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Moana:
Master home-wrecker, did i not tell you i have a man?
Let me leave this thread before you scatter my own.

Which one u have? Home ko, hut Ni...

We both know u have no shop talk less of home.

We want to solve your issue for you, u r still forming.

Na TB Joshua go deliver u.

Next u will say husband is scarse

Moana:
uncle you can keep your STIs and issues to yourself. The only functional part in your body is between your legs, the brains probably retired before you reached purberty, so no thanks you cannot help me with anything meaningful.

Hmmm u dey shy abi.

Don't take our arguments personal

I can help u maintain your psy.

Ur gonna love it

Moana:
because that is all you are good for, no woman in a right mind wants to settle down with you. She was better off playing hard to get than ending up with a self-proclaiming ashawo. I clap for her because it was a blessing in disguise.

a man boasts about getting the right woman for him, a little boy boasts about the different girls he sleeps with which decent woman would not see "soon to be HIV patient" written on your forehead and not run away?

all i need is one man's body and heart not every random tom, dick and proxillin's STIs

i dont need a descent because i already have a decent one you have no one, loneliness is suffering you

It's easy recognize a solitary dck starved lady

Dildpdo can't be like the real meat.

I can help u....trust me

Moana:
didnt you say in a previous post that you don't need one? uncle get your own gf and face your own life


because my best friend (since we were 4years old ) knows i would never wash her dirty laundry for the amusement of it. Even when i dont particularly like who she is with, i wont make gist of her private life just to badmouth her man.

uncle you are a man! Behave like one, your busybody behaviour is not good!

I even wrote in my previous post that a lady was playing hard to get and I fcked her friend instead. U wont see that...reading is a problem.

I saw your posts...all I saw was sex objects dildos.

It shows u r dck starved.

U don't deserve a descent man. Agbero who will punch u up when u start ur argument will come ur way [size=8pt][/size]

Moana:
His family is his wife-to-be not some person who makes a case study out of his fiancee on a public forum for the world to see because he doesn't have his own to keep him busy with his life.

busybody like you, commot from here! As if your followed your mama to market place for gossip sessions.

no wonder why you have no one

you want to talk about 2 when you don't even have one kikikikiki



he is respected because respect is given to those who are respectable


insulting me will not make you less of an idiiotic friend that you are. Change you ways and some girl might want you and teach you how to mind your own business.

i only gave you advice but clearly it has offended you. But i will say it again, get you own love life and stop playing referee in other people's love lives the truth is rarely pute and never simple. Take it or leave it.

was i the one badmouthing my friend's wife-to-be with strangers online? Abeg pack well

i have friends and one thing i know is not to expose their affairs to random people, if i cannot personally i advice, i do not created threads about their affairs and start badmouthing their partners where any person in world can see. If is its behind their back or annoynmous it has it never made such behaviour any less wrong.

I don't have a girlfriend ? And r u a girlfriend to someone ? That person is an unfortunate being.


You don't understand the bound between us.

I have shared the link with him.

He is reading comments here.

So finally shutdafup.

Case close.

It is obvious u have no one. Who want to be part of a mentally deluded lady who behave like a rabid invested dog.

And by the way...u r more concerned in this story because it pained u...

Yes the lady is who.re like u...but she is now repentant unlike u

And no one has a prove u r with a man..haaaaaa

U even said it in your posts. You said u can do anything without letting ur guy kniow. It shows how irresponsible u r.

That's a trait of a single girl.

It's your type that say I prefer to be single.

I'm a proud single jajajaaaaaaa

Well...lower ur needless ego and get a man

U can't even keep a man with your behavior.

I just hope its not a family thingy

Some mofos saying I am exposing my friend. He is online now reading comment.

Biatches

Moana:
so because i didnt agree with you i nag?
Here is a list of what you need to do;

1. Dont be nosey
2. Mind your own business
3. Learn not to be prejudge people
4. Findyour own gf
5. Mind your own love life
6. Stop posting about your friends, because if they make up and one day get to see your posts. You will be the one they will end up diasspointed and angry with.

