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For a fact, raising children abroad -- despite the social amenities and better economy -- is till worse than raising children in Nigeria as far as morality is concerned. They began their own moral decadence several years earlier and they've now codified it into the fabrics of their existence. We'll always play catch up.

But back to your question on how we got to this level of moral catastrophe for our children. I'll tell you the truth few people want to hear and the mainstream media knows but would never highlight -- Parental abandonment

It all started gradually in the late '70s and and early '80 when mothers joined fathers in the labour market abandoning their maternal obligation to their children while passing the ball to nannies and househelps and boarding schools. I'll stop here.

oshozondii:
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Would have taken him a lot more seriously if #4 were his #1.

If there's any one way to show this present regime is a plague to our individual and collective existence, #4 should be totally rebuked and rejected, having not apologize publicly for the catastrophe he helped foster.

@ OP;

Your dad not leaving a Will unfortunately paves the way for your custom to prevail in this matter

And that custom puts the most senior male child as the chief beneficiary of your late father's property even if your mother were to be alive. He is fully in charge and I'm afraid you all are at his mercy.

Your best route is to go through the elders. Look for one who is sympathetic to your plight. Who knows if they can persuade your brother to cut you guys some slack.

Didi2d:
Early this year my wife started doing business and to our surprise the business picked up fast, sale was good.

The Idea for the business came up last year when my sister called my wife and asked her what would she like to do, since she was just a full time house wife and all responsibility was been taken care of by me and support from my sister.

My sister made this call because of the various quarrel and misunderstanding between me and my wife almost every time.
My wife is the kind of person that doesn't take advice and doesn't respect me, she fast to answer my questions with question, always ready to keep malice with me for as long as possible.

Yes, I saw all this bad attribute when we were dating, but I was forming loving and caring guy and still went ahead with the relationship. We'av been together now for 14 years now and I must say here that it has been hell for me, at times I almost want to beg for sex.
If I start mentioning everything here, you guys won't believe.

To cut the story short, now that the shop business is going well, her attitude is worse more than before. Anytime she goes to market and when she returns if I ask her what and what she bought, she will reply violently, that I should not be asking her. That, don't I have eyes., she talks to me violently in presence of her younger once
So I called her some day back, spoke to her that I don't like her attitude. That she should tell me if she wants to continue or not. After some days I call her, her reply was she didn't even remember we had any discussion. So I told her that her attitude shows she doesn't want to continue the relationship, that's where she started shouting that I should do whatever I want, I should go if I want, that she doesn't care.

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The funny part is if she needs anything from the shop, she will ask me to buy for her.
Some days back I got back from work and immediately told me gas has finished. How of curiosity I asked why didn't she fill it, her response was (from which money)

You've married her and she's your wife. It's a sealed deal as far as I'm concerned.

You saw all the red flags and still forged ahead. So soldier on. But be warned : a disobedient woman will only get worse as she gets older, unless there's some divine intervention.

[quote author=Nuellavanz96 post=111209170][/quote]So many Twists and turns in your post that I found them, intriguing, amuzing, then confusing, then outright grandstanding.

Your header was a bashing, calling men who wants financial assistance from their women infidels, which is nothing but the simple truth. I thought the rest of your argument would follow similar line.

But then, you went on a numerical rampage of 50 - 50 responsibilities between the man and woman. And there at number 5 did I begin to perceive the emotional side of your argument outweighing your sense of reality and logic.

Not everything can be split evenly across board and sex and it's resulting consequences is one of them. They didn't bring equal energy and chromosomes to the table to begin with. He came with both X & Y chromosomes and you came to the party with just an X. He's not going to charge you for the extra chromosome. Neither will he be charging you for the extra work rate that got his heart racing, pumping blood at a faster than normal rate to achieve and maintain the rigidity of his shaft while injecting his seed into you.
You on the other hand was only more or less a passive passenger on this love boat. He won't charge you for all that because nature forbids him to. It was all dictated by nature. Same way nature have you bear the grunt of the resulting pregnancy. If you find a 50:50 partner, you can as well ask him to pay you for the time you spent dealing with the discomfort and inconvenience that come with your menstrual flow.



Lastly, you said "provision is easy" and you'd prefer being the breadwinner over getting pregnant and giving birth and house chores Well, when a woman denounces her natural disposition as a nurturer, prospective mother and caregiver and rather prefers that which nature bequeaths to a man, then we have the psychological problem of identity crisis and gender dissatisfaction disorder.

ShaqFu:
Chai! And the postman just delivered a post! Good lord.

Greetings, the one and only _Shaqfu!

