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I got entangled with this good girl from River state and I am about to marry her.

She's already carrying my child. But my siblings keep complaining about her state.

Two of my sisters said that women from River State are known to be promiscuous and always cheat in marriage.

One of my sisters used her former school roommates as an example. Coincidentally, my two sisters gave the same opinion about them even when one did not know what the other has said regarding the same.

And the apex of it is when my sister said that they are also known to kill their husbands. I take this one with a pitch of salt because I know my girl can't hurt a fly but with the confidence she had when she asked that we should abort the pregnancy and that it isn't yet a baby but a mere blood.

It takes the fear of God for a woman not to cheat in marriage. I can't tell if I can find that fear of God in my woman.

Please, has anyone here had anything to do with a woman from River State and how has the experience been so far.

Lungdick:
To start with, na fake dream. Dem wan use am tie you down.


dear puZZynegro , i use God beg you, save money and do DNA.

I told her point black that I will do DNA once the baby is 3 months old.

I strongly doubt this tieing me down thing. I accepted responsibility from the beginning and told her that I don't want to abort.

So, why would she lie again for her to keep the pregnancy that I told her to keep already.

If I never wanted to take responsibility or marry her, no amount of dream would have changed my mind.

Gee64:
That child is destined to live!
Welcome to a happy family life!👏👏👏🍾

I believe so.

As a Catholic, the church frowns against fornication and abortion but the later cannot be forgiven by just going for confession. It's a serious mortal sin and I am not a fan.

I just had to agree to the abortion initially so she can see that her happiness matters to me more than my own interest which is the baby.

And also, she won't throw tantrum when the burden of the pregnancy and child bearing weighs in on her.

You know women like throwing blames. At least, I will tell her that I agreed to the abortion and was willing to fund it. Took her to a good hospital self so there wouldn't be any story.

But thank God the decision to keep it came from her mother. I only have to focus on ensuring she's well taken care of until she delivers.

ashawopikin:
Haha na plan work, nobody dream any dream, congratulations in advance

I would have believed if I wasn't involved in the whole process.

You don't know what the pregnancy means to the girl at this time. We're yet to tell the mother about it.

The girl just told the mum that I'm interested in her and that I want to marry her.

The mum said she will pray over it. We will let them prepare for the marriage ceremony before breaking the news to them.

ddemillie:
All things said and done, you are a responsible man and I see true love in the air. Kudos

Thanks brother. I know it's not going to be easy.

I'm saving money for a business but I'm going to divert that fund to shoulder the responsibility ahead.

I believe when there's life, money and business will always come.

NLandIsHypocrit:
Of cause I knew where she was heading to and I decided to wait for her at the Amen. Who would have expected her to come visit? Where, or who would she have left her baby with?

But that's what you were asking for?

You said you would have sent her the money if she was close? Like, you wanted sex first before helping her?

Someone that dumped you and got pregnant for another. Two years after, you're still craving for her pussy?

Spider20:
Jesus Christ
Can't believe a graduate just composed these shit

You're correcting someone while committing blunder as well.

Can't believe a graduate just composed this shit and not these.

The whole sentence structure is poorly written

tochez24:
Men take responsibility for their actions regardless of any inconveniences....Nah man you be my brother😎

Enjoy your home as you make your woman your official wife.... she can still go to school after giving birth if she wants to, it just requires adequate planning that's all⚠️

Exactly, one of my sisters recently graduated with first class in Nursing Science at National Open University.

She works full time in a government hospital, she has five kids (schooling while giving birth to them), so I believe schooling and child bearing can run concurrently.

Thanks for your input

ddemillie:
What you don't know is that you are planning the January marriage because she is pregnant. And that she is using the belle thing to tie you down. And that she has called her mother before the other call to inform her of the pregnancy and the mother decided to use the fake dream to turn your head.

Silly me. I may be wrong sha

We would have terminated the baby before the mother's call came in.

The day we went for the confirmation of the pregnancy was the day we intended to terminate it but because we went late and was visiting the hospital for the first time, it took a whole lot of process to get registered, see a doctor and all that.

So, we decided to leave and come back the next day to carry out our plan before her mum called that evening.

The pregnancy affects her the most more than me and I agreed to keep it from the beginning. She didn't walk up to me and say that she was pregnant.

We both saw the pregnancy signs manifesting on her. I bought the pregnancy test kit for her... She ain't roping anything on me bro.

Nlfbmod

I need more advice please

ogashman:
But still, u need to inform her family that their daughter is preggy in case of any eventuality during child birth(God forbid) ,so they would be aware.

I would have married her officially before she delivers

eddynaira125:
Fear grip you na once u change mouth from abortion to bundle of joy

Baddest guy

I never wanted the abortion bro. I'm old enough to be a father. I only agreed to it because I was considering the girl.

