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@ Sisi_kill, the 'we' includes d girl's grandma, TeHN and myself. She (d grandma) even prefers d child being put in a home but on d condition that she can visit her. We (myself and TeHN) can't put her in a home without d full consent of her grandma and even her father. I do appreciate ur advice about being cautious in whatever I do. Thanks so much ma.

@ R231, wao! It's nice to hear from u again. It felt like forever..lol. Actually, d last email I got from u was d one u requested for my contact details and it was dated May 3rd. I sent 2 other emails thereafter b4 today, d first one contains my contacts while d 2nd one was to notify u guys dat OlowoTee had contacted me and asking u guys to acknowlege it. I sent another one today at 8.04am, made d comment on dis thread about not hearing from u guys at 11.28am . It was when u replied dis thread stating u already responded to my email, that was when I now checked my mailbox and confirmed u replied at 2.38pm. Well, let me just say that am glad u replied. It made my day, and thank u too.

@ OAM4J, I am happy we were able to sort out all d misunderstanding. It sure made my day. I will be looking forward to a happing ending soon. Thanks sir.

I never at any point made it look like TeHN didn't want to help. I only stated that I didn't get a reply to my last three emails. No insult intended, but the only reply I got after I sent my contact details to d group's email was ur last post on dis thread b4 this. I also didn't get a reply when I sent another email this morning asking if all was well. I understand that d child's situation is not life threatening but at d same time, I think it is common courtesy for d group to have replied to my emails explaining the situation of things to me. Moreso, on Monday, u guys already told ur representative to hold on about making that trip wit me, but I told her we can still make d trip since I was already on my way to see her that same Monday.
Now to move ahead with this case, I will be making another trip soon, inorder to conclude the enquiries concerning d available homes and their fees. I apologise if my earlier post was misunderstood or caused any harm to TeHN's reputation. That wasn't my intention. Hope we can now move forward in unity for the purpose of achieving a success story soon. Meanwhile, expect pictures from our last trip soon
Thank u.

@Mutter,thanks for ur interest in this child. I actually wanted to suggest about ways in which we all can help this child. I will suggest that 4 other willing nairalanders including myself, making 5 in all, should come together to form a caretaker team for funds to be raised on behalf of dis little girl. Despite showing some interest at some point, I am yet to get a reply to my last 3 emails from the Nairaland charity. Right now, myself and someone else is making effort to get a good home for d child. The grandma can visit whenever she want. The funds will be used to maintain d child in d home cos they receive payment per term. As for d child's mother, I was made to understand dat she hasn't bothered about her since she was 8months old. Also, I am working towards getting the consent of a good authority. Hopefully, everything will go fine as planned. Meanwhile, I am appealing to anyone who is honest and is willing to work with me in ways to raise some funds thru this medium for dis poor little girl. Pls whatever anyone decides to do, know u are doing it for God and d lord will bless u all continuously as u try to help. Thank u all.

bebe2: why r there so few of us surely there are more 9jas in manchy.

There are a lot of 9jas in Manchy but dunno if they are nairalanders.

chelseabmw: That's not true,sher doesn't ve a partner,I ve asked her already.She is my new found love

I will appreciate it if u can find time to locate any good orphanage home around there. Someone (earthgreeners) already mentioned Stephen Centre. He said it is close to Obantoko/eleweran axis. Can u pls help make some enquiries about the home? Many thanks in advance.

wild child: @OP...I stay both in lag and abk bt in abk atm,if dia z anytin u wld want me to do abt the orphange home or anytin abt the child prolly goin to make some enquiries for you just let me know,am more dan willing to help

Thank u so much for reading thru this thread.
I pray dat d lord will direct our steps in making the right decision for this child.

shopclue: @ queenafric,

A woman after my own heart. You have demonstrated the first law of life. Love. That your spirits could no longer rest after you saw the condition of that child shows you're still living, it is a beautiful spirit. Please remember the popular saying that says "Every step towards the goal of justice requires sacrifice, suffering, and struggle; the tireless exertions and passionate concern of dedicated individuals"

When you continue with what must be done, please remember as you deal with the relatives in rescuing that child, until she leaves that place, let this motto be your guide as you navigate the complex world of human nature. "That child haven't left the scene of the accident, She's in it!" Be very careful and discerning for her sake.

Haa I.d, make he catch u, u hear..lol

Idowuogbo: Elewa can't part wiv his 2 naira, dis is not d first charity case on NL d dawn has proven to b stingy.