It's been a while, bro.

GhostWisperer:
I don't know why all these dispossessed Zulu princes keep looking for their crown of shame in a Nigerian forum.

Na Sunday be this!

GhostWisperer:
the governor is the number security officer of each state to start with.

Being a commissioner of police doesn't make you the owner of anywhere. He wasn't there on official duty. He was there to- use his fancy lying words- meet a "strategic partner" but we all know he's there for a social visit or party and at that point the normal checking-in should be observed.

Africans just love the power that comes with an office but not the responsibility and sacrifice.

I remember then, one would pay for a front seat in public transportation company from Port Harcourt to Lagos or Warri and a police man in uniform is a passenger as well will insist on having the front seat.

Same police will stop a private or commercial vehicles then and arrogantly demanded to be lifted along the road.

Yea with the uniform you can do no wrong

Yeah, it was barely a month ago, along Benin-Agbor express, when one soldier stopped me, I've passed their checkpoint by a few yards, and have hit the acceleration pedal. Only for this barely-literate and ill-trained soldier to horridly stop me.

I slowed down to a stop to hear what the Buffon from the barracks had to say. He wanted me to lift someone. It was a pointblank refusal. You could see the shock and disappointment and anger on his face.

Cursed souls.

GhostWisperer:
funny coming from a Zulu when open defecation is supported by Zulu government.

You may have come down from the trees but the monkey is still in you.

Bloodied!

Gazzy88:
Buhari knows how to deal with ibos sha. He doesn't shout when they shout but anytime he drops an album on them, it's always a banger.

“I have a problem with people from South-East; they said they wanted another state, as each of the geopolitical zones has six states.

“I said go and look at the map and see how many of the existing states will contribute to other states.
“That was the last I heard from them” on the matter, the President said.

Na young John produce the beat this time

Wait for the rejoinder.

ivolt:
Another illiterate.
The governor's authority and power are clearly limited by the constitution.
Lagosians obviously don't want a tout as governor.

Wike would have been disgraced in similar situations if he tries to exert a power he doesn't have
against lawful police action.

Since it was a supreme court order, the Lagos Governor should have known better than to try his luck thinking the police CSP is naive. It was very lawless and low of Mr Sanwo who knows the CSP was there on order of the supreme court.

He disgraced himself and his office.

dollynnn:
You ain't getting any response from me

"You ain't getting any response from me" was a response alright

Another underscore of your emotional indiscipline.

dollynnn:
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I thought there was a general agreement to mind our businesses this year?
Since he has chosen to accept his son the way his son said he is,who are you to tell him "responsible fathers would have disowned him"?
Put your house in order first. Who knows how your children behave sef? Maybe worse than a crossdresser

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There are levels of evil that one must speak up against. Minding your business as you propose is just another way of exhibiting your moral decadence.

DelTel:
No estate is a privately owned property

To start with, a) govt owns all land, b) govt using tax payers money provides some amenities, road, etc, c) police and any other govt agencies should have unhindered access to any where in a society in the course of their duty, for instance, building inspection, environment, etc, talkless the police

An estate claiming privacy is what led to people like Evans getting away with criminality for so long (interestingly in the same Magodo Estate) and the same Magodo harbours the largest number of yahooyahoo boys on the mainland!

Investigating a crime is even more important than arresting

By the emboldened, if ignorance of the law is a disease, then you're chronically ill!

festacman:
If DSS has court-issued warrant and was stopped from making arrest, a criminal offence has been committed.

Out of point.

You're clever in your analysis but not clever enough to conceal your ill-taste bias.

The commissioner of police like any policeman is no different from the average citizen. If the estate has a protocol and security in place that governs entry, the police, except on official duty (with the issuance of a warrant) must adhere to the estate protocols.

The only grounds that the CP can hide under to cover his power-drunk and shameful actions is to claim the estate is a public space. It's not!

Very few individuals have the mental discipline and intellectual maturity not to abuse power. And with statements like yours, it's hard to see laws created that really curtail the abuses of law enforcement agencies and those in government.

ShaqFu:
Happy new Year to my peeps. Disstroy. Postmann. Ishilove. Lezz. FTBOY. Obontami and the great naptu2.

Happy New year, my G like no other! Wishing you prosperity and long life.

Pierocash:
that is the rule.

No medical student is permitted to get pregnant while on study. Even after graduation ,you must work for some number of years before considering getting pregnant

Your submission is strange. What rule forbids students of tertiary institutions from getting pregnant?

Datboredberry:
Y'all are insane! The purpose of the redpill is to make smashing easy?

