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Bonjovi13:
I hope you did not make up the whole story of your nephew accussing your wife just to end the possibilities of their continued friendship.
You sounded jealous and did not like the way your wife was free with your nephew. You may very well be insecure.

If your wife had been standoffish, you would still have complained that she wasn't friendly.

It seems playing mind games and being petty runs through your family because why would your sister "hate" your wife for expressing that she doesn’t like ice fish. I know people who would throw up if they eat ice fish.
Because of that your sister didnt come for the wedding.
That your wife has entered one chance marrying you.
Something is seriously off with your family.

You obviously need help with comprehension.

Baronthecelebri:
Why will your wife reject food, very bad from her.

There was a genuine reason for her to reject it. Although I told her that she could have done it a different way

kiddaz:
Now what would be the real reason he would want her image tarnished? Ask yourself why? I don't think so. Not that I'm accusing your wife but women do a lot. If I open my mouth to say what respectable church women do to me repeatedly when they have the slightest chance no one will believe, one was so much that I thought it was a set up but no way, she was and is still on my case.

Your nephew probably denied because he doesn't want to be in the middle of the whole mess and that's why he confided in his mom. He probably didn't want you to know the story but was probably trying to prevent his uncle from a mistake anonymously but the mom used the information to further buttress her dislike for your wife.
So going forward I would give her the benefit of a doubt that your wife might not have intentionally been rubbing against him suggestively but ignorantly, and because it happened once, might be so. But if I were you, I would not dismiss it totally but keep a keen eye on the whole saga from a vantage point without bias.

This guy has my number, he texts me to demand for money, but he cannot text me to tell me something like this. Rather he chose to tell his mother and deny it before me.

LilMissFavvy:
I do not believe your wife did what she's accused of. Your sisters simply didn't want you to marry, that's why they used your nephew to cook up Fake tales to ruin your relationship. In the past, I saw a situation where a very young family member told lies, but later confessed that she was lying. Truth is that, you are not $afe with $uch ev!ll family members, be warned and be careful for they can come up with something worse in future. There are very many pe0ple being manipulated by dem0ns.

I feel that the whole thing is being blown out of proportion for the obvious reason.

ColeworldMD:
Good day! Personally, i dont advise washing your dirty laundry in public. However, since you have done it i'll chip in. I see the work of the devil here trying to divide your house it's not a question of who is right or wrong but who is letting the devil mislead them.

Now, envy and jealousy is a natural weakness of women and that's they tend to be toxic towards their in laws. Hence as a man, your default position should be to always assume good intentions from everyone until proven otherwise because you're the logical one and the protector of your family and your enemy is the devil not your family members.

Regarding your wife, my first impression is that she's trying her best to be accepted by your family and that usually comes out as doing too much. Also her chemistry with your nephew is natural because they most likely are of the same age group and have similar interests that's how humans like to interact.

Regarding your sister, you've already said it she's unhappy your wife turned down her food and that makes your wife unhappy and creates distrust between both of them. This is natural between women then don't trust each other especially in laws because she subconsciously feels your wife is a competition and coming to take what your parents worked for to give you which your sister feels is her right.


So all in all, it's just basic human psychology and survival instincts at play being weaponized by the devil to divide your household.

Way forward:
As a muslim, the solution is first of all as a man you're not allowed to make physical contact or freely mix with females you're not related by blood including your first cousins and your in laws within puberty and pre menopause. The same goes For your wife & she should not dress exposing her body to these categories of males, hence why muslim women wear the hijab. This commandment from God. You should lead by example practicing this and request the same boundaries from your wife and nephew. It'll be hypocritical if you don't practice what you preach.

The reason is simple: AVOID TEMPTATION. YOU WILL ALWAYS LOSE THE BATTLE AGAINST TEMPTATION JUST LIKE ADAM AND EVE DID.

