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[quote author=InZA post=31105143]Take the used condom to the laboratory, let them take a swab from the linings of the condom, there should be enough left for DNA analysis. Tell him to provide a sample of his own sperm, "stash" it in a sterile container and take it with you to the laboratory, tell them to do a matching DNA analysis... Your marriage or introduction should be kept pending until the results are released.

I have a personal principle which many may see as too rigid or even maybe to the low thinking ones, as being hypocritical and the principle is this-if I would hold myself to a stern sense of personal integrity and fidelity, I demand absolutely nothing less than that from anybody that I'm going to be spending the rest of my life with and so for me personally, I wouldn't even go through the "stress" of doing the laboratory tests I suggested, because for me "A suspected cheat is a cheat,". The fact that a girl could even remotely create grounds for me to doubt or question her fidelity to me, is enough reason for me to call it quits but since, by seeking our collective opinions here, it shows that you're more diplomatic than rigidly objective - I think you should go do that laboratory test.

You should want to get married to someone you can absolutely trust, someone that you are sure is committed to you and you alone, and trust me, the actions of your boyfriend have not fed such assertions. He says it was his friend that used the condoms- lies from the Toronto University. Is this the first time his friend is using his house, why was it the period you travelled that his friend chose to come use his house, why was it the time he had to go eat that his friend came to use his house.

And for all the previous comments here suggesting that guys are polygamous in nature, or 99 percent of guys cheat and all other shiity and trashy comments of similar nature - una dey craze!!!. If you have been used to having friends that synonymize the nature of randy dogs and goats, you should know that in the "animal kingdom" there are different breeds/species of animals. /quote] now that is a real Man talking. I would have married you if only.....

boofydon:
LMAO. Your bf no sabi lie. Its impossible for him not to have been aware his friend needed his room to f.uck.
My friends always tell me when they want to use my room to have sex in order to ensure no disturbance.

Just follow your mind

what do u expect the boyfriend to say? It was me? Pls enough said on this topic cos the OP knows what to do

braine:
She should run to where? Will you date her or marry her? Abi you want her to remain single forever? Na wah for you sha

funny enough she won't remain single 4 life, a better suitor will come sweep her off her feet. If you don't move out from that your assumed comfort zone, u might not see the better opportunity that is out there!

tivta:
. Glad you understand, hope you won't run away if (God forbid) he does that to you?

lol.....sweets, 10yrs in marriage and married to a Nigerian is not picking beans but respect is key!!!

eazydon:
Lol.

I shall be faithful. I shall never bring another woman into our home
What do you say?

lol,thou arth an obedient husband. Go n sin no more .....btw are ur mum n sisters included? Remember thou shall leave his 'mother',sisters' and cling to me and we'd bcome formidable

tivta:
. My sweet sister, let me tell you a short true life story of my friend(
Real life story that is still on going).
He dated a virgin and just a week before the traditional marriage he sowed his last "wild oat"(he had an affair). His wife to be found out, he begged she went on with the marriage but she never forgave him. She even went as far as laying a curse on him for cheating on her, that he won't progress etc(cause she has always been faithful). My friend never foundout about the curse until when he discovered he is no longer being paid at work and has nothing to show for his years of labour. He has apologized times without number for cheating and tried to make amends but the girl won't just let the past be. She eventually gave birth to a baby boy for my friend, but still made trouble for him cause of his one night stand. Now my friend has asked her to live his house and return his child, cause he is done with her curses and unforgiving heart(even God forgives). Now my dear sister, who will suffer for the most for all these? Its the woman,its because here in nigeria, its extremely difficult for single female parent to get married(a well known fact) and the guy may still struggle, but once he can get the curse off his head, he can easily remarry. Now my dear believe it or not, have only cheated once on my GF in the past, but as soon as I cheated on her I broke up due to guilty conscience.
The moral of this story is, if any party sins, try as much as possible to forgive and forget, cause no human being is perfect. If you as a woman can't tolerate a cheat, make sure you tell your bf from the very first day. Also be prepared to accept another type of abuse from him cause like I said, no man or woman is perfect. He maybe a verbal abuser or physical abuser, dirty, stingy, boring etc. The fact still remains all men and women have one flaw or the other. My dear sister am saying all these so you don't end up like my friend cause I know lots of single mothers outthere that are leaving in hell cause of the pride they have. Take care.

hmmm.....I commend you for your nice words n gesture ,unlike the babies that have been throwing tantrums. I only wrote what I wrote because they are not yet married. To avoid what your friend and his wife are going through. Not everybody has that mental capacity to forgive easily and move on, so why not make hay when the sun shines? And also thanks, I've got mine in control. Wisdom is key to every facets of life's decisions and actions. If OP can cope with a cheating spouse, who am I to complain? Lol

eazydon:
Uloma my sweetheart

I guess u figured the puzzle out. Onye ojoo

dBard:
It's really annoying the kinda rubbish you read on NL...
'all guys cheat, u can't find anyone better, d next mite be worse, hang on since it's bin 2 years....' etc.

For all your information...Not All guys cheat.
I for one, by God's grace, Don't and am Proud to say it and I know others that don't as well.

Any guy that can cheat a month to will probably do so in marriage, and this is Marriage we're talking about, Not a regular relationship.