No you mind your business. Why poking your nose in my family issue.

If you have nothing to say shut up

Get a life and faithful with your man. Your man is so unfortunate.

I can't have 2 girlfriends. Cuz I'm not a cheat. Do the same.

Respect your man.

You being a LovePeddler has no value

Go to social media, read story and stop taking them personal

Many people come online as anonymous to seek for help. Saucy people like you will discourage them.

Maybe with your nagging arguing behavior, you have no friends. If u have a friend, when they call u to help, u will help.

Moana:
I only said that because you need someone to keep you out of other people's business and focus on your own.

Now that the 2 imperfect creatures have started communicating their issues to each other and admitting their wrongs to each other will you let them decide their way forward for the themselves without you deciding who is or isn't a saint between the 2 of them?


If they do move forward, and put this behind them, you will still be that nosey friend with a frontpage post about his friend on a public forum who doesnt know how to mind his own business because he doesnt have his own relationship to concerntrate on

I am not nosy. He is my friend and now a family.

I didn't post his name here. Even he might be sitting beside you and not knowing he is d one.

Social media posts like this is meant to sensitize people.

If any small brain is offended by the post she can honorably ignore the post or take a break from life.

This is a public forum ...no name or location was mentioned.

If a jobless eccentric feels offended she should go and die

Moana:
Next step your friend will continue with the marriage and have a decent married life and you will be the idiiotic friend that went around telling the business to whoever cared to listen and questioning her character where she is not even in a relationship with you?

shebi she is not a saint because she went for lunch with another guy but there is nothing questionable about your friend planning his extra-marital affairs before he even gets married? Has he also admitted he was wrong for that?

Find your own wife so you can mind your own business, you no go gree! Now it is your friends dirty linen you want to come wash for NL. Smh

They both guilty as simple as ABC

I'm exposing my friend out indeed. Someone that even wanted to call a radio program charlse B.

I am fully engaged. Do just fckin leave me out of the shiit.

I didn't complain to u dat I need a girl. Why fixated on me like a vampire.

U just need to work on your nagging skill cuz u will end up killing your husband

Moana:
Lol because a person went to eat food with someone the person has cheated only on nairaland do grown men reason like my nephew in kindergarten.

Maybe its just be but what makes going to a restaurant so special please?

She says otherwise. You can defend her. She admitted she was wrong. You can tell her she is not wrong.

The subject has admitted her wrong. Some feminist wackos are still here raising tantrum

[size=15pt]Funny enough before she admitted her wrong, she must have differentiated between going for to eat and going out on a date[/size]

hotwax:
Guy...the moment the lady did not receive the DJ call in front of the guy. Excusing the guy to pick the DJ call.

No need to say further. She is a cheat. She might have even fcked the DJ on many occasion.

This is marriage we are talking about here.

Only a lunatic patient will continue arguing there.

I dont want to listen to any explanation.

Business should be business. Romance should be romance.

You are organizing the wedding together, but the DJ is a secret one.

Walahi na girl go kill your friend.

People do change sha....When you meet them, talk to the girl very well....

Please dont forget to brief us on the outcome of the meeting.

Na tomorrow jare....I will surely update you guyes

Moana:
no you have proven that there is no difference. Let me go ask my flatmate to meet me by MacDonalds for a big mac, i hope she will go around telling people we went out on a date

did you not say bye to me a long time ago? So why are you still here?

You keep spewing rubbish on my tread. You know the lady is faulty, but feminic ego is what is making come to her side.

I will not let you derail my tread. I have a storyline here, go open yours and confuse people the way you want.

I wont come and argue with you there.

You can even tell them to go on lunch with all guys on their wedding day. They can even abandon their husband and go meet guys for lunch.

I have no problem with that. But this story, we caught her cheating. She didnt deny it too. But you are busy trying to help her deny it;.

Moana:
but your friend still wants to get married, so how does what your conclusion bring back the Chibok girls


Yet all i saw is your post on the first page is how he saw msgs of when they planned to meet at restaurant.

i need to ask my male friend now to take me to a restaurant so that i can tell everybody that he asked me out

There is difference between going to eat and going out on a date.