As for your wife and sister, it's a question of forgiveness. Are they willing to forgive each other for the benefit of the family? They don't have to be friends but can you explain to them how the devil to trying to divide your household? Also ensuring them that you will not forsake either of them? that you would treat them both fairly? The worst mistake you can make is to pick a side. DO NOT DO THAT. Rather, get both of them together in the same room let everyone air their grievances and plead for forgiveness (not necessarily friendship) and how it's NONE of their faults but honest misunderstandings.

Again, understand the psychology and instincts at play and who the real enemy is the devil.

Marriage is the most difficult test a man would ever face and I ask Allah to bless your union.

Thanks for the advice

lilyheaven:
Ur nephew said it , just to tarnish your wife image.
Why is he denying? Did your aunt generate the story from air ?
They don’t like her. So whatever she does, good or bad, they will surely find away to twist it.
If I’m your wife I will give all of them long spoon.
I don’t like unnecessary drama.

You and your family should stop dragging her mental health.

Exactly why I told her in the first place. So she could mind her behaviour around them going forward

felong:
True true dem no fit satisfy Nigerians. You say make dem advise you person manage reply you you talk say na Ai. Is this a job application ni way you de filter replies. You no need advise. This your post is Ai generated.

I need real human response. I could generate an AI response if I wanted an AI generated response

voortrekker966:
This is not saying your wife is guilty but many women deliberately do what your cousin is accusing your wife of. They will rub themselves on men, make eye contacts and become uncomfortably friendly with other men when they are with their boyfriends or husbands. I've found out they do these things mostly for fun and to see people's reactions.

My advice to any man is never to wife any woman that behaves like this.

I really don't know what happened. I didn't believe it because it was an open space and my other nephew and niece were there too.

The boy denied saying that, thereby putting me more into confusion.

kpankpangolo:
I no dey read made up stories.


Goodbye.

Whatever. Bye 👋

Nazgul:
This is a very serious matter that if not approached with caution, can wreck your home.

Therefore, I’ll advise you to first reassure your wife that you believe her and understand how hurtful the accusation is. She needs to feel your trust clearly. She was accused of something serious that she insists never happened, and even though you dismissed the accusation, she may still feel humiliated and misrepresented. Let her know clearly that you believe her and understand why she’s hurt. That reassurance will help rebuild her emotional safety.

Secondly, make it clear to her that you stand firmly by her side. She needs to know that your trust isn’t shaken by what anyone in your family says. This will give her confidence and stop the issue from growing into a bigger emotional wound.

Third, instead of encouraging a direct confrontation between your wife and the nephew like she suggested...you should know that such action could escalate the issue and create more drama in the family, therefore advise her to let time and her character speak for her. Family gossip often fades off when it doesn’t get attention.

At the same time, gently encourage her to be more mindful of how she interacts with male relatives in the future. Not because she did anything wrong, but because some people are quick to misinterpret innocent actions. A little caution can prevent similar situations.

Finally, you should draw healthy boundaries with your family. Don’t let their biases or gossip interfere in your marriage. If needed, calmly make your stance known. You trust your wife and won’t entertain unfounded accusations.

By combining empathy toward your wife with firm boundaries toward your family, your marriage, your peace and your mental health would be protected.

Thanks for your contribution, even though this reply looks AI generated.

GloriousGbola:
my advise is:

before you answer some posts, look at the OP's post/topic history

this is just a click farmer

like that obo something guy

You're a joker really. What do I do with your clicks. Did I post any link there?

The first story I posted was with my ex and that was over two years ago. So you think if I care so much about clicks, I wouldn't have created several of such topics.

The effect of such happening is in the relationship going forward

Dabadwela:
Bad belle dey worry am. Matured man getting triggered by driver's earnings

You should argue logically. Bad belle as per I don't own a car or I don't have access to the same trips that you do?

You'll can do you. But just know that the screenshots you post here or anywhere else is the reason they're targeting drivers now.

You all claim it's a motivation but I see it as false hope and deception.

It's been raining for some days now and there are surges here and there, and thus, the reason for the increased earnings.

Post your earnings on a normal day let's see how much strength you get to net 80k per day consistently.

