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Virginity is not necessarily purity. Purity concerns itself with the state of one's heart and the contents of one's thoughts.

There a physical virgins who have kept their virginity for lack of opportunity but have gone down the road of soddom and Gomorrah within their physical confinement. While many a good woman can lose their virginity through carelessness, ignorance or even willfully but it doesn't really make them evil. And a promiscuous woman can have the grace of repentance and marry afterwards and have a successful marriage.

While virginity is to be encouraged, asserting that it is the cornerstone of marital success is foolishness and myopic. It stems from a close-circuited thought process which seek to narrow down the complexity of life and nature to a simplified prism where everything is painted in black and white.

(Un)fortunately, it's not.

AfroAgroPower:
In Many Religions and Cultures, According To The Standards of The Society; The essence of Marriage is to Marry A Woman as A Virgin.


The Virginity of A Woman is Why Her Dowry Should Be Paid in The First Place for Marriage.



However; Nowadays; We have Men paying for Dowries for Women who were not Virgins when They Met Them.



This is a Societal Decay that has corrupted God's Purpose of Marriage for Humanity.



Today, we have women putting on white gowns during their White Weddings in Churches to Symbolize that They Are Still Virgins after they must have Defiled Their Bodies which is Supposed to Be The Temple of God Almighty.






This is the Biggest reason we have many broken marriages in The World Today.



Many Marriages were established on Poor Foundations.









If you want to succeed in Life as A Man; Ensure Your Foundation is Not Faulty.



For If The Foundation is Faulty, What can the Righteous Do ?

bigpicture001:
Met this lady recently, and I have been single for over 12 months now. We chatted , and from different conversation, it turns outs she usually dump guyz stating one fault or the other

Now the problem is she took her immidaite past guy to court citing threat to life. When she showed me the text message that she said was threat to life, although he made mention of acid bathing and knives stabbing, but he refered it to what happens in messy ended relationship where the dumper makes the dumper looks small and like a a shit..... He begged her to desist from making a mess of her dumping him so they don't get to the news with bad report.. ND he added God forbid.

She confessed the guy is not anything close to violence, but my concern now is that she dumps people up nd down ND now has tasted the evil called judiciary in relationship matters....she works and earn quite well

Will it be okay to continue with such girl..?

All the small voices of reason within you have told you to run for your life but you've not listened. Rather you've followed the trail of your stubborness which lead you here asking us this unnecessary question.

Rugaria:
It's you and the Western propaganda machinery that are impugning different objectives on the Russians. The Russians never told you that they are going there to totally occupy a country of 40 million. It's the Western Media that dropped that alarming propaganda to set the bar too high so as to make it look like anything short of total occupation of Ukraine is a monumental failure for Russia. Very predictable..

What The Kremlin said was that Russia was conducting a limited military activity in Ukraine in order to remove avowed Nazis and NATO apologists disrupting the chance of a healthy diplomatic relationship between the two neighbors. That schedule is going as planned and the Nazis are being gruesomely decimated.. Beautiful Ukraine will be better for it.. NATO brings nothing but wars and blood..

Russia sought regime change by taking Kiev and replacing the central government. It failed woefully.

Not everything is western propaganda. Russia has damaged itself.

pocohantas:
Abeg rest. Mtcheeew

You obviously had nothing to say. Keeping quiet was the sensible alternative but like I said earlier, the word sensible shouldn't come from or be talked about by you.

pocohantas:
You really do not know how much your incoherent rants annoys sensible Nlders. I don’t even need to report you.

"Incoherent rants"

If honesty was a country, you'd be an alien.

"Annoy sensible Nldlers". The word sensible shouldn't come from or be talked about by you. E get why!

pocohantas:
The problem is that you think I care.

I'd take that as a new psychological upgrade on your part if you truly don't care. But you do care!

Look at all the works you've put in on this forum! You comment backlog alone can equip all the libraries in this country -- from section to section, be it romance, family, sexuality,cars, food, even Diary. You just are everywhere hunting fame and notoriety. Or should we talk about your topics created?

You've always cared about this make-believe virtual world of yours where you hoped to create the woman you never was. So, please spare me.

pocohantas:
Sorry, you are not getting that soon.
Please add the SUGAR- SUGAR DADDY.

You just loaded my armoury with more weapons with your self-confessed sugar daddy involvement.

Oscillator:
hmm first tap at the door and pocohantas dirty undies are laid bare!

No matter how hard and long you pretend, your laboratory glass facade will always crack and your backwater, crass and unrefined background would shine through.

Poco, the master guttersnipe trying to live her dreams on Nairaland when in the real world she's straddling a pit latrine with 7 neighbours!

Lezz bado!

pocohantas:
I am curious, do black women also go through this? Because it seems like it is always or most times black men complaining of racism and witch-hunting. Pardon me, I feel little to no sympathy for them, given that they are at the forefront of tribal and gender discrimination in their safe zones (e.g Nigeria). Not forgetting white-worship. So maybe they can get a feel of what it feels like to be the inferior party from their revered Team-Foreign.

This can only be the response from someone who came armed only with misandry to this intellectual discuss.

Shallow!

For a fact, raising children abroad -- despite the social amenities and better economy -- is till worse than raising children in Nigeria as far as morality is concerned. They began their own moral decadence several years earlier and they've now codified it into the fabrics of their existence. We'll always play catch up.