Thank u bro for wanting to help this child. I av always insisted that I don't need to handle d money part of helping this child. Just want her to live a good and be in safe hands. Thanks also for d advice. I admit I overreacted to Ify's post and I already apologised to her. God bless u for showing an interest in this case.

kay9: I'm just seeing this, and i'm truly touched. Queenafric, whenever u finally decide on what to do, let me know. I'm nowhere near rich or even financially stable, but whatever i have i'll use to support. Check your NL box for my email; cant post it here, lotsa vultures and carrion birds.
By the way, pls dont belittle ifalways's cautionary post; yeah, she may not be as gracious of heart as u are (in fact, she isnt! ), but that's why any sensible NGO retains an attorney for such ish. Personally, i never let repercussions deter me from aiding people, but i'd be really dumb to ignore the fact that there people out there who could make me regret being a good samaritan.
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I know Obantoko but can u pls give me d address so I can check it up? Thanks as u do so.

earthgreeners: Stephen Centre in Abeokuta is an Orphanage located around Obantoko/ Eleweran axis.......

I support this suggestion. I am willing to be a part of it too.

Alusi Okija: I think that this girl should have been used as a case study.

I am not too big on this but if we get like 5 people in their state to take their Blackberry/Iphones/Android phones and walk around and film, take still pictures and basically document the daily life of one or two of these street kids, we could hand it over to one of our Nairalanders here who could make a documentary

If Nairaland Charity wants to get serious, I am more than willing. It would be our own project. Save the future project. 1 child, 1 camera... Film and take as much pictures as you can. Interviews, and all. Then lets show this to the world. AL-jezzera and CNN would be more than glad to air it.

Is this who I think he is? Will find out soon.

sunky644: God bless you sis, just try your best in ensuring that you help the poor girl get to safe hands.

@ifyalways, I apologise for my outburst. Really,what came to my mind after seeing prime suspect in ur post was 'criminal'. I should av re-read it to understand it better. Nne biko ndo o. Abeg no vex.

@idowuogbo and taryour, make una no mind me jawee. I just go bebesco.

@OlowoTee dearie, thanks for ur time today. U are right about d weather being so damn hot that I wonder what people that lives closer to d desert face. Right now, my head is banging wit a terrible headache. Need to retire to bed early. Will make d journey back to Lagos tomorrow. Thanks once more for ur time and patience. Lest I forget, expect d e-bill too..lol.

Prime suspect my foot! Do I sound like a criminal to u?

ifyalways: Be well aware that if that girl goes missing(heavens forbid)you'd be the prime suspect.

U perfectly understood my reason for putting up d child's picture and heaven knows I wish no ill luck on d girl but for her to be in a good home and be happy. Putting her in a home for special needs seems to be d best option so far and d child's father and grandma are in support of it too. As am typing this, I am already outside Lagos, trying to make some enquiries about a good home. I posted this issue here on nairaland with d hope of finding kind hearted people to help out this child in one way or d other within their capability. Already, a nairalander by d username Olowotee went with me today to verify my claims and I have some pictures of d child and grandma in their home to support that.

violent: @OP

I commend your true selfless act and courage, after all we are all bound by a common human heritage. I fear the girl's situation may be improved by placing her in a special needs home where trained people could very well help her to live the best life she could. The challenge of course is for us as a group to look out for which homes will be happy to take her into care. Of course, achieving this may have to come with some promise of regular donations to the home of gifts and monetary aids.

Whatever you do, please and please, DONT give her parents or even the grandma money to take care of her. The parents are completely irresponsible swines who deserve to be shot through their reproductive organs, the grandma on the other hand will probably just give the money to the girl's father anyway and if she doesn't i don't see how she may be able to put the money into good use to secure the girl's future ---Grandma isn't going to live forever, what happens when she's gone?

I don't like d tone of ur first sentence. Telling me I've got no right. Like seriously?

[quote author=Efemena_xy]Passionate or not, you have no right to place that little girl's safety at risk. As long as her picture is made available for all to see, the chances of the wrong sort of people getting to her are greatly increased, and she remains exposed to danger.

What you've done so far is commendable. You've created an awareness of the child's plight - a step in the right direction. Don't undo your good deeds.[/quote]Thank u Iranoladun and idowuogbo, ur points are noted.

I am still passionate about this case, so therefore I am putting up d pictures back in my first post on this thread. It can't die a natural death.

I don't regret ever going back home though I do misses Manchy sometimes cos I av always had a soft spot for it. Not because I once lived there, but just prefer it to d other few places dat I av lived in in England.

Ashton New Road? Hmmm...bus 216 (Stagecoach) ply that route. Awww...I av missed Manchy so much.

