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Hibiscus62:
Hi nairlanders, I need your help.

I started having cough seven days ago and I as well took some over the counter medications to sooth it (Erythromycin, Augmentin and a liquid one) . But it seems while I take the medications, the cough worsens especially at night. The cough is very dry and doesn't produce anything and it's mostly triggered by a funny sensation at the back of my throat.

I don't really experience any other symptom apart from loss of appetite.
I'm afraid of going to the hospital to avoid being kept in the isolation center for the suspicion/fear of covid.
Could this truly be Covid?
What should I do?

Mods, please my post needs a wide view.

Metrix147:
A renowned Interpol Systems Consultant in Africa, Sir Chikwe Udensi has condemned the refusal of Abia State governor, Dr Okezie Ikpeazu to arm the Ebubeagu security outfit in the state, describing it as an ordinary club.

The state government had claimed that it contravenes the use of the firearms Act to arm a state-owned security outfit, insisting that it is an exclusive right of the federal government to legislate on the use of firearms.

It says Ebubeagu was put in place to man the forests across Abia from where it will be gathering intelligence to support the police and other agencies carrying out their functions.

A check by ABN TV however revealed that despite not having a federal backing, Amotekun the South West regional security arrangement bears arms which some analysts have attributed to why it is achieving success in protecting people and farmlands in the region.

Responding to the Abia State government's stand, however, Udensi a chieftain of APGA in a political programme on Love FM Umuahia, Open Parliament monitored by ABN TV faulted the government's decision not to arm Ebubeagu, insisting that any security outfit not equipped with arms will not achieve its aims.

He condemned what he called the failure of Southeast Governors to properly finance and coordinate the operations of Ebubeagu to protect people of the region and farmlands from invasion from external forces.

"It is strange to us in security. What we require is robust, visible operations, not those having android phones, and be making calls from the forest.

"We ought to have very comprehensive, visible security outfit massively entrenched in the forests.

"There is a lead way for us to take. Amotekun is taking same. Any security outfit that bears no arms is no security outfit. It might be a club or something...

"Arm is very important in security. It helps in creating the desired result. We cannot leave our heads in the sands and majority of our bodies outside, living like an ostrich. That is very wrong" he cautioned.

He, therefore, called on governor Ikpeazu to device means to arm Ebubeagu to aid its operations.

Source: https://abntv.com.ng/2021/08/udensi-tackles-ikpeazu-over-refusal-to-arm-ebubeagu-says-security-outfits-ordinary-club/

Suspect33:
I'm still waiting to see how the office of V.P has improved the lives of the Yoruba people, bcus that's the sole reason they voted this failure of a president twice

Isn't it an irony how the self acclaimed most education people in the country were played by the perceived dumb people

Unlettered:
Lady, i dont really see the issue here to be frank with you. Agreed he should have also made the changes from his brother to your name. But that doesnt change anything for the love he has for you. As you mentioned earlier that communication is part of it and he gave you a reason why he doesnt need to change his which you termed as flimsy.

As he also stated, eventually when kids come into your lives there will be yet another adjustment to their names as next of kin. Be happy that you have a happy home. What works for family A doesnt necessarily need to work for family B. Do what works for you. If not changing it to your name makes him feel peace and you using his name as next of kin makes you feel at peace then so be it. You dont know who’ll be the first to die, so regardless. Do what works for you.

Some households dont have those convos and yet they have a happy home. Someday he might realise he needs to change it and will do so at his own time. You did yours at your own time. To me this is not betrayal but choice. Unless if there is an alterior motive behind you insisting he must change it. Let it go

spritedmalcomx:
Please am trying to get some electrical materials at onisha.