So, I got entangled with this girl who happens to be an undergraduate student.

Three months into our relationship, she took in. At first, I told her that I don't want abortion because I'm old enough to be a father and I can take care of her and the child.

But she said she wants to terminate it because of her academics and her family. I agreed and took her to the hospital to first conduct a pregnancy test, because the test we did was the home test, after which we would ask the doctor to do the D & C.

We did the test yesterday and was asked to wait for two hours to collect the result but it was getting late so we decided to go and return today to collect the result and abort the pregnancy.

But as soon as we got home, the mum called and told her that she had a dream where she (the mum) came to my house, went to my wardrobe and picked some black clothes and left. That it was really a bad dream/omen

The mum knows me, we talk on the phone but we haven't met in person. Immediately they got off the phone, the girl started crying because fear gripped her.

When she told me the dream, I asked her if she still wants to go on with the abortion but she said no.

We picked the hospital test today and it came out positive. We just picked up some drugs that will help the baby to grow well. We are going back in two weeks time for scan and start preparing for our bundle of joy.

Even though I didn't prepare for this yet, I'm willing to take on the responsibility and see through the challenge. I definitely know that the mother will be so disappointed when she gets to know but I'd rather face that than face jail term should anything happen to her in the process of the abortion.

I plan to pay her bride price by January though.

ModestGal:
LoL,my own na complete opposite
My own lastborn na curse,if I wasn't the last born,I would have achieved so much more in life. My mum focused all her attention on her other children and left me. And the other children only know how to use me and they waste precious amount of my time in life. Aa day will not go without me wishing I was not the lastsborn. The suffer no be small

And the worst thing na because,I no recieve shishi from them, lol. They have never never been there for me

You were obedient and submissive.

Last borns behave like a witch like someone stated earlier. It wasn't easy for me as my other siblings fought me like Joseph because of that preferential treatment from my mother but I was too stubborn and hot for every one of them.

Till date, my opinion counts in taking family decisions.

MummyD2020:
I must say you are indeed lucky cos in my house it was the opposite. The fist born(son) got all. It was the left over i got. They concentrated on him and i managed my way. Now, they know better. We always protested but it fell on deaf ears. He is the only one that schooled abroad and they did not see the difference becos he didnt do well. Who are you to ask to school abroad too? Na your money? My friend hustle your way to Unilag jare! Parents should try as much as they can never to show preference amongst the kids becos e get why.

Even God shows preference to humanity that he created. Or why does He love the Israelites more than the other tribes?

Well, one major qualities of last born is stubbornness. You needed to be intelligently stubborn to pull your way through, it never comes easy.

Also, you may not feel that love if you are very few in the family. I come from a family of 10 children, and being the 10th child...

Please, has the place to upload inspection report changed on Bolt. I can't seem to find it.

Please help!

Mercychen:
Last borns behave like possesed people.

Our last born ( of blessed memory) was overpampared and spoilt. As in.. you can't touch her. My parents will come for your head.
Even if she hits you first, they'll still take sides with her.

If she's angry, she can throw a knife at you and my parents will still not see anything wrong in it.

It's so unfortunate we lost her. . After we
We lost mumsy, the shock was too much for her. She couldn't cope without mumsy.

It is always like this. Parents especially mothers don't joke with the child of their old age (Gen 37:3).

I was loved by my mother just like your mother loved your last born and I loved my mother so dearly as well.

What happened to your sister could have happened to me if I had lost my mother at a much younger age. Would you mind to share how old your sister was when your mum died?

Even losing her in my mid twenties didn't make the shock much less critical to me. In fact, when she died, I felt like joining her or more like escorting her to the land of the dead if it was possible.

Till date, life is meaningless to me as I believe nobody will ever give me that unconditional love like my mother and everything I have always done was to make my mother happy.

With the money coming in and not able to spend it on her makes me see the true meaning of vanity that life is, knowing all the sacrifices she made for me. Like, she may not have 3k to give my siblings but will suddenly have 10k to give me when I ask. I was the only person that I attended boarding school that my school fees were times 5 of what my siblings pay in their day school.

May God rest your sister's soul

My advice to people is to not jealous last borns. We have special grace

Always handsome/beautiful, intelligent, tall and get the opportunities other siblings never had. We leverage on the mistakes of older siblings and make better alternative choices

chatinent:
I didn't really stay long with fam so I can't really tell.

Please share yours.


cc: RoyalRoy, lalasticlala

Leave last borns alone Mr.

Please, who knows how to get in on these coins that do thousands of percentage on Hotbit when they are still low.

I need to hit jackpot

lonelydora:
That Bolt driver is your prime suspect. That was an "agbata eke" hustle they pulled on you.

Hold the Bolt guy.