Ashton New Road? Hmmm...bus 216 ply that route. Awww...I av missed Manchy so much.

@chelseabmw, I'm now in Las gidi o! I was so homesick that I made up my mind to return back home.

A friend who works with a bank sent me this msg via bbm this morning. I am posting it exactly as she sent it. Good luck guys!

Be of help to someone: GTBank is embarking on mass recruitment of fresh graduates from Nigeria. Requirements are 2.2 from any discipline,5 credits at WAEC/NECO including math & english and 27. yrs age limit. They need to have the CV's by wed nxt wk by email to haruna.musa@gtbank.com

Used to live in Manchester but not anymore...but if u need tips about nice places there, I can post some.
PS: do not attempt in finding accomodation in Moston. Av neva liked dat place.

What the OP said is true. My broda told me same thing yesterday and he was obviously surprised as he hasn't experienced such thing b4, but I kinda find it amusing cos he sound excited about it. Been telling he should go to Europe to experience d snow. Anyway, I av experienced hailstorm years back while on my way back from uni.

More than harsh and inhuman..and it's so sad.

MRbrownJAY: it is still a harsh thing to say from a grandma, about her grandchild.....but then again, the child's parents probably think the same way.

r231: please email nairalandcharity@gmail.com or msg https://www./tehnc/

lets talk and see what TeHN can do

This is real good news! Will do dat rightaway.

MRbrownJAY: as for:"Instead she said we should find a big sack, put d child inside and throw it into a big river".........

This comment was made by d child's maternal grandma, not d one she presently live with.

No matter whatever I decide to give this child and her granny, I acknowledge it can never be enough neither will it ever make a difference except u all chip in ur widow's mite. Therefore, I am appealing to kind nairalanders on this child's behalf to please help them out in whatever way u can. I am not interested in handling any money on their behalf. All am after is for them to be assisted and for a smile to return to their faces. For verification purpose, I am willing to take anyone to where I found them. All u need do is to just nominate a trusted person.

Moderators, pls I need this to be on d HOMEPAGE! I want more people to see it. I don't want this case to die out plssssss..... Am I sounding desperate? Well...at dis point, it doesn't really matter to me anymore.
Thanks for reading.

Thanks Ify, just like agiboma said, I am also lost for words. U need to see this child, u will never believe she is over 10 yrs old. Her skin looks so dry and she is so gaunt.

The grandma got emotional narrating d child's story.

Picture of d child's grandma with d child in d background.

Hello all,
Was wondering why d child's grandma's pix was showing, then I realised it was because d files were too large. Will re-send pictures when I get back to Lagos. Meanwhile, d appeal is still on to help this child.
Thanks

Picture of d child's grandma wit child in d background.

Updates...

Due to a last min emergency dat I had to attend to, I couldn't make yesterday's trip to visit d location where I saw d abandoned child but I did visit there today and am sending this update from around there.
I went there with a male friend just incase any yawa wants to gas but fortunately nothing dey happen..lol. I was able to see d woman who d child lives with. She said she is d mother of d child's father.

Queenafric: Good afternoon ma. (I explained my mission to her). With so much emotion, she explained that d mother of d child abandoned her since she was 8 months old. The child's mother has remarried now.

Child's grandma: Her name is Ayomide (Surname withheld). She is over 10years old (looked on in shock cos d child look like she is 3-4yrs old). Her mother abandonded her and has remarried now. No one is ready to take d child. I went to her (child's maternal granny) granny to see if we can rotate d child's welfare between ourselves but she refused. Instead she said we should find a big sack, put d child inside and throw it into a big river. That she isn't interested in a child who isn't normal.

The child can't talk but she can hear whatever u tell her. Because of these problems and d shame, I had to leave Lagos where I reside and moved to this village. I have been the one caring for this child since she was 8 months old. As u can see, I make garri for a living(I met her peeling some cassava). I am always busy peeling this cassava that I barely av d time to run after this child all d time( the child roam about when she isn't looking). Each basket of cassava that I peel is N100. People always tell me they use to stop her as she has attempted to cross d highway all d time. I will welcome any help from kind nigerians or d goverment. I don't mind if they take her away to a safe place as long as I can visit her.

Queenafric: mama, I can't promise u anything now till I give feedback to d people that saw my post, but what about her father?

Child's gradma: I gave birth to her father but if u want to meet or talk to her father, I can take u to him or tell him to report to my house here though he lives in Lagos.

Queenafric: ok ma. I will get back to u as soon as possible. Thanks for ur time ma.

Then I collected her phone number. So fellow nairalanders, this is d case o! We need to help this child in whatever way we can. Or any other suggestion pls...