The DJ started asking her out for date. She agreed to meet the DJ for a date somewhere.

You know, but you just want argue as usual

Moana:
because thats what you decided to write instead of going out for a meal which is actually what happened? Does going out for a meal equal asking someone for a relationship?

[size=15pt]Thats the problem I have with you. You know the story more than I do.

FYI...,Before we concluded that she is cheating, we have seen a lot.

The DJ proposed to her. The DJ asked her out and she accepted. Thats why she too admitted and felt sober when she was caught.

The DJ is not at fault. The DJ only saw a single girl, so he is taking his chance

She engaged the DJ in flirty chat.
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The venue of their meeting is a restaurant.

Moana:
clearly i can come on NL and claim that a guy who asked me if i have a husband has asked me to marry him *sighs*

My point being you are confusing, going out for a meal with a friend with dating a person. There are 2 different things!!! If i go out for a meal with a friend must i come back and claim that he asked me out?

That is going out on a meal.

However, the story clearly says date;;;

The DJ started asking her out for date. She agreed to meet the DJ for a date somewhere.

hotwax:
The guy has the right to cheat too. So far nothing wrong in going to meet guys when your wedding is few days. After wedding, the guy has the right to start taking girls on dates too.

Date is not the same as cheating. So no need to fight over spilled milk.

Lobatan...

True jare. The guy is right. He can start dating girls too.

Date is not the same as cheating.

Moana:
okay uncle, i hope you will not become like the many hopeless cases we see on NL that don reach mid-life crisis without their own wives because they are busy minding everyone else's business apart from theirs.

Bye

Its my friend's issue..its my headache. Oh I love him so much. Just the way he take up my issue. You wont understand

By again...

By the way, its men's fault

Moana:
i already said its normal so long there is no inappropriate conduct and only an insecure man would make a tornado out of a breeze all in a bid to safeguard his fragile ego.

Did you just not say in an earlier post that you have taken advice by others? But now you want to talk about reading and digesting simple texts. Spirit of confusion dey worry you.

Is your friend still not insisting on getting married either way whether you think she is a saint or not. Why don't you mind you own business and go find your own wife?

Thank you for the bolded.
I take it as an advice and not an attempt to rewrite my story
Bye

hotwax:
What happened to all those advice u got on this post?

Plus my own ?

U mean I wasted my time.

Sorry guy,

My post was for opinion and not advice. i want to see what people think.

You didnt waste your time, I will them as your opinion.

But you didnt answer yes or NO.

Do I sound like I need advice when I already summoned them to sort the issue for them.

Moana:
but your friend still wants to continue with the wedding and you dont want to advise him to cancel the wedding either so whats the purpose of the thread again?

madam, I didnt ask for your help. I didnt ask for you advice.

I only ask a big question which is also the title of my post.

My question was:

"Is it normal for a lady to go out on a date with another guy just a month to her wedding?"

I dont know why its difficult for a grown adult to read and digest a simple text passage.

Not my fault jor


So my expectation is for you to say "She is right or not" Doing that will prevent this unnecessary argument.

Keep your advice. Answer the question.

If I need advice, I will say please advice

Moana:
so Mr man after proving the lady is not a saint why are you not advising him to cancel the marriage again? If there was an intention of reaching a sensible conclusion apart from proving that your friend's fiance is not a saint?

madam, I didnt ask for your help. I didnt ask for you advice.

I only ask a big question which is also the title of my post.

My question was:

[size=15pt]"Is it normal for a lady to go out on a date with another guy just a month to her wedding?"[/size]

I dont know why its difficult for a grown adult to read and digest a simple text passage.

Not my fault jor

Moana:
you first post says, he asked her why she was hiding things and she claimed that he was being jealous. Then he told her that he read her convo and the she admitted to meeting the guy in person.

Now you want to change the it to she denied it the first time then admitted afterwards. Im sorry, which one is the correct version of the story? Your first post or this one?