Your fiance is a cheat, the o.p knows it that's y she looked for evidence and found it.

The next step is yours to decide, but don't delude yourself with all the bullshit flying about here.

Godbless you my dear! For those who haven't tasted marriage, I forgive their rant and blab in compelling her to embrace him and shake him. How long would you come to NL and seek advice over a cheating spouse? 20yrs?or 50? Every man and woman deserves better. It all lies in the choice we make.

Benilily:
that post wasn't silly, i think u lack the ability to understand the point the guy was trying to make... If she quits now, how sure are you that her next won't be worst?? Men are polygamous in nature so i still think she should talk things over with her guy in matured manner and not running away like a fustrated coward!

I bet the guys would be clapping for u for defending infidelity. And don't be brainwashed that 'Men' are polygamous in nature. Women are too but that's y self control comes in.what happens to respect? I bet you wouldn't want to marry a cheating husband. Peradventure u do, come bk and write us your testimony!

kraftsta:
Pwerrymansion eh? Name sounds whoreish...maybe u lack d experience of serious relationship cos their could be no better reason for u to advice anoda lady incourtship to quit a relationship u neva knew wat it cost her to build...dialogue is for d wise n neva for ur kind so am guessing u know ur place...(If na dangote pikin wan come marry ur own sister she come seek ur advice on dis kind issue,u sure say u go tell am make e waitingformrperfectgrowgreyhair

mr kraftman I wonder what my moniker has got to do with ur suggestions,my moniker is actually my name if translated in my local language. I find it denigrating 4 u to attribute to sounding whorish.am sorry to dissappoint you, I still maintain my grounds that d OP should flee. FYI, marriage is to be enjoyed not managed. If for just few days she travelled, the guy started sleeping around and even being so careless to leave some in d trash bin. What will happen if eventually they do get settled and OP travels for even 1yr? In relationship what actually matters is respect and that has worked for me for 10yrs! And stop justifying infifelity and casting aspersions on people's Identity youngman!

Rawdeal:
He's trying to change the minds of all girls one at a time. She should stay and take shit from him for the rest of her life because women are made to be docile and obedient

you the mind the okoro. What even got me appalled was him trying to define the other uses of condom . I bet he used the 'condom' as his bathing sponge... ... I pity his gf/wife

That says a lot about your family................. !!! What a repugnant n gory piece! All these kids on nairaland sef!!!

[left][/left]Enegod's post got me laffing hysterically . In another news, there might be a rationale behind the womans intake of alcohol. The slap says it all. In life there's what we call cause and effect. Though am not in support of the womans actions

Meringe:
Condom might be used for so many reasons. So you don't just conclude.

Moreover, he's a man. Though I don't support cheating but sincerely I think a man is polygamous in nature, but what matter is that the man in question respects you as a woman.



For your own good, stop sniffing around. If you leave him, how sure are you that your next man wouldn't be worst.

You can confront him in a matured way but have it at the back of your mind that many men cheat even though their wife might be more beautiful than their cheating partner.

Though it takes courage for a man to remain faithful.

this is the most stupid post I've come across in decades! My dear run as fast as your leg can carry you.

He who has swallowed a pestle should be ready to sleep in a standing position

Well you said some, unless am well satisfied. If not I don't leave either a morsel or a grain cos I hate waste. Bia OP, u mean you left your food to undergo this survey?

Nice write up OP! You forgot to also add comparing your kids with your friends kids,colleague kids, SIL kids et al. Remember every kid differ both in their mental, social and physical ability. Rather than comparing them with other kids , we could actually find time and watch out for those unique qualities they have which may be inact @ the moment and help them harness it.

Every news marks a headline! Ever since the word 'celebrity' came to Naija, our lives has not been the same

They don't cope, they just adjust/manage d situation!

And you think is wise/smart of you to go to the media to spew this trash about your ex "kid"? Some men sef,every news makes headlines these days.....mtcheeew.....

menix:
No 1 on my list wuld b:
Amuneke; prik nd ass
Obasanjo
Amosun abi Amosu
Ekpo (masqurade)
Ada; real full name Adanshi (dwarf)
Benson (dat guy go smoke die)
Eteh (dwarf)
Otunba; (no to pu**y)
Ama; full name amadioha
Dickson; expect u will castrate him
Adara; dat pikin ga agba ara(madness)
Bimbo; soap no go dey last 4 ur house
Elisha; cursed wiv bald head frm birth
Mohammed; pevert

Mk I go sleep jawe..

lmao! Bia nwokem isi agbarigo gi! Ochi atogbue n.kai! Pple dey oh!!!

Pls enough of these creepy unhealthy stories

Op you hit it and on point as well! Halima,Annie and Chika taking the lead.

Hmmmm.............we cannot tell for now. But hopefully time will

Yes dear you should be [b][/b]"afried" of having sex with her before her jealous late hubby will strike u dead on top of her. ........................ Just kidding

How wicked can Men be? A man who even shares his salary with you? Wickedness in high places! The devil is indeed not in hell anymore bt here in our amidst.

uboma:
What impression will the prospective employer have of you after reading that you sleep as a hobby? It means that every opportunity you get, you will like to sleep on the job.

. Lmao! I couldn't stop laffing @ this response! Pls we all do love sleeping bt that should be skipped on our CV's