Thanks everyone for ur comments. Like ify suggested, I will take down d child's pictures. I plan to visit dat route I saw d girl again on Thursday cos it is outside Lagos but sincerely I don't think I can wait till Thursday anymore cos I keep thinking dat something bad might happen to her b4 I get dia on Thursday, so I av decided to go there today. Will post updates when am back.

As for moremi2008, all I can say to u is dat silence is d best answer for someone like u.

moremi2008: I think you should mind your business. This child may by malnourished and unkempt, but she is NOT an abandoned child. The child is obviously trying to go after her mother but she'll soon get over it and return back to the old lady. Why do people like to create trouble and drama when there is none? Why don't you focus your energies on the hundreds of babies that are truly abandoned around Lagos every year? When last did you visit an orphanage? Please mind your business and leave the child alone; I hope the end result of this is not trouble for you and your family because I have seen situations where the child's family turns around and accuses the good samaritan of trying to steal the child.

U want me to mind my own business? Well, that's impossible, not especially when I saw d state dat child was in. I stated earlier dat she was trying to cross d highway when people screamed and dat caught my attention. From what I heard, she was abandoned by her mother for a long time now, so it is not as if the mother went out and would be back at d end of everyday. A child has a right to good health, good food, and not what I saw today.
Anyway, am sorry to disappoint u, but I aint giving up on her. I'm going back there on Thursday and I will insist on speaking with d old woman.

kambili190: I am not from Nigeria so I don't really know what possibilities you have there but what about contacting UNICEF?

I will google it up and see if I can find their contact. Thanks for d suggestion.

Last photo. Pls help out with contacts. I am appealing. I want d best for this poor child.

More pix. I know there must be someone on this forum that might know one or more contacts of a reputable organisation that can help this little child. Pls don't hesitate to post their contacts...

queenafric: I swear...mere looking at this child, I could sense d insecurity and unhappy on her face and it was so touching, I was almost moved to tears.

I could sense d insecurity and unhappiness on her face. Typo mistake. Got carried away thinking about her there and d word 'unhappy' kept popping into my head. It's a shame that she has to go thru this pain. I cant adopt her...it is a huge responsibility, and not one I can take alone. I will rather want a more capable hand like a welfare for kids to take up her case. I am thinking of going back there on thursday and see if I can speak with the old woman she stays with. Nonetheless, I still desperately need d contacts of any welfare organisation or NGO. Plsssssssssss.....

Thanks feminine A for ur contribution but d thing is dat where I saw this child is not in Lagos State, it falls under Ogun State. Also, I can't just take her to an orphanage. From what I was told, she lives with an old woman. If I can at least get d contacts of the Lagos State welfare for kids u are talking about or any good NGO, then I can take them to where I saw this child, so they can take it up.
So pls does anyone have this all important contacts of any NGO that can help this little girl?

On my way to Lagos from Abeokuta today, while waiting to get attended to at a mama put joint, I was aroused by people shouting at a little girl who was about trying to cross d highway. Almost immediately, a woman ran towards d little girl and dragged her off d road. I was shocked when after some mins, I saw this same girl standing beside d road again but no one seems to pay her any attention again. I was expecting that at least someone out of all d women I saw there might be d girl's mother and will be worried that their child is by d roadside but that wasn't d case.

Then I got curious and payed close attention to d child. She looked unkept, unhappy, malnourished and gaunt. I called out to her to go stay somewhere shady but she just looked away and remained under d hot sun. I swear...mere looking at this child, I could sense d insecurity and unhappy on her face and it was so touching, I was almost moved to tears. When I asked d buka woman about d child's mother, she heaved and said ha! that one is a lost case o.

I persuaded her to tell me why she said so, she was a bit relunctant at first b4 briefly telling me dat the child's mother dumped her with an old woman and ran away. Since d woman is so old, she can't be running around after d little girl. Hmmm...I can swear dat this child hasn't eating in days as she looks so worryingly thin. She seems disturbed kinda. I tried to chat her up but she just wouldn't respond.

I wanted to buy some food for her but I was afraid of being accused of trying to lure her with the food inorder to make it easier to kidnap her. This is naija and one has to be really careful about things like this. I gave d girl a token which she accepted, then I left. Right now am back home in Lagos but am restless. My mind keeps going back to d little girl.

Dunno what might happen to her but I wish her to be in safe hands and in good health. What do I do? Does anyone know a good NGO that can take her case up? I don't support this kind of unnecessary suffering especially to a child...a supposed leader of tomorrow....


Mature advice needed pls. Thank u all.