Real alphas aren't lust-driven psychos...being a real man means being in complete control, especially of your libido!

Going about looking as the asses of women is low...and creepy...

Crap. All you women wear as fashion these days are tailored to draw attention to your butt. One doesn't need a degree in anatomy to have a good visual make out of what your butts look like.

You all dress indecent.

lezz:
[s]no bigotry. Igbos produce fake drugs both locally and abroad and import same to the country.

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chatinent:
We may not like the work sb does, yes, it's normal..but understanding that your liking it or disliking it doesn't count should help us to stop expecting much from the lives of others.

Do you know how many hours I have to stay in the scorching sun to sell three rolls of sausages in the competitive road of Lagos traffic?

I have to come back sometimes with ₦400 and ₦50k worth of insults from drivers, and generational curses from cyclists who I often double-cross to sell my gala?

Do you see how rich I am to be worried about how others like me?

Your job, your livelihood no doubt but, don't take what I'm about to type personal. Only a hopeless government would have you guys littering the road, peering into people's car windows, invading their privacy, Sticking your products on their windscreen, being inbetween cars, hitting/denting their side mirrors and being insulting when cautioned by a driver. No sentiment but, lots of your kind have become road traffic nuisance.

saphiere:
seun lalasticlala rule 2 deliberately broken. Please I beg of you ban this person.

Of all things the devil did to you, he didn't tamper completely with your sense of shame and hurt, hence you still scream lala and mynd about rule 2.

Cry us a river!

pocohantas:
After collecting Tonto’s Hilux? Kai!

pocohantas:
...This year Tonto found a man that is finer and richer than Churchill and suddenly, suddenly-suddenly, Nigerian men became very angry . They hate that a woman can find another man after a divorce or as a single mother. They want to see you miserable and mad after they leave you or if you leave them. That is why they are always obsessed with stalking their EXes. You will see them say, “Five years later, she isn’t married” or “She finally married one yeye man wey no reach me”. But the truth is, time is fast changing. Whether red pill or maroon pill, men will marry who they want!

In light of the above excerpt taken from your endless chronicles of misleading assertions, you set up Tonto as the example of how divorced women eat their cakes and have it, how the field is much greener for wayward women who have been shown the door out of marriage finding better men waiting by the door way to give them a better life, despite their bad character and failing bodies (your role model even bought new body parts to no avail).

But reality isn't your companion, neither is truth a close associate of yours, as the chicken has come home to roost.

Many a woman might have fallen for the evil deception you project, that the grass is greener after a woman suffers divorce, but reality has a mind of its own which functions independently of the hopes and wishes of feminists like you.

Let this be another dark epistle in your unrealistic feminist love poems, another harsh reminder that it's still a man's world (until the end of time) and no ideology, concept or science can trump nature.

Redpillar:
I support her.

Sometimes you really can’t tell what men want. They marry a virtuous woman and cause her pains with their activities with omo wobes.

You leave when they are broke, they say you are materialistic. Heck! This woman has been there since he was a broke UNIABUJA boy, but all that doesn’t matter now. She would be called a leech. She should have endured or left with just her clothes and cooking pots.

You stay with them and they get to the top. They suddenly remember that men are polygamous in nature. Their third legs would be on overdrive. Doing penis giveaways left, right and center.

You go to work and try to make some money for yourself, they will sleep with the maid and blame it on you. You didn’t have time for them.

You sit at home and attend to all his whims and caprices, he calls you a liability. He might even cheat on you with the woman at work.

The more you try to understand them, the more confused you get.

I expect his fanboys to call her a gold-digger, but I will advise her to not only dig with a shovel, but employ the services of an excavator. If she can’t operate one, I know someone who would help.

These men are ready to spend millions on sidechicks. Sidechicks that have chewing gum boyfriends. Sidechick that doesn’t know their story. Side chick that can’t cook, clean or even submit, as they love submission pass their lives. They will buy these sidechicks cars, houses and luxury items. It is now the virtuous wife that would be there fooling herself “I don’t love him for money”.

Never trust the loyalty of a broke man.

The days of attending revival service to pray for one randy horseband are gone. Since divorce hurts men like this, they should take over the baton of watching War Room and wearing red pants and a bra to seduce their wives. Make women rest small.

Anita please DO NOT reason with him. Bite hard, then you grip like Rott, and shake it till you pull out pounds of flesh money.

Posting with an 'M' sobriquet is the first proof of your social maladjustment. Then for generalizing, you depict one being a victim of several relationship mishaps.

Let it all go, boy-girl. That's when you'd have started life anew.