Conner44:
Bro, can you succinctly explain to me exactly how the bolded above actually concerns YOU YOURSELF as an individual? That his profits get 'blown away' (according to you) has absolutely no effect on your own life and livelihood so why bother? 🤷🏾‍♂️

It does.

This plenty papers that they're requesting from drivers is as a result of these screenshots.

During those dry times that there were no surge and request was scarce, nobody posted screenshots

Conner44:
Allow the man post what he wants to post and boast as he feels or hype what he likes

It has NO SINGLE EFFECT on you or your life than maybe making you feel either insecure, jealous and lazy.

Is that how you currently feel after seeing his post up there? If so I believe you should just work harder and earn better for yourself instead of trying to shoot him down from his 'happy place'

In ehailing the sky is big enough for all birds to fly meanwhile in the labor market we are still waiting for the government to create more jobs to accommodate just below 20% of our current unemployed labor force. You think getting a job is beans? even 1st class graduates will find it hard because of nepotism and 'man - know - man

If you feel comfortable going out to net 40k and the next man feels glad going out to net 100k . . . Why tell him to cover his mouth when he's gleeful? He deserves a pat on the back isn't it? After all if you're applying for a job or contract wouldn't you wish to find out your salary/payment package beforehand?


You guys should stop talking down at peeps who post their dashboards here, if you won't like to post yours (for whatever reason you can conjure up) then stay back and allow those without such 'fears' to post theirs

In this life it's good to mostly COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS because problems come to us all wether you want it or not

Good morning people 🤗 happy weekend to us all

Tell me how many professionals post their salaries online at the end of the month.

The problem with ehailing is that it's unregulated. If you must know, there are drivers that earned more than his earnings, drivers whose yesterday's earnings will dwarf his screenshot.

I see it as being simple minded. Getting blown away over meagre earning that one case of a wrong turn to a one way lane will wipe away.

Dabadwela:
Please help share the softer work make them know

Before I answer that, are you a graduate?

Because if you are, you'll know that there are some office works that their yearly bonuses will rival whatever you make in 6 months and they don't need to struggle under sun and rain.

Vela01:
We have one of the best jobs in Nigeria right now.

How many jobs can boast of this earning in day.
Added with offlines and other apps o

And what's your purpose for posting this?

Do you make this every time or you just rushed to post yesterday's earnings because it surged?

This is becoming childish and a threat to other people who don't do this job on a full time basis.

You guys should stop already. I hope you post the days you spend hours at Ladipo and your mechanic workshop spending thousands of naira to fix your car.

For your information, this work is still a hard work that comes with body pains and high risk. There are softer works that pay better with more dignity.

Trip duration: 26 minutes
Net income before fuel: 2118.71
Bolt commission: 996.84

Please, can someone help me define wickedness again?

Pearl1910:
I am not forcing anybody to do that, just giving a regiment for 50k earnings.
If it's 30k that u can do consistently, focus on it and keep at it.
If u work paid employment when do u leave ur house and when do u come back home?
People just want to go out for few hours and come back with thousands. Not that there aren't surge jobs/hussles but ehailing isn't one of such. From time immemorial, u have to put in hours to make big money.
I am not to tell u how much to make or how many hours to work, do what works for u but
My point has always been that when someone says he makes xyz, rather than say he is lying, u should ask how he is doing it.

I want you or those that earn that 50k net consistently to share with us the magic strategy that they use.

Because I am not refuting the fact that there are good days, lucky days that one can net 50k even 60k.

But saying it can be done consistently is a lie. We all know what's obtainable in the street out there. Nobody can consistently work from 7am to 10pm.

Those that do salary work get to office by 8-9am latest and close 4-5pm, latest 7pm. Nobody goes to office by 7am and stay till 10pm, only to resume by 7am the next day.

Before you talk about break, also know that those in paid employment do have some breaks during their working hours. Nobody sits down on one desk for several hours... The person will just collapse and die

kanuisagoat:
Some years ago when I did this hustle briefly, you could net 30k on a Sunday doing the barest minimum. 40k if you drive from 7am to 10am. 40k at the time was 100 dollars

100 dollars is now 153k. Maybe that's a stretch but anything less than 100k net on a Sunday means you are hustling backwards.