We are talking about someone assuming his fiancee is dating the DJ when he has not confronted any one of them about it and you want to compare that with a man that has already cheated where a baby mama and a child are solid evidence that he has cheated. How more illogical can you get? Are circumstances in both cases the same?

She didn’t tell the DJ she is actually the one wedding.
The DJ started asking her out for date. She agreed to meet the DJ for a date somewhere.

But my friend could not endure the whole thing again when the DJ started calling her repeatedly. They engage in confidential phone calls. She will be laughing…all Yes No Yes No Ok.. Ok hmmmm conversation, so that someone nearby will not understand what they are saying. At times she excuses my guy to go and pick the DJ’s call.

Moana says a cheating that doesnt result to a child is not dating.

I must catch her on the bed

or

She must be pregnant with a child before I can say she is cheating.

Sick logic

[quote author=Moana post=37082682]okay now that you have concluded that she is not a saint, why are you not keen on advising him to cancel the wedding then? confusion of the highest order. You are not here for any solution you just wanna play the blame game thats all.

Yes...I was right. We are here to blame female folks. I said it. This mentality was why you have not offered any sensible advice...Its a lie, its assumption...the guy is a rogue. Blahblah...so u have defended you female now. What else?

i am dating someone and he doesnt tell me every single thing he does right to when he used the toilet, but if he does something without my knowledge which i felt he should have told me, i will talk to him about it.

And when the guy challenged her for secretly talking with the DJ, you still claimed its assumption. So you dont tell him you are going on a date. This is the reason you have been arguing. Trying to convince yourself you were not cheating on your man. You have no other name but a pathetic cheat (sorry for that).

I will not be the idiiot who go around the streets screaming all manner of nonsense to whoever listens to care and still go back to the arms of the same person after that. I would sit down with him and communicate to him what i feel and what i think she be the way forward.

Easier said than done. You will sit him down after cheating and impregnating a girl outside. You will ask him way forward when damage is done. Whats the way forward? You accept the child as your step son.

I know the meaning and worth of my relationship i will therefore treat it like it means something not plot unnecessary revenge like a 5year old.

Not telling your guy your moves shows how cordial and precious your relationship is.

I will in return give him the opportunity to explain to me what happened and his explanation sounds convincing to me, we will move forward. If he continues to disregard how i feel after we had agreed on the way forward only then will i call it quits.

Its a pity the writeup is still there for you to read again. He challended her why she is doing dat, she first denied, but when she was presented evidence, became sober and admitted, but with the excuse that she had no intention of fcking the guy.

I believe in getting a solution and moving forward not making noise over what is irreversible, because it will not change what has already happened.

We can see the solution. Some people blamed the guy for the immature decision, yet they didnt take side with the girl. I love it. I am talking about sane people. But some, I wont mention name thinks the girl is right.

Why I am engaging and I will continue to engage you in this argument.

1. I want readers to be enlightened and not confused. Notion of you can go on a secret date with another guy days to your wedding is not condoned in any sane society. Yes adultry and furnication is now the order of the day. But we all know the right thing.

2. The lady is not a saint after admitting going out on a secret date with the DJ.

3. You can't repaint my story. Especially something I am fully involved in and the lady is now sobber. Even this lady has realized her mistake. But society lady like you will tell her has no fault.

And you wonder why divorce rates increase in Nigeria when you have 30year-old men with the IQ of a 5year old and the same person has to be trusted as the head of a family?

And instead of the society to help the 30 year old man, the society is busy trying to justify stinky moral. The guy is wrong on his decision. The lady is not a saint. Atimes our corrupt behaviors doesnt allow us to think like a mentally sane person.

Please whats the solution that everyone else came up with since you said you will not tell him to cancel the wedding?

You have problem with reading?


A million dollar question. Who wants to be a millionare

Question:

Do you inform your fiancee when going out on a date with another guy?

This is clearly going nowhere you obviously want to discuss the problem with no prospects of getting a solution.

