular question rather than the one in the main topic.

You're right about Nigerian women evolving but what you didn't pay attention to is the fallout of such evolution.

With more financial freedom and exposure, women are exploring their sexuality. I like to call it harlotry. They become more unsubmissive and seek to take control of any relationship they may have with a man. Now, except for spiritual and socio-cultural interference, most men are Alphas and won't cede such authority to a woman. So while the woman enjoys her new sets of freedom -- financial autonomy and all the bells and whistles that come along with it, she becomes more rebellious. Her job also has a toll on her as well. Making more fatigued and less sexually active.

These are much an alpha would be willing to put up with for much longer and would naturally turn to younger, barely legal girls, freshly crossing the red gate of adolescent into green shoot adults. These freshies have minimal toxic exposure compared to their older female counterparts and would yield naturally to the male sheer power and dominance, making the alpha to dote on her. She becomes the object of envy amongst her peers and older ladies alike.

Now, these old, financially independent women being pushed down from the perking order find themselves either as 2nd wives to way older men, or get entangled with a simp their age or become sugar mummies. Most end up getting married eventually but not to the men of their preference and are far more prone to engage in extramarital affairs.

LadyRosa:
Now, another question is I want to ask is

"Who sleep with these girls?"

There's this disturbing I keep asking myself.Who sleep with this teenagers?I live in a well fenced and conservative environment where kids ofcourse in their teens sit and talk to each other in fields around the estate.They visit each other and go to parties in homes around the estate.

Yes! We see them stroll.While we jug we can tell they may be dating.Hell, sometimes parents joke with teens shy display of affection.

But, there's something that's always off at some point.The girls.If a boy of 16 is having sex with a girl of 15,I know.You will still see that juvenile innocence in her.BUT,it's not the case these days.They may be moving with their age but there's a predator who climbs them, especially married men who don't care tge difference btw a girl who is maturing and one who is matured.The behavior of that teen tells you she is not mating with her age mate even though she moves with them.

Iyaebe:
I don't believe in men's sexual abuse,if it was an abuse why did he sustain erection?

A simple elementary biology would have educated you about involuntary response or reflex action. Penile erection can occur even during sleep with infant males and adults.

saphiere:
12-Year-Old Maid Jumps From A Storey Building To Escape Being Rape By Her Boss In Anambra

https://www.instagram.com/p/CcFMQCJIw7t/

The most pertinent question here is, what's your true underlining problem with men? Perhaps a serial cataclysmic cycle of heartbreaks? Or an age-long abuse?

Men are created as your superior according to GOD's infallible plan. The first generation of female Sapheads like you made it a necessity that women should keep quiet in church and ask of their husbands any questions regarding GOD's word. 1cor 13: 34-35. Again in 1Timothy 2:12.

Scripture says it's disgraceful when you attempt to teach scriptures and you just proved that passage true.

Sin came into the world through your kind as a result of greed and usurpation. Thousands of years down the line, you are no different from your mother, Eve.

saphiere:
MOST TIMES I would just sit down and wish God didn't create the male gender.

Even God regretted creating this gender.

As at the time God made that statement "Let us create man in our own image" He was actually referring to making Adam alone. Woman "Eve" was not in the picture. Eve came as an afterthought.
Read your Bible very well you'd understand that God didn't regret or made the statement , "I regret making ......" when Eve failed. That statement came out after the sons not daughters o. The sons of man did abominable acts.

anonimi:
You obviously don't know what hypocrite means, do you?

Of course I do. For liberals like you, it means don't call out evil by its name and hide behind the "no one is perfect" cliché to evade being responsible for your actions.

Bloody wimp!

anonimi:
Again, where did she use the word, all?
If she did not use that word, what does that make you? A liar? A chronic liar desperate to push his pointless point

Now, I had to do a cursory glance at your previous posts to determine your gender, given that there's no gender indicator attached to your sobriquet. It wasn't a coincidence the lack thereof. It reflects your views and general outlook.