But back to your question on how we got to this level of moral catastrophe for our children. I'll tell you the truth few people want to hear and the mainstream media knows but would never highlight -- Parental abandonment

It all started gradually in the late '70s and and early '80 when mothers joined fathers in the labour market abandoning their maternal obligation to their children while passing the ball to nannies and househelps and boarding schools. I'll stop here.

oshozondii:
https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=10105844278815680&id=47904265

Would have taken him a lot more seriously if #4 were his #1.

If there's any one way to show this present regime is a plague to our individual and collective existence, #4 should be totally rebuked and rejected, having not apologize publicly for the catastrophe he helped foster.

@ OP;

Your dad not leaving a Will unfortunately paves the way for your custom to prevail in this matter

And that custom puts the most senior male child as the chief beneficiary of your late father's property even if your mother were to be alive. He is fully in charge and I'm afraid you all are at his mercy.

Your best route is to go through the elders. Look for one who is sympathetic to your plight. Who knows if they can persuade your brother to cut you guys some slack.

Didi2d:
Early this year my wife started doing business and to our surprise the business picked up fast, sale was good.

The Idea for the business came up last year when my sister called my wife and asked her what would she like to do, since she was just a full time house wife and all responsibility was been taken care of by me and support from my sister.

My sister made this call because of the various quarrel and misunderstanding between me and my wife almost every time.
My wife is the kind of person that doesn't take advice and doesn't respect me, she fast to answer my questions with question, always ready to keep malice with me for as long as possible.

Yes, I saw all this bad attribute when we were dating, but I was forming loving and caring guy and still went ahead with the relationship. We'av been together now for 14 years now and I must say here that it has been hell for me, at times I almost want to beg for sex.
If I start mentioning everything here, you guys won't believe.

To cut the story short, now that the shop business is going well, her attitude is worse more than before. Anytime she goes to market and when she returns if I ask her what and what she bought, she will reply violently, that I should not be asking her. That, don't I have eyes., she talks to me violently in presence of her younger once
So I called her some day back, spoke to her that I don't like her attitude. That she should tell me if she wants to continue or not. After some days I call her, her reply was she didn't even remember we had any discussion. So I told her that her attitude shows she doesn't want to continue the relationship, that's where she started shouting that I should do whatever I want, I should go if I want, that she doesn't care.

N.B
The funny part is if she needs anything from the shop, she will ask me to buy for her.
Some days back I got back from work and immediately told me gas has finished. How of curiosity I asked why didn't she fill it, her response was (from which money)

You've married her and she's your wife. It's a sealed deal as far as I'm concerned.

You saw all the red flags and still forged ahead. So soldier on. But be warned : a disobedient woman will only get worse as she gets older, unless there's some divine intervention.

[quote author=Nuellavanz96 post=111209170][/quote]So many Twists and turns in your post that I found them, intriguing, amuzing, then confusing, then outright grandstanding.

Your header was a bashing, calling men who wants financial assistance from their women infidels, which is nothing but the simple truth. I thought the rest of your argument would follow similar line.

But then, you went on a numerical rampage of 50 - 50 responsibilities between the man and woman. And there at number 5 did I begin to perceive the emotional side of your argument outweighing your sense of reality and logic.

Not everything can be split evenly across board and sex and it's resulting consequences is one of them. They didn't bring equal energy and chromosomes to the table to begin with. He came with both X & Y chromosomes and you came to the party with just an X. He's not going to charge you for the extra chromosome. Neither will he be charging you for the extra work rate that got his heart racing, pumping blood at a faster than normal rate to achieve and maintain the rigidity of his shaft while injecting his seed into you.
You on the other hand was only more or less a passive passenger on this love boat. He won't charge you for all that because nature forbids him to. It was all dictated by nature. Same way nature have you bear the grunt of the resulting pregnancy. If you find a 50:50 partner, you can as well ask him to pay you for the time you spent dealing with the discomfort and inconvenience that come with your menstrual flow.



Lastly, you said "provision is easy" and you'd prefer being the breadwinner over getting pregnant and giving birth and house chores Well, when a woman denounces her natural disposition as a nurturer, prospective mother and caregiver and rather prefers that which nature bequeaths to a man, then we have the psychological problem of identity crisis and gender dissatisfaction disorder.

ShaqFu:
Chai! And the postman just delivered a post! Good lord.

Greetings, the one and only _Shaqfu!

It's been a while, bro.

GhostWisperer:
I don't know why all these dispossessed Zulu princes keep looking for their crown of shame in a Nigerian forum.

Na Sunday be this!

GhostWisperer:
the governor is the number security officer of each state to start with.

Being a commissioner of police doesn't make you the owner of anywhere. He wasn't there on official duty. He was there to- use his fancy lying words- meet a "strategic partner" but we all know he's there for a social visit or party and at that point the normal checking-in should be observed.

Africans just love the power that comes with an office but not the responsibility and sacrifice.

I remember then, one would pay for a front seat in public transportation company from Port Harcourt to Lagos or Warri and a police man in uniform is a passenger as well will insist on having the front seat.

Same police will stop a private or commercial vehicles then and arrogantly demanded to be lifted along the road.

Yea with the uniform you can do no wrong

Yeah, it was barely a month ago, along Benin-Agbor express, when one soldier stopped me, I've passed their checkpoint by a few yards, and have hit the acceleration pedal. Only for this barely-literate and ill-trained soldier to horridly stop me.

I slowed down to a stop to hear what the Buffon from the barracks had to say. He wanted me to lift someone. It was a pointblank refusal. You could see the shock and disappointment and anger on his face.

Cursed souls.