I greet all the bosses in the house.

Go tell that to the app companies. The prices reduced due to competition.

Your analysis with the exchange rate is flawed. The household income of Nigerians did not rise in commensuration with the inflation rate.

Except in the afternoon and evening that the prices become a little better, Sunday is one of the days with the poorest fare and trip scarcity.

The reason is because, from morning till 12 noon, people are only going to church or coming back from church. Most times, short trips with ridiculous fares. Sometimes when you get to some churches, you'll have difficulty getting trips because everyone is coming into the church, no one is leaving yet.

If you're a Christian, you'll still need to attend church service, go home and eat before you start hustling.

All in all, I hate Sunday hustle the most.

Pearl1910:
Good Gross Earnings.
Your tool is the only undoing.
I guess u have now discovered it is possible to take home 50k on a full days work.
Even with the high fuel consumption, if u had started from 7/8am in d morning and closed around 10pm, U would have still made 50k.
Hope u are a believer now.

Don't you think you're being extreme with your analysis.

How do you expect someone to start working by 7am and close by 10pm? That's overstretching yourself.

Nobody can do that consistently. Because if you close by 10pm, before you would get home, eat, bath, and sleep, it should be around 12am.

And you'll wake up by 5am again to prepare and go out by 7am. This is not a good practice and almost unrealistic.

Let's be sincere, the effort we put in this work is no longer measuring up with the reward. All this 40k, 50k net analysis is to give hope to people that something is still left of the business.

To me, 30k for a 1.8 litre engine is more practical to be earned consistently.

Openair:
Let's go back to the beginning..he said scan showed she's 8 weeks and he came around from 7th week, so if we're to use 7th week to confirm the pregnancy, isn't she supposed to be 9 weeks gone ?? If we're calculating fetal age...

And she's 8 weeks gone.

Are you saying the conception must happen the exact day that he returned?

Xso666:
But how sure are you about this please

Take the gestational age and subtract two weeks to get your fetal age.

The actual age of the pregnancy

Xso666:
But how sure are you about this please

There's a difference between fetal age and gestational age.

Openair:
Please don't say what you don't know..ultrasound scan in the first trimester (1-13 weeks) is the MOST ACCURATE method for dating pregnancy.

Ask medical practitioners... Ask chatgpt... Ask Google.

The scan result is always plus or minus two weeks, because it starts counting from the last menstrual cycle.

Xso666:
She is 2 months pregnant and I came back from work a month and 3 weeks which was when we had sex so how come the pregnancy is 2 months already when I have not stayed up to 2 months in the house

The child is obviously yours. You can doubt her movements, but don't doubt the paternity of the child. You've been around for a month and 3 weeks and the scan is just reading 2 months.

The gestational age of the scan is not always matching the actual date of conception.

MoneyMan5:
She can hold conversation with men but there's limit to what married women can do with the opposite sex. According to OP she visited a single man, lied to covered their tracks and what's a single man doing with a married women to the extent of sneaking around with her ? Which business require them to be that close ? Married women shouldn't even have male friends if they want their marriage to last.

If it was the man doing the same thing can any woman tolerate it ?

That lady is obviously catching cruise. Imagine lying about your whereabout and still being caught with another man.

To me, you go explain tire oo. Some men can tolerate.

Xso666:
I am just managing my life I don’t really think I can afford a dna test and that is why it’s breaking my heart and she has sworn that she has never cheated on me and I’m still thinking if I am over reacting to this

The scan result should show plus two weeks from the last sex you had.

It happened with my woman too. It starts counting from her last menstrual period.

I don't know why women like making things difficult for themselves. They'll do things that will put them in a suspicious position, and then start swearing to innocence.

Just tell her upfront that you'll do DNA once the baby is born and relax.

I don't beg my woman to stop chatting with men. For every man I catch her talking with, she'll catch me chatting with three women.

And no, women can't stand having you talk to another woman and ignoring them, no matter the level of your relationship with them.

That way, she'll advise herself.