You epicene, analphabetic degenerate.

anonimi:
Where did she use the word-totally, misitah pious sanctimonious not-idiot

You must be an anencephalic dweeb if that was actually a question.

She said "STOP" all chats, physical contact and conversation. That means cease, desist from, erase, bring to an end, totally. She didn't say "LIMIT" all chat.

ireneidiva:
I don't think you are okay. She realized her errors and turned a new leaf and you are still criticizing her. How are you okay?

The goal, though unconscious is never to be certified OK by your type.

ireneidiva:
I hope you are really alright.

You're only here by the sheer abundance of "defend a fellow female like me." Nothing more or less.

Yes, I'm a Christian, just not an examplary kind. But that's not the point and neither is your stone-based reply.

The point is simple: as simple as the four-lettered scriptural standard when dealing with lust -- flee!

Your continuous once-in-a-while PERSONAL "how are you" chats (not office/work related) with this waiting-in-the-wings adulterer doesn't look like fleeing, rather it looked like preserving the lust in the refrigerator (for who knows when hubby NEPA would break power transmission? You may just need something chilled on the side)

And here's another problem, the lustful feelings you talked about being common is more of a man's problem than a woman's. Men are far more prone to be moved by sight than women.

Being a married woman and a working class, you should have enough distraction from your domestic/maternal obligations coupled with your workload in the office.

So, keep your eyes to your office desk when at work and your thoughts with your husband and quit with the wander-lustful thoughts. All office related discussions ought to end during office hours. Your continuous chat with this man means the source of adultery still lurks within you.

chioma134:
Well, I suppose you're a Christian too. You should be conversant with Jesus' words when he told the crowd that came to stone the adulterous woman that "he that is without sin should cast the first stone." I'm no angel, I admit my faults. However, those lustful feelings I talked about are much more common than you think. You cannot prevent a bird from perching, but you can prevent it from building a nest on your head. Even you are not exempted if you are honest enough to admit it, except you're a eunuch.

Also, I have received forgiveness and there is now no condemnation for me in Christ Jesus. Therefore, I refuse to allow your "stone" to hit me. And I hope you have removed the log in your own eyes before coming to remove the speck in mine.

All the same, I kept his contact because we still work for the same organisation, and communication lines should be kept open.

Shalom

In pure undiluted scriptural standard, you've committed adultery with him already. Just so you know that.

But rather more important is your very last paragraph of advice to other women who might be going through similar temptation as you. Here, let me quote you:

"Just cut off the relationship. Stop conversation, chatting, or physical contact. Then pray for God to help you overcome those lusty feelings"

Now, here's the irony buried in the paragraph before last:

"Right now, he chats once in a while, just general "how are you". I say "fine"

While you still keep the door ajar for prospective adultery with this same idiot, (most likely when you and hubby have a fight) you are advising other women going through similar challenge to cut off chats totally. You know the intention of this iniquitous pig and your own abominable longings and vulnerability towards him yet you still entertain his obviously probing "how are you's." You're still an unrepentant adulterer and you need counseling and deliverance before entertaining the idea of climbing that virtual pulpit you just did by preaching this sermon. And may GOD help your husband who's ignorant enough to permit that stupid work of yours that has no respect for matrimony to post you outside his location.

chioma134:
This post was triggered by an earlier post I saw where the poster was having long talks with his friend's wife. I've been in a similar situation. I changed location and had to be separate from my family due to work. I was lonely and needed a friend. I talk with my husband regularly, but his interests are not my interests, so I find that besides household and family matters, we have little else to talk about. I found myself talking to this guy I met when I went for an official assignment. We started as friends, but we became attracted to each other. So when I travelled back to base, we started these long conversations. We're both born-again Christians and both married, so we kept to certain boundaries. I enjoyed conversing with him more than with my spouse. I became consumed with thoughts of him. He also expressed his desire and attraction towards me, but we laughed over it as jokes.

My husband noticed the conversations when I travelled home and became suspicious. He forbade me from speaking with him. He had never seen me have long talks with any friend, talkless of a male one. I informed my friend and he said no problem, he would wait till I travelled back to work base before he would continue. He later travelled to meet his family and conversation became scanty. I realized how much I was addicted to him when I couldn't talk to him as much as I wanted. He returned to base and we continued like before.