And I will like some one to link me up with a shop over there or a seller

Matins001:
Good morning nairalanders..how was your night?I hope you are all good?i’m making this new account to share what I’m going through in my relationship...I feel we are all brothers and we can all talk things out.
I’ve being in relationship with this girl for more than a year now and I’m actually planning to marry her...an issue came up sometimes last week about her talking to her ex everyday...they chat every now and then...the whole thing just started this year...she wasn’t even talking to him when we start dating..so this year they start chatting heavily and it’s really giving me alot of concern...so we had an issue over this...and I ask her why would she be chatting with her ex in a flirty way...saying different kind of dirty things and sending different kind of stickers to themselves..so I told her I’m not comfortable with all this...she have to rid of that..she said okay she’s gonna do as I say...,so to cut the long story short...she’s having an issue with her bank and I decide to follow her..so when we get to the bank I had to take her phone and show the bank customer care to know where the problem is..not long the guy messaged entered again...I have to give her the phone back and when I got the phone back she had put an Face ID on it..so I was just surprised what’s going on..I was very angry and sad..so I just decide that once we get home I’m gonna take my bath and just go out cuz I don’t want any further problems..cuz she stays with me for now due to some issue she’s having in her house..she then went further and hide the key..so I ask her to give me the key...I tried getting the key from her and the next thing that landed on my face was a big dirty slap...I had to calm down cus I don’t beat or touch ladies..she slapped me almost 3 times..and even bite me...I told her I need to go out and eat cuz I’m empty..she was only calling me different kind of names..I’m an animal,I’m useless...not minding all what have done for her and she was still chatting with that ex in my face when we are still having this argument,..I just struggled with the key and just have to leave the house yesternight..and the next thing I see was that she was crying and kneeling down begging...and would still repeat it again...so I have to leave the house..but sincerely I really don’t know what to do..cuz her mom keep calling me and begging me to settle things with her...and I really don’t want to do that anymore..nairalanders please I need your advice..don’t mind my Grammars..Thanks in advance..no insult please...all I need is your advice.

chrisblack:
did you take your time to read the said article?I always wonder why many of you find it difficult reading stuff before shooting your mouth tatata. He never said he was born in onitsha.
I have read this story before. The Apams family are there. If there is any doubt . Ask the Apams family. Why saying it's false .even there are pictorial evidences as claimed

Ctorch:
Nnamdi Azikiwe was an Ijaw Man, The hidden truth by Igbos Up till Thisday

Heroes Of Ijaw Nation.

THE UNTOLD STORY
The First Nigerian President Dr Nnamdi Azikiwe ( 1904- 1996) was indeed an enigma of no less order. His towering personality makes him to be the greatest Nigerian ever in history. But Who was Dr Nnamdi Azikiwe? Who was his true biological father? What if all that the public knows about him was the untold truth? Then there is the raging question of who truly owns a child? Is it the Mother or the Father? Some traditions require that the man has to fulfill his marital obligations to lay claim to a child! But others are lenient in such issues.
In considering the aforementioned posers about one’s Fatherhood, let’s concede the fact that fatherhood is not just blood, but a responsibility. No one can reasonably lay claim to a child one abandoned only to return years later for the same child, cared for by a single mother. That would be insensitive! That is not morally right.
But the question here is, what if the man was not allowed access to his son because tradition says he should not? What about the culture that says it is not the man but the woman that owns a child if the man failed to perform his marital vows?

In which case, she left with the child and got married to another man who fostered him and trained him to achieve his educational dreams, only for the child to find out the truth that his biological father is somewhere. What would be his reactions? How could he tell that the man whom he thought all his life to be his father was not his biological father? And that his father was somewhere else!
The heart of a woman is truly a deep blue sea of secrets!
That for Zik’s Mother to tell him the truth about his origin, the boy had to wait until the time was right. He must know his roots, for that was his spiritual freedom, but he must be trained to accept the fact he had gone too far in the journey of life to return home to his father.
She had told him, the story of her youth, and the love of her life, about that handsome dark tall Ijaw fellow whom she met at Agbere in some decades ago during when both of them were working at the Royal Niger Company. She was a staff, and he was a carpenter. They met and fell in love, and one thing led to another. Then she was naive about her culture and tradition, thinking love was all that mattered in the whole world. She became pregnant but the man was struggling to make it in life and was not ready for a child. A misunderstanding ensued and she left with the pregnancy.
Years after, their paths crossed again at Onitsha where he was a fisherman. But this time she was carrying his baby, and when he saw the baby, he saw a reflection of himself; from the dark colour to his facial features. He apologized and promised to marry her, but she was already married. He came too late.