Not at all

The poster was sitting at the back seat of the Bolt car. That is the quickest way they profile people by police.

My advice to young guys is to if possible sit with Bolt drivers in the front seat if you are journeying alone with the driver. It saves you and the driver from some harassment both from police officers, VIOs and miscreants.

Once you balance at the back as the car owner, you attract all kinds of attention.

This is a proof that training a child abroad with millions of naira does not guarantee anything.

I see that you are financially capable and have been spoiling your son thus the reason he has enough money to afford a whore_ even when he is jobless.

Since you don't want to go hard on both the girl and your son (option most people would have taken to), use the denial approach.

Warn him to desist from bringing that girl home or you deny him of whatever upkeep money you are giving him that's affording him that whore_

You know for sure that the girl gets paid for every night she stays with your son thus the reason she keeps taking the risk even after you have warned her.

demmy66:
There is a pending buy order you have placed on a coin with that 32 dollars that has not been filled. You either wait for it to buy the coin or you cancel the other for the money to go back to your usdt

Thank you. I've seen the open order.

Please, can someone explain this freeze on Hotbit for me. They are saying my $32 USDT is frozen but I can't remember taken such action.

Please, how do I unfreeze it so I can trade with my money

Savloon:
Please help a brother, I'll try to make it brief. I got married to someone I don't really love but because of pregnancy. we met sometime around January, spent the night together around February we didn't have s*x 3nights she stayed, I live in a 1 bedroom apartment with sitting room well arranged, my kitchen was excellent and bathroom was neat. She was like you need to buy a dinning table, chair, she was like if I like her I should come and see her people I told her this is the first time we are staying together please calm down and let the relationship grow, we don't know each other before. I was beginning to like her gradually as we kept intouch. Then we met again March and this time we had s*x. Though I had another girl whom I really enjoy how we get along well and fun to be with knows me better but because I want to get into a real relationship I want the love between myself and these ladies to grow naturally both can take care of the home, can cook, lovely attitudes, both are same age, same name.
in a week time the girl called me that she's dead I was like what and said she's pregnant. because I don't want people to talk or put my family to shame I started telling my family that I have a girl I like I want her to come visiting that was where I think I made the mistake because she started getting into my family. The other girl knows the pregnant one by name coicidentally their names are the same as she usually call my phone but she would be like just follow your heart and I do like her because I said to myself since am average height I would like to marry a tall lady she's about 6ft, the pregnant girl is same height with me. April she lost the pregnancy and visited me after. awhile and made me slept with her that the nurse said she wouldn't take in even if I don't use protection because she's not seen her cycle yet and she took in within a month after a miscarriage. I didn't like how everything was going anymore and the likeness I had for her was no more there like before but because she kept saying just go and see my people before the pregnancy would show up I didn't think with my head I just started looking for money here and there. I made wedding cards and day I made it available 2days later she had miscarriage for the second time in less than 2mths. if I'd known I would have just done an introduction between both families that their daughter is pregnant for me call off the wedding. you wouldn't believe I didn't even know how I got money within a month did white wedding and traditional same day but each day I don't feel happy and we've been quareling and settling each day since February till now, we married barely 2mths now even in our honeymoon she was like she regrets marrying me and I don't feel happy within myself I'm sleeping and thinking, am bathing , working anything am doing I'm thinking like what have I gotten myself into marrying someone we don't love each other. she is like she is sorry for what she said I told her each day that everything happened so fast and I didn't even know how I came this far she said we can learn to love ourselves. my former girlfriend has blocked me on Facebook, WhatsApp, blacklist my number too but I still uses someone else's phone just go to search and look at her photos but I don't even go through my wife's photo at all. As married couple we barely have fun time or cuddle, fall to each other's body and tickle each other, I do say to her I love her but it's not coming am trying my best it things would work. She too has said she's getting tired already of the marriage because there's no fun like when we met newly. I don't want to discuss this with any of my family or anyone I know I feel very ashamed of myself already. All the plans have got for my future I think of them and see myself not getting there anymore because have just slowed myself down.
Please I need your advice am eating but ematiating everyday, I look sick because am thinking too much. I don't have peace

This is beginning to look like a sponsored story to drive traffic on nairaland.

Are you men for real or you're just kidding? Where have thou left thy brains?

Oh Israel!

tunlapapa:
Going through oshodi to MM2 is a longer route which adds about 4km to your fare.
So this screenshot can't be used in this scenario.

This is evening yet the map estimated my arrival time to 22 minutes.

That trip happened around 11am in the morning as my flight time was 1:00pm. There was no traffic and the trip ended at exactly 17 minutes. The argument the other guy is having about difference in arrival time is invalid.

I was with the driver in the trip and I can tell you that there was no single traffic that day.

I don't know why the fair ended at the amount it did, but I am only surprised at the paid waiting recording.