I started praying for God to help me overcome these desires. Maybe he also felt the same, because for some reasons I don't know, he reduced the frequency of calls and chats drastically. I didn't try to find out why, just thought the time-off would help me clear out immoral thoughts. But I got hurt when he acted indifferent on one occasion when I felt he should have shown more care. I asked him about it and he pretended not to understand what I was talking about. I read the writing on the wall, and decided to play along. So I said "bye. It was nice meeting you." Part of me was grateful it ended, another part was wishing I could still be with him. I love my husband and children, I cannot come and scatter my home.

He thought I was joking. I was no longer responding to his chats, and when I did, only with monosyllables. He became hurt and accused me of going silent on him. I told him he started it. He wanted me to become defensive, but the Holy Spirit whispered "keep quiet ". So I allowed him rant without saying anything. I thank God I didn't, because I would have exposed how deep my true feelings for him were.

Right now, he chats once in a while, just general "how are you". I say "fine". My feelings have healed and I thank God we didn't continue because I wouldn't have been able to stop myself from an affair if we had eventually had any physical contact. I can categorically say I'm no longer in love with him.

I penned these down for those struggling with similar situations. Just cut off the relationship. Stop conversation, chatting, or physical contact. Then pray for God to help you overcome those lusty feelings.

BKayy:
Am I the one that cold will finish in December or buy gas times three the price from Hungarian and Chinese resellers?

Mtcheww... All idiots to their own stupidity. Imagine Lithuania, a country of 63,300 km2 which is roughly the size of Niger state and Oyo shutting the embassy of a country that is actually bigger than the whole of Europe.

Yes, Russia is actually bigger than the whole of Europe like times two.
Europe = 10 million Km2 while
Russia= 17 million km2

I know some of you might wonder out loud that you thought that Russia is part of Europe. Nope, only a small fraction and of Russia is in Europe.
Russia is like a full continent on her own

If land mass is the chief criteria for a countries greatness, Greanland , Canada and Australia will be at the top with the US and China.

But Russia with all its size and population has an economy smaller than Portugal's. This is where it matters most. Russia is a dwarf before Europe. Save for its oil and gas, and nukes, Russia would have been completely crushed.

Reading through the post, it is clear we're dealing with a loose woman.

Firstly, you said you guys are REAL friends. Then four paragraphs down, you said the guy has feelings for you. You knew all along he had feelings for you but your harlot nature encouraged the "friendship".

Any woman in a relationship, let alone married who has a male bestie or a relationship with the opposite sex that warrants private/personal conversation is already a cheat, at least emotionally. It is only a matter of opportunity before the physical manifest

Now, the bîtch has soiled her marriage and defiled herself. There are grave consequences for that even in Satan's Kingdom where immorality reigns.

Rotji:
Woman who slept with male best friend following quarrel with husband, seeks help on how to clear her conscience

by April 3, 2022, 6:42

A lady went online to seek advice after she had an affair with her longtime male best friend following a quarrel with husband.

According to the lady, she had been friends with the said friend for a long time and people even felt they were dating but nothing could be further from the truth.

The lady and the male best friend usually attend a training in the UK and following a quarrel with her husband, she slept with her male friend and now she can’t seem to forgive herself and get the image out of her head.

Read her post,

“Hello. Kindly post as anonymous.

This guy has been my only best friend for over 10years. We were accused of having a relationship but nope there was nothing like that between us. We were real friends.

Last year we met in Uk for a training as we always do, since we are in the same field.

Before the trip, I had issues with my husband that made us cold towards each other.

This time around my best friend and I were extremely close that we started talking about sxx and all that. Like joke we slept together! (A very short time)

Since then I have never been myself. The guy has feelings for me but I always took him as a brother. I feel so dirty, and I regretted sleeping with him.