People have proffered solution. You can start reading from page one for sensible comment. None is here arguing that the guy is assuming. The lady too admitted on going for a date, but she is not gonna fck. Every girl that goes on date always think they wont fck. they always say that. The whole world knows how it end up (not all dates sha)

Now what he has found out she met the guy without his knowledge, how will pondering on it solve anything? Yes she didn't inform him, but a mature person with the intelligence of a 5th grader will know that you move on to find out why something happened and how to resolve it.

She met the cake woman without his knowledge too, and they did business with the cake woman together. DJ must be an exception

Secondly the DJ was never a secret because the husband knew he was chatting with her on Whatsapp. So why are you concluding that he was a secret?

Thats why she will relocate to a secret location to pick the DJ's call. A wife niyen. You are right

I only came here to give my opnion not to defend anyone one. If you feel that crying over spilt milk makes more sense than finding a solution to a problem, then i will leave you to it. This has become pointless.

Please leave jor. Go with your confusion. The story is clear enough.

Moana:
im not hell bent on arguing again remind me why its so easy for your friend to decide that he will cheat after marriage than it is for him to sit down with his wife-to-be and DJ and tell them that he is not okay with them meeting without his knowledge?

Why is it easier for your friend to tell you all of this than it is for him to talk with the people he is really having issues with?

when he got to know about how they met did she not own up to just meeting him casually? You are the one hell bent on just getting a pity party on a public instead of resolving the real issue. So tell me after 13pages on nairaland, and nothing communicated to the wife-to-be how has it changed the situation?

i already answered those questions by saying he should sit down with both of them and clear things up. Wifey-to-be and the DJ must be told their boundaries. If that doesnt work he can always break up with her.

Is your intention to find a solution or talk about the problem for the next 20 decades?

Until you answer these simple questions, you are just fooling yourself perambulating around.
Yes I posted the issue for people to learn and see traps. Like I told you, this is a public forum where people are educated.

The reason why this tread is going 20 pages is because of people like who know the story more than I do. You wont allow sensible people to learn or comment, you are just here to paint the story wrong so you they wont bash ladies.

1. Did you inform your fiancee that you were going out on a date with them?
2. Why would the DJ suddenly be secret?

Please shutup if you cant answer these questions. No need to digress to other things...Jez answer the damn questions. Thats was how the lady was behaving, I asked her the same, question, she started digressing.

Moana:
Jesus Christ! So if i were to meet a guy at a restaurant in Nigeria it would automatically make him my date, he just upgrades from friend to date because we entered a restaurant abi?

Like i said she didnt inform him the first. So whats the solution, bang other women when you get married?

We have asked you many logical questions here today with no answer.

I wrote in my story that she admitted she is going on a date. She admitted she is going on a date.

Please read my story. You are just hell bent in arguing.

Answer the following again:

1. Did you inform your fiancee that you were going out on a date with them?
2. They planned with cake, decoration woman together. Guess because the docoration woman is a female, so no date is required.
They planned for feeding together, they planned for the hall together. Why would the DJ suddenly be secret?

Why running away from questions ?

Continue running away from fact...the more you do, the more you sound bias

Moana:
i have gone out with a lot of my male friends for movies and lunch and surprisingly i have never dated or had a fling with one of them simply because of that. when you are insecure you always psycho-analyse what doesnt need to be psycho-analysized.

Did you inform your fiancee that you were going out with them?

I know you will say yes and in actuality no man will allow his fiancee to go out on a date with another man.

Did you inform your fiancee that you were going out on a date with them?

Moana:
M Its common on NL to share a personal story and claim its a friend in the situation.

Its also common in real life that I will be wedding and I will be my own man in suit.

And I will also summon myself for peace meeting.

Moana:
my point exactly asking someone to meet you at a restaurant and asking someone out are 2 different things. I can go for lunch with a male friend to a restaurant and not engage in an physical conduct with him. You clearly mixed up on with the other.

If you ask someone out, are you not gonna meet?

When you meet, are you going to meet in the air ?
Even a primary school pupil knows dating starts from meeting at fast food joint