Maybe we should assume it was bolt that miscalculated. So Mr. Pearl will rest.

Pearl1910:
Go and ask Bolt, don't blame driver for technical errors shown on map.
If that driver thinks he wants to cheat u by accumulating waiting time at the expense of distance covered, he is a mumu. And If u have sense u should be happy that the mumu driver short-changed himself. Cos If d driver had started that trip from pick up point, ur fare would have been more than that.

U even had a Bonus of 800, u paid only 900 on that trip and u r here venting. Chai..omashey o. poverty is bad. Please next time take d mode of transportation u can afford so u don't have a heart attack.

You're illiterate. That was a flight to Owerri. It's not about affordability but doing the right thing and paying for value received.

I work for the white and these guys will never leave $1 for you unless you worked for it. They can tip you for a job well done but never ever try to outsmart them. You will regret it.

FuckEveryday:
Lol, It's funny this Paid Waiting trick is just getting to this group, even more funnier people are arguing it doesn't work

The trick don cast tho, doesn't work anymore....a lot of driver used it to Cashout when it was in full flow...Bolt blocked most of em and stopped it.

If alot of people learn about the "yahoo" part of bolt, they'll buy their own cars in 6 months. Uber doesn't give 2 fvcks about u, shit doesn't work on their platform.

This one below has been going on since 2020, and will not end anytime soon

PS: SAY NO TO FRAUD

Safe to say the driver that picked me to the airport isn't the same with the profile I saw. I didn't take note until I started reviewing the trip details. It was then I realized he's a different person.

I am sure his main account has been blocked for fraud. This is intended fraud which I experienced at Owerri as well.

The Owerri guy slide arrived while still far from me and still didn't start the trip until I reminded him. Trip ended the exact 2100 estimated plus 200 naira wait time.

I initially never wanted to pay him complete because I told him I am a driver in Lagos too and understood the fraud he just did.

He started arguing that the paid waiting fee is insignificant. Well, I paid him complete and blessed him with the rating and comment that he deserves.

I resisted the urge to report him.

ThatNiccur:
Stop making it seem like Somolu is all that far from the airport, it actually isn't.

Somolu is close to either Palmgrove or Onipanu, both places aren't so far from Maryland, Maryland all the way to the airport isn't far away either.

Y'all should stop defending criminal drivers, who would cheat the system by allowing the paid time to read, up until almost the end of the trip, because they know fully well that the system would calculate the distance covered, regardless of where they choose to start the trip, thereby playing on the intelligence of riders, it is wrong.

You see reason with me. I live very close to Palm Groove bus stop. You will enter Ikorodu road within 2 minutes of driving out of my house.

From that place through Anthony, Maryland, climb Ikeja bridge to Airport without any traffic. How can such a short trip end 1700?

Pearl1910:
And u my friend are a Criminal, if u think a trip estimated at 1k will remain 1k even when u encounter unusual traffic that makes a 10 mins trip to extend to 1hr. That will be ur portion every time u drive when next u decide to get on d wheels.

Cursing will not change anything. I will rather go full time into Yahoo so I know that I am making something tangible out of fraud, than scam my fellow hustler who isn't using bolt because he or she is super rich but because it is necessary that they should use it.

Repent if you are into defrauding riders to make extra money.

I am surprised that the same drivers that advocate the driver should end trip or ask rider to update location once they are going to different places as the trip is most like to end with the estimate of the first destination is now saying that estimated fare doesn't matter but only actual.

Why not let someone input Ikeja to Maryland and let you drive them the whole Lagos let's see how much such trip will end.

Pearl1910:
Mstewwwww....I thought u have sense.
So it's d trip duration alone that determines the fare abi.

Mr senseless, how do you explain such a trip duration? Why did my trip start at mobalaji bank Anthony way as against where the driver picked me?

Please, explain the saka you criminals do to arrive at such ridiculous fair trips. That trip shouldn't be more than 1200. I drive on the platform and I know the estimated trip amount for such a distance.

Pearl1910:
So in ur mind as someone that has Uber/Bolt driving experience, u think it's better for a driver to drive many kilometers just to accumulate paid waiting? Waiting time and distance covered which one do u think fetches more money?

If driver clicks arrived u will be notified by the App, so how come u didn't notice when driver arrived? Take ur time o. U wan pay N500 from Somolu to airport abi.

I think u too u r criminally minded because if driver forgets to start trip and is driving off, u r supposed to ask him "Have u started the trip?" So there is no shortage in ur fare calculation.

You're a hoodlum driver and will defend your fellow criminals. Most times, bolt trip will be the same as the estimated so whether the driver drives for 3 minutes, it will be the estimated plus the paid waiting.

Only you know how you do it you criminal drivers to shortchange innocent riders.