I have decided to stop the friendship. I cut him off completely. The problem now is my conscience. I want to erase this part from my head. I get mad at myself anytime my mind goes on it. And it’s killing me

Please advise! Thank you”


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Yhungsarm:
This incident happened last week Thursday. Am a 300L student of Unijos and the girl happens to be my coursemate.

Normally, me and these girl no dey the same level, she can't even talk to me in school but ASUU break happened and i didn't want to go back to Lagos so i stayed back in Jos.

One day i was chatting with her friend who happens to know her and he told me she is still in Jos, so i chatted her up since i was bored and i didn't lie to her, i told her i was bored and i needed someone to talk to for the main time. she accepted quickly and even told me why i didn't chat her up sooner than this. she promised to come to my place and on Thursday she finally came through.

This is the most astonishing part, she knew i had sex with her best friend so she asked me about it and i did not lie about it cus i know she knew and we talked about some nasty stuff related to sex. i was seated on a mini-cushion chair and she sat on my laps literally dropping her boobs in the middle of my face.

As a guy i thought that was the signal, so i carried her straight to the bed and i wanted to gain access and she denied it so i just stood up and left. After a short while she came back again now saying if she handles me and all those stuff, i tried again and she denied i was angry and i wanted to tell her to start gping but i calmed down. she started seducing me badly and i was confused so this time i dropped and dragged her jean with her, we started dragging but she was just saying am trying to rape her and it is unfair, if it is what i do to girls all d time.

i was fingering her at the time but i did not penetrate and i felt it was tense and if i penetrated then what she is saying is true so i stopped and controlled my urge.

She zipped up and started crying, I was like but i didn't do anything and she was like i did everything i want to do with her and it is fault bcus she came to my house.

After a shortwhile, she stopped crying and asked me if it was sex i want or friends with benefit...i was very confused at that point like wetin bring all does one enter so i didn't reply then she said she knows am a rapist and i just want to sex and all dat shit.

i kept my cool after some time she started saying am not normal at all and she jst can't believe what happened, she also said she will tell me something when we she is out of my house.

So i paid her Tp and she went home, i did not chat her up at all. fastforward to Saturday i saw her message saying her forcefully had my ways wit her and jst ignored her so she will deal with me and i will pay for it.

i won't lie to you am very scared, i don't even know what she wants, i started asking her what she wants from me exactly but she is not replying at all. I seriously don't know what to do am very confuse, I don't even understand why i fell for this plot of hers.
What do you think i shud do

Note: I did not have sex with her at all and i never wanted it, she was jst all over me and doing all those stuff. Sex isn't my problem on a normal day bcus am a handsome guy and i get it most time.

Real men have a physical and mental understanding of the act of sex which is rightly interpreted as a physical, intrusive injection of himself into the very vulnerable core of a woman.

In the act of cheating, it is the most intrusive violation of trust and possession, soiling beyond redemption the very basis of his most treasured source of pleasure.

It is unforgivable and irrevocably defiled.

Virginity is not necessarily purity. Purity concerns itself with the state of one's heart and the contents of one's thoughts.

There a physical virgins who have kept their virginity for lack of opportunity but have gone down the road of soddom and Gomorrah within their physical confinement. While many a good woman can lose their virginity through carelessness, ignorance or even willfully but it doesn't really make them evil. And a promiscuous woman can have the grace of repentance and marry afterwards and have a successful marriage.

While virginity is to be encouraged, asserting that it is the cornerstone of marital success is foolishness and myopic. It stems from a close-circuited thought process which seek to narrow down the complexity of life and nature to a simplified prism where everything is painted in black and white.

(Un)fortunately, it's not.

AfroAgroPower:
In Many Religions and Cultures, According To The Standards of The Society; The essence of Marriage is to Marry A Woman as A Virgin.


The Virginity of A Woman is Why Her Dowry Should Be Paid in The First Place for Marriage.



However; Nowadays; We have Men paying for Dowries for Women who were not Virgins when They Met Them.



This is a Societal Decay that has corrupted God's Purpose of Marriage for Humanity.