She had already named him Benjamin, but that was later changed by the boy when he realized the truth about his paternity to ‘ Nnamdi’ meaning ‘ My father is somewhere’. And that was how Pa Lewis Apam lost the battle of life and his love to an Onitsha man. And so, she left and returned no more. Sadly, that was the last time he set his eyes on his biological son until the boy grew up and became the president of Nigeria.
But God is dynamic in answering the prayers of men. According to the story made available by the family, Chief Ezonbodo in his political journey came across Dr Nnamdi Azikiwe, and when he introduced himself as an Ijaw man from Agbere town, immediately their blood bond was rekindled. They were brothers from the same bloodline. Dr Zik sent for his father Chief Lewis Apam, and when Hon. Ezonbodo Ninetry brought the two together, they were indeed identical. Dr Zik saw himself in a mirror as his biological father stood before him.
Thereafter, they became close. The lost relationship between Father and son was restored. Dr Zik in the name of politics visited his Father’s place Agbere more than twice and spent a night or two. He took his father to Lagos in his house, most of the time until the man died. He knows his siblings and half brothers, like the great footballer Onyekachi Justice Apam’s father who was equally married to an Igbo woman from Abia state. Today, many has mistaken the great Nigerian footballer as an Igbo man, but he is Ijaw by origin, paternally. In his case, his father fortunately had paid the marital vows of his wife, so the children were free to announce their father’s name Mr Apam proudly anywhere, even though his name Onyekachi could be misleading as the public most times thought he is an Igbo man.

But that was not the case of the Great Zik of Africa. His case was different. He had to consider his society, the Igbo society he had come to be associated with to make his political name and fame. Again, he had to consider the good man who married his mother and adopted him as his son. Again, the larger world that looked upon him as a man with a perfect childhood and upbringing. No, he couldn’t handle the controversies. After all, what is life without dignity, without power, without honour?
And he was not a Moses to have traded all these things for merely an origin of birth. No way, let history set the records straight, when I am gone, he must have thought. But to a large extent, it was not a secret. The entire Ijaw leadership knew the story, both home and abroad. He sponsored his brother Chief Ezonbodo Ninetry politically as a first generation politician that he was seen as a demi-god in the whole of Western Ijaw Division.
The Ijaws celebrated their son Dr Nnamdi when he was alive until the day he died. Interestingly that was the lost Ijaw son who became an Igbo man by tradition.
To many, it is no longer relevant, after all, some truths are better left unsaid, especially when it has lost its relevance and time. But what is life anyway, if not to relive the memories we share with our loved ones. Apart from that, like every tribe with their own traditions and cultures, so is the Ijaw man’s culture, forbidden him to be part of a secret, merely for the sake of the living who lives in secrecy all our lives. According to the tradition of the Ijaw man, it is a taboo for one to bury a man with his secret. Such secret could be kept, but not when the man has died. For in death, the spirit of man is pure before his Creator, and every other worldly desires are purged, including his many covered up secrets.
Ironically, tradition holds the living responsible for not saying it, for by saying it, you are freeing the soul of the dead from eternal destruction, if you don’t the spirit in the life beyond suffers in damnation. Reasons being, that it is only in life that greed, lust of power, envy, and all material things are needed. But in the spirit, when the flesh has given up its grip on the soul of a man, he becomes free. As such, all that’s needed is the truth, nothing but the truth- which is Ijo in meaning.

Hence, it is our obligation to honour our blood brother, father, uncle, who in life had taken the effort to be identified with his people the best he could as a human being. He may not be perfect by not changing his foster name, but he was a good man to the Ijaws, and there is no way one can make good and enemy of perfection.
And when he died, the Ijaws in London equally saw a reason to celebrate him as their own in grand style.

