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Re: Should I Stay Or Leave?- Recognising Red Flags In Relationships by sexygullet(f): 9:29pm On Feb 16, 2019 |
Mine is even worst,in d lng run am jus so fed nd tired of d relatnship. |
Re: Should I Stay Or Leave?- Recognising Red Flags In Relationships by ozonechrome: 9:36pm On Feb 16, 2019 |
coolestofall: It's not. We have female narcissists too. When you end up with them peace leaves your life. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Stay Or Leave?- Recognising Red Flags In Relationships by Nobody: 9:40pm On Feb 16, 2019 |
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Re: Should I Stay Or Leave?- Recognising Red Flags In Relationships by MissJoy29(f): 10:08pm On Feb 16, 2019 |
LordKO:Ok....I get you. I'm also tired. But let me get these straight: 1) are you saying that character and personality are different? 2) if the answer to 1 above is "yes" ,are you saying that personality can be affected by zodiac/astrological signs but not character? You skipped the question on the last quote. |
Re: Should I Stay Or Leave?- Recognising Red Flags In Relationships by Erums(m): 10:32pm On Feb 16, 2019 |
Following topic
.. We all got some narc trait in us |
Re: Should I Stay Or Leave?- Recognising Red Flags In Relationships by Erums(m): 10:34pm On Feb 16, 2019 |
UyaiIncomparabl: Damnnnnn... Blunt |
Re: Should I Stay Or Leave?- Recognising Red Flags In Relationships by IamPlato(m): 10:34pm On Feb 16, 2019 |
UyaiIncomparabl:Victorian UyaiIncomparabl! Oya both Should Settle Your fight... You Both Should Make Up With A Kiss. |
Re: Should I Stay Or Leave?- Recognising Red Flags In Relationships by LordKO(m): 10:34pm On Feb 16, 2019 |
MissJoy29: 1) Yes. There's a big difference between character and personality. 2) Yes, personality has ALMOST everything to do with zodiac and astrological signs - however, it can be altered. You'll understand this better if you've an in-depth knowledge about metaphysics. Meanwhile, I intentionally skipped the last question on the last quote. . . Your aura is quite great. 4 Likes |
Re: Should I Stay Or Leave?- Recognising Red Flags In Relationships by openmine(m): 10:58pm On Feb 16, 2019 |
Life would have been so easy for some folks on this thread if they learnt how to mind their business!! |
Re: Should I Stay Or Leave?- Recognising Red Flags In Relationships by generationz(f): 11:03pm On Feb 16, 2019 |
[quote author=solasoulmusic post=75795247]First of all I don’t label people and also I’ve learnt to come from a place of love we all have our personalities and what I focus on is how can we work together to make it work first things first is recognizing and also finding a way to let them know how their actions affect yours I wouldn’t even know a narcicist because I’m not there to be your psychiatrist I’m there to be a friend a lover and a wife I can talk with you and leave everything open for you to share your heart with me but I’m not into labels I just love. [/qarm.] From your comment you sound like an empathy your type are the number one victims of narcissists. They search you out like vampires search for blood. They like your type because you always want to see good in people and cant quickly recognize them for who they are. Only after years of being broken and battered will you be capable of living them for good. Being a narcissist is like loosing an arm in an accident. You can get an artificial arm but it can never be like a real arm you can't change one. Read up on it extensively and if you ever meet one RUN 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Stay Or Leave?- Recognising Red Flags In Relationships by SirMichael1: 11:44pm On Feb 16, 2019 |
UyaiIncomparabl: You mean superiority complex?? Don't go about typing things you know little about, alright? Now if you'll stop being rash, I'll love to school you. Again. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Stay Or Leave?- Recognising Red Flags In Relationships by Nobody: 11:55pm On Feb 16, 2019 |
[quote author=generationz post=75807463][/quote] Lol no problem so be it then I just can’t with all life’s problems add somebody’s psycho analysis to the equation that’s all we all go through tough times but our job is to love them and discover ways to make up for that negative part It’s a cycle you can join those painting fingers or be the love you seek |
Re: Should I Stay Or Leave?- Recognising Red Flags In Relationships by Emanodimo(m): 12:08am On Feb 17, 2019 |