Today, we have women putting on white gowns during their White Weddings in Churches to Symbolize that They Are Still Virgins after they must have Defiled Their Bodies which is Supposed to Be The Temple of God Almighty.






This is the Biggest reason we have many broken marriages in The World Today.



Many Marriages were established on Poor Foundations.









If you want to succeed in Life as A Man; Ensure Your Foundation is Not Faulty.



For If The Foundation is Faulty, What can the Righteous Do ?

bigpicture001:
Met this lady recently, and I have been single for over 12 months now. We chatted , and from different conversation, it turns outs she usually dump guyz stating one fault or the other

Now the problem is she took her immidaite past guy to court citing threat to life. When she showed me the text message that she said was threat to life, although he made mention of acid bathing and knives stabbing, but he refered it to what happens in messy ended relationship where the dumper makes the dumper looks small and like a a shit..... He begged her to desist from making a mess of her dumping him so they don't get to the news with bad report.. ND he added God forbid.

She confessed the guy is not anything close to violence, but my concern now is that she dumps people up nd down ND now has tasted the evil called judiciary in relationship matters....she works and earn quite well

Will it be okay to continue with such girl..?

All the small voices of reason within you have told you to run for your life but you've not listened. Rather you've followed the trail of your stubborness which lead you here asking us this unnecessary question.

Rugaria:
It's you and the Western propaganda machinery that are impugning different objectives on the Russians. The Russians never told you that they are going there to totally occupy a country of 40 million. It's the Western Media that dropped that alarming propaganda to set the bar too high so as to make it look like anything short of total occupation of Ukraine is a monumental failure for Russia. Very predictable..

What The Kremlin said was that Russia was conducting a limited military activity in Ukraine in order to remove avowed Nazis and NATO apologists disrupting the chance of a healthy diplomatic relationship between the two neighbors. That schedule is going as planned and the Nazis are being gruesomely decimated.. Beautiful Ukraine will be better for it.. NATO brings nothing but wars and blood..

Russia sought regime change by taking Kiev and replacing the central government. It failed woefully.

Not everything is western propaganda. Russia has damaged itself.

pocohantas:
Abeg rest. Mtcheeew

You obviously had nothing to say. Keeping quiet was the sensible alternative but like I said earlier, the word sensible shouldn't come from or be talked about by you.

pocohantas:
You really do not know how much your incoherent rants annoys sensible Nlders. I don’t even need to report you.

"Incoherent rants"

If honesty was a country, you'd be an alien.

"Annoy sensible Nldlers". The word sensible shouldn't come from or be talked about by you. E get why!

pocohantas:
The problem is that you think I care.

I'd take that as a new psychological upgrade on your part if you truly don't care. But you do care!

Look at all the works you've put in on this forum! You comment backlog alone can equip all the libraries in this country -- from section to section, be it romance, family, sexuality,cars, food, even Diary. You just are everywhere hunting fame and notoriety. Or should we talk about your topics created?

You've always cared about this make-believe virtual world of yours where you hoped to create the woman you never was. So, please spare me.

pocohantas:
Sorry, you are not getting that soon.
Please add the SUGAR- SUGAR DADDY.

You just loaded my armoury with more weapons with your self-confessed sugar daddy involvement.

Oscillator:
hmm first tap at the door and pocohantas dirty undies are laid bare!

No matter how hard and long you pretend, your laboratory glass facade will always crack and your backwater, crass and unrefined background would shine through.

Poco, the master guttersnipe trying to live her dreams on Nairaland when in the real world she's straddling a pit latrine with 7 neighbours!

Lezz bado!

pocohantas:
I am curious, do black women also go through this? Because it seems like it is always or most times black men complaining of racism and witch-hunting. Pardon me, I feel little to no sympathy for them, given that they are at the forefront of tribal and gender discrimination in their safe zones (e.g Nigeria). Not forgetting white-worship. So maybe they can get a feel of what it feels like to be the inferior party from their revered Team-Foreign.

This can only be the response from someone who came armed only with misandry to this intellectual discuss.

Shallow!