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Is all about pushing boundaries

Akuruoulo:
u kwanu see world don finish u

Chilax...No keep yourself for the matter

Lol! Look who's talking

I don't get it, did it happen in plateau or Lagos?

Awesomefred32:
this is Nigeria

where your vote does 'nt count

In kano today, votes counted. They voted gandollar out sharpaly

[quote author=gebest post=76507013]government destroying government property[/quote

Quite unfortunate

bujebudanu1:
And she said she was 22 for the bbn

Haba! She actually use 32yrs while in the house

See mumu boy we wan sack him oga

PopeFlatino:
I bin dey respect this man until he left pdp

As an akwaibomite I no go lie the man been try as governor. But all his goodwill just loose effect after he joined apc. He's no longer seen as a man of dignity

Saintsami:
See this man?
yam indeed! But wait sir, which kind yam you be oo?

Water yam of course

Abegi who even listens to yours anymore. No wonder you hit rock bottom almost as soon as you were rising. sidon there dey let pride swallow you....nonsense

medexico:
That woman just went into oblivion

She just vanished out of the radar. She has always been a silent tough woman

[quote author=funmisticqueen post=75786750]Part 1- THE NARCISSIST.
Good day Nairalanders, I decided to start a series to help others in relationships to recognize red flags and seek help where necessary and also avoid placing themselves in such situations.

This series will be like an expose especially on some B personality types like narcissists, borderlines, sociopaths and psychopaths. The continuity of this series will be based on your feedback, so please share and comment, you may be helping someone.

Who is a narcissist? He/she is someone who has an excessive in or admiration of themselves simple. While everyone has some narcissistic Traits so that we have good self-esteem. It becomes pathological when you have narcissist qualities to high degrees and at the expense of others. These are the narcissists I am referring to. We’ll call tem Narcs for short.

Narcs are usually selfish, entitled (believe they are the best thing since sliced bread), grandiose (believe that they are bigger and greater than they are or someone they aren’t), arroga
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My dear thank you for bringing up this topic. I was a victim and unfortunately I gave him all the supply he'd need to feed his narcissistic disorder. I thank God I was able to walk away when I noticed the so called relationship was sapping away all of me, I was practically walking around with eye bags and a burdened heart. Plus the fact that he had a rustic temperament.
This is not a joke, be warned! If you're not stronghearted and patient enough to stay with such people, run for your life coz they have the ability to cut you to small sizes and possess every mechanism to damage you

[quote author=funmisticqueen post=75786750]Part 1- THE NARCISSIST.
Good day Nairalanders, I decided to start a series to help others in relationships to recognize red flags and seek help where necessary and also avoid placing themselves in such situations.

This series will be like an expose especially on some B personality types like narcissists, borderlines, sociopaths and psychopaths. The continuity of this series will be based on your feedback, so please share and comment, you may be helping someone.

Who is a narcissist? He/she is someone who has an excessive in or admiration of themselves simple. While everyone has some narcissistic Traits so that we have good self-esteem. It becomes pathological when you have narcissist qualities to high degrees and at the expense of others. These are the narcissists I am referring to. We’ll call tem Narcs for short.

Narcs are usually selfish, entitled (believe they are the best thing since sliced bread), grandiose (believe that they are bigger and greater than they are or someone they aren’t), arrogant, manipulative, shallow/superficial and most importantly lack empathy (do not consider other people's feelings). They constantly seek validation and have a need for continuous admiration by all to boost their self-esteem and ego because they can’t draw such from themselves. Any person, thing or environment that provides this ego boost in any form to the narcissist is termed “narcissist supply”. Status symbols like sports cars, wealth, beauty; a yes man or sidekick or arm candy, a beautiful lady in the midst of less pretty ones so that she stands out more and so on are prime examples of narc supply

Narcissism is a spectrum, but we will broadly classify them into two but keep in mind that they overlap. The overt narcissists and the covert narcissists. Overt narcissists are easier to spot. They are usually extroverts. Most CEOs and a certain president who called our country a shithole are prime examples. We all know that arrogant person who doesn’t care for other people’s feelings, or that high and mighty boss who doesn’t care or give you leave because your mother is ill. Or that bf/gf who always want to be the center of attraction, it has to be about them. When in a relationship with such a person they do anything to make themselves look good even belittling you and chipping away your self-esteem so that you want to be like them, it can go on for so long you don’t know what is real anymore. ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS ANYONE!
Covert narcissists are harder to spot, they have narcissist traits but hide it. They are experts of victim mentality, blame shifting, sabotaging and passive aggression. When in a relationship with such a person, you will always feel bad and not know why, everything seems perfect on the outside but something nags you and you can’t pinpoint the problem. If you feel such you might be in a relationship with a covert narc. They will make you feel bad on your birthday, or show fake concern if you are overweight. Some spiritual leaders, marriage counselors and therapists are prime examples, when you got to them they throw it back at you and tell you the problem is your fault. A covert narc may apologize for wrong doing, and promise to change but will go back to old habits soon after.