sassysure: Well, u are lucky the man doesn't get his own pound of flesh before you married. Ladies have needs that only a man can fulfil. Dating or getting into relationship is like a life changing thing for some ladies. Love revolves around money.....Fine ....Some ladies like you have also fall into the ditch of guyz. Nurse yourself till you married before making some ridiculous demands...... His own parent nurse him to be where he is. Nobody is interested in wasteful investment or govt project like some ladies . |
Re: Should I Stay Or Leave?- Recognising Red Flags In Relationships by Emanodimo(m): 12:15am On Feb 17, 2019 |
[quote author=sassysure post=75787495]Thumbs up girl Lovely topic. I dated one. So hard to break up with such people. Guilty conscience will swallow u up. So manipulative. When I finally decided it's over(after failing more than 10 times to call off the relationship) The type that will want to see the justification for the extra 10kobo u spent while shopping to prepare his meal as a visitor from far. His money don't ever go into a project he will Never be the major beneficiary. I had my pound of flesh when I wanted to leave finally. As spending his money is not an option unless it's a biz proposition, I brought one to him and he fall for it. Taking his money was to tell him that I kept calm and cool for long not because I don't know what to do but I was hoping he can change a little. Tracked me down after my marriage with treats but friends told him to respect himself. Started stalking me endlessly. All my social media accounts. This time around we can start from where we stopped but as married people. The wife is feeling the heat. He was mad that I can boldly reject him, I mean this guy is hawt and he knows it. He has the qualifications, status and background and babes flock around him. So he sees himself as Elvis Presley. So charismatic outside. U are lucky . No one is interested in wasteful investment or one govt project . Nurse yourself till you marry. Dont booked him down, not ur Dad. |
Re: Should I Stay Or Leave?- Recognising Red Flags In Relationships by ubunja(m): 12:28am On Feb 17, 2019 |
MariaLavina:it's funny cause they admit The Narc gets their pussy, yet they expect him to stop doing what he's doing. I laugh 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Stay Or Leave?- Recognising Red Flags In Relationships by ubunja(m): 12:32am On Feb 17, 2019 |
sassysure:The Dark Triad personality OP speals of is mainly in men. To a guy fvcking IS ALWAYS A BIG DEAL. that's why you women are so lost. To us men ITS ALWAYS ABOUT THE PUSSY. 1 Like |
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Re: Should I Stay Or Leave?- Recognising Red Flags In Relationships by Nipeks(m): 2:11am On Feb 17, 2019 |
MissJoy29: Listen Zodiac sign personality suggestion is simply a manifestation of the law of probability. It does not do what it claims it does and there is nothing sophisticated about it (except for the simple minded). Statistics says there are 7.5 billion people on this planet. That means more than half a billion people were born the same month as you. Scorpio and other zodiac signs consists of just few lines of personality traits summary. So it makes sense that out of 625,000,000 people there will be millions of people that will possess those traits and you just happen to be one of those people by chance. There are millions others born the same time that do not have these traits. Confirmation bias is the tendency to search for, interpret, favor, and recall information in a way that confirms one's preexisting beliefs or hypotheses. It is a type of cognitive bias and a systematic error of inductive reasoning. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Confirmation_bias Just look at the other Zodiac signs sincerely and see if you won't find other signs that speaks about you, just as much as the Scorpio sign does. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Stay Or Leave?- Recognising Red Flags In Relationships by faithfull18(f): 2:28am On Feb 17, 2019 |
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Re: Should I Stay Or Leave?- Recognising Red Flags In Relationships by Nobody: 3:38am On Feb 17, 2019 |
[quote author=generationz post=75807463][/quote]you said the plain truth. The post is actually for people like her, ignorance is no excuse |
Re: Should I Stay Or Leave?- Recognising Red Flags In Relationships by Preshy561(f): 4:18am On Feb 17, 2019 |
Deicide:Narcissist without money? If you are broke and a narcissist, the lady might endure for a while, but will get fed up on the long run, we are humans. And if you have money, she stays cos of the money and leaves you later when she gets whatever she wants. Everyone has a breaking point and most narcissist hardly have a long lasting relationship. My first turn off is being a narcissist, I swear I will have nothing to do with you. |
Re: Should I Stay Or Leave?- Recognising Red Flags In Relationships by Pratiba(f): 6:06am On Feb 17, 2019 |
[quote author=funmisticqueen post=75786750]Part 1- THE NARCISSIST. Good day Nairalanders, I decided to start a series to help others in relationships to recognize red flags and seek help where necessary and also avoid placing themselves in such situations. This series will be like an expose especially on some B personality types like narcissists, borderlines, sociopaths and psychopaths. The continuity of this series will be based on your feedback, so please share and comment, you may be helping someone. Who is a narcissist? He/she is someone who has an excessive in or admiration of themselves simple. While everyone has some narcissistic Traits so that we have good self-esteem. It becomes pathological when you have narcissist qualities to high degrees and at the expense of others. These are the narcissists I am referring to. We’ll call tem Narcs for short. Narcs are usually selfish, entitled (believe they are the best thing since sliced bread), grandiose (believe that they are bigger and greater than they are or someone they aren’t), arrogant, manipulative, shallow/superficial and most importantly lack empathy (do not consider other people's feelings). They constantly seek validation and have a need for continuous admiration by all to boost their self-esteem and ego because they can’t draw such from themselves. Any person, thing or environment that provides this ego boost in any form to the narcissist is termed “narcissist supply”. Status symbols like sports cars, wealth, beauty; a yes man or sidekick or arm candy, a beautiful lady in the midst of less pretty ones so that she stands out more and so on are prime examples of narc supply Narcissism is a spectrum, but we will broadly classify them into two but keep in mind that they overlap. The overt narcissists and the covert narcissists. Overt narcissists are easier to spot. They are usually extroverts. Most CEOs and a certain president who called our country a shithole are prime examples. We all know that arrogant person who doesn’t care for other people’s feelings, or that high and mighty boss who doesn’t care or give you leave because your mother is ill. Or that bf/gf who always want to be the center of attraction, it has to be about them. When in a relationship with such a person they do anything to make themselves look good even belittling you and chipping away your self-esteem so that you want to be like them, it can go on for so long you don’t know what is real anymore. ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS ANYONE! Covert narcissists are harder to spot, they have narcissist traits but hide it. They are experts of victim mentality, blame shifting, sabotaging and passive aggression. When in a relationship with such a person, you will always feel bad and not know why, everything seems perfect on the outside but something nags you and you can’t pinpoint the problem. If you feel such you might be in a relationship with a covert narc. They will make you feel bad on your birthday, or show fake concern if you are overweight. Some spiritual leaders, marriage counselors and therapists are prime examples, when you got to them they throw it back at you and tell you the problem is your fault. A covert narc may apologize for wrong doing, and promise to change but will go back to old habits soon after. Narcs are not capable of sustaining deep intimate relationships where give and take is involved. They take and take until the giver is half of themselves. The relationship becomes 11/2 = 1/2 instead of 1=1 and sadly Nigerian upbr |
Re: Should I Stay Or Leave?- Recognising Red Flags In Relationships by Pratiba(f): 6:20am On Feb 17, 2019 |
[quote author=funmisticqueen post=75786750]Part 1- THE NARCISSIST. Good day Nairalanders, I decided to start a series to help others in relationships to recognize red flags and seek help where necessary and also avoid placing themselves in such situations. This series will be like an expose especially on some B personality types like narcissists, borderlines, sociopaths and psychopaths. The continuity of this series will be based on your feedback, so please share and comment, you may be helping someone. Who is a narcissist? He/she is someone who has an excessive in or admiration of themselves simple. While everyone has some narcissistic Traits so that we have good self-esteem. It becomes pathological when you have narcissist qualities to high degrees and at the expense of others. These are the narcissists I am referring to. We’ll call tem Narcs for short. Narcs are usually selfish, entitled (believe they are the best thing since sliced bread), grandiose (believe that they are bigger and greater than they are or someone they aren’t), arroga [color=#990000][/color] My dear thank you for bringing up this topic. I was a victim and unfortunately I gave him all the supply he'd need to feed his narcissistic disorder. I thank God I was able to walk away when I noticed the so called relationship was sapping away all of me, I was practically walking around with eye bags and a burdened heart. Plus the fact that he had a rustic temperament. This is not a joke, be warned! If you're not stronghearted and patient enough to stay with such people, run for your life coz they have the ability to cut you to small sizes and possess every mechanism to damage you 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Stay Or Leave?- Recognising Red Flags In Relationships by Nobody: 8:36am On Feb 17, 2019 |
ubunja:Educate yourself young man, great men has been conquered and rendered useless because fuccking is always a big deal to them. The deadliest weapon on earth is a woman's vj. Don't get carried away, it will consume you and render you useless. Have u heard that a potent jazz always restrict the bearer from having sexx? Ponder on the reason. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Stay Or Leave?- Recognising Red Flags In Relationships by craigdallestar: 10:30am On Feb 17, 2019 |
Nipeks: I think astro zodiac signs are pretty accurate ( except when the rumors came about that 13th sign that threw me out of place, but i didn't believe it) ! Ive read tons of books, better than online stuff some times, trust man! |
Re: Should I Stay Or Leave?- Recognising Red Flags In Relationships by Nipeks(m): 11:17am On Feb 17, 2019 |
craigdallestar: Good for you. |
Re: Should I Stay Or Leave?- Recognising Red Flags In Relationships by MissJoy29(f): 11:49am On Feb 17, 2019 |
LordKO:Unfortunately, I don't know about metaphysics. So we can comfortably agree that yes, personality has a relationship with zodiac signs. I figured you did. Just as you did again. Good morning. |
Re: Should I Stay Or Leave?- Recognising Red Flags In Relationships by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 11:58am On Feb 17, 2019 |
SirMichael1: NO. You always claim to know too much. Narcissists have an inferiority complex with all people. In particular, narcissists are jealous of anyone and everyone, any time they see someone having something desirable. Because of their high sense of entitlement, they think that, regardless of what the thing is, it should be them that has the thing, not you. This jealousy must be unconscious, because to consciously be jealous would be to acknowledge inferiority. Consciously a narcissist will not acknowledge inferiority. Part of their complex is a feeling of superiority, which is necessary for them to feel special. 4 Likes |
Re: Should I Stay Or Leave?- Recognising Red Flags In Relationships by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 11:59am On Feb 17, 2019 |
SirMichael1: Come and school me, teacher. I'll be gladly waiting. |
Re: Should I Stay Or Leave?- Recognising Red Flags In Relationships by Raalsalghul: 12:01pm On Feb 17, 2019 |
IamPlato:Dude let them be. Their beefs makes for entertainment for us the bored lot. 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Stay Or Leave?- Recognising Red Flags In Relationships by MissJoy29(f): 12:14pm On Feb 17, 2019 |
Nipeks:Oh trust me when I say zodiac sign readings are accurate to a fault. I'm an ardent follower. Know why? 98% of their predictions about me are correct. Remember, that is my default behaviour as I call it. However, there are external factors that can influence this go-to behaviour. While this means that those readings aren't set in stone, it however doesn't negate the fact that they are accurate a lot of the times. And I'm not just basing all these on my own personal experiences. I have met people of same sign with me. I have also met people from other signs & the descriptions match. So yes, there could be thousands of people who act like you. After all, there are notable people who are known to be of a particular sign. If you are same sign with them, you could study them to know if they behave like you. Finally, just like in temperament blends, it's possible you see traces of yourself in other blends or sign here as the case may be. But if a particular sign (or blend) describes you 95% & you see 10% or even less traces of yourself in other signs(or blend), which would you go with? Btw, I'm not a scorpio. Although it's a good sign for me as it's said my sign is 89% compatible with them. Wanna argue with it? |
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