Though his silence on the matter was understandable. But think about it, how could the President of Nigeria, the greatest personality with the self appellation ‘ Zik of Africa’ be a man of double origin? That his true full-blooded biological father was an Ijaw man? Of course, that could bring some considerable shame to his public image and ego. Therefore he hoped to carry the secret to the grave. But ironically it was not a secret to his brothers of Agbere town.
Sadly that is the world in which we live, and has been raised, a cruel tradition that denies a father from his son simply because one could not meet up the rites demanded of him. Strangely the life of a man is policed daily by traditions- they over rule our actions and stories.
Strange enough, for one to know that Dr Nnamdi Azikiwe was a son of his mother who later identified his roots with the great ijaw tribe as his paternal home, one could see it through his actions.

The Owele of Onitsha built his University at Nsuka instead of Onitsha. He equally built his beautiful home, the Onuye Haven in his mother’s place instead of Onitsha, place of his fostered father. All things point to one direction, he was truly a son of his mother, and in all his life, he knew his father was somewhere. He secretly worshiped him and held that memory dearly to his heart. It pained him to know all these things yet he could not say it, and that made him sad, and such, was holding those grudges against the world.

Interestingly, family sources further confirmed that before the demise of Lewis Apam (his father), Dr Nnamdi Azikiwe directed his father with financial provisions to build a house for him in his home town of Agbere. This was a registration of undeniable acceptability of his kinsmen. As a man of uncommon intellectual stamina and moral fervidness or audacity, the Great Zik of Africa realized that mother’s love is Supreme but father’s love is a bowel of strength and courage. But unfortunately the house project was overtaken by events.



Culled from the book: ‘Heroes of the Ijaw Nation’ Author, Gesikeme Akparakata

femi4:
No wonder you didn't graduate. 20 marks not 20 mark

femi4:
You only have yourself to blame

Stop playing the tribal card, you could have avoided this if

You were focus with your studies and party less

Not being a reckless driver

Juliearth:
Your story is very touching and I hope that all those people that carry friendship on their heads can learn from your experience.

Don't let this experience haunt you for life... Forgive all the parties involved, pick up what's left of your life and forge ahead. All the best to you!

HRSweetness:
Yes, say no to tribalism. Also say no to distractions from your goals, say no to reckless living, say no to peer pressure.

Most importantly, LEARN TO ACCEPT RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR ACTIONS.

From your narrative, you have carefully absolved yourself of any blame. You don't seem to see the role you played in all this. It seems you are a spoilt child, used to always having your way. Mummy and daddy are always available to fix your mess.

Well, this time you will have to face the consequences of your recklessness.

The way you even spell and write, at this level of education is appalling.

Grow up man cos life is more complex than your fantasy.
I Know ppl like you will always want to act as if you know all. For your information, my parents didn't pay any of my bill. And I was never spoilt as you claimed. What do you Know?

Dat2jo:
My wife's younger sister who is 19 came to stay with us. So last week I noticed movements anytime my wife is moaning and got to find out it's her sister who normally comes to peep through the key hole. So from three days back, I started leaving the door slightly open and position my wife in a way that her sis can now see my thing going in and out. I'm nervous to tell my wife but Its exciting for me. I just wish my wife would like what I'm thinking. I still don't want to risk it and jeopardize my marriage. Pls advise me.

OBALOLA55:
OBI OF ONITSHA IS NOT AN IGBO MAN, INFACT ONITSHA PEOPLE ARE FROM BENIN KINGDOM PERIODT.

YOU CAN AS WELL PROVE ME WRONG BY TELLING THE WHOLE WORLD THE MEANING OF AGBOGIDI IN IGBO LANGUAGE

SINCE UNA NOR FIT COVER UNA YANSH, MAKE I HELP UNA DEY EXPOSE AM FOR NAIRALAND