Narcs are not capable of sustaining deep intimate relationships where give and take is involved. They take and take until the giver is half of themselves. The relationship becomes 11/2 = 1/2 instead of 1=1 and sadly Nigerian upbr

But why should you be? I thought that's how you guys prefer them "hot" slay queens

dkronicle:
chai umu buhari egbugo nwannem . But emi, after you encounter injuries you still went back.. Chai May God give your loved once the strength to bear your loss. Last week i lost a school friend that was just recruited to this Naija Army. This war of BOKO Haram will not stop until Nigeria start practicing true federalism or if she divides ..

He is a soldier, he didn't choose to go back. In army you're called to duty by superiors and there no excuses not to do as you're commanded. In army you obey before complain. Pray for the repose of his soul. May his gentle soul rest in God's bosom

SamuelAnyawu:
Yes you know him so well Really Sad

HA! We cant question God. But we have truely lost a fine gentleman. May his gentle soul rest in God's bosom.

SamuelAnyawu:
I Can't stop Crying. I never believed I'll loose you same day we were both in Rann discussing how we are going to meet again a during our annual break in Makurdi... Never believed it was the same day you going to leave earth Yawe my Friend.

Yea everyone is saying I should give a testimony and thanksgiving that I left Rann on Heli an hour before the attack. But I don't give a Bleep. I lost loved ones who sacrificed in our Humanitarian Response in Rann. it's really painful bro.

I really miss you Yawe Son... from the streets of Makurdi we grew up down to Our hussle in the Northeast. The Rann Team will surely Miss you.

RIP Yawe Son

RIP Doctor Kachi

RIP To all Gallant Mobile Force personnel.


RIP to all Gallant Soldiers.



I'm Speechless

Oh God! Please can it be true? Yawe Son from Benue a tiv was my senior in Unmaid. A fine jovial guy, married with two lovely kids? Why oh why? He's so young with his whole life still ahead of him. God....am speechless. I still can't believe it.

Winners72:
Some stupid fans will now be fighting because of them.

That is ehn. You can imagine the Inconsequential things freaks people this days. It makes me wonder honestly

[quote author=MhizAJ post=65458995]They look alike
Genny is really beautiful

That's her brother

No African country on the list. Na was oh. This continent needs to buckle up less be left behind

Its really a wonderful thing they did. I hope we upgrade to that level one day but as for now, I believe we should pray for better and a more improved, humane health care first before wishing for mini fancy cars to transport our children to surgery theatre.

Coz as far as am concern some hospitals in nija don't even have surgery rooms or improved hospital facilities sef

Democrat1c:
This show is empty and bland. Lacks everything needed to fix this drowning nation. Misplaced priorities.

Exactly bros...abeg collect plenty thumbs up! Its really true what you say. You've just spoken exactly what's on my mind. Organisers should have planned it in a way that most of what is done in the house is geared towards our current situation in nija. Instead all I see is sexuality and pretense.

Whao! I can't believe there's even an excuse for such incompetence. God help nija oh!

petsam11:
Lol! This woman is very funny!

What's funny about it?

ELgordo:
Ovoko!

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If you can assist but you don't want to because you're afraid of some future commitment then I think you're being selfish coz in as much as both of you ain't married yet her family is also yours.

If she's been nice, loving and supportive like you say its her mother's favour is what you should be doing willingly if it won't put a hole in your pocket.

You should understand that there are some ladies who don't make unnecessary demands from their spouse. Her mother feels the need to ask for help and you in turn could feel that need if you can afford to without and complain

Before nkor? Na poor common man she go marry?

[quote author=Sapiosexuality post=65022567]Everything is a joke in this country. When we ought to be angry we turn the entire episode to sarcasm.

Money stolen that should in any civilised country warrant outrage, here we give sarcasm instead.

The senseless men in the army kill us and we make sarcasms and jokes out of their stupidity.

A president tells us his wife belongs to the other rooms, we turn the whole thing around and create sarcasm. Nzuzu!

Perhaps, we turn it to joke coz we know even if we're angry and outraged about it NOTHING can still be done about stopping it. So people joke about it to cope with it

unitysheart:
Any person disturbing himself about election no get better work.

Them don vote 2019 election down.

Exactly...that's why this PVC power noise no dey even bother